Relationships Normally End How They Begin

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I’ve written on this subject before, however I thought I would refresh some memories. Most relationships end according to how they begin. Many people get into relationship by cheating with someone who is already in a relationship. Oftentimes these are married people cheating on their mates.

It doesn’t matter if your the cheater or the one the cheater is cheating with, you’re both immature and wrong. A lot of times the cheater and the one he or she cheated with end up married. To no surprise they end up divorced later down the road, because of the same reasons they got together. Someone else came along (just as they did) and cheated with their spouse (or girlfriend/boyfriend). What do people think? They think they can wreck homes and all kinds of mess and then live in marital bliss? No it doesn’t work like that and Karma will bite them dead in the butt. You can do wrong and get by, but you won’t get away! It’s coming right back to you. Crazy to me how some people are so devastated when they’re on the receiving, but when they were cheating with the married individual they didn’t care the individual was married. It all seems to matter when they’re being cheated on.

The moral to this post is if you meet someone and you find yourself attracted to someone else’s man or woman, GET AWAY from them. If they are in a relationship of ANY kind, please don’t make an immature decision to pursue this relationship. If you do I promise you will suffer the consequences of your actions. What you do to others will come back to you! Think about what you’re doing. We all have the control as to who we fall in love with or who we choose to be with. When people choose other people’s significant others they’ve crossed the line. Nothing good will come to them! It may seem to work out, but it doesn’t last and you will find yourself in the same position you put someone else in (cheated on).

People who cheat and those who get into relationships with them are people who have no morals or values, they lack integrity, they are immature, they lack honesty, and they don’t know have a clue about commitment. What they give they will  eventually get! That’s how life works. If you start out wrong, it will end wrong. This doesn’t only pertain to cheating, it pertains to anything. If people get into relationships for all of the wrong reasons, whatever reason they got into the relationship will most likely be the very reason they want to leave it.

People are blind by their thoughts and feelings. They are led blindly and foolishly into relationships which are clearly not good for them. They always end up suffering the consequences of their actions. Sadly this means death for many (literally) whether physically, mentally, or emotionally). It is ALWAYS a personal choice to cheat, to be with a married individual, or to stay with a cheater. It’s always a personal choice as to the individual we become involved with. People see signs, but they ignore them. People are led by their emotions and because of it will ALWAYS suffer the consequences of their actions.

 

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Don’t Let Your Excuses Get You in Hell

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I see a very serious issue when it comes to the excuses made to do wrong. Three of the worst excuse are #1 No one is perfect, # 2 God knows the heart., and # 3 Doing it to reach the younger generation.

My brothers and sisters I am here to tell you that those excuses will not get you off the hook. They are excuses that if a person keeps using them to justify their wrongs will get them straight inside the gates of hell.

Jesus Christ left a guide for living it’s called the Bible. Inside the Bible there is specific guidance we all must adhere to and follow in order to stand inside the Gates of Heaven. Too many people want to water down and sugarcoat the truth. They want to change it in a way what they do is downplayed. I’m here in the name of Jesus to tell you your ways of thinking are wrong.

I’m not here to judge, because it is already written, there is specific guidance as to how we should live in order to make it to the Kingdom of God. We must be born and again and we must be Holy. The Bible says when you’re changed you are a new creature. Too many people want to claim it, but they know they’re liars. When you are a new creature you put off your old ways. When you’re a new creature everything about you changes.

I’m not here to change or save anyone, because I don’t have that power. I am here to inform, because the Bible says people are destroyed due to the lack of knowledge. Many get the knowledge but don’t use it or accept it. God wishes for none of us to perish, but we have to stop playing and get real about this journey. The Bible is being fulfilled everyday, yet people are still doing whatever they want to do. People are playing dangerous games with their souls.

No one is perfect: No one sure isn’t in the sight of man, but we are to God like His Son Jesus, He made us in His image, therefore to God when we walk in His light and way, He sees us as perfect. However, people want to use this excuse as if because their not perfect it’s okay to mess up over and over again. No it’s not! You have to choose for real who’s side you’re on and stay there. I don’t care what you do none of it matters if you’re not on the Lord’s side. Too many people are playing and faking without true understanding that their taking a chance with their lives and in danger of making hell their eternal home.  If you’re not on Jesus side, then you’re on the other side. Those are the only two sides, there is no in between or neutrality. The Word says you’re either for Me or against Me. People can make all the excuses they want to do wrong; it won’t work. If you truly love Him you will follow Him and live by His Word. If you don’t you’re against Him and you’re still doing what the world does. If you’re on His side, you no longer want to be a part of the other side in no shape, form, or fashion. Many want to say they love Him and are on His side, but their ways of life tells the truth. You can’t have it both ways, it’s either one or the other. You can’t fool God.

God knows the heart: He most certainly does, but this doesn’t mean you’re off of the hook. People get this so confused. A person can do the greatest good, but at the same time be absolutely NO good at all. The truth of who they are lies inside. This is why we see so much racism in this world, it comes from the hearts of men and women. God knows the heart, you can’t shuck and jive Him. He knows there are wolves in sheep’s clothing. He knows people can do good in the eyes of man, but in their hearts they are horrible individuals. So for people to think by them saying God knows their hearts is a way to get off the hook, you’re sadly mistaken. He knows the heart and he knows whose hearts has changed and whose hearts hasn’t, you can’t fool Him. People do good deeds to please man, but God knows the truth. Having good intentions, but do bad things isn’t getting you off the hook. If you’re a new creature your hearts and minds will be in sync. You will think good things as well as do them.

Doing certain things to reach the youth: Show me anywhere in the Bible were God changed who He was to minister to anyone. Show me where He looked like the people He was around in order to minister. Show me where He did what they did to minister to them. You can’t find it and you won’t find it, because it’s not in the Bible. God is an unchanging God. Although He set amongst thieves, publicans, etc. etc., He did not do anything other than minister and teach them. He didn’t do what they did, look like them, or speak like them. He didn’t change for anyone to include the children. Too many people are clearly still worldly and so in order to justify how they look, speak, or act they use the LIE and excuse they’re doing it to reach the youth. These people are still in the world doing what the world does. When you are a new creature you certainly don’t want to look like the world. There is a newness and distinctness about you. For those who are saying they are doing this or that to reach the youth, these people are false. It doesn’t take any of that to minister to the youth. Matter fact people should always and with honor present themselves as if they were before God. Would they stand before God looking the way some of them look or behaving the way some behave? People don’t understand God can’t be fooled and you can’t get to Him lest through the Son, Jesus! They see and know it all! Stop trying to fool man, it’s not doing anything but pushing you closer to hell. If you’re reaching the youth, then you should be teaching them God is an unchanging God and you don’t have to give nothing but the unadulterated Word, period!

I’m writing this today and I hope it speaks and resonates in some hearts today. I’m not condemning or judging, but I’m writing what thus saith the Lord. My prayer is people get it right before it’s too late. People falter, waver, and change in an instance, but God doesn’t; EVER! I love you in the name of Jesus and I pray people make a true decision to get and stay on the Lord’s side. Nothing you gain in this world will benefit you when you die. You can gain the whole world and lose your soul. The world isn’t worth it!!

 

 

 

 

Your Fight Isn’t Worth It

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A lot of people find themselves fighting over their significant others and my question is why? Why do men and women do this? When a person is cheating on you in my opinion they’re not worth bickering and fighting over.

There are many women who are fighting over men. If you’re in a relationship with someone and he steps out on you it was his choice. Any woman who fights over a cheating man is a foolish woman. If there is another woman in the picture the issue isn’t with her it’s with the man. A man who steps out on his woman is not worthy to be fought over, he’s shown he’s no good and not trustworthy. Matter of fact no man or woman is worth fighting over when cheating is involved.

It’s ridiculous to see women acting fools over men who obviously doesn’t value either of them. Women who fight or lose friendship with friends and relatives because of a man are women who lack self esteem and they are insecure.  As I mentioned earlier the issue is with the man.

Sometimes women get involved with men without knowing they are involved with someone. There are men who are married but they lie about it or they lie about the status of their relationships. They say they are married but not together or they will say they are together but are divorcing. Some will even say they just live together but do their own separate things. Any excuse given is just that an excuse. If a man tell you he’s with a woman no matter what the circumstance he’s a man you shouldn’t get involved with. When women choose to get into relationships with men who are already in relationships these women are causing their own troubles.

There are a lot of times women choose to be in denial, instead they want to fight and go after the other woman. A man will do exactly what he’s allowed to get away with and anything he wants to do. Some men keep the pot stirred by continuing to see both women regardless of the chaos it’s causing. Women who stay with these men are foolish women. These men are clearly showing the women neither of them matter.

A mature and good man would never ever bring drama into his relationship. He wouldn’t want to be with any other women. Men who cheat have major issues they need to work out before entering into any relationship. Women who know the men they’re with are with other women yet continue in these types of relationships are insecure women who also has other issues. They are mistreated because they accept this type of treatment.

I’ve always said your man or woman and people in general will ONLY treat you how you allow. If you are fighting with someone over who you’re with, you’re with the wrong person. This is ONLY my opinion! Personally I wouldn’t want anyone who devalued  or defiled our relationship. Unfortunately too many women would rather waste time arguing and fighting over a man then to consider what the man really thinks of her shows in how he’s treating her. If there is another woman involved this says a lot. The issue shouldn’t be with the other woman but with the no good man.

Women who fight over men give these men power over them. These men know what they are doing is wrong but knowing isn’t enough to make them want to stop doing what they do. The women make these men feel important when they aren’t worth the confusion they cause.

Men oftentimes find themselves doing the same things as the women. They too fight and argue with other men over who they are with. No woman is worth arguing and fighting over when cheating is involved. People who cheat does it willfully and freely. They choose to do what they are doing and deciding to cheat shows their significant others exactly what they mean to them. So really;  what is the fighting about?

To know you’re cheated on is a heart wrenching thing but my plea to both men and women who are cheated on is don’t lose your mind over someone who isn’t thinking of you. Stop acting fools over people who commit acts they already know are sure to cause you pain. When a person’s action clearly shows you how important your relationship is NOT, it’s time to take notice of the truth. Deal with your man or woman but don’t fight about it with no one; not even them, because they aren’t worth the fight.

Me, Believers and Deceivers

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I know some people don’t like it when I write about the Father and His Son Jesus, it is okay. I’m not here to convert anyone or save anyone, I don’t have that power. I’m only here to inform, uplift, motivate, enlighten, encourage, etc. If you don’t believe that is your choice. There was a time in my life I didn’t have a personal relationship with the Father. I lived to please man, I cared what man thought or what they saw me do. I grew up in church, but it wasn’t until years later I developed a personal relationship and connection with God and His Son Jesus. There are many things I done back in the day, that I am not proud of, but when I think about how God kept me, I can’t do anything but thank Him.

I’m a living witness that no matter what you’ve gone through the choice is yours as to how you face it and deal with it. I know that God the Father and His Son Jesus can keep you through anything if you believe. I’ve gone through storms, I’ve been tried by the fire, but here I yet stand. I cry out with tears of joy to the Father for keeping me when I didn’t realize that I was heading for a life of eternal damnation. When I think of the foolish things I did and how it could have been me in a LOT of situations; I thank God it wasn’t me. Why He chose to keep me when I wasn’t even honoring Him, I don’t know, I’m just glad He did.

I’ve gone through things some people wouldn’t have a clue about, I’ve dealt with things most wouldn’t or couldn’t believe nor understand. Yet, I am still here. I’m here only by the grace of the Father. Years ago the verse “God loves conquers all fear” got me through some tough times. I dealt with things no one but God could have brought me through and He did. I can’t thank Him enough.

I remember the times I used to sing in church on Saturday nights and hit the club right after church in the clothes I wore to church. I did some dipping and tipping, ducking and dodging from man while God saw everything I did. Although I know I’m forgiven, I am ashamed when I think of all He saw me do or heard me say. I’ve gone through many hurtful situations, but not once did I turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, stealing, killing, immoral acts, selfishness, cheating, etc. etc; instead of entertaining any of those things I chose Jesus. I re-dedicated my life and I did it freely and willfully. I gave up this old mean world and I chose the Lord’s side. He cleaned me up from the inside out.

For me, I can’t really tell you when I completely changed, but I do remember repenting of everything I did and telling God I no longer wanted to be the way I was. I asked Him to make me over. When I gave up all that I gave up, I never went back to it. The devil tried to tempt me here and there but I called him out every time and I still call him out to this day when he tries to sneak around. I know a person can be holy and live a holy life. The problem with most is they talk a good talk, but they fail to live what they preach, teach, talk, etc. The Bible says “you must be born again and you must be holy.” Many want to claim it, however, what they claim is a lie. They don’t want to give up this world and their old ways and it shows in the things they do and say.

People think because they come to Christ they are no longer bothered by troubles, but as I’ve said many times before the ONLY trouble free people are in the cemetery. You will have troubles, they will come and they will go. They aren’t to do anything other than to make you strong. Too many want to isolate themselves or give up when they are faced with adversities. God want us to believe and to lean and depend on Him in the good as well as bad times. People also think to be born again they are considered lame and boring. This is so not true! You can still have fun, but how you do it and what you do is different.

When you give yourself completely to God you change. If you think, act, dress, go the same places, talk the same, hang with and around the same people,  etc then something is wrong! When you’ve submitted and committed to the Father your life is no longer the same, there’s NO WAY it can be. You will live as if God is watching you, therefore OLD things will be no more. Your ways of thinking change, what you thought was important is no longer important as it once was. Your focus definitely changes! You do what’s pleasing to the Father and NOT man. You won’t fall for all of the brainwashing going on today. Those who are ONLY pretending to believe will ridicule, persecute, scorn you, talk about you, lie on you, and can even take your life; yet they can’t harm your soul. Your spirit belongs to the Father! Man is jealous, angry, bitter, envious, spiteful, manipulative, dishonest, and a lot of other things. They can’t understand how anyone can live holy. They question your walk, because they haven’t accepted it for themselves, so to them it can’t be real. They base it on how they know they are living. I encourage true believers to stand strong and firm!

I’ve learned to lean and depend on God in everyway. I’m not trying to sound perfect; I’m not, but I know my walk is real. I’m trying to encourage someone. My prayer is people stand on the Word of God. If you say you believe and you love Him, then you should be willing to give up this world and your old ways. Many people claim to love Him, yet they are still getting drunk, clubbing every weekend, speaking defiled words from their mouths, fornicating, committing adultery, lying, stealing, killing, and you name it. NONE of it is pleasing in the sight of the Father. It’s all against Him. You can’t do these things and still have a seat in the Kingdom. I’m not trying to judge ANYONE, God left the ground rules and it is written in His word. There is definitive descriptions as to how we should conduct ourselves. Those who don’t want to follow it aren’t following Him, point blank and period!! People can play all they want, but one day the game WILL BE over!!

It saddens me so many pretend to be on the God’s side, yet their walk tells the true story. You can’t serve God and the devil. I used to say people are straddling the fence and metaphorically they are, but in reality there is no fence, because if you’re not on the Lord’s side then you’re on the devil’s side!!! A person can get by, but they sure can’t get away! What side are you on? Time is winding up, everyday we get is a chance to get it right, one day there will be no more chances. A lot of people don’t believe and that’s there choice, but for those who claim to believe yet are living any kind of way, my prayer is you get it right before it’s too late!