Many are walking around mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically drained. Believe it or not to be this way is a personal choice. I’m sure some of you won’t agree and you have that right, however it’s the truth. Whatever power a person give to people or things determines how it affects them. If a person allow people or things to drain them, it WILL happen! This ultimately causes problems, because everything works in sync and when person is torn down in one of the areas (mind, body, spirit) there’s disruption in that individual’s life. It changes a person and most time not for the good.

RELATIONSHIPS – Far too many people give too much of self to things and people. A lot of times some people don’t love themselves yet they pour all they can into trying to give and receive love from someone else. They will take all kinds of foolishness in order to receive some type of love. In their heart of hearts it’s love they seek and they will settle for a little something rather than having nothing at all. These people end up lonelier than when they began and normally filled with regret and even more sadness.

People are so consumed with finding love they fall for anything. People are trying to save folks who are oftentimes so toxic or tainted until they become like the very people they’re trying to save. They develop mental health issues trying to save someone they love; and lose themselves in the midst of it all. I’ve seen this over and over. You can’t change anyone unless the individual wants to change his or her life. To try and do so is a personal choice. People are in this saving or fix it mode because they’re fueled by what their thinking and feeling about a person versus the truth of the situation.

EMPLOYMENT – Some people put everything into their jobs never receiving recognition or any gratitude in return. I believe we should always put forth an effort to be the best we can be. However, kissing someone’s butt (brown nosing as they call it) is not the way. For many individuals this is their way of life to get through life, they kiss up to everyone; especially at work. Some of these individuals get talked about and still never make it to the next level. They are left feeling bad and sad. In reality they think more of what the people around them or what their employers think of them, then what they think of themselves. It’s a very sad way to be. It’s depressing and draining.

Then you have those who give all of their energy and time to their jobs, because they are workaholics. They put their loved ones on the back burner until they realize it has caused separation in their relationships. People must understand they go to work for a reason and then they go home. Home is where you lay your head, if things aren’t right at home there will always be a riff in the relationship. People shouldn’t put their work before their loved ones. Stop allowing your work to drain all of your energy or take all of your focus, then you have nothing left for your loved ones. It’s not fair to them! If you’re blessed to see another day the job will be there. Learn to better manage time and most importantly always have time for your loved ones. It’s insane to work like a mad man (woman or man) to get ahead, but have no one to share it with, because you’ve pushed them away.

THE DARK PIT – I could of list many other things, but the reason people are this way is because of things they’ve previously endured. People don’t understand the core of who they are lies within them. It’s a dark pit that contains all of the mess they never got over. People carry so much unnecessary baggage around which causes them to act or react to situations in their lives based on thoughts and emotions.  This leads to bad choices and decisions, because they seek approval, comfort, and gratification at all cost. People are sponges taking in everything from everyone until becoming drained is all there is left. Think about a sponge it can only hold so much water before it begins to leak. This is what happens to people, because they give and put so much into people or things they become drained emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. It affects them as a whole.

My prayer is people honestly face their issues, deal with them, and move on to become stronger individuals who understand that it is a choice to give people their power, peace, joy, and happiness. I pray people learn to stop desperately seeking approval from others, because once you do your best that’s enough! Either people will accept it or not, if they do great, if they don’t great! Most importantly I pray people understand that no matter how much you love a person, you must love yourself first.! Love you; first; when you do you will NOT allow anyone or anything to take the power that belongs to you!  No one or nothing will have to the ability to drain you.