When You Need a Break Take One

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As I like to sometimes say Superman and Wonder Woman do not exist! None of us are exempt from stress overload. We must listen to what our bodies are telling us. Sometimes people try to push through only to find themselves on the brink of breakdown. No one is exempt!

Stress can cause a lot of things to go wrong within the body if left uncontrolled/managed. Uncontrolled stress will cause havoc in your life. It can mess with the entire body if not managed. If it’s not handled it will surely handle you. If it gets to this point, then it’s gone too long unmanaged.

I know some people think they can do it all. Let me tell you; no one can do it all! You may think you can, but it catches up to you. No one is exempt from experiencing stress. We all do! However, how much you have can become unhealthy. It doesn’t matter what you’re going through if you need a moment to breathe; take it! Sometimes people tend to go and go, because they think life stops if they stop. They think their homes, families, jobs, etc can’t function without them. I say, mess around and die and see what happens!! Life goes on! Stress is real and it can cause us harm if not managed.

We all deal with stress to some degree. A lot of it is unnecessary stress people do to self due to bad choices and decisions they make. Another reason for stress is the inability to say no! Some people run themselves raggedy day in with the hustles and bustles of life; until they run out of steam (mentally, emotionally, physically). There are many stressors in life which can be good or bad things (promotion or demotion, new job, marriage, relocation, divorce, medical issues, relationship issues, your environment, your social circle, etc). People have to alleviate those things which are causing them stress overloads. To help reduce or alleviate stress sometimes may mean walking away from people or things. It always means taking time for self. You must know when to re-charge!

There are many people who exist, but aren’t living. They don’t enjoy life. They work themselves to death never enjoying the fruits of their labor. It’s crazy! All they care about is work, work, work! They neglect their relationships with everyone to include self. They don’t take time to “pick or smell the roses.” If people aren’t working at a job, they are busy trying to take care of and please others in some facet. Bottom line they run themselves to points of exhaustion.

Take time for you! When things seem a little tough take a breather. Always take some time for yourself! Take a moment away from it all in whatever way you can. Start today by setting boundaries and allowing absolutely no one to cross them (family, friends, others). This could mean something simple as quiet time for you and only you (long hot bath, walk in the park, long drive, reading a book, personal get away or whatever you need to do to get time for self). It’s very important to do and for goodness sake don’t feel guilty about it! If you set boundaries and do not waver, people will respect them!

It doesn’t matter if you have children, husband, significant other, job, or whatever; you’re no good to them when you’re no good to yourself. Learn to take care of yourself! Learn to take the breather you need! You only have one life to live.

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Obsession is Unhealthy and Dangerous

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There are many people who has allowed their obsessions with people and things to get them into big trouble. Some people’s obsessions has caused them total discord and destruction, yet they choose to be powerless to it. When you are obsessed over anything, I believe you’ve lost focus which ultimately leads to loss of control.

When a person is obsessed they allow themselves to be in unhealthy states of mind. People are obsessed over many things. Anything you’re obsessed over actually possesses your mind, because it’s what you’ve given power to. You think about it all of the time.

It all starts with a thought. Anything a person constantly thinks about the thought gets stronger and stronger until most times people take actions behind those thoughts. It doesn’t matter what the thoughts are about it works the same for anyone. If you’re obsessed with anything, whatever it is has power over you and will consume you if you don’t change your mindset!

People find themselves obsessing over other’s significant others. They go after people even when they know they are in relationships with others. People obsess over how they look some to the point of depression. People obsess over harming self or harming others until they end up doing it. People obsess over food, sex (unhealthy and immoral ways), obsess over other people in unhealthy ways, obsess over substances (alcohol/drugs), etc. People obsess over their pasts, they can’t move forward, because they’re too busy looking behind.

I can go on and on. The point I am trying to make is whatever you can’t control will control you. If you give power to it that power grows and it’s never into something healthy. Fixating over unhealthy things results in unhealthy feelings and actions.

It’s very important to be aware of what you’re entertaining in your head. Too many people have done stupid things, because they acted upon those negative unhealthy obsessive thoughts. A lot of times people don’t try to resist instead they insist on following through with their obsessions. They lose control, because it is all they think about. There are things in life for which we have no control, obsessing isn’t one of them. You do have the ability to change your states of mind.

Anyone on earth can control what they obsess over. They must be intentional and conscious concerning their obsession. For example, if you obsess over food and it’s all you think of you must intentionally shift the focus to something else more positive. Whether the obsession has caused you to be overweight or underweight, neither is healthy. Think of the consequences of your obsession and what it causes in your life. Remember if you don’t have control, you’ve lost your power to your obsession. You must constantly stay in the moment in order to shift the focus on something positive. This means take ownership of what you’re thinking and re-direct those negative thoughts. Learn to face what has control over you and take back your power. Think of the benefit of your obsession, I’m almost certain the benefit is none!!

I already know some of you will say it’s easier said than done. It is if it’s what you believe. Individuals must stop making excuses to continue to be the way they are when they know the way they are isn’t conducive to a healthy way of thinking, feelings, and acting! No one can do it for you, other than you!

Instead of dealing with their situations many people will continue to allow their obsessive thoughts to creep in. When obsessions linger long enough people risk treading those dangerous waters because feelings flow and we know most are already led by their feelings and emotions. Once they are engulfed by those thoughts individuals succumb and find themselves in situations they never should have been in (overweight, underweight, jail, dead, bad unhealthy relationships, mentally unstable, and the list goes on).

Stop making excuses and make a change! Individually this is something we all have to take the responsibility and ownership for in our lives. None of us have to go through life this way if we choose to embrace change. Don’t for a second think obsessing over anything is good, because it’s not. There is a big difference in obsessing and having passion. Don’t get the two mixed up. You control your passion over something, but you lose control when you’re obsessed!

Led to Hell Following People You’ve Made Your god

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Yes, you read it right. There are some people who are in the ministry who’ve gotten beyond themselves. Their heads are too big and they’ve become puffed up. They think they are beyond everyone else. The pedal stood the world put them own God is going to knock from underneath them. The Bible says we must be humble and we must not boast. Some people think they are God, because people have treated them as if they are a god. They are these many monsters people willfully created.

I was very disappointed to hear a pastor say hell isn’t real, it’s a fairy tale. Now tell me how on earth are you a pastor and you’re telling the people this foolishness? You can’t believe in Heaven if you don’t believe hell exists. The Bible speaks of hell.

People on Facebook are beside themselves, because this person is a well known gospel artist and pastor. There are people saying this and that about him and the situation. There are friends and fellow gospel singers upholding while others aren’t. There are other pastors saying people shouldn’t be judging or talking against him, because it’s not Jesus like (sure isn’t because if you were Jesus like they would be saying it’s not scripture and NOT trying to water down and sugarcoat). There were some saying no one has to right to be mad about his opinion.

Blah, blah, and blah!!! In that order! My response was this, people have the right to do what they choose, feel how they choose, and say what they choose. However, when you’re a pastor and you telling people hell doesn’t exist, it’s a fairytale; then now you’ve crossed the line! It’s NOT a matter of opinion, because it’s COMPLETELY against the Word of God, and it’s NOT scripture. You’re not in a ministry to give opinion; a ministry is to give scripture and doctrine! Keep your opinions to yourself when it comes to the Word of God!

Telling people there’s no hell is implying they have no guidance to follow (the Bible). It implies Jesus died for nothing. It implies we can live any kind of way we want and still make it to heaven. It implies if there’s no hell then there’s no heaven! This is dangerous for the person who said it and for those who believe it.

If a person have a problem speaking up and speaking the truth on this subject then they are liars too! No friendship on earth is worth believing or following a lie concerning my Father in Heaven, His Son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. The Word of God is true and no one is supposed to add to it or take away from it! Those who are upholding friendships more than the Word of God; shame on you!

People get too comfortable in what they’re doing. They develop a huge audience and following, then they began to show their true colors. They think they are in positions to speak foolishness, because they know people love them and will probably go along with what they say or do. Listen, I don’t love no man or woman that much! That includes my mother, kids, siblings, etc. If it’s not scripture it’s not right!! It’s not debatable!!

What people do is speak metaphorically about both Heaven and hell being here on earth. This is true metaphorically speaking, because according to how people think, feel, or act they can metaphorically experience Heaven or hell on earth while they yet live. It’s all about the mindset of the individual. However, don’t get this mixed up with what Jesus the Son and God the Father has said about the existence of these places in the Bible. In the Bible it’s not a matter of opinion or metaphorically speaking, it is real!

I’m not going to keep on “beating a dead horse,” but what I will say is this. Do not allow no man or woman to convince you Heaven and hell doesn’t exist. Read the Bible for yourself and study for yourself. Many people are falling away, therefore they want to push their opinions and thoughts onto others, because they are moving away from the Word of God. If they fall don’t allow them to take you along for the ride!

The devil has his angels just as God has His. People are being deceived and tricked, because they are double minded and trying to love two. God the Father isn’t the Author of Confusion, it is the devil. The Bible isn’t confusing; people who read it are confused, because they are hearers, but not doers of the Word. They talk one thing and do another! Either you will accept it or you won’t. Trying to dabble in both eventually pulls you more onto one side then the other and it is who you will serve.

When someone is trying to shake your faith or cause you to lose your soul, it is time to dig in deep. Don’t go along with it, if you do you’re treading dangerous grounds. Many people in this world are falling away and the Bible speaks of this happening. I’m not surprised at nothing, I may be disappointed, but not surprised. People can only pretend for so long. If you’re already trying to straddle an imaginary fence it won’t be long before you jump fully onto the side you love the most. Sometimes you have to let people go in order to get where you’re trying to go. If hell isn’t real, then neither is Heaven! However, that is a lie and that is straight from the devil! I rebuke it and anyone who says differently. It could be my mother, pastor, friend, I don’t care who it is, I would call them a liar!

I read an article where this same pastor was saying it’s all about doing good while on earth. Well, that’s not true either. Yes, we must have good works. However, those works must be from a pure heart. Anybody can do good works to impress someone. People do it everyday, yet their hearts are waxed cold. So please don’t get it misconstrued, if you do it can cost you your soul and a free ticket to hell!! The Gates of Heaven are closed to those who don’t belong. It’s available to everyone, but not everyone will choose it. The gates of hell are always open it turns no one away, it’s ready to devour whom it can. It’s available to all who choose it. How we choose to live now determines where we live later!

Team Jesus Until the End

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The only way I know to stay sane in this crazy world is by being Team Jesus! If we take our eyes off of Him there’s no telling where we may end up. There are forces tugging at us that aren’t of the Lord and if we aren’t rooted and grounded in Jesus these things will throw us off balance and down to the ground. However, remember even if you fall down, you don’t have to stay there! Jesus is always with an outstretched hand to help you up, clean you up, and put you back on the right path!

Things seem to become more and more crazier each day. Where is the love? People are full of anger and hate. What these people fail to understand is they have deep seated issues which has caused them to be this way. They have learnt to become people full of anger and hate. Hate is a learned behavior!!!!

You have family members killing one another, parents killing children, children killing parents, and people in general killing for no reason at all. People are quick to act or react! You can’t take back what you do when you’ve done the unthinkable! People need to think of the consequences of their actions. Remember, we are here to live forever in hell or Heaven. All of the people hating and killing are setting themselves up for a sure seat in hell when they don’t have to be there. No one have to keep the cycle of hate going, anyone can change if they want to!

The devil is busy and on his job to kill, steal, and destroy. He’s doing his best to make sure people end up in the bottomless pit with him for eternity. He knows his days are numbers therefore he’s trying to take as many as he can with him. Please, please, I beg you to stop giving power to the devil and his angels.

People are giving in to the devil and this world. They don’t want to go through anything. As soon as hard times comes they want to throw in the towel. Not one of us can spiritually grown by buckling and folding every time a storm comes. Yes, we will go through the storms, but they are to build us up and make us strong. Our storms teaches us to lean and depend on Jesus. On many occasions I’ve found people don’t want to hear words of encouragement when they are going through. Some are absolutely offended by words of encouragement. They don’t want to hear anything about Jesus’s promise to us. During your toughest times you should hold on even tighter to Him and His promises. You don’t give up, you stand firm on the Word of God. Something is wrong with people who are offended by words of encouragement during their difficult times!

The devil loves to see people wanting to give up or wanting to turn back from Jesus. He gets great joy out of it! The devil gets great joy to see people trying to live for him and Lord Jesus at the same time. It’s because the devil knows it’s impossible to do! He knows people who are trying to live for both him and the Lord or really ONLY living for Him. The devil knows you can either be for or against God and nothing else!

There are dark forces at work, if you don’t believe it, just read your Bible! They are not make belief, they are real. The devil has his angels just as God has His angels. They are both in a battle for our soul. God wishes for none of us to perish. The devil wants nothing more than for you to perish and reign in hell with him.

We all deal with the forces tugging at us to do wrong when we know we should do right. None of us should never ever give in to the flesh. We should never give in to the negative talk in our heads. The Bible says “pray without cease.” In this mean, cold, and dark world we must keep on the full armor of God at all times! When you feel heavy laden and think God doesn’t care or isn’t listening He is always listening and He loves us all.

People are doing all kinds of foolishness. There are many who profess Christ everyday yet are doing everything against the Word of God. In other words they are those ‘wolves in sheep’s clothing.” They are false, liars, and they will lead you into hell if you’re not watchful, know Jesus for self, and prayed up!

Everything wrong and against God is accepted as right. As a person striving to please the Lord you must not be ashamed or afraid to stand firmly on the Word of God and don’t let anyone shake your Faith! People will try to convince you their way is right, don’t fall for it. The only right way is the way God the Father has commanded! I know we have to live here on earth for the time being, but our eternal homes will be waiting. How we choose to live now will definitely determine where we spend eternity! Keep your eyes on the mark and keep pressing for the prize! Stay Team Jesus!!

Facing Your Biggest Problem, You

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It’s not him or her, it’s you! Stop trying to hold on to people who have let you go. Stop trying to hold on to a person who doesn’t feel you’re worth fighting for. It means you’re not as important to him or her as they are to you. The person you’re with must think you’re just as important, if not they aren’t as into you as you are to them. Too many live their lives struggling to hold on to people who are NOT holding on to them. It causes unnecessary chaos and drama in the lives of many.

People give their significant others too much power over their lives. They can’t function when the one’s they love walk away or simply don’t really want them. If a person wants to walk let them. Stop taking up space in your mind over someone who don’t even think of you! Some people literally can’t function because someone walked away from the relationship. I’m sorry I think it’s nonsense! It’s only my opinion. I know we’re all different. It doesn’t make sense to me to lose your mind over someone who doesn’t care how you feel.

Many people go through hell and high water to be with individuals who don’t want to be with them. When a lot of people stay it’s not that they want you, they like what you do for them and it’s the only reason they stick around. They treat the individuals they are with like crap, because they are allowed to. You have to deal with the monsters you created. Why? It’s because we teach people how to treat us. Whatever you allow it will happen! When you nip things in the bud people know where you stand!! When you allow things to continue to go on; you let people know where you stand!! The control is always yours, unless you give it away.

There are a lot of people who want to give up because the one’s they love don’t love them back. Seriously? If a person doesn’t want to be with you let them go. Trying to keep them where they don’t want to be will only prove to be a dead end and unhealthy situation. If a person is trying to hold on to someone when the person doesn’t want to be there, you must look at self and figure out what’s going on with you, NOT the other person. They’ve shown you who they are and what they want, now it’s up to you to deal with your feelings and emotions and stop allowing them to lead you in the wrong direction.

None of us can change another person, we can only change ourselves. We have to look at self and determine what we have to fix about self. Stop blaming the other person, because the other person is doing what they want to do. Life will go on even if you choose to remain stuck in place. No one is worth it. No one is worth the heartache or headache. If they want to walk, open the door for them! Same door they walked out of someone else will walk in. The difference should be you’re stronger and have more wisdom, knowledge, and understanding so not to make the same bad decisions again.

Most people look at relationships they’re in one way; and that’s according to how they feel about the other person. Hold up! Remember, you’re never the only person in a relationship, it always takes two! People get caught up in how they feel and fail to fully understand how the other person feels. A person shows you the truth no matter how subtle. People fail to see it, because they are blind by their thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the person they think they love or want to be with.

Stop doing things you feel uncomfortable with, stop trying to be someone you’re not, stop accepting any ole thing, stop allowing yourself to be mistreated, stop blaming the other person and take responsibility and ownership for you and your life, stop worrying about what the other person is doing and take care of you, and please stop giving your power to someone else.

I promise you, if you love yourself it will be enough!
You may feel lonely sometimes, but it’s better than being with someone and still lonely. Being alone is better than being with someone and in love by yourself. Being alone is better than being with someone yet separate, because they are doing their own thing. Being alone is better than being with someone who is only with you because of what you provide. Being alone can be a greater teacher if allowed. Learn to love you and you will see that no one will love you like you and if you love you, you know everything will be alright!

Individuals must learn how to see past their feelings, if they don’t they will continue to get into the wrong types of relationships, with the wrong people, for all of the wrong reasons. Happiness doesn’t start or end with anyone, but yourself; others may be a part of your happiness, but you definitely shouldn’t depend on anyone to bring happiness in your life. You first have to find it within yourself!

Spectator Outside Looking In

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I used to lead sing a gospel song called “Standing on the Outside Looking in.” I was very young then and when I think about it, that’s exactly what I was doing, because I wasn’t a Saint of God. At that time I knew of Jesus, because I was raised in church, but I didn’t have a personal relationship with Him. I would sing, because I enjoyed it and I was decent at it.

I am so thankful for change! Oh my goodness if I was the person I used to be I don’t know where I would be right now. I thank God for giving me the wisdom, knowledge, and understanding which made me seek after Him. I gave up this world and never looked back! I know many of you think I’m probably full of it. I promise you, I never looked back. Once I gave it up, that was it for me! There is nothing better or greater than His love to me!

On this journey a person must know what they truly want. There is no dipping and dabbing in the world and trying to live for Christ. It isn’t possible. In our minds when we are doing what we really want to do, what we want the most is what we submit and commit to. Many say it’s the Lord, but their ways says something else. Their ways shows who they truly choose. We can pretend all day, but we are never able to fool God. When we are talking one thing yet walking another we are nothing more than spectators on the sideline looking in.

Many people get offended when you tell the truth about it. They want to say you’re judging etc. It’s not judging when you’re telling the truth. Especially when all you care about is helping someone before it’s too late. I don’t have the power to save anyone. Anybody who think they are powerful enough to save anyone they are foolish! We can encourage, motivate, educate/teach, inspire, mentor, etc, yet; we can’t save no one. All any of us can do is tell someone about Jesus, the individual has to want to do the rest. They must want to come out of their sins and become saved! We can invite them, but it is the individual who must accept the invitation (Romans 10:9). I don’t care who it is, if they say they are living for the Lord, but are still partaking in the ways of the world; they are merely spectators outside looking in.

When people are trying to love two, it’s not an easy thing. It brings drama, confusion, destruction; and according to the Word of God you will love one more than the other. Therefore the one tugging at you the most is what you will follow. We either follow the flesh or the Spirit. People who are spectators outside looking are those who are “lukewarm and double minded.” There’s no place or room in the Kingdom for them!

Stop being a spectator, because you’ll never ever reap the benefits of the Kingdom, by standing on the outside looking in! Remember, you’re either for Him or against Him, there’s nothing else to choose!

Praying the Least When it Should be the Most

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There are a lot of people who get discouraged and want to give up on God, because they don’t see their prayers being manifested. When some people can’t see a breakthrough they become discouraged. Jesus knows what’ best for you and I assure you, He may not come when we want Him, but He’s always on time! His time isn’t ours, His ways isn’t our ways, and His will for us is different from what we want for ourselves. He knows what’s best for us, because He knows what we need! He knows most of us are led by the flesh, (because many speak of Him, yet hearts are far from Him), therefore they seek after the flesh, versus the Spirit of God. People declare they are strong, yet they are week, because they aren’t walking by Faith. We must walk by Faith and not by Sight! We must love Jesus more than the world!

Most people want things to happen right away; it’s the human part of us. However when you’re a Saint of God, you must know “Faith is the substance of things hoped for; evidence of things not see.” No matter what; we must believe deliverance and breakthrough will happen.

The Bible tells us to “pray without cease.” When some people are going through they become more overwhelmed by their situations. They become consumed by their problems allowing doubt to set in. This is only a trick of the enemy whose job is to kill, steal, and destroy. As a Saint of God we should never doubt God; for He’s a God who can’t lie!

As Saints of God we must hold on, because the Word says “the race isn’t give to the swift nor the strong, but to the one who endures to the end.” We must stay in the race. We should always pray (morning, noon, and night). I believe through the tough times we should pray even more, because the devil knows when we are struggling and he’s waiting for the perfect opportunity to mess up your mind. If you let him in, he will definitely try to take over.

Personally I know the struggle is real. It gets hard sometimes on this journey, because it can be lonely. Remember, when friends and family walk away, Jesus the Son and our Father God will never leave or forsake us. Keep pushing towards the prize!

I can truly say when I feel some kind of way, I start praying in the Spirit and not once have the Holy Spirit forsaken me. Every single time the Holy Spirit shows up and make me feel better. We have to trust Jesus and God to be who they are!

The devil don’t want us to feel peace, because we are against him. He wants to attack us left and right, because he’s the author of confusion. It’s alright, because whatever he does to us, God has us through it all. We all will go through, but remember our struggles come to make us, not to break us! We must stand firmly on the Word of God. Don’t give in to the enemy. Trust Jesus. Pray, pray, and then pray some more! Tell yourself it will be alright, “this too shall pass!” The trying times makes us stronger and stronger if we don’t give in to the struggle.