Let Them Walk

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If a lot of people would think this way less hearts would be broken. Many people are barely able to function, because they’re heartbroken. They have allowed how they feel for the individual’s they love to drain them. This happens when people give their power to the one’s they are in love with.

There are many who can’t move forward after their relationships end. The sad part is many of those relationships shouldn’t have ever started. People can’t see this truth when they make it all about the other person. They lose focus on what they want, need, and desire to try and fill the needs, wants, and desires of the one they love. When a person enters into a relationship losing sight of who they are, they lose period; and this is clearly seen when people aren’t able to function after their relationships end.

Some people don’t want to let go, despite the fact they are hanging on to something that is over. If a person don’t want to be with you,  that is their choice. If they want to walk away you should let them. To try an hold on to someone who want out, will put a person in an unhealthy state of mind. No matter how good you are or what you do; if a person doesn’t want to be with you the best thing is to let them go. Life goes on!!!

I firmly believe if a person can’t function because a relationship ended it means they gave their power to the individual they were with. When relationships end some people lose hope and can’t function enough to go about their daily activities. This is sad, because no one should give another person this type of control over their life.

Does it make sense to mope around and be in a dysfunctional state when the one you want is going on with their life? The one you want is doing what they’ve always done, because they always had control over their life. They can move on easily, because they never gave away their power. People who can’t move on are causing themselves unnecessary pain.

Some people are too eager to love and to be loved. They settle and accept any and everything. This says a lot about a person. If you make it all about another person, then it means you’re an individual who doesn’t really love his or herself. Matter of fact this is an individual who doesn’t really know what love is all about.

The moral of the post is if a person doesn’t want to be with you, let them go. It’s better to let a person walk out of your life then to walk all over you!  It’s great to be loved and to be in love, but it’s hell to be in love with someone who isn’t in love with you!!

If you’re with someone and you are doing all you can do to make the person love you or want to be with you, then you’re already in a bad situation. No relationship should ever be one way or one-sided. If it is step back and face the truth, something is wrong! When people won’t face this truth they always end up hurt and broken hearted.

 

 

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Restroom Controversy

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I’ve re-written this post, because I’m obviously misunderstood. First of all how a person chooses to live his or her life is their business. However, just as people are for the law allowing trans genders to use restrooms of the gender they identify with there are those who are against it. What gets under my skin is the fact that some people want the world to be on one side about it and not feel any other way.  Both sides have a right to feel how they feel! If it’s what you choose it’s your choice, but just as you feel you have a right those opposing has a right as well.

If it’s about individuals feeling safe when using a public restroom, then the solution should be restrooms that are for that particular community. Allowing one to use the restroom of the opposite gender provides safety for only one party. It can cause controversy for all parties involved, because we live in a mean cruel world. One party may feel safer while the other party feels unsafe. Where is the fairness in that?????

There is no need for people to be mad about it, because we all have a right to feel how we feel. It’s so bizarre how people want rights while trying to take the very rights away from others.

We all know that perverts and pedophiles existed long before this law came about and if you do research there are many cases telling the stories. However, I still believe it will give these types of people more opportunity to do what they do (prey on their intended victims). I didn’t ask anyone to agree or disagree, I’m only writing my opinion and that’s it; nothing more, nothing less. I still believe the real agenda about this restroom law is more sinister then what’s on the surface and is much more than what “meets the eye.”

I’m not against a person because they’re transgender, gay, or bi-sexual, that’s absolutely not the case. It’s not about that at all! Your life, your choice. It’s simple as that!  I am against people who want it one way. People want laws to change and they want rights; while trying to strip  the rights of others away. That is what I’m against!!

 

 

 

 

 

You’re Your Own Stumbling Block

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I wanted to write about the topic I chose today, because most of you think who you really are is hidden. What really lies within a person for most is something they try to hide from the world. Pretending to be something you’re not keeps a person from becoming the best person they can become. It hinders them in a way where it doesn’t allow them to address the inner man that has them in bondage (what’s inside which is who they really are).

The majority of the humans inhabiting the earth are dealing with the same things. We all go through similar adversities. Nothing is “new under the sun.” Individually people think they’re alone in their situations, but they’re not! Most times it’s about something a person has done or it’s something a person has had done to them. It doesn’t matter which, it all derived from the same place which was cause by something they’ve dealt with at some point in life.

A couple of days ago a soldier was arrested for having a relationship with a young teenage girl. The girl had met him online and ran away to be with him. This soldier had her at his house and this is where the girl was found. This soldier knew without a doubt what he was doing was wrong. He’s a grown man (I believe in his 30’s) and the girl was a fourteen year old. He allowed his emotions to lead him to do something that is against the law. People do the crime without thinking about the consequences until it’s too late. This is because most are lead blindly by their hearts. This behavior comes from all of the mess people keep inside that causes dysfunction in their lives.

No one can mature into individuals who are consciously thinking before they actually act; if change in them doesn’t occur. I mean; a person must think before they make bad choices or decisions. No one does this if they’re making choices according to how they feel. If people took the time to think before they did things their decisions would be different. Unfortunately this isn’t the case with most.

Many people pretend to be one way when they’re another. This doesn’t help, it hurts, because this isn’t dealing with and fixing you, it is enabling you to continue to live lies. People get caught and then they’re sorry. Sadly even when some are caught the behaviors doesn’t change. Behaviors won’t ever change until CHANGE actually occurs. Change will never occur until people deal with who they really are.

People think they are hiding who they really are from the world. They go out of their ways to fake people out, lie, and deceive. You can’t ever fool the man in the mirror which is yourself. You have to live with you twenty-four hours a day. No matter how hard people try to hide; the truth shows through the bad choices and decisions people make. The truth always appear in some form or fashion.

Hiding, pretending, lying, being deceitful, or whatever you call it is does nothing but keep a person stuck in their negative ways of thinking and doing. The way a person grows and matures is by working on self. When people consciously, intentionally, and consistently work on self, they ultimately become better people who are more wiser individuals who make wiser choices and decisions.

My recommendation is that people learn to deal with whatever is wrong. Don’t run from it, because you can’t EVER run from yourself. Face whatever it is and be true to you! No matter what you’re facing; DEAL with it!! Learn from your bad decisions and choices and move on. Don’t continue to settle with being the way you are! If you know what you’re doing is wrong and you can’t seem to stop it on your own SEEK help. If you’re willing what you know is wrong, then be willing to face up to what you’re doing and seek help for whatever problems you have. You can’t change the behavior without changing yourself. You can’t change yourself if you’re not willing to face the man in the mirror (yourself). My prayer is that you do!! No one can change you, but you!

 

It’s Not Love, It’s About What You Do

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Many people find themselves in relationships where they are being used. Relationships that are built on WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR ME!  People continue to get into relationships based solely on how they feel about the one they’re with, completely overlooking how they’re treated. They can’t see what’s staring them right in their faces.

It’s not hard to see the truth if you’re open to the truth. A person can’t see the truth if they are blind by their feelings. Many individuals are in relationships, but are still lonely and unhappy.

Oftentimes the truth is plain and clear to everyone but the one who needs to see it. If you give everything at your disposal thinking it will make a person love you; YOU’RE WRONG! Some of you give money, money, money. Then there are those of you who are constantly buying and giving material things. Some of you think because you have status that it will make the person you’re with love you. NONE of it works! You can literally take your heart out of your chest and hand it to them, it will not make them love you. You could give them the moon, sun, and stars; if they don’t REALLY love you, it won’t matter. Stop looking outward and start looking inward.

These types of people will take from you as long as you give. If you’re with someone and it’s ALWAYS about giving something or doing something for that person, you need to check yourself and re-examine the relationship you’re in. Sadly, you’ve taught that person exactly how to treat you.

I don’t care how much you think you love someone, if it’s all about the other person all of the time, this says a lot about you. You can make a person comfortable, they will make you think they love you, but in fact they love what you have and what you can do for them. Does this sound like you?

You can’t buy love in no shape, form, or fashion. It’s wonderful to be a nice giving person, but if you’re allowing someone to take advantage of you, it’s a different story. If your relationship is one-sided it’s because that is exactly what you’ve settled for. You started out the wrong way, you set the standard, and you taught the other person how to treat you.

Anytime you’re in a relationship with someone you will always get what you’ve allowed. A person can’t treat you any other way then how you’ve allowed them to treat you.

Loving the Hell Out of Them

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IT WON’T WORK!!!! Again, IT WON’T WORK! Too many people think this strategy works but it doesn’t. What I’m trying to convey is, no matter how much you love a person they are who they are and will be who they will be. No matter how much love you have for them it will not change them. There are countless amounts of people who think they are the ULTIMATE one who can change who they’re with. You’re living in a fairy tale.

Don’t misconstrue me, there are instances where people were motivated to change and the change was lasting. However, this will NEVER happen unless those needing change finally decide it’s time to do so. The individual chose to change. You can love the hell out of them, but it doesn’t mean your love is enough to change them or even to make them want to change.

Many people have lost themselves trying to change individual’s they love. People think they got it so good it’s good enough to keep who they’re with from straying or it will make them straighten up. NOT true! This is why many people are VERY unhappy in their relationships. They give every part of them to who they are with only to get taken for granted, used, and left brokenhearted.

I’ve always said and will forever say “people treat us exactly how we allow.” If you think by loving him or her with all of you is going to make your relationships better you’re wrong. You can’t make anyone love you the way you love them. We will never find anyone who feels exactly how we do about them, it will waver somewhere. That’s life and how it should be, because people are different. Problem is too many people stray way too far off the scale of compatibility. They think how they look, what they have, how good they are in bed, what they have to offer, etc will be enough to keep who they so desperately love, but that’s not REALITY! That’s not how it works!

A lot of people wonder why despite all the love they show; their relationships aren’t working. They can’t understand why their woman or man don’t love them the way they feel they should. You’ve addressed your own concern. It’s because, how YOU feel they should love you is NOT how they love you. You’re thinking on one level and they’re obviously thinking on another.

People are building relationships on their own hopes and dreams. People continuously get into these one-sided relationships. They know they’re one-sided by what they receive in the process, but they still think their love will be enough to make the relationship work. A relationship is built on two people NOT one. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone if they’re not on the same accord as you, it’s one-sided.

A person can tell you how much they love you and want to be with you, but if you don’t see those actions then it’s simply a bunch of lip service. Too many people are falling for this type of lip service; they’re caught up in how they’re feeling and NOT seeing the truth, because they have very wrong ways of thinking. They’re led by their feeling and emotions. This way of thinking messes millions of people up. They find they’ve weaved webs they didn’t want to be caught in.

I could talk about this all day, but I won’t; besides no matter how much people read it, hear it, etc; they will continue to be a part of dysfunctional relationships. Until a person look inward and see they are their own PROBLEM they will continue to think they can love the hell out of who they are with; no matter how reality is showing them it’s NOT the truth.