The reason I chose the title for this post is because it’s the truth. The unfortunate part is that most don’t realize it. I challenge anyone to think about their current situation and then relate it to this post to truly understand what I’m writing about.

Many people find themselves in places they don’t want to be. They feel unhappy, trapped, lost, hopeless, confused, controlled, and afraid, yet, they won’t do anything about it.

I want you to understand that your life can be snuffed away in the twinkling of an eye. In a nano sec! It’s real! People are going to sleep and not waking up. Leaving their houses never to return, etc. etc. The point I’m making is this; stop living in unhappy situations. It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship, job/career, or whatever. Stop making excuses to remain steadfast when you know you’re not happy. Many of you have been in the same exact place for years. It’s sad!!

People spend most of their time complaining about their situations rather than doing something about their situations. Complaining does nothing but give you heartaches and headaches; along with more reasons to remain where you are. NO ONE can change your situation but you. People around you may provide advice, empowerment, guidance, encouragement, etc, but it’s you who have to do the work. It’s you who has to want to change your situation.

Oftentimes people blame everything on their significant others. I’ve said many times and will write again today; your significant other and other people ONLY do to you what you allow. If you’re in a bad relationship, you’re there because for whatever reason you choose to be. Point blank! Any reason you can come up with will ONLY be an excuse.

Excuses stems from fear, it holds you down and back. Those of you who are in bad relationships can contest that significant others can use your fear against you to keep you where they want you to be. It’s YOU who gave them the power to do it. Don’t be afraid to move on and away from bad situations that make you unhappy.

Starting over or doing something different is ONLY as hard as you make. If you complain, be afraid, doubt, or worry you will never gain the courage to move forward.

It’s your life. I don’t care if you have a significant other, this is YOUR life. No one deserves the right to control it or deserve the right to have power over you. Nothing can control you or take your joy unless you freely give it.

If there’s a different career move you want to make, do it! If you want to start a business or invent something, do it! If you simply want to try something different, do it! If you really want to get out of a bad unhappy relationship, do it! There’s nothing to fear, but YOU. You’re in your own way. Blessing to you!