2015 A TIME FOR CHANGE

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I pray that each and everyone who’s reading this post make a conscious decision to release all of the things that have held you back. I pray whatever or whoever you’ve given your power to that you take it back! It is completely up to you. You can make a change in your life, but you must want to. No one should settle for unhappiness and misery, because no one has to.

Stop crying and complaining about things, because change starts with you and it begins as soon as you make the decision to change. Take back the control over your life.

Too many people are living depressed, suicidal, homicidal, trying to hold on to someone who has let them go and don’t want to be with them, feeling stuck and trapped, addicted to drugs and alcohol, in bad unfulfilling relationships, and the list goes on and on. They’re too afraid to change. To change you must first want to change and understand that it takes consistency and effort. Many people don’t want to because they don’t want to take the time to do so. They feel more content with constant unhappiness (no matter what it is), then to embrace change. Some of it is out of fear and some is simply because people don’t want to put forth the effort. In my opinion, both are excuses.

Many are very dissatisfied with their lives, yet they’re doing nothing to make a change. Too many of you are depending on someone you love (significant other) for your happiness and because of it you’re miserable because you’re with someone who don’t want to be with you or someone who mistreats you.

Many are stuck in the past without understanding what is holding them back are the memories of their pasts, Memories that they’re holding on to, not the past itself. We all came from our past none of us can get around that fact. However, no matter how tragic, no one has to continue to be held captive in their mind due to their past. That’s where it is; in your mind (your thought processes). Let it go and move on. You can do it if you want to. Stop ruining your life over something that is no longer happening to you. When you’re prisoner to your past it’s of your own free will. It’s all about choice.

None of us has to remain prisoner to what we’ve gone through. If something has you bound, then it means you’ve made yourself prisoner it (no matter what or who it is). It’s like you’ve become a slave to it. You’re trapped and will not be free until you make the decision to let it go and move on. Learn to forgive, learn to let go, and learn to love yourself. A person who truly loves his or herself will NOT allow anyone or anything to drain them of their power and control.

I pray that you give God and His Son Jesus a try. However, if you don’t believe and choose not to give Him a try it is your choice. No matter what your decision may be, I pray that you find peace in 2015. Please don’t go into 2015 with the same mindset, the same negativity, and the same excuses for not changing. Have a blessed New Year!

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BAGGAGE WEIGHS YOU DOWN AND MESSES YOU UP

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So many of you are messing up your relationships because of not being able to get pass what you’ve gone through with someone else. You get into relationships, but you don’t know how to treat the one you’re with. Stop dragging the baggage of your last relationship into your current one. Matter of fact, if you’re still messed up over any prior relationship you SHOULDN’T be in another one right now. Too many people get out of messed up relationships without giving themselves enough time to heal. Instead they drag all of the junk right on into their next relationships.

It’s not fair that you’re treating the one you’re with as if he/she done to you what the last person has done to you. It’s not fair that you can’t trust the one you’re with, because of trust issues in your last relationship. It’s unfair that the one you’re with is having to deal with the residual affects of issues you’ve endured in your previous relationship. Although it may have been bad it was you who signed up for it. Sadly many have a chance to get out of bad situations, but many choose to stay. So stop mistreating the one you’re with or the one who cares about you and want to be with you, because of issues of your past.

Then there are some of you who are too afraid to love again. You’re lonely, but you’re allowing fear to keep you in a fearful state of mind. By doing this, you may miss your blessed man/woman of God; from God.

Stop allowing bitterness to keep you from loving again. Learn from any past bad decisions that you made. None of us are ever victims of unhealthy relationships no matter how bad; because we willfully choose to get in them and stay in them.

A new year is approaching fast. Please let go of all the things that you’re allowing to hold you back. You can’t move forward if you’re still dragging alone your past. No one wants to be or should have to be the one to suffer because you can’t let go of your past issues. If you’re still affected by a past relationship this means you need to take a look at the man/woman in the mirror.

Look around you; the past isn’t there, it’s behind you and gone forever. It’s you who’s holding on to it. Let go! Stop allowing it to ruin your present and your future. Don’t go into the New Year with the same negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of this past year. It’s up to you. My prayer for you is that you let go and let God! Step out on faith, move forward so you can become the best you possible. Do not go into the New Year the same way you’re leaving the old. Blessings to you, you, and you!!

HATERS WILL HATE

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One thing I learned long ago is that people will hate on you. It’s done by those you know and those you don’t know. Matter of fact some of the very people who claim to love you (too include some family and friends), and have your back are some of the same one’s who are stabbing the heck out of you and hiding their hands. Yes, I said it, because it’s the truth. Everybody claiming to be for you are not for you; they’re talking out the sides of their necks.

Stop getting upset or becoming stressed out because people hate on you. People who hate on others are people who are unhappy with themselves. They see something in you that they don’t possess and because of it they can’t be genuinely happy for you. They can’t genuinely embrace you. The real problem is they’re upset at themselves, but they project it outward towards others. Don’t let it get to you or let it get you down. If you’re experiencing this, know that it’s NOT your problem or your fault. It’s them dealing with their own issues, the best way they know how.

As long as you live people will hate on you. You can’t ever be good enough. They will hate no matter what. If you’re the best they will hate you for it. If you’re the worst, they will hate you for it. Some people will always have something to say about you, because they are jealous, envious, and plain mean. Don’t let it get you down. When you allow what others think of you cause you stress, it means you’re giving them entirely too much power over your life. No one deserves that type of power over you. Hold your head up and continue to be the best you that you can be. It’s your life NOT there’s!

Don’t be mad at them, through it all love them and pray for them. Pray that they will feel better about who they are so they won’t feel it is necessary to exert the time or the energy in being envious, jealous, spiteful, or hateful (openly or secretly) on any other individual.

PATIENCE, WHERE IS IT?

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I am so amazed at how little patience people show. Everyone is always in a hurry. People are too busy to “stop and smell the roses” (per se). Everyone is always moving too fast not slowing down enough to enjoy life or show love for the next person.

Not only has it happened to me, but I’ve seen it happen to others time and time again. I’m talking about how people would rather see a person wreck then to let them merge in while on the roadway. They clearly see you trying to get in, but instead of letting you in they’d rather you run off the road or into something. This is insane and a shame, but it is the truth. Some will cut you off; rushing to get in front of you only to turn off a second later. It’s nuts! Others will tailgate you in thinking it will force you along; not understanding they’re causing unnecessary risk to their life as well as yours, because they don’t know if you will have to make a sudden stop or not. People; it’s not that serious! Slow it down, if not it could cost something you’re not ready to pay; like a life, which very well may be your own.

At stores, I’ve seen people throw tantrums like little kids, because they have to wait in line. If you don’t want to wait in line take your butt home and come back another day. Otherwise, you’re not special, you have to wait your turn like everyone else. it won’t kill you! Stop all of the cursing and fighting, it’s not worth it.

So many claim to love God, etc. etc, but they don’t want to wait on Him to work. They pray, but they don’t want to tarry. They want their prayers to manifest right away. It doesn’t work like that. Pray, do your part, and then sit down, be quiet, and know that God is Lord! If you don’t trust Him to do it, why pray?

Some parents have no patience with their children. They won’t sit down and help them with their homework, because they won’t make the time nor do they have the patience to do so. Too many of you yell and scream without understanding the affects of your actions on your children. Learn patience with your children, if you don’t you will teach them to be impatient with others. Not only concerning homework, some parents are simply impatient with their children and it’s absolutely wrong.

Some of you are impatient with your significant others and you treat them as if they’re your children. This isn’t right. Stop being complacent and taking your significant others for granted. Be patient, kind, and gentle to them just as you would want them to be to you. To do otherwise causes friction in relationships.

Many of you give up on yourselves when things don’t go as planned or when things seem to take a long time to come together. You must stop trying to rush things. This is why so many things fail for people (relationships, all types of goals, etc). If you have a passion/goal, be patient and never ever give up on you. There will be enough people around you to do that to you,  never do it to yourself.

The moral to this post is; learn patience. You only have one life to live slow down and enjoy it. Trust God and know that He is who He say that He is. Time is flying on it’s own, so please learn patience. Learn to believe in yourself and never give up on you. Show patience, love and kindness towards others.

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YOU’VE HEARD IT TIME AND TIME AGAIN

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I found someone I know well in a dilemma that she willfully put herself in. It made me want to write about it and other things people are constantly doing, despite of the drama it causes. Many of the posts I have written are related in some sense or another. It’s because I’m trying to encourage, empower, motivate, or provide some type of knowledge. I talk relentlessly about things, but I realize no matter how much I write about it, many will not get it and many will not care or change their ways.

This is to my sister’s of all nationalities and ages. If you take in a guy who can’t rub two pennies together and who don’t have motivation or ambition to do anything; that is your fault. Don’t cry and complain because you’re pulling all of the weight. You cannot get water from a dry well. The fact that he’s cute and good in bed is neither here nor there. If you’re with someone yet you’re going around asking people for money because you’re short on your bills, that’s your fault and it’s a shame. You put yourself in that situation. Don’t be mad at anyone when they don’t want to help you support someone who isn’t doing anything for you and who is only taking from you. You can’t get anywhere if you continue to let someone hold you back and take everything you have and have worked to get. Get your act together and understand that if you don’t care what you let someone do to you, they won’t care what they do. A real man will love and care for his woman, not use her.

a. You’re moving in scums and bums! Some of you are moving in known sex offenders and abusers. Please stop this nonsense!

#2. My sister’s you do not have to show all that you have in order to be attractive or sexy. You don’t have to walk around in skin tight clothes or clothes that reveal everything you have IN ORDER to be considered attractive. You don’t have to have your boobs hanging out for everyone to see, we all know you have them. I don’t care how beautiful a woman is, if she has to do all of this, she clearly has issues. I don’t care how confident a woman CLAIMS to be, by doing this her actions shows something else. She’s trying to make a statement which goes beyond self confidence. In truth she has insecurities. Some of you may not agree and that’s fine. No woman has to reveal all she has to show how attractive she is and in fact a woman of true confidence will also have self respect. She knows she doesn’t have to dress in that way. Take it or leave, the choice is yours.

a. Men some of you dress no better. Your pants hanging down off of your butt isn’t attractive AT ALL! No one wants to see the crack of your butt. It’s nasty and disgusting.

#3 Men and women. If you’re in a relationship, whether married or not, you shouldn’t be trying to get into a relationship on the side. Men and women who are still going off of the deep end because of how someone looks (booty, boobs, body; period) are very shallow and immature. To mess up what you have over a piece of butt is plain stupid. If you’re not happy at home then leave, but STOP cheating. Grow up! Stop committing knowing full well you’re not ready to do so. Those of you who are married, if you’re not ready to be a faithful spouse stop saying I DO, when you know YOU DON’T! You know you wouldn’t want to be cheated on, so why do you cheat? It’s a sign that you have issues within yourself that you need to work out and until you do, STOP messing with the hearts of those you claim to love. It’s obvious you don’t love yourself. If you don’t know how to love yourself, you can’t be the person you should be to your significant other. A cheater will cheat no matter how good his or her significant other are.

#4 Men and women. You CAN’T change anyone no matter how much you love them, how much you try, or how much you pray or wish they would change. Stop getting into relationships; putting up with straight bull, because you think you have the power to change your significant other. YOU DON’T! Trust me your love isn’t enough. A person may choose to change, but it will be either because they will do it temporarily or they have realized it’s time they change. Either way it will be their decision NOT yours. When will you learn? Most of you end up heartbroken and in unhappy relationships.

#5 Men and women. Stop allowing yourselves to be mistreated and abused. Stop making excuses for the actions of those who supposedly love you. Stop making excuses for why you accept this type of treatment. It is not love and nothing and no one is worth it! A person who can’t be by his or herself is an unhappy person. Deal with yourself and the issues plaguing you which has caused you to constantly find yourselves in unhealthy relationships. People can see weaknesses in others and they will prey on you. An abuser  will do what they have to do to get you and once they do that’s it. They’re queens and kings of manipulation. They are clever! Many people find themselves in situations they didn’t plan on being in. People keep finding themselves in these types of situations when signs of who the other person was were shown long before their relationships got serious. Yet people choose to continue in these unhealthy relationships. The next thing they know they’re in situations they can no longer handle. Many lives have been lost due to bad decisions to remain in abusive relationships. Sadly people are still doing it. Why? It’s because of inner issues they need to deal with. People are so desperate for love they are willing to put up with any and everything to include all forms of abuse. LOVE IS NOT BLIND, PEOPLE ARE!

#6 . Let go of what is no longer happening to you. If someone has hurt you but you’re no longer going through that situation; let it go. People are continuing to be affected because consciously or subconsciously they’re holding on to whatever happened. Years continue to go by, but many of you are still in the same frame of mind. You’ve sabotaged your lives and relationships with others. Many of you are cursing God over your unwillingness to forgive, let go, and move on. You’re bitter, angry, and upset over something that is over. It is you who is hurting you by refusing to let go of what is done and over. I know there was pain, but what you’re feeling are residuals of the memories you refuse to let go of. I know I’ve been there! Things can change if you would be willing to forgive those who’ve hurt you and forgive yourself for holding on to unnecessary pain. It’s your choice to make. I pray you make it and stop ruining your lives, the lives of the children you’re bringing into this world, and the lives of others around you.

I can go on for days, but I won’t. God’s will; it’s about to be 2015. I challenge you to look at your lives. If you’re still going through the same stuff, dealing with the same situations, or in the same ole mess, IT’S TIME FOR A CHANGE! First I recommend Jesus. If you can give scums and bums a chance; surely you can give the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords one. If you can look for love in all of the wrong places; surely you can try looking in the right place for once; which is to God and His Son Jesus! Trust, Him, try Him! He will teach you how to love yourself and then you will be in better frames of mind to love others. You’ll no longer allow and accept all of the nonsense you’ve willfully allowed into your lives. That’s my prayer for you, you, and you!

WHO ARE YOU CONNECTED TO

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As I think about the ways of the world and how so called Christians are succumbing to it; thinking what they’re doing is hidden God put this message in my heart. If you remember this one thing and you allow it to permeate every fiber within you, your life will change. Just because you say you’re holy, it doesn’t mean you are. Just because you’ve given your life to Christ doesn’t mean you’re living holy or that you have the right connection to Him. People have it misconstrued and their ways of thinking are about as wrong as it can get. None of us will live forever. I keep telling people right now is really all we have. The present is just that! It’s a “present” a gift to us from God. It is right now, and if we live to see another day it will always be the “present”, yesterday will be gone forever and, tomorrow is still never promised. All we ever have is right now (the present). This is the time to get it right with God.

I’m telling you this because too many people are professing one thing, yet living another. Time is out and up for playing with God and playing church. I see people claiming to love God and to live holy, but they are doing everything they think they’re big and bad enough to do. The reason people do this is because they don’t really know who God is. They want to be associated with Him, but they don’t have the right connection. Their hook up is wrong; the wires are crossed up somewhere.

Some of you are claiming to love God so, yet you can’t love your own parents or others in your life. This is impossible! You can’t do it. There’s no way you can “truly” love God, but hate your fellowman (parents, friends, other loved ones, and others). God is love!!!!!!!!!!!! I look at the world today and all of the hatred people are having for one another. It’s so sad. Yet, many of you are claiming to love God so. It is a LIE and the TRUTH isn’t in you! It’s not possible! If you can’t love right here on earth you can forget about Heaven. Right now is the time to get it right! Right now is the time to love! One reason the world is in such a bad way is because, people don’t know how to love one another. Too many hardened hearts. They’re allowing jealousy and envy to blind them. They’ve allowed greed and lust to consume them. They’re NOT hooked up to the right source (Jesus).

Some of you are claiming to love God, yet you don’t spend anytime with Him. You don’t spend time in the Word and you don’t spend time in prayer. You can’t hear God speaking to you, because you’re always running your mouth. You spend to much time and energy trying to convince man you’re holy, yet all along your ways are showing the truth. You’re so blind by YOUR truth until you don’t realize it. Stop trying to please man. “Get the beam out of your eyes” and get the right connection to God. Once you do this, you will no longer worry about trying to please man. You will then understand what the importance of spending time with God means. Your walk will no longer be the same.

God wants to make you into the person you’re claiming to be, but He can’t do it if you don’t stop playing and go ahead and truly surrender to Him. Some of you are too busy showboating for man until you’re missing your blessings from God.

God wants you to lay all of your mess at His feet. God’s not impressed or pleased at what people are doing. He doesn’t wish for any of us to perish and this is why He gives us chance after chance. The problem is many of your connections are wrong. You’re connected to man and the ways of the world and NOT God. Your “present” is His way of giving you another chance to lay it all at His feet. Many of you are too focused on doing things your way, because your connections are wrong or you don’t have any at all.

One thing I’m thankful for is that “God ways isn’t our ways.” He’s not impressed by our titles, what we have, who we are, the color of our skin, our nationalities, our looks, etc. We are ALL his children. All He cares about is that we choose “eternal life.” He’s not going to make us choose it, because Salvation is free! He’s already paid the price for our sins. All we have to do is live in a way that we receive “eternal life.” We do this by being connected to the “right source” this source is God and His Son Jesus Christ.

Still by knowing this, many are choosing the ways of the world and edification to man. This is because they’re hooked up to the wrong source. The only true source is God and His Son Jesus! Those who claim Him, but living something else are liars and the truth isn’t in them.

Too many are worried about the outer appearances of their bodies and their worldly possessions when inside they’re filthy dirty rags who are trying to hide behind using God as their source when it’s clear they’re not hooked up to Him. God doesn’t have any part of this! When God truly dwells within us, He doesn’t change us from the outside in; He changes us from the inside out. You become hooked up to the right source! When He changes us the outside will come into alignment with the inside. It’s like Jesus being connected to the Father; they’re as one. Having the right connection aligns both the inside and the outside of who we are as one who’s connected to the right source. Once you have the right connection you will no longer be concerned about pleasing man and being a part of the ways of this world. Your lives will completely change and you will put down the old ways and become a “new creature.”

God is love and once people are truly connected to Him their hearts will change. They will know how to love, they will know how to forgive, and most importantly they will spend time building their personal relationships with God.

All I’m saying today is get hooked up to the right connection on today. When you do, you will stop cursing from the same lips you praise God. You will no longer allow anything or anyone else to take hold and power over you. You will no longer worry about building your possessions here on earth in a way it controls your reason for living. You will lay down the burdens of your pains of yesterday and stop allowing your past to ruin your “present” from God. You will stop praising and worshipping man and other idols. It will no longer be all about you, but it will be about the Jesus in you.

My prayer is that you get connected today while you have the chance. Many of you still won’t do it, because despite of it all you still don’t want to give up the ways of the world. However it may be; the decision is yours to make. Nothing this world has to offer is worth you losing your soul and spending eternity in hell. The choice is yours and my prayer is you get the right connection to day.