Addicted to Pain


Today someone asked me why did I name the post “Addicted to Pain.”  This was my answer! The reason I named it as such is because I’m trying to help someone. You can’t help anyone if you try to give people what they want to hear versus the truth. My intentions are never to put down or hurt anyone in anyway, but I won’t sugarcoat anything to make someone feel better about their situation. The sad truth is many are addicted to pain and it’s why many are living the same way and going through the same mess. If you don’t like it  then you change it. Most won’t try to change, they don’t have time for that! They think it requires too much work. Others say they don’t know how to. I’ve said it a million times, if you’re living a negative life, because of a negative way of thinking, you must change the way you’re currently thinking  and when you do it changes your life. You change negative thinking by replacing it with positive thinking. If something bad has happened to you, IF it’s from your past; understand that your past is no more, it’s gone forever. The only thing left of it is what you bring along day in day out (your memories of it whether good or bad). Stop allowing those memories to fester into negative thoughts about people who are probably not in your life anymore, dead, gone on with their lives, or who aren’t thinking of you. Stop giving them power over your life.

No matter what or who you must make up your mind that you won’t give it power over your life. Regardless of how bad, you don’t have to let it ruin the rest of your life. You get to choose, you really do! Life goes on with or without you. If you’re stuck, life will still go on.

If you keep getting into bad relationships or doing bad things believe me; this stems from somewhere and more times than not it goes right back to past issues. It’s all in your ways of thinking. Change your wrong way of thinking and you change your life. It’s only as hard as you make it. I know many think I say it or write it so easily. I understand change is difficult, but that’s because it’s something new. If you want it you work on it until you get past whatever has you in captivity by your state of mind. With that being written, I hope you enjoy the post. If any of you have personal questions you’re more than welcome to email me personally and not comment openly. I will always respond.

Many people in this world are obviously addicted to pain, yet they don’t even realize it. I’m not speaking of physical pain although mental/emotional pain can affect a person physically. I’m speaking of pain resulting from people’s inability to let go. Millions are walking around hurting because they won’t let go of things that are keeping them trapped in negative states of mind. A lot of what people carry around with them completely corrupt their lives. It affects them in every way; and this is the pain I’m referencing. People have become comfortable and content with heartache and pain.

You can believe it or not, but the truth of the matter is many are in this dark place of free will. I can’t change anyone, you can’t change anyone; the person who needs changing must want change for his or herself.

People are familiar with their ways of life. They either outwardly show their suffering or they tried to hide it unknowing that it will eventually show in their actions. I’ve seen it over and over, time and time again. People become comfortable in whom they’ve become. They often complaint and cry about it or they keep it inside; either way they ultimately become dysfunctional individuals.

I wish everyone in this world could understand that no matter the situation or circumstance we can live healthy lives full of peace. Unfortunate things happen to us; some are out of our control, while most are in our control. However, how we accept/perceive those things determines how we will go through the events. If people could only grasp that concept, the lives of many would be better. It’s hard for people to believe this when their lives seem so chaotic to them. This is because, they have failed to properly deal with their situations. If we don’t properly deal with our troubled times, the effect of those troubled times will deal with us. We see the affect it has on lives through people’s actions.

Some people seem to relish in pain, they keep putting themselves in the same situations with the same people or similar people. The sad part is they find themselves right back at square one wondering why and how they got there. It’s simple if you get on a merry go around; you will go around and around until you choose to get off. The same analogy applies to life. You keep doing the same things; you will continue to have the same outcome. It’s the bottom line!

Before a person tries to point a finger to blame someone else, check those three that are pointing back at you! Yes, look at the man in the mirror. People will put you through whatever you allow them to put you through. If you take it, they will dish it out. If you’re gullible they will prey. If you’re eager and/or desperate they will sense it and prey upon your weaknesses. You have control of your own life. If you think you’re weak, have low esteem, or lack confidence; guess what; it will eventually show.

A lot of what people have gone through has traumatized them. I of all people get it, but we as individuals must learn to use every bad situation for our good. There’s good that can always come out of bad. Unfortunate things that happens to us can teach and strengthen us IF we allow. Every bad situation I’ve ever endured  taught me something I didn’t know. It opened my eyes to something new. It alerted me and made me aware. Most of all it made me wiser and stronger. Anyone who chooses can experience life this way!

No matter how bad the situation, how we choose to take it in is how it will affect us. I accept life as it comes, the good with the bad. I’ve learned so much and have grown in leaps and bounds. I’m thankful for everything I’ve gone through. Some things I’ve endured would have been a lot for most to handle, but I’ve always chose to see things differently. I’ve never accepted feeling sad or unhappy no matter the situation. If you allow things in life to get you down, they always will do just that. The difference is when you really learn from the choices you make; you always make better choices.

The world is full of toxic people. People are full of toxicity due to experiences they have allowed to taint them to the core. This is why we see so much hatred in this world. People are taking the lives of other individuals as if life means nothing. They are killing the ones they supposedly love; we’re seeing senseless road rage, and other senseless killing. Why? It’s because these people are full of toxicity. There is still racism in the world when most don’t have a clue as to why they hate; it’s a learned behavior, but people are too clueless to even realize it. Yet, they continue to show hatred for no reason at all just because of the stories that have been told and passed down from generation to generation. There are many other examples I could write, but the moral to the story is these types of people are filled with all types of junk. They have junk from their pasts that has caused them to become toxic people, who live toxic lives. Junk is toxic to us! It affects us mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Junk in is junk out! Period!

People are so addicted to pain. They hold on to it as if there’s a benefit from it. It causes hatred, anger, jealously, envy, strife, malice, etc. It leads to depression, suicide, homicide, pedophilia, sexual immorality, many types of addictions, and the list goes on. What is so sad is that people don’t understand how their whole lives would change IF they would change their old ways of thinking. People don’t want to change, because it takes work. It takes effort, consistency, time, commitment, and most of all the will to want to change. Many find it much easier to continue living as they have lived for so many years. They’re content, but unhappy. However, rather than choose to be become better people living better lives, they choose to continue to inflicted pain on themselves and others while afflicted by all of the pain they’ve grown accustomed to.

The only way people will change is if they want to. We all must learn how to love ourselves and by doing so we will learn how to love others. If you hate anyone, it’s because you’re not happy with yourself and that’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like it or not! We change by first changing our ways of thinking which in return change the way we perceive things, feel about them, and act towards those things (no matter what it is). We change negativity by changing our ways of thinking and if we do this, we learn how to let go of those things that has us in bondage and addicted to misery and pain.