Yes, you read it right! It’s a choice! People want to make excuses for everything they do, but the truth of the matter is that’s all it is; EXCUSES. People don’t accidentally do things and it’s no mistake. It’s WRONG CHOICES/BAD DECISIONS. However, people want to call it mistakes. THESE ARE EXCUSES! The first thing a person want to say is I made a mistake. Oh really! Then why do so many go back and made the very same one over and over again? It happens all of the time.

There are many types of temptation people can fall into, but the bottom line of it all is no matter what it is, IT’S A CHOICE TO FALL INTO IT OR NOT. People can walk away, but most won’t; instead they will dive head first into it. This post can relate to any situation concerning temptation. However, this one is concerning relationships.

Anyone can be faced with temptation at any moment in life. When you do think about your entire life. Think of your current situation. Think of what your significant other will feel. Think of how you would feel if your significant other would do it to you. Think of the risk you’re taking. It could destroy you and your relationship. Then think is it worth it?

At every turn there is a chance to walk away. I know some of you don’t believe in God and as I always say it’s a personal choice. As a Christian, I want to add a few verses from the Bible concerning temptation. Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it. This is letting you know temptation will come, but it doesn’t mean you have to fall into it. You have a choice to do the right thing if you choose the right decision. It is yours to make.

It also says in Matthew 26:41 Keep watching and praying that you may not enter into temptation; the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. This means when we live by the flesh (lusting and living by the desires of your loins and what your eyes see) it is easy to fall into temptation, because of the flesh. However, although that statement is true, we still have the power to resist it, because our spirits are willing to do so. It is us who has to have the strength to resist, we can do it if we choose too.

The problem comes into play when individuals completely ignore the consequences of their actions. They simply toss it in the wind. Some people don’t take a second to think about anything, they just do it. Others may think of the consequences, but they still take the risk. Then they have the nerves to open the holes in their faces to say, “it was a mistake.” Lies, lies, lies!

Men and women both, must start taking into consideration the risks they’re taking and the aftermaths of their actions. It’s time people open their eyes to reality and stop following the tingling of their loins and the lust of their hearts TO DO THE RIGHT THING.

Stop falling into temptation and taking all kinds of unnecessary problems into your relationships. You wonder why your significant others don’t trust you. You can’t do right, because you continue to FREELY choose to do wrong. You keep bringing mess into your relationship. It’s been your personal choice to do so.

People aren’t forced into temptation. They fall into it by freewill. Yes, it will come in some form or another until we die, but it doesn’t mean we have to fall into it.

Learn to be faithful to who you’re with. Live your life with integrity. Treat your significant other in and out of their presence the way you want them and expect them to treat you. As I’ve said before, “many of you can dish it out, but you can’t take it.”

When people fall into temptation they defile and cause damage to their relationships. It changes what your significant others think/thought of the person who chooses to enter into temptation. It casts doubt and mistrust. People choosing to fall into temptation can ruin their relationships and sometimes it costs them everything they’ve worked hard to build. Sometimes it has even cost people their lives.

It’s truly a “dog eat dog” world we live in. When people fall into temptation and step out on their significant others they don’t always know what they’re getting into. Sometimes the people they choose to become involved with wreak major havoc into their lives and the lives of their significant others. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true.

The world isn’t getting better, it is getting worse and if you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. Know that you can control your flesh. It’s like doing anything else new. At first it’s difficult, but then it becomes easier and you will learn the many faces of temptation. You will begin to stand for right once you stop willfully falling for wrong. It’s a process like any other process and you become stronger by resisting and living by good morals. Stop risking it all for self gratification. It’s not worth it.

Deal with whatever is messing you up inside and causing you to be the type of person who won’t stand for what’s right. There’s something that’s causing you to be a person who lacks honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, and integrity. Until you deal with it you can’t EVER be faithful to the one you’re with.

I pray individuals who are suffering with this problem realize it’s a problem, because they’re making it one. It’s an issue, but a person don’t have to make it a problem in their life IF they deal with it and work to change the behavior. It’s all a state of mind (believe it or not). I pray that wisdom and knowledge fall upon you and that your life is changed. I’m absolutely sure loved ones don’t marry to divorce or live in misery. Be faithful in your relationships and love the one you chose to be with. Build a love that can withstand any storm, but don’t let the storm be one you’ve caused…..Blessings!



  1. What happens when the disloyal spouse finally realIzes and seeks help and is finally working on their problems after so many years…..finally…..and the betrayed spouse no longer feels IN love?? 😦

    • Unfortunately those are the risks people take when being unfaithful. You risk the chance of losing your significant other. Many spouses go through it so much until they eventually lose what they had for their spouse. Sometimes a person gets tired of being beat down (per se). They finally look in the mirror at his or herself and wonder why are they allowing it to happen to them and they decide to change for his or herself. Like I said, some people don’t stop at one infidelity; they keep doing it and it only compiles problems onto existing problems. I’m sorry, but sometimes the end results is often with one falling out of love with someone they once loved so much. Many times couples can work through it after the straying spouse recognizes and accepts the consequences of their actions and in doing so understands the devastation they’ve cause. They decide after the first time to do right from there on in. However, sometimes that’s not the case. Either their spouse leave after the first time or the straying spouse doesn’t get it and continues to stray until finally he/she gets what they weren’t bargaining for; which is losing his or her spouse. Once a spouse fall out of love it can be re-captured but it will take a lot of work on both parts. When the betrayed spouse doesn’t seem to come back from it and the other spouse has cleaned up their act, at that point hard decisions must be made. We all have the opportunity to learn from our actions. If a person lose their spouse in the midst of their actions and they’ve cleaned up in the process. Don’t allow it to keep you stagnant and in a bad way. You done what you done and you’re no longer that person. Take it with you forever and not make the decision to do something like it again. Come out of it as a better man or woman.

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