Miracle of Life


I understand many people don’t believe, that is your prerogative and I’m not here trying to push anything on you. However, it is my duty to write what I am writing.

When I think about how people don’t believe, to me that’s unbelievable. To think about life and death, that in itself is enough to make one believe. Think about it, scientist have been trying to figure out the miracle of life  and many workings of the universe for years and years. They can’t and they never will. It’s simply not meant to be known by man. That is just the way it is. All they can do is speculate, postulate, estimate, theorize, hypothesize, etc. etc. They will never ever know the truth. If it wasn’t something to it all, don’t you think by now there would be some concrete answers?

It takes a man and woman to conceive and form a fetus. Scientist may clone, but they can’t produce a fetus from scratch, it will always take a egg and sperm. I’m sure they can form something, but it won’t be a fetus that grows into an infant, with a life system and is a breathing, living being. Something will be off, because it’s not the ability of man to create life. To see something so tiny grow into life, that is able to survive in amniotic fluid for nine months without drowning is nothing short of a miracle. A fetus is attached to a mother’s umbilical cord, where it gets all it needs to survive its time in the womb. I think it’s amazing and definitely a miracle!

We are born vibrant with bright eyes and then we will age and our eyes don’t look as bright anymore, they begin to get dim looking or grayish (something). Our bodies won’t stay the same, we change and sometimes look different as we grow older. Our senses become dimmer and our footsteps are a little shorter and slower. I don’t care how much plastic surgery a person gets that body will age. This is a miracle!

Think about something as simple as sleep. We have to sleep at some point or another, if a person never slept they would go insane. Why is this? It’s because that’s how God created our bodies. We have to rest or we will break down. It’s a miracle most don’t think about. It’s not by chance that we get to a point where we have to close our eyes and get some rest.

When you look at the sun, moon, and stars; how they hang  perfectly without crashing down killing us. It’s a miracle. Scientist can theorize and hypothesize as to how and why, but that’s all it is. They don’t really know! They never will! That is the way it was meant to be. All of the space is our universe is there for a reason, but it’s unknown to man.

Death is something to think about too. We are housed in this shell and then one day we are gone. Everything we worked hard for and have accomplished no longer has any meaning to us or for us. To me that is so deep! Our organs stop working and our life is gone from this earth.

God is real and He shows Himself to us every single day. He doesn’t beat us over the head to believe, but he hopes that we would believe. He loves each and everyone of us and has no respectable person. The choices we make are the choices we make, but with our choices and decisions are consequences. May you have peace in your life!




A Real Friendship


I wanted to touch bases on the subject of friendship, because many don’t seem to know what it means. The word many, includes those so called friends and the one’s who like them. Time and time again I’ve written about how we think, feel, and act comes from past experiences it molds us into who we are (good or bad). It affects our choosing the people we call friends into our lives.

Sometimes a person want so much to be loved or a part of a group that they choose the wrong individual/s or social group to be a part of. People of all walks of life do this. What a person has or don’t have has nothing to do with the decisions they make. It seem like it does, but the reality is it all comes from what lies within. You know the saying “when a person show you who they are, believe it.” This is true across the board in all types of relationships.

First; to know a friend, you must first know yourself and secondly you must know how to be a friend. I believe the problem with most friendships is the person who is doing the befriending has issues going on that causes them to dismiss the truth about their so called friend/s.  All they want is to have a friend, but they’re overlooking the fact that the person they’re befriending isn’t remotely trying to be a friend to them.

There are many people who give and give to their friend/s and what they get in return are hands sticking out for more. The person doing the befriending can’t see they are being used and manipulated, all they care about is they’re receiving some type of acceptance (when they really aren’t). These types of friends are in your life for as long as your benefits are available (whatever the benefits). Once you stop giving the benefits they are on to the next person they can use and manipulate.

These types of friends will act as if they care about you for as long as you’re willing to dish out to them what they want. These friends will more than likely not be there for you, they make excuses for not seeing you, they don’t extend back to you the willingess to want to be to you the type of friend you are to them. They are what we call “hater/s” and many or either openly or secretly envy, jealous, and pretentious.

If you have a friend that doesn’t really seem to be there for you, it’s because they aren’t. They’re not interested in you, they’re interested in what you have to offer no matter what it is. When you open your eyes to the truth, then you can see the truth. Stop trying to force yourself into the lives of a person or people who don’t really want you there. These people aren’t your friends they are what we call “so-called friends.” They will hurt you in some way because they don’t really care. Their agenda is different from yours! They will smile in your place while stabbing you in the back.

It’s time to learn who you are and what you’re willing to accept and not accept (don’t waver, don’t be persuaded). Deal with why you open yourself up to these individuals. You’re lacking something you are trying to find by allowing people into your lives that don’t have the same intentions as you. You don’t need anyone in your life who doesn’t mean you any good. You certainly don’t need to buy a friend. You don’t need a friend who only know you for what you have to offer or how you can assist them.

It’s very important to note the fact that those so called friends are also individuals who have issues that has caused them to be the people they are. Regardless, don’t allow anyone to take advantage of you (no matter what). Accept the truth as it’s presented.

The greatest way to avoid these types of people is by first loving thyself. As I’ve written many times before, people only treat you how you allow; whether good or bad. Once you learn to love you, you will then know your worth and value. You will no longer entertain in your lives those who mean you no good.


Stop Wanting What You Won’t Give


A lot of people expect things from the one’s they supposedly love when they aren’t willing to do those things.  If you’re in a relationship it’s no longer all about you, there’s another person to think of as well. Too many people are in relationships doing things they wouldn’t want their partners doing.

It’s unfair to expect your partner to be a certain way when you yourself is another. Some people demand respect when they don’t give it. Why do people think this is right? When you’re in a relationship and not respecting the one you’re with this will pose as a problem. One isn’t anymore deserving of respect then the other. No matter what; those in relationships should always respect the one they’re with. I really dislike seeing a woman or man disrespecting who they are with. It’s very distasteful and wrong. There’s no big I’s and little u’s in relationships. I don’t care what the situation is, there should be respect both ways at all times. Don’t say he or she doesn’t deserve respect, because it is who you chose! That’s why people must go into relationships with their eyes open wide  seeing the truth and not wide open without the ability to see a thing. Those with their eyes wide open, but can’t see; will not be able to see past their emotions and  will end up in relationships they’re unhappy with.

There is a lot of cheating going on in relationships. Oftentimes men find it very hard to accept when their women stray, but seem to think it’s acceptable for them to do so. Wrong? Cheating defiles and ruins the relationships, period! Cheating is cheating, if a man knows he can’t take it happening to him then he shouldn’t do it. I once counseled a man who left his wife for cheating,; even though he cheated many times before she did. Again, cheating is cheating and it’s devastating no mater who does it. Think before defiling your relationships, once you cross the line oftentimes it’s difficult to get it back on track. If you can’t take it, don’t attempt to dish it out!

Many people are looking for certain things in relationships that they aren’t willing to give. People want to be loved, but don’t know how to love. They want to be in relationships, knowing they can’t be faithful.  They get into relationships , but still want to live the single life. It’s ridiculous and an immature way of thinking.  If people would be honest with themselves and face their own truths this would prevent a lot of failed relationships. Any individual know who they are better than anyone else. Unfortunately people fake, pretend, shuck, and jive.  This is why marriages and relationships are falling by the wayside.

In other words, look at yourself and then look at the one you are with. If you can’t be to him or her what you want them to be to you, then it’s time you get yourself together and do the right thing by the one you claim to love. It’s as simple as that!

Think about EVERYTHING before you do it! Peace, love, and happiness to you all.












The Enemy Dwelling Within


For as long as I  can post I will hit on subjects such as domestic abuse. There are many campaigns against domestic abuse this is my thoughts on that. I believe it’s always a wonderful and excellent  thing to educate the public about the topic, but the truth of the matter is society can’t stop it, it starts with the individual. Unfortunately I believe society goes by it the wrong way. I believe in society if we talk about subjects that helps shape character, morals, and values, there would be hope for a greater tomorrow.

Domestic abuse/violence is an issue that affects all races, genders, ages, populations, nationalities, and cultures. It starts with the individual self. Those who inflict the abuse are people who are suffering from issues they need to deal with. Those who accept abuse are people who also have issues they need to deal with. All of it comes from what lies within. What lies within each of us can be our own worst enemy.

A person who haven’t come to the realization of who they really are,  deal with whatever issues they have, and grown to become better individuals will forever be individuals who will either give crap or take it, point blank! Once a person accept and deal with their demons they can grow into a much better individual. No one can change if they don’t first accept they have issues that need to be faced and dealt with.

I believe a very high percentage of things derives from a person’s past in some form in and in some degree. Those issues more than likely began early in life through one’s environments and social circles; which creates our experiences and ultimately dictates behaviors. People can always chose to not allow negative experiences ruin the rest of their lives or  choose to accept they are broken due to those experiences and events but want to stop allowing it to ruin their lives . If they fail to acknowledge something is wrong they will always live a lie. They will portray themselves as one thing and live another. They will either do unacceptable things or get unacceptable things done to them.

No one is exempt from troubles in life but how we deal with them makes the difference. Many are crippled by their pasts. They allow what has happened or didn’t happen to them ruin their entire lives. So you know what I mean I will give a few examples ( a person raised without their father, a person abused for years = verbally  mentally . physically. sexually, abandoned as a child, neglected as a child, etc etc, received no nurturing, no structure or discipline coming up, etc). No matter what; how a person allowed things to affect them will affect the rest of their lives, but it’s still a personal choice. It may sound cruel but I’m here as a witness it’s the truth. The enemy lies within and it will always surface to the top when people do not deal with what’s causing them dysfunction.

We’ve seen the fall of people from all walks of life; they do things such as commit rape, engage in child porn, molest, form immoral sex acts, kill, cheat, steal, commit suicide, and other terrible things. The reason they do these things is because although they were products of their environments they allowed it to completely affect and taint them. As they grow up and age these people either become the ones who victimize or they live their lives as victims.

These types of people fall in love in all of the wrong ways with all of the wrong people. They have low self esteem, issues with co-dependency, depressed, unhappy with life, they bully people,  they are suicidal, homicidal, no confidence, trust issues, hold on too tight, weak minded and easily persuaded, allow all types of nonsense in their lives, they are either abusive or abused which includes controlling tendencies, and the list goes on. As I’ve said many times before, these types of people are embedded all throughout the world in statuses high and low. Some of them have hidden their demons so long they’ve become quite good at it, but eventually the truth reveals. It always amazes me at how surprised people act when people are revealed to the world.

Some think they have it all under control, but the truth of who they really are always shows up in their decisions, actions, and behaviors (it never fails). They pretend to be this when they are really that. It’s a fact of life! However, when a person deals with the core of who they are and stop pretending and trying to hide their demons; they can then fix what’s wrong. A million like Dr. Phil, Oprah, Ayanla, Dr. Drew, myself, and many more can’t change someone who isn’t acknowledging change needs to occur. We can encourage, enlighten, inspire, motivate, etc, but true change comes from the individual who is willing to change.

Stop being a victim and or stop victimizing. No other human may know what you’re doing, but YOU do! You live with you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, thirty or thirty one days a month, and three hundred and sixty five days a year. You deal with you every single second of your life, it’s time to stop pretending to be what you know you are not and start dealing with who you are. Pretending does nothing but eventually get you revealed. It also keeps you in your own self made trap. Regardless of what happened to you or what you done, you can change your ways and your lives on today. Stop giving your power to your past, stop giving your power to people and things! Today is a new day, a new beginning; embrace it and  use it for your good.

Society do psych tests, background checks, etc. Truth is although to a degree it shows some tendencies, etc ; it will NEVER be 100 proof, because people know how to hide their demons. They are good at showing what they want you to know. This why people get into positions and they molest,  get caught in child porn, or rape children. This is why people commit work-place violence (they blow up while at work or get fired and go back to their jobs and kill). This is why healthcare providers are drugged up on the drugs they provide (psych meds and pain killers). This is why people get into jobs and they completely use it as a source of power and authority over others – they are individuals who are internally broken, but are pretending to be strong. There are correctional officers sleeping with inmates or doing things for them, this why you see police officers misusing their power. I can go on and on and on. Bottom line these are people that are hired on jobs. The test they took to get those jobs didn’t reveal the truth of who they were.

If our school systems would teach esteem, confidence, what abuse is and isn’t, and other things to build and develop a strong individual, I believe children would be better equipped and therefore more capable to deal with those things they deal with in and outside of their homes. Reality of it is most aren’t getting it at home, because many parents have their own issues, children learn from what they see and hear. They are our future, because children grow into the adults we see that has all of the issues I’m addressing in this post. It’s only my opinion but I believe I’ve seen enough travesty in this world to believe it’s true. What’s being taught in our schools today is good, but it teaches one to excel academically/ professionally but not necessarily how to deal with the world of today. Another thing is  many of the one’s who teaches are some of the very ones with issues. This is across the board with every profession on earth. We’ve seen it over and over once people are revealed.  I know there are many such as myself who learned early  in life to look beyond what they endured and realized no one dictate their lives unless they allowed them too.  As for me, no one gets to choose my happiness, only I get that privilege. I am one who went through a lot, but instead of being broken, I learned from every experience and it’s my duty and honor to share the fact that no matter what; people can choose better for themselves.

Nothing you do, think, or feel is something new or hidden. You may feel it’s just you; that you’re alone, but it’s not the truth. People across the world has done it, thought it, and experienced it in some way to some degree.  If  you want to change the choice is yours and you have to take one step at a time towards change, but it can’t happen if you’re standing in the same spot, thinking the same and doing the same things. My prayer is that you let go and give up your old ways of thinking. If you change how you think everything else will follow (how you feel and how you act). The way we think, feel, and act makes us who we are. Once people understand this, they can look at the man in the mirror and no matter how dark , broken, sad, etc of a person looking back at them; they can become a new creature and start living better lives in better ways. My prayer is that you do!


You Created a Monster


Many people are in unhealthy relationships due to starting out in ways and accepting things they shouldn’t have. They did everything under the sun to get who they are with and even more to keep them. I’ve said it a million times, “no matter what you do you can’t make who you love, love you back.” If you have to work hard to make a person love you, then you’re obviously with the wrong person. It’s a clear sign many ignore!

Too many individuals are in relationships where one or both involved are doing their own things. What type of relationship is it when you’re supposedly together, but doing your things separately as if single? Seriously, how you start a relationship is most often how it will end. Too many accept things they know aren’t good for them and they do things they know aren’t good for them in the name of what they think is love.

If you are giving into immoral sex acts to please your significant other, sooner or later you will be completely disgusted and grow tired of what you’re doing. Another issue here is people sometimes agree to involve other people, but later realize it was a bad idea. However, truth is you willfully created that monster. You were too wrapped up into pleasing the other person you made it all about the him or her and what would please them. How you truly felt was put on the back burner, because you made it completely about the one you were with. Yes, you created the monster! This is no way to build a healthy relationship.

I’ve mentioned in many posts the fact that if you start out by buying him or her material things to please them or to get them, you’re only “creating a monster.” People will take from you as long as you give. If you start your relationships off by trying to buy his or her love, that is what they will know you by best. They will expect those things to keep coming and as soon as you stop doing it, you will see the truth of what your relationships are built on. It’s the same with money period! If every time you have to give them money for this and that; “you’re creating a monster.” You started it and it will be expected. You have set yourself up as Mr. or Ms. “Savings and Loan.” Yes you did it to yourself!

There are many women who are in relationships with guys who could not rub two pennies together, but they allow how he looks or how he makes them feel to dictate how they feel about him. She has no support from him, but she doesn’t seem to mind, until “ding” a light comes on. She then realizes how ridiculous it is to take care of a grown man who doesn’t want to work , because he’s pure lazy. She begins to realize how draining it is and grows tired of clothing, sheltering, and feeding him; then she wants something different. Well, the truth is these women “created that monster.” Men do it too! They fall for women who they are trying to save. They get with low esteemed women who have a lot of issues, no drive or ambition. These men are like some women, they’re blind by their emotions. I know the Bible says the man is the head of the house, but it doesn’t mean he is a slave for his wife, no more than it does she’s a slave to him. We all create many of the monsters in our lives.

I must also talk about women who get with men who pretend to be into them, but  are really into their children. Yes, you read it correctly. If you don’t believe me, please research it for yourselves. We are now into 2016 and it’s time people start making better decisions for themselves and their children. Stop trusting people with your children that you don’t even know. It’s tough enough trusting anyone, but to trust these men you just met can turn horrific. I can’t tell you how many articles I’ve read on last week on the subject of men raping and molesting infants and children. A lot of people are into child porn, their main interest are children so they get with women they know are gullible and eager for someone to love them in order to get next to their children.  These men are embedded through societies all over the world. Some women know their histories, but they still make the terrible decisions to be with these men. Again, if you think I’m fabricating anything research it. It is time these types of women make better choices. The same logic goes for people who continue in relationships with any type of  an abuser. They created their own monsters.

People; it’s no big secret at all. A person will treat you exactly how you allow. Millions in this world are in terrible relationships. There are many who’ve had to deal with the consequences of their bad decisions. The reason people are stuck in these types of relationships is because they allowed their hearts to lead them into their relationships without using their brains. If people could and would only accept this concept their lives could be different. I know I can talk about it and write about it until I die, people still will be led by how they feel about someone versus reality of what’s happening right in their faces.

These monsters come in all sizes, colors, and shapes. They are from all walks of life, populations, and cultures.  They are lurking and seeking whom they can devour. They are waiting on the right person to come along so they can get them where they want them in order  to do what they do. No one have to fall into their traps! Stop thinking you can save someone unless they want to be saved. Stop giving your hearts to people who don’t even have one. Stop seeking love when you don’t even love yourself or know what love is. Stop wearing your hearts on your sleeves like a neon light, making yourselves vulnerable targets for those seeking to devour you. Stop allowing your pasts to dictate your futures because of your inability to let go of something that’s already gone. Stop allowing your feelings about someone to lead you astray.

I can go on and on, but the bottom line is stop giving power to others. I guarantee you if you stop, the monsters lying dormant waiting will never have the opportunity to pounce on you. You do this by loving you first and by not allowing your hearts to lead you into places you shouldn’t ever be.

Read carefully, if you don’t allow your hearts to lead, you will not get all caught up in your feelings over the other person. You will be able to see right past your emotions to the truth that’s staring you right in the face.  Whenever you’re feeling all caught up in your feelings about your significant other that is the time to step back and reassess yourself and the relationship. If you don’t learn to put what you’re feeling aside and focus on the big picture,  it will be like seeing through a cotton ball (impossible). You will miss or rather dismiss all of the signs that have been right in your faces. It’s a  New Year and today is another chance to get it right and do better!!!! I pray that you make the right choices and decisions in 2016. Peace and love!!