No one can move on if they haven’t let go of the past. The past is still the present for many people, because they refuse to let go of what they’ve gone through and have dealt with. This isn’t healthy for anyone. These types of people become content and trapped in their old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. They wear it like a badge of honor.
A person can’t grow if they are stuck. Too many people give power to their pasts. They won’t let the memories go, therefore they are constantly bombarded with thoughts and feelings of what has happened. People get older, but they don’t grow and develop mentally, because they are caught up in their past and it corrupts their present. They don’t make any efforts to change. Their lives are full of woe it’s me, complaints, pain, and sorrow. Every time you see these individuals it’s the same draining thing all over again.
Millions sabotage their lives on a daily basis. They refuse to let go of things that are done and over. Living this way completely destroys the lives of many people. It brings nothing other than chaos and havoc into their lives. They live dysfunctional lives, causing it to pool into all areas of their lives. What’s even sadder is many of these people bring children into the world wreaking havoc into the lives of their children.
When people can’t let go they grow older and into destructive adults who are unhappy with their lives. They do unthinkable things, they associate with the wrong people, they have distorted thoughts and views, they repeatedly make bad choices and decisions, they are angry, and a host of other things. They allow their pain to affect every aspect of their lives, (home, work, relationships, etc).
No one is exempt from the troubles of this world. The difference is resiliency. It’s all about how people perceive and deal with what they’ve gone through or what they are going through. Those who choose to get past things will and those who choose to waddle, embrace, and hold on to the negativity will do so despite the turmoil it causes. People who won’t let go are often walking time bombs and if they aren’t they are miserable with self and life. They are angry and bitter and it disrupts their lives in every way.
People are products of their environments, but I believe they choose to be victims of their pasts. We all have pasts. God knows if I had of succumbed to some of what I’ve experienced where I would be. I’m grateful for even as a young child I bounced back and I was able to deal with things positively. I clearly remember looking at other people and saying to myself I do NOT want to be like him or her. As a young child I saw destruction and chose early on I didn’t want to have any parts of a negative lifestyle. God had His hands on me early in life, but of course I didn’t have a clue. Now I see clearly!!
I realize we all perceive things differently and deal with things differently. However, we ALL have the power to choose positive over negative. We all have the power to choose to let go! Some people do not want to grasp hold of positive nor do they want to let go. A person behave according to what they believe. If a person think they deserve less, it is how they will more than likely act.
My heart goes out to people who think they don’t deserve better. It goes out to people who don’t want to change. No one has to live this way. Open your hearts and minds to change. Know that if you can’t let go, it’s because you’re comfortable and familiar with old bad habits and negative ways of thinking. If you carry around negative thoughts it breeds the negative feelings and actions behind them. Today is a new day and a chance to choose change!!!