The fault lies with both people. The one who is doing it and the one who is accepting the foolishness. Too many people accept all kinds of bull crap in the name of love. The problem is these people don’t know what love is or what it isn’t.
The ONLY single relationship is the one you have with yourself and unfortunately many people can’t even get that one right! The truth is just that!!
People are far more focused on being with someone versus loving and getting to know self. I guarantee along with a promise if people would first learn to love self this would eliminate from the very beginning many bad relationships they find themselves in. People settle for way less than they actually deserve because they don’t know how to love self. If you can’t love yourself you will have many issues trying to love someone else. You can’t maintain a happy relationship with anyone if you can’t maintain one with yourself first!
A lot of people put up with any and everything in the name of what they think is love. They take anything, accept anything, and will do anything. If you have to do this with anyone then you are with the wrong person. Healthy relationships aren’t one sided. You can’t make another person treat you how you desire UNLESS it’s already in them.
So many are focused on the other person meanwhile forgetting about self. They throw their dreams, goals, and everything else to the wayside focusing only on the person they are with. It’s nonsense! You shouldn’t have to be in a battle for love. If you are you’re in love with the wrong person. Truth is it’s not love at all. Relationships shouldn’t be hard as people make them.
There are a lot of unhappy people in a lot of unhealthy relationships yet they choose to stay. Many get married and are very happy and lonely. Many get married yet are living like single people (sad)! You want to know why that is? It’s because these people don’t truly love self and they certainly don’t know what real love is. They are dependent upon someone else for their happiness. You can’t find happiness and love in anyone if you don’t first have it within yourself for yourself!
Significant others knows how you feel, because most of you are eager to show them. Many of them have their own issues which is why they give the person they are with the blues. Everything you say you want you tell them and a lot of times they will be who you say you want to get you. Sometimes they don’t care they will still mistreat you right from the start, but because people are so full of their own baggage they dismiss this mistreatment. People are abused on all levels in their relationships, disrespected on all levels, and sometimes murdered. It’s because people are too focused on being in a relationship they fail to see they have settled for anything to get something, that’s in fact NOTHING! People stay for many reasons and if it’s NOT because the two people are in love and love one another then ALL excuses are wrong! Making excuses get you stuck in bad relationships, period! People get into them for the wrong reasons, in the wrong ways, and with the wrong people. Then on top of all of that foolishness they stay for the wrong reasons. The main reason is FEAR (for your life, security, being alone, etc). Guess what? If you feel this way you’ve given up your power! You’ve stayed far too long!
Learn to develop a relationship with yourself. Learn how to get pass all of your issues and embrace and love yourself! When people don’t do this all of their issues causes them to get into and stay into bad relationships. They are dependent on others for their happiness and this NEVER works. Many people cause themselves unnecessary drama. Significant others and other people in general will treat you how you treat yourself and in any way you allow yourself to be treated. If you act desperate and eager it is how you will be treated. If you allow abuse you will be abused. If you allow disrespect you will be disrespected. If you give your power it will be taken! Whatever you allow is exactly what you will get. This has absolutely nothing to do with love! Until people grasp this and understand it they will always be in a losing battle. They will always find themselves fighting unnecessary battles in their relationships. Its like trying to put a 6.5 size foot into a size 5 shoe. It will cause you NOTHING but pain and misery. It will NOT work!
The greatest relationship anyone can have is with God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit. However, for unbelievers then I challenge you to at least learn to love yourself. When you love yourself I guarantee you things change. You learn to appreciate yourself, you learn that you’re your greatest wingman and supporter. You will learn how not to give your power to anything or anyone. You will not allow people to treat you any kind of way they want.
People must stop focusing so much on being with someone and focus on learning to love self. I don’t care what you have gone through in your life. How tragic makes no difference, you must learn to love yourself. Your life is yours and ONLY you gets to choose how you will live it. You can allow things to weigh you down and knock you out or you can choose to be the best you that you can be in ALL situations. Learn from every situation, because believe it or not EVERY situation (good or bad) is indeed a learning experience!