The choice is always yours! We will always go through something for as long as we all live. Our lives have constant peaks and valleys that we must endure. No one on earth is exempt! It’s the way it is. However, how were perceive and receive things determines how we choose to go through them. Our trials and tribulations can make us stronger or break us down. I believe they are meant to make us strong, but people choose to breakdown.
I say choose, because it is a choice. How we handle our adversities can brighten our days or darken our days. In the midst of dark times Jesus is still the light! People want to pull away from others when they are going through. They want to dismiss all encouragement offered, because they choose to embrace their pains of what they are going through. People are oftentimes angry with God, what they fail to realize is God didn’t do it. Yes, you’re allowed to go through things because this world is full of the good, bad, and the ugly, but breaking down as you go through is a choice.
People are already dealing with things in their lives they’ve never resolved. They carry those things with them every where they go. During their journey of life they allow other things to compile on what’s already hindering them. Then when the storm comes they often drown because they can’t tread water to stay afloat. This is when the breakdown occurs.
I believe every single thing we go through is meant for a lesson, even when we make not so smart decisions. If people learn from those things they will grow during their lessons. It will open their eyes, it gives them strength to tackle the next storm. The problem is, so many are led by the flesh (money, sex, love, material things, the many things important to man = titles, positions, fame, fortune etc, some people get obsessed with these things and will do anything to get them). It can all inhibit their ability to see, because they allow their flesh to lead. They want what they want right now. When the flesh leads it causes chaos. People who allow their flesh to lead have a daily struggle with making the right choices and decisions. It’s because they have a lot of things going on inside that are unresolved while they are trying to get whatever it is they want. This can lead to breakdown. The ONLY way a person can grow is first by dealing with the things that have them stuck in their wrong ways of thinking. During this process they learn to love self. They then begin to see that everything else is no longer as important as they once thought it was. They are able to handle things thrown at them, because they understand the difference between what they can control versus what they can’t. If they can’t control it, they know how to deal with it accordingly and keep it moving.
With every single storm sunshine is soon to follow. People don’t have patience, they want to get through their storm. Honestly some people don’t want to go through anything. When people feel this way they oftentimes become burdened. Some people can’t deal with their storms because they are already dealing with unresolved things. They feel overwhelmed. This can lead to stress overload, depression, anxiety, and suicidal and homicidal thoughts. No one situation caused these feelings, they were caused by a plethora of things compiled over the years.
A breakthrough is always at the end of a storm if people learn to weather their storms and not breakdown. Some people feel they constantly live in storms and in a sense it’s true, because they are at odds with self. When people don’t deal with their inner issues it is a constant steady storm. When they have life to happen then it presses them down even further. The only way people can stay afloat is by learning to relieve themselves of those things that are hindering and binding them up in negativity states of mind. No one can move forward if they are always looking behind. No one can move forward with the load they are trying to carry, it’s way too much!
People have to decide the life they were given is theirs and regardless what they must embrace it. It doesn’t belong to another soul. I don’t care what happened or who did it, NO ONE or NOTHING can control your life if you don’t give it to them to control! Over years of experience I’ve found the biggest factor is self love! I believe with everything in me if a person love self they are very aware and careful of who or what they allow into their life. A person who loves self will learn you can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control the stress you allow them to cause in your personal life. You know people will be people. They will smile in your face and stab you in the back at the same time. They will envy, despise, hate, wish they were you, etc. They will manipulate, control, coerce, demand, possess, and obsess. It doesn’t matter what they do, what matters is how you allow it to affect you! You must learn how not to be affected by everything you encounter. If you don’t give your power it can’t be taken! End of story!
Forgiveness is important, it’s most important to you and for you. People must learn to let go of their past pains, because there’s absolutely no benefit of holding on to it. It hinders you for a lifetime. It keeps you stuck in a negative mindset. It keeps you from loving self. It makes you breakdown preventing you from getting your breakthrough. Most importantly it keeps you from growing, if you don’t grow, it means you don’t mentally or spiritually mature. You stay the same! It’s a choice, I pray you choose growth. Storms will come, but surely as they come they will go. People always tend to put more on themselves then they can bear. Don’t let a breakdown be an option!