Stop Wanting What You Won’t Give


A lot of people expect things from the one’s they supposedly love when they aren’t willing to do those things.  If you’re in a relationship it’s no longer all about you, there’s another person to think of as well. Too many people are in relationships doing things they wouldn’t want their partners doing.

It’s unfair to expect your partner to be a certain way when you yourself is another. Some people demand respect when they don’t give it. Why do people think this is right? When you’re in a relationship and not respecting the one you’re with this will pose as a problem. One isn’t anymore deserving of respect then the other. No matter what; those in relationships should always respect the one they’re with. I really dislike seeing a woman or man disrespecting who they are with. It’s very distasteful and wrong. There’s no big I’s and little u’s in relationships. I don’t care what the situation is, there should be respect both ways at all times. Don’t say he or she doesn’t deserve respect, because it is who you chose! That’s why people must go into relationships with their eyes open wide  seeing the truth and not wide open without the ability to see a thing. Those with their eyes wide open, but can’t see; will not be able to see past their emotions and  will end up in relationships they’re unhappy with.

There is a lot of cheating going on in relationships. Oftentimes men find it very hard to accept when their women stray, but seem to think it’s acceptable for them to do so. Wrong? Cheating defiles and ruins the relationships, period! Cheating is cheating, if a man knows he can’t take it happening to him then he shouldn’t do it. I once counseled a man who left his wife for cheating,; even though he cheated many times before she did. Again, cheating is cheating and it’s devastating no mater who does it. Think before defiling your relationships, once you cross the line oftentimes it’s difficult to get it back on track. If you can’t take it, don’t attempt to dish it out!

Many people are looking for certain things in relationships that they aren’t willing to give. People want to be loved, but don’t know how to love. They want to be in relationships, knowing they can’t be faithful.  They get into relationships , but still want to live the single life. It’s ridiculous and an immature way of thinking.  If people would be honest with themselves and face their own truths this would prevent a lot of failed relationships. Any individual know who they are better than anyone else. Unfortunately people fake, pretend, shuck, and jive.  This is why marriages and relationships are falling by the wayside.

In other words, look at yourself and then look at the one you are with. If you can’t be to him or her what you want them to be to you, then it’s time you get yourself together and do the right thing by the one you claim to love. It’s as simple as that!

Think about EVERYTHING before you do it! Peace, love, and happiness to you all.