A lot of times in our lives people come and they go. Many individuals experience difficulty when they try to hold on to people who don’t want to be held on to. Trying to do whatever you can to make a person want to remain in your life never works. You should never belittle yourself by trying to force in any way someone to be in or a part of your life who doesn’t want to be.
I understand when you love someone it’s hard to see them gone, but sometimes you have to let a person go. This goes for family, friends, and others. It doesn’t mean you don’t care for them, it means you have to do what’s best for you mentally, physically, and spiritually. You can’t grow because you’re stopping your ability to grow by being choked by the weeds you allow to grow in your life.
There are too many people who are doing all kinds of foolishness to try and hang on to significant others when their significant others are running the other way. Let them run! If a person doesn’t want to be with you or in your presence life goes on! Love yourself enough to be able to let them walk.
We sometimes have family members and friends who no matter how much you love them; don’t seem to want to truly be a part of your life. Let them do what makes them happy, even if it means not dealing with you!
Every last one of us go through things which are either good or bad and oftentimes both. Some people come in our lives and it’s meant to be for a season. However, due to individuals being led by their feelings and emotions, they try to make what is meant for a season a lifetime. This is why so many people are dealing with unnessary drama. I’ve said and written it a million times no matter how handsome or cute you are, what you have, your title or status, the money you have, what you provide, all the sex you give, NONE of it will make the person you love want to be with you or stay with you. If they don’t want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do or say to change it. Let them go if that is what they want.
I know it’s a little different with family. They are meant for a lifetime, but it doesn’t mean you have to exhaust yourselves trying to make them love you. If a family member doesn’t want to deal with you, it’s their choice. As my mom always said “feed them with a long handle spoon.” That simple means love them, but at a distance. Today’s families has as many clicks as any social group. Some family members pick and choose what other family members they want to be around. You have no control over this. Love you enough to keep it moving.
Friends come and go. A true friend is there always, but a person who claims they are a friend who isn’t; will eventually show their true colors; when they do let them walk! Sometimes we try to hold on to individuals who have long let us go. This isn’t healthy! People will be as nice to you as possible to get what they can from you. You have to be smart enough to see what is happening and nip it in the bud. Set aside your feelings and emotions, stop allowing people to treat you any ole way.
People come in and out of our lives to teach us something. It is always meant to make us grow. The sad part is a lot of individuals cripple themselves by blocking their ability to grow. We learn life lessons from different people and different sources. If you are stuck in the same mindset you don’t allow yourself the opportunity to grow. Trying to hold on to people or things that you should have long let go keeps you stuck!