One thing I’ve learned in life is you can’t put your everything into another person. What I mean is this. There are many women who are in relationships where they have relinquished everything to the man they love. When I write everything it’s exactly what I mean. These women allow their men to run and control every aspect of their lives and relationships.
Many completely rely on their men (husbands). These women basically have lost touch with who they are as women. The only thing they do is keep the house up and take care of any children they may have. They don’t know anything about the finances, health or life insurance, bills, etc. Some of the women think they’re in control but in reality they’re not and it’s proven when the one they love walks away.
These women find themselves in places they never thought they would be. They lost touch with daily living and because of it they don’t know how to do the most simple things. Many find themselves completely broken and close to nervous breakdowns. They’re sad, crying, and depressed. They can’t seem to pick of the pieces and move on.
I’m not saying a couple shouldn’t love one another and be in love. What I’m saying is no one is worth you losing yourself over; forgetting who you are and completely letting someone else take over YOUR life. Your life isn’t for anyone else to take over.
Unfortunately people get too comfortable in their relationships especially some women. These women begin to totally depend on their men for security. As long as they feel safe and secure they don’t try to stand as individuals in their relationships. Some think they have it together because they have a roof over their heads, food to eat, and clothes to wear. After they’re left alone they realize just how little control they had.
I’ve always said and will always say there are always signs of any and everything. Anyone who says “there were no signs” is a person who doesn’t face the truth. There are always signs, but people allow their feelings and emotions to block them from seeing these signs UNTIL it’s too late. This doesn’t have to be the case for anyone if people face reality and the truth as it presents itself. Believe me, it will at some point present itself and it doesn’t take long. People choose to be oblivious.
Life goes on! If you love someone and they walk away from you most times it’s to be with someone else. If this is the case move on. Pick up the pieces and move on. I don’t care how long you’ve been with someone if that person no longer wants to be with you don’t sit around crying your eyes out day in and day out. Don’t fall into depression and dark places over someone who doesn’t want to be with you. It’s senseless. Stop devaluing yourselves!
Life goes on whether you choose to move with it or not. Never forget you’re an individual. You can love a person without allowing them to completely take over and run your life. Always stand on your own two feet because they are yours to stand on. If you act powerless it’s exactly how you will be treated. If you act weak and insecure, it’s how you will be treated. If you’re clueless you will live to regret it. If you allow someone to treat you any kind of way, believe me; after figuring you out any way THEY choose is exactly how you will be treated. Why? It’s because they know they can get away with it.
There are men who are in this situation as well and the same goes for them. When you love someone people learn exactly how they can treat you by your actions towards them. It shouldn’t ever be all about how you feel and treat the other person. It also has to be about how they feel about you and how they treat you. Too many are so focused on being all they can possibly be to the other person; when all the other person is doing is taking what is given, yet giving NOTHING in return. Some individuals make their everything about the person they’re with; totally forgetting about what they want and need. It’s why so many relationships are sexless, loveless, together but separate, and simply unhealthy period. One is in it all the way while the other isn’t even half way in. You can’t see it until it’s too late, if you’re blind to the truth!