Seeing With Your Eyes Not Your Heart

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I know some of you will get the title while others won’t. The past 2 weeks I’ve been on a well deserved vacation. No matter where I go, I always seem to give out words of encouragement,  advice, opinions, recommendations, etc. It’s fine, I love walking in my calling at all times and anywhere.

It NEVER ceases to amaze me the many people who are dealing with similar issues. People ask your opinion, recommendation, or advice, but most times they won’t/don’t take it. Over and over without fail I’ve encountered both women and men who are in unhappy relationships. Honestly, I get it! I understand why people do what they do. Many of them don’t, but I get it. What I found is regardless of how many times you tell the truth, those who don’t want to receive it; won’t!

No matter how much information is available on relationships  people will continue to do it their way. No matter how long people go through their revolving doors of life, they will continue to do things their way. Some people hit rock bottom, yet don’t even understand that they are there. It’s so sad!!

I believe one of the most false statements is “follow your heart.” If a person is thinking right and acknowledging the truth as the truth, along with following their hearts ok, I agreed 200%. However, if a person is solely following their hearts this means they’re being lead by their wrongs ways of thinking. They are going solely off of what they are feeling and therefore unable to process the truth. They see with the eyes of their hearts and not at all with the eyes in their heads! In relationships many mess up by going solely  off of what they feel. People must understand, acknowledge, and know that their thoughts and feeling are correct. They will know it’s true by the way they’re treated. Learn how to listen to what is said and how you’re spoken to by the one you love. While you’re listening, you must see if the words line up with the actions. Love is shown through more than words, actions tell the true story!! In relationships people must see the truth and accept it for what it is and be able to move on.

What else do a person have to do to show you they aren’t as into you as you are into them???????????? If a person is unfulfilled in their relationship; they are unhappy. If a person is committed but the one they’re with is ONLY there, but not committed; they are unhappy. If a person is abused, ostracized, controlled (told what to do, how to do it, where to go, when you can go, who you can be around, etc); etc they are unhappy. If a person is being disrespected and mistreated in any form; they are unhappy. If a person gives all they have only to get NOTHING in return; they are unhappy. If you got into a relationship because you thought a baby would keep it together, but you found out you were wrong; you are unhappy. If you thought you could change him or her and found out it’s impossible, but now you’re stuck unhappily in a relationship; you’re unhappy. If you thought your love could save him or her, but you found out instead you’ve about lost your sanity and yourself in the process; you’re unhappy. If you got with them knowing they were with someone else and you found out sharing someone else’s man or woman isn’t right or easy; you’re unhappy. If a person has to walk on eggshells or are afraid of who they are with in any way, then they are unhappy. People who are unhappy in their relationships are people who are in unhealthy relationships.

I can go on for days, but I don’t have the time to do so. Individual’s must look beyond their feelings, because beyond their feelings lies the truth. See with your eyes wide open NOT wide shut. Meaning, see what is before you and not with your hearts. A person will show you EXACTLY what they think of you by the way they treat you. If you’re fine with being treated like poop, because you’re going off the feelings of your hearts, then you will be treated like poop!!!! You teach the person you’re with EXACTLY how to treat you! You are treated EXACTLY how you allow.

Too many people give the people they are with what they want, yet these people never get what they need in return from the people they are with. It doesn’t matter how much you love a person, if they don’t feel the same about you it WILL SHOW!!!! It will show in how they treat you; period! When a person is hell bent on loving a person who doesn’t truly love them in return, then what you get will be EXACTLY what you accepted and allowed. Stop being so fixated on how you feel about the other person that you are blind and start seeing and understanding what the other person feels for you.  It always shows in how you’re treated. It shows in how they speak to you, how they treat you when you’re in and out of their presence and in the presence of others. It’s shows in their faithfulness, loyalty, honesty, respect towards you (good or bad). It shows in willingness to effectively communicate with you. It shows in their willingness to share (giving and receiving) with you no matter what it is. It shows in their commitment to the relationship, and other things that are positive. In healthy and positive relationships people shouldn’t be strained, drained, or forced and it sure shouldn’t be one-sided.

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