There are many people who are so full of anger and rage. No one goes from 0 to 10 people only think they do. It’s because they don’t take that extra moment to think before they re-act. People have literally lost their lives and freedom due to uncontrollable anger. Anger has a cycle, which means no one goes from 0 to 10 right away. There is a lot of research on the anger cycle. I will give you what I believe to be true after dealing with so many angry people over the years. Some who have killed others and those who have killed themselves.
I believe it all begins from thoughts that are either repressed or thoughts that are constantly there on the surface. I believe people’s anger starts with negative thoughts of past events regardless of what they are. People either suppress the thoughts which contributes to their anger issues or they allow the thoughts to constantly keep them in a state of agitation, which is now a way of life for them. In a sense although some people go off at the drop of a dime it’s still because of thoughts they keep going back to and are held captive by.
The thoughts bring about the agitiation, frustration, irritation. Again people have the opportunity to cool off by walking away or doing something to take their minds off of what’s causing the increased frustration or irritation. When they don’t it goes into anger, because of the feelings they are experiencing from the frustration they’re feeling. At this some if it’s not controlled here comes the rage. Again, people always have a choice to cool off, but most won’t. They will go on to do something stupid that changes their lives forever and the lives of others. This is why we see so much road rage and senseless killings. People don’t have patience or love, because they have dark hearts, they’re like lost souls. They go around popping off every single chance they get. They have no self control because they are filled with bitterness.
Some people don’t want to learn how to control their anger because they’ve grown familiar with the sensation they receive from it. For some, believe it or not it’s a way of controlling others. It’s a way to be dominant over someone. They’re angry and they don’t care how they make others feel. This is a distorted way of thinking. Some angry people like the fact they scare others when they become angry basically causing others to submit to do whatever it is they want them to do.
Sometimes when those who are with angry people FINALLY stand up to the angry individual in a firm but non-violent way, it changes the angry person’s behavior. It kind of shocks them. These are the ones who use anger as an excuse. These are the people who know without a doubt they have the control factor thing going on when they explode. In my experience and opinion in a way it’s a form of bullying. These are the ones who are aware of what they’re doing and can be calmed much easier.
On the other hand there are those who are angry and seem to go completely out of their minds when they’re angry. Some claim to become so angry they black out. These are individuals who have no sense of where their anger is coming from and they are oblivous to their behaviors during their episodes. They fly off and do things they later regret. They do things such as kill people, cause fights everywhere they go, hurt others, or often kill themselves.
These are the ones who don’t think at all before they act out. They lose control and sometimes it takes a lot to cool them down and sometimes they don’t until they’ve done something bad. When they become angry they don’t hear to reason. These types of individuals have ruin friendships with others and marriages. They’ve lost jobs and all sorts of things because they can’t control their anger.
I believe everything we encounter starts with our thought processes. We’ve all gone through something in life that wasn’t by choice; things that shouldn’t not have happened and we wished hadn’t happened. Some things unimaginable and tragic. Unfortunately it’s life and no one, I mean no one is exempt from tragedies life can bring.
As humans some of us allow those events to change us forever and in ways that are harmful to others and to one’s self. People hold on to too much garbage over things that happened to them as children, teenagers, and adults. They never resolve these issues and continue to go through life building on what’s already there. People are living off of fumes of their past events. It’s like the fumes from gas it can be fatal. A person may not die physically but they kill their souls by holding on to things that occurred long ago and choosing to continue to re-live those events for a life time sabotaging and destroying everything in their path. It’s very sad.
People cannot move forward if they continue to carry loads of past pains. It literally stagnates and bogs them down. They become not only angry, but depressed, suicidal, homicidal, full of worry and anxiety, stressed easily, and more. All of it causes the body, mind, and soul to become weak. It messes with our spiritual bodies. It throws us off center leaving people feeling not quite right. It’s like a hormonal woman when everything is out of whack we are not quite ourselves. It’s exactly how out of control people are. They have all kinds of things festering inside, because they don’t let go of anything. Instead they continue to compile things on top of a pile of mess already there. You end up with a person who “can’t see the forest from the trees.”
They become people who don’t take kindly to the views of others and anything that doesn’t quite go along with their way of thinking is wrong in their eyes. These people are rude to their significant others and others around them. They have a nonchalant no care attitude about most things.
The way we process things (any thing no matter how tragic) is how we will respond to it. If a person has allowed everything they considered bad to fester inside of them it means they’re still thinking about it. If they’re still thinking about it what they’re doing is re-living the bad thoughts and feelings linked to it. They never worked through their feelings or got help on how to release and let go of the negative thoughts. It’s all thoughts, the actual events are over. All that’s left is memories and they can fade if people stop making it a lifetime habit to keep going back to those memories.
Remaining angry for a lifetime or any amount of time takes too much energy. It drains you. It changes you in a negative way. It causes people to become ugly and dark inside. These types of people causes chaos in their other relationships and marriages.
It may sound unbelievable or ridiculous to you, but I believe there’s nothing in life a person can endure that they should allow it to ruin their entire life. Events come and they go. Once they go they’re gone forever. We’re the ones who holds on to the memories of what the events caused in our lives. Unfortunately many allow it to leave them with thoughts and feelings that contols and fuels their entire existence. No one on earth has to live such a miserable life.
It’s alright to feel the affects of something awful, but it’s not alright to allow it to ruin your life or change you into a mean spirited and angry person. That’s a choice. Some of these people see the hurt and pain they bring into the lives of others, but they don’t care, because they’re feeling hurt and pain from old events.
It’s the thoughts and the thoughts along that has people trapped. Think about it, if a person had no thoughts of it, there wouldn’t be an issue. Right or wrong? We all have memories that pop in our heads, but it’s like any other memory if you keep allowing the memory/ies to continue to play around in your head, you begin to feel some kind of way about them. Then before a person knows it they’re mentally right back in that moment. This is what many people do and it’s why they can’t move forward, because they’re stuck in what has happened long ago.
Please let it go. It’s over! No matter the pain. I can truly say it from my heart. I’ve gone through things unthinkable at the hands of many people throughout my life. Guess what, I don’t know why, but even as a child God made me strong. I hurt sometimes like everyone else, because I’m flesh and bone with feelings. However, I let nothing stay deposited in my brain that pulls me down. I refuse too. Every single thing I went through was something I learned from. Although bad, it taught me a lot.
The biggest and greatest thing learned is that people aren’t always who they present themselves to be. Also, when a person hurts another person, it’s because someone at some point has hurt them. The sad part is they inflict pain on others, because pain is what they’re used too. Many walk around filled with hurt and anger ALL because they won’t let go of old events. These people continue to hurt themselves by not letting go. Some are wonderful people, but they are so familiar with the thoughts and feelings it’s all they know and they hold on to them (no matter how bad).
This is why we see so much senseless killings. Look at the latest the young guy in California. The reasons he gave were ridiculous to some of us. Not having sex or a girlfriend and he was 22. That’s major was major to him, because of how he let it play in his head. However, the reasons behind it were much deeper. This child wasn’t happy inside. He was full of pain and it went much deeper than girls. Not only this young man, but we have seen and heard these types of tragedies time and time again. It’s because people allow all of the negativity to play around in their heads. “If you keep playing with fire you’ll eventually get burned.” These types of individuals get to a no care point of no return. All because of the thoughts and feelings they’ve had festering inside. You never ever know what someone is carrying inside or how they’re truly feeling.
It’s not easy to learn how to let go, but it’s possible to do so. When people constantly ponder on negative thoughts (memories), in order to change how they think they must be aware of what they’re thinking. It’s an absolute must! You must be conscious of what your thinking. When your mind takes you back, bring yourself out of that thought first by realizing you’re having it and second by acknowledging it is negative. You MUST be consistent when doing this. The ONLY way a change will occur is when you want to change.
If you’re this way aren’t you tired of the pain you’ve caused yourself and others for so long? Today, right now, because right now is all we have tomorrow isn’t promised. Make a decision to change. You can do it if you truly want to. If you keep thinking it’s too hard, it’s NOT, it’s all in your mind. It ONLY feels hard, because you’re doing something new. Don’t get discouraged. It’s time to take control of your life. I pray you do it today.
People don’t want to be around angry folks. Yes your significant others, family, friends, and others do not like to be around you angry man/angry woman. It’s not fair to them or yourself how you’ve allowed things you experienced to ruin your current relationships. All the pain you’ve experienced you can let it go.
I pray to God that you realize your life can go in a millisecond OR the person you love the most life can be gone just as quick. Don’t go another day being angry. You won’t EVER forget what you went through, but the memories will fade in a way that it won’t hurt anymore, but you have to be willing to release those negative thoughts and when you do watch how good you feel. Watch how your relationships with others will change.
When individuals are in relationships and marriages with angry people it’s disheartening. People don’t want to be abused or mistreated by someone they love, because he or she has anger issues over something that has nothing to do with them or the relationship. It’s not fair and it’s hurtful to the ones who love you. No one wants to be with someone who’s controlling, obsessive, abusive, possessive all because of what’s festering inside for a lifetime
Make a decision to let it go today, YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!