IT WON’T WORK!!!! Again, IT WON’T WORK! Too many people think this strategy works but it doesn’t. What I’m trying to convey is, no matter how much you love a person they are who they are and will be who they will be. No matter how much love you have for them it will not change them. There are countless amounts of people who think they are the ULTIMATE one who can change who they’re with. You’re living in a fairy tale.
Don’t misconstrue me, there are instances where people were motivated to change and the change was lasting. However, this will NEVER happen unless those needing change finally decide it’s time to do so. The individual chose to change. You can love the hell out of them, but it doesn’t mean your love is enough to change them or even to make them want to change.
Many people have lost themselves trying to change individual’s they love. People think they got it so good it’s good enough to keep who they’re with from straying or it will make them straighten up. NOT true! This is why many people are VERY unhappy in their relationships. They give every part of them to who they are with only to get taken for granted, used, and left brokenhearted.
I’ve always said and will forever say “people treat us exactly how we allow.” If you think by loving him or her with all of you is going to make your relationships better you’re wrong. You can’t make anyone love you the way you love them. We will never find anyone who feels exactly how we do about them, it will waver somewhere. That’s life and how it should be, because people are different. Problem is too many people stray way too far off the scale of compatibility. They think how they look, what they have, how good they are in bed, what they have to offer, etc will be enough to keep who they so desperately love, but that’s not REALITY! That’s not how it works!
A lot of people wonder why despite all the love they show; their relationships aren’t working. They can’t understand why their woman or man don’t love them the way they feel they should. You’ve addressed your own concern. It’s because, how YOU feel they should love you is NOT how they love you. You’re thinking on one level and they’re obviously thinking on another.
People are building relationships on their own hopes and dreams. People continuously get into these one-sided relationships. They know they’re one-sided by what they receive in the process, but they still think their love will be enough to make the relationship work. A relationship is built on two people NOT one. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone if they’re not on the same accord as you, it’s one-sided.
A person can tell you how much they love you and want to be with you, but if you don’t see those actions then it’s simply a bunch of lip service. Too many people are falling for this type of lip service; they’re caught up in how they’re feeling and NOT seeing the truth, because they have very wrong ways of thinking. They’re led by their feeling and emotions. This way of thinking messes millions of people up. They find they’ve weaved webs they didn’t want to be caught in.
I could talk about this all day, but I won’t; besides no matter how much people read it, hear it, etc; they will continue to be a part of dysfunctional relationships. Until a person look inward and see they are their own PROBLEM they will continue to think they can love the hell out of who they are with; no matter how reality is showing them it’s NOT the truth.