Sometimes for a Season Always for a Reason


A lot of times in our lives people come and they go. Many individuals experience difficulty when they try to hold on to people who don’t want to be held on to. Trying to do whatever you can to make a person want to remain in your life never works. You should never belittle yourself by trying to force in any way someone to be in or a part of your life who doesn’t want to be.

I understand when you love someone it’s hard to see them gone, but sometimes you have to let a person go. This goes for family, friends, and others. It doesn’t mean you don’t care for them, it means you have to do what’s best for you mentally, physically, and spiritually. You can’t grow because you’re stopping your ability to grow by being choked by the weeds you allow to grow in your life.

There are too many people who are doing all kinds of foolishness to try and hang on to significant others when their significant others are running the other way. Let them run! If a person doesn’t want to be with you or in your presence life goes on! Love yourself enough to be able to let them walk.

We sometimes have family members and friends who no matter how much you love them; don’t seem to want to truly be a part of your life. Let them do what makes them happy, even if it means not dealing with you!

Every last one of us go through things which are either good or bad and oftentimes both. Some people come in our lives and it’s meant to be for a season. However, due to individuals being led by their feelings and emotions, they try to make what is meant for a season a lifetime. This is why so many people are dealing with unnessary drama. I’ve said and written it a million times no matter how handsome or cute you are, what you have, your title or status, the money you have, what you provide, all the sex you give, NONE of it will make the person you love want to be with you or stay with you. If they don’t want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do or say to change it. Let them go if that is what they want.

I know it’s a little different with family. They are meant for a lifetime, but it doesn’t mean you have to exhaust yourselves trying to make them love you. If a family member doesn’t want to deal with you, it’s their choice. As my mom always said “feed them with a long handle spoon.” That simple means love them, but at a distance. Today’s families has as many clicks as any social group. Some family members pick and choose what other family members they want to be around. You have no control over this. Love you enough to keep it moving.

Friends come and go. A true friend is there always, but a person who claims they are a friend who isn’t; will eventually show their true colors; when they do let them walk! Sometimes we try to hold on to individuals who have long let us go. This isn’t healthy! People will be as nice to you as possible to get what they can from you. You have to be smart enough to see what is happening and nip it in the bud. Set aside your feelings and emotions, stop allowing people to treat you any ole way.

People come in and out of our lives to teach us something. It is always meant to make us grow. The sad part is a lot of individuals cripple themselves by blocking their ability to grow. We learn life lessons from different people and different sources. If you are stuck in the same mindset you don’t allow yourself the opportunity to grow. Trying to hold on to people or things that you should have long let go keeps you stuck!

Bondage due to Fear


There are many people who are in bondage due to their fears. This is a learned behavior. Somewhere along the way it was instilled. Fear stagnates people and it causes people to miss many great opportunities. It causes people to remain stuck. If you remain stuck you can’t mature and grow! This goes for both the Christian and the non Christian.

I’ve heard many times people who claim to be Saints of God talk about fearing this or that. Let me tell you something, fear and God doesn’t belong together!You can’t love the Lord and be fearful of everything. If you are it’s because you’re a person who is walking by the flesh and not the Spirit. Please ask Jesus to take you back to when you first believed. You can not love Jesus and be about the Father’s business if you are full of fear. Fear is strictly of the devil to keep people from being what God has intended for them to be.

Pray you are delivered from your fear, because if you aren’t then it means you believe in the power of something else over God. Whatever have a hold on you is stronger than your love for God. No one can grow as a Saint of God if they are living in or with fear.

The more a person give into fear the more they are controlled by their fear/s and the more the fear will stay with the individual. Face your fears and take control of them/it so it no longer controls you! People always say “it’s easier said then done.” It’s only as hard as you make it! Allow the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you. “Pray without cease!” “Walk by faith and not by sight!”

Our World Need Parents to Parent


There is too much going on in this world with children. Parents must be parents to their child/children. This means you should put being their friend on the back burner. This also means parents need to remember who is parent.

It’s okay to be cool with your child and for your child to know they can come to you with anything. However, there should be an unmistaken line that shouldn’t be crossed. The child should always know their role. No parent on this earth should be afraid of their child.

Many parents are afraid of their child/children because they have set the standards for the child to have control they shouldn’t have. They haven’t set any boundaries. When you give them the wheel they will drive! If you lose control for long enough it’s very hard to re-gain if at all. When they are toddlers etc it’s easier to get it together, however, when they become teenagers it’s much harder to re-gain the control.

Too many people are having children who shouldn’t have them. They aren’t mature enough or financially ready, yet they are having them. The kids don’t get what they need and many are neglected and abused because of it. I’m not saying all, but many are.

Too many parents are more focused on their own lives and not enough on the lives of their children. They are too busy with work and other things. This leaves room for television, the streets, video games, internet, and social media to influence their children in many negative ways. If you’re an active parent who is indeed parenting you can be a filter and you can set guidelines and rules for your child to follow.

Too many parents are failing to sit down and talk with their children to see what is going on in their lives. They allow them to do what they want. Parents aren’t allowed in their children rooms (really? please!) Parents don’t check on what their children are watching or listening too. They don’t know what their children are doing on social media. Kids are meeting men and women and running away to meet them, oftentimes they end up dead. They are social media posting pictures they should post and getting involved with radical groups or groups that influence them to partake in the evil things. Learn to communicate with your child and be active in their lives. Always be vigilant and mindful of what they are doing.

Some people don’t discipline their children then they send them to school and have attitudes when the teachers discipline them. The nerves!!!! Stop sending out of control kids to schools; then trying to tie the teachers hand in how they control their classrooms. A teacher have every right to maintain control in their classroom and if they can’t because of out of control students, don’t blame the teacher for disciplining your child. Children are only in school about 8 hours a day, they should know how to go to school and act. No teacher should lay hands on a child, but they certainly should be able to discipline and maintain control in their classrooms.

Children need structure and discipline. If parent’s don’t really know how to handle their children, then they should seek help through counseling and/or parenting classes. Stop allowing your children to raise themselves, stop allowing everything and everyone but you to raise your children, and stop allowing them to run amok! Parents should be their children’s hero’s and greatest influencers. Set your children up for the future!

When parents are more worried about being their child’s friend then being parents; something is wrong! Parent’s should be parents #1! Some relationships people have with their children are unhealthy. Anytime a child is allowed to do whatever they want it’s not a good thing.

Many things children learn can impact them for their lifetime. Behaviors are learned (good or bad). How can you expect a child to learn something positive if they weren’t ever taught? It is the parents responsibility to teach their children so they grow into productive mature adults. Letting children have it their way enables them and it can also cripple and stunt their growth. Parents who are afraid of their children teaches some of them how to be bullies and manipulative without meaning to do so. If a child gets away with it at home they think they can anywhere else.

One sad and major problem is too many people are becoming parents who have major issues and who don’t love self. They have all types of issues, yet they willfully choose to bring children into this world. This leaves room for much negativity. Kids are abused in all types of ways by their parents, people in the lives of their parents, and others. It’s because when a person is dealing with many issues, they aren’t in the right mindset to be a parent to anyone, because they will teach their children their ways which will more than likely be negative. Then the children grow into negative adults riddled with all types of issues. This is a lot of the problems going on in our world. Adults with all kinds of issues raising children to be like them with all types of issues who turn into adults with all types of issues. The cycle continues.

Children need parents who will parent. Parents need to stop making excuses and be parents! No one on earth asked to be born. The parent nor the child. However, the parent most times willfully choose to become parents. If you are going to be a parent, then you must be a responsible one. Take responsibility of raising your child. This world is full of people and things (streets, social media, etc. etc), who will raise your child and instill negative things if you do not do your job as a parent. We are seeing products of this every single day. You can’t know what is going on in your child’s life if you’re not an active part of it! You can not parent if you have given control to your child! If you don’t have control, get it before it’s too late!!!!!

You get Exactly What You’ve Allowed


In relationships if you don’t love yourself don’t expect for anyone else to love you. What I am saying here is many people are in bad relationships because they’ve become involved with people who are like them (messed up emotionally). Stop doing this especially thinking the one you chose to be will love you when you don’t love yourself. What you fail to understand is the person you’re trying to love don’t love his or herself either. They will treat you exactly how you treat yourself (no respect, no love, no care).

Many people take any type of treatment, because they’re trying to make something out of nothing. You can’t change a person no matter what you do unless they want to change. Before you try tackling someone else’s issues, you must first tackle your own!

Love can’t be bought! A person will love what you do for them, but not love you! If you start a relationship off by trying to buy love, that’s what you will have to do to keep the person you’re with. Nothing you give a person will make them love you or want to be with you.

Many people get into relationships seeking something they are missing and oftentimes never really had (this thing called love). Love first starts with you! When you love yourself you know what love is. You will know you don’t have to buy love nor do you have to take any unnecessary drama to be loved by someone.

The person you’re with will treat you exactly how you allow, because you’ve taught them exactly how to treat you! When you take unnecessary crap from someone they will surely give it. People try you to see what you will take and when they see they can get away with crap, they will freely oblige you with it! It can be disrespect, abuse, cheating, lying, manipulation, using you, or whatever. If you allow it they will do it!

It all goes back to what you think and feel about yourself. It’s also how you treat yourself! If you have no standards, you get no standards. If you have no requirements, no requirements is what you will get. If you have no self respect, you get none. The list goes on!

A person who loves his or herself will always feel good about self. This type of individual will treat you right. Anything less than that gets you any type of treatment. Any individual who allows his or herself to be mistreated in any way need to look inward at self. You are your own problem! You can’t change anyone and no one can change you! However, if you allow someone to mistreat you, they will!

To Know of Him and to Know Him are Totally Different


Many people know of Him, but they don’t serve Him. Many claim to know Him, and love Him, yet are trying to serve two masters. If you know of Him, but don’t serve Him that is your choice. It is also your choice to claim to know Him, but still serve the world as well. In this case you still don’t know Him, you only know of Him.

To know of Him means you heard or read about Him (somehow you were told, normally it’s through traditional ways). To claim to know and love Him, yet still living for the world means you only know of Him. You can’t have it both ways!

To know Him and serve Him means you keep His commandments. It means for God and Jesus you live and are willing to die! It means you live for Him and you are only on ONE side and that’s the side of God the Father and His Son Jesus Christ. it means you have a daily prayer life and personal relationship with Him. You understand although you are in this world, you are not of this world. That’s the difference!

All of the people who are trying to intertwine the ways of the world with Jesus in ANY way are wrong and Jesus doesn’t dwell in them. No way possible! Too many are jumping on the band wagon to mix and mingle the world with the Word of God. All I have to say is this; you can do whatever it is you want to do, it won’t EVER work! God didn’t intend for it to be this way.

People are confused, therefore they fall for anything. Those in positions of power within the churches who are doing this are confused about their stance with Jesus Christ. They are telling people it’s okay to bring the world into the churches and do all the things the world is doing. It isn’t! If as a child of God I can do whatever I want to do, when and how I want to do it, why do I need to serve God? That is NOT the way it is supposed to be.

People want a burger king style life “have it their way.” This is how you can live when you’re NOT living for Christ. When you are living for Christ, your life is no longer your own and you will understand it. You don’t want to be a part of the world even though for the time being you must dwell in it. You are intentional in your comings, goings, and in your doings.

Those who trying to put one foot on both sides are TRULY only fooling self. They are delusional! If both feet aren’t on the side of Jesus, then you’re on the other side, period! You can’t serve Him when you want to and you can’t mingle and play around with the ways of the other side. You must come completely off the other side and onto the side of Jesus to live for Him. There is NO OTHER WAY!

Stop being fooled by the stuff you’re hearing and seeing and get to know the Creator for yourselves. If a person don’t truly know Him they will be easily persuaded and deceived. I was looking at the mess about BeyoncĂ© Church Mass, I shook my head in disgust how people who claimed to live for Jesus partook in such a mockery of Christ. Trust and believe that had NOTHING to do with Jesus Christ in no form at all! You can’t mix the work of the devil with God’s work and it be okay, because it is not!

I already know people will say I’m judging, I am not! Read the Word for yourself. You cannot, I repeat, you cannot serve Jesus and be a part of the devil’s work at the same time. Bottom line, you’re either for Jesus or against Jesus, you can’t have it both ways. If you’re against Him in any way, then you’re against him, period! He’s rather you be “hot or cold” which means for OR against Him then to be “lukewarm.” Why? It’s because lukewarm is a figment of the imagination. Even if a person chooses lukewarm, they are choosing cold!

Love Isn’t Love When it’s One Sided


Why are you crying over someone who doesn’t want you?????????????????????????
Why are you taking up space in your mind pining over someone who has let you go?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
I guess I’m made different from many others, because I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want me.

There are a lot of men and women who are stuck, because they are still messed up over someone who walked away. If a person wants to walk, let them walk! We all have the right to do so! When a person is caught up in their feelings they forget they’re not in a relationship along. They only think about how they feel, what they want, and desire. They never think about what they actually need. This is why people find it difficult to let go.

You can’t force anyone to be with you. If a person wants out let them go. There’s nothing you can do to keep your man or woman with you if they really want to go. People cheat because they want to. They cheat because of what’s inside of them. No matter the issues a relationship has, cheating individuals will cheat because they want too! Stop crying and losing control over someone who doesn’t even care.

If people get out of their feelings they can see the truth. Love yourself enough to not allow people to dictate your happiness. Love yourself enough to be able to stand alone when the one you love doesn’t love you. No matter how much you love a person or how much you give a person, if they don’t love you nothing you do will make them love you. They may love what you do for them, but it doesn’t mean they love you!

Many people render themselves powerless to people who don’t care less! Individuals must learn to look past feelings to see the truth of what is really happening. It’s a wonderful thing to be in love with someone, but if that someone isn’t in love with you you’re treading treacherous waters.

Life goes on! Loving yourself gives you the understanding of what love is. It empowers you with the ability to let go anyone or anything from your life that is trying to take your peace, happiness, and joy. Stop trying to run in the direction of someone who is running in the opposite direction of you!

As I’ve always said, “people get in relationships and stay in relationships for the wrong reasons.” Your love is null and void if the person you love doesn’t love you. That isn’t a relationship! A person will stay with you for the benefits you offer (security, sex, material things, etc, etc). However, it doesn’t mean they love you. Stop trying to buy people’s love, because you will NEVER have enough money to do so! You can have Steve Job’s or Oprah Winfrey’s money, but if the person you’re with do not love you, no amount of money will make them love you or stay with you.

As for cheating, there are always signs. Anyone who says there aren’t are blind to the truth. I don’t care how subtle, the signs exist. People can ignore them, but they still do exist. When a person is caught up in their feelings they are blind to the truth. Yet, the signs still exist. As humans, we put ourselves in bad and unhealthy situations for lack of self love. When a person doesn’t love his or herself they fall into many unhealthy situations because fact is they can’t see beyond their feelings and emotions.