Can’t Satisfy Lust

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It’s like trying to fill a bottomless pit. People lust after many things trying to satisfy their flesh. In this post I’m referencing lust and relationships. Unfortunately a lot of people in relationships are lusting after the flesh. A lot of people are in relationships with people who are always cheating on them. If you keep allowing someone to cheat on you then you obviously don’t know your worth and you have no requirements in your relationships. You will always be treated exactly how you allow. When someone cheats it’s because they are chasing the desires of their flesh. What a person has at home will never keep the person at home without straying when they aren’t mentally mature and capable of being in a committed relationship. They have to fall in love with self first.

Many people are in relationships but aren’t committed. This includes single and married people. Until individuals deal with what has caused them to be the way they are they will continue to chase after the flesh. They will always lust after the next person that comes along. They are never fulfilled or satisfied. They don’t love self therefore it’s hard for them to truly love someone else. They can’t find happiness with anyone until they can find it within self.

Many of these types of people would rather get into relationships than be alone. Although they don’t know how to be committed they will still get into relationships knowing the drama they will cause. One of their favorite sayings is (I’m sorry). After awhile those words will fall on deaf ears. They will keep doing the same things even though they see how much they hurt their significant others.

A person chasing flesh will never be satisfied until they are no longer chasing after the flesh. The only way this happens is a change has to occur. A person can’t change without first dealing with their dysfunction and then developing a positive mindset change. With a positive mindset a person learns forgiveness and how to love self. They also learn happiness starts with self. Once this takes place maturity and growth happens. They then are mature enough to handle being in a committed relationship. Until this occurs they will never be happy with one person. They expect their significant other to be committed to them when they know they are expecting something they can’t give. They want to be trusted when they aren’t trustworthy.

It’s sad there are many people who are in these dysfunctional relationships. Some people never mature. They cheat all of their lives. It’s a pitiful, sad, and unfortunate way to live. Those who are in relationships with these individuals live unhappy lives in unfulfilled unhealthy relationships. Some people accept this behavior. When people accept it a lot of times they are hoping the person will change then most times they realize they don’t.

People who accept this repeated behavior must figure out why; just as the cheater need to deal with why they cheat. Cheaters can’t blame no one other than self. Nothing their significant others do will keep them home until they’re ready to stay home. A person can have the best of everything, but until they deal with self it will still never be enough, because you can’t satisfy lust!

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Rewrite Your Story

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Most people spend a lifetime telling their stories and showing how they’ve allowed those stories to basically destroy their lives. Although many move on in life, they remain stuck mentally. People subject themselves to life sentences of pain and dysfunction. Instead of choosing to change they choose to allow what they’ve gone through in their pasts to continue to disrupt their lives.

Anyone can choose a path different from whence they’ve came. No matter what a person has gone through or endured it doesn’t have to define or dictate the rest of their life. People have gotten to comfortable with the familiar. They want to blame their pasts for why they are the way they are. I’m here to tell you, you’re responsible for who you’ve allowed yourself to become.

Most people choose to allow the residuals of their pasts to be obstacles and stumbling blocks in their lives. They constantly resist anything resembling change. They would rather continue to blame, stay bitter, angry, and on the same paths rather then to rewrite their stories.

You can rewrite your story because it is your life. You can choose a different path to something new. You don’t have to continue to be bitter and angry. Whatever you went through has no more power than the power you give to cause you pain. The past is gone forever. Stop being confined by your mindsets and defined by your pasts. You have the power to change your ways of thinking and when you do it will change your lives.

It is exhausting and draining to always be unhappy and stuck in a negative mindset. Individuals have the right to be happy. I believe one issue is people look for their happiness in others. If you can’t find happiness within yourself you won’t with anyone else. Happiness starts with you, the individual.

There are some people who are filthy rich, but they aren’t happy. They have no peace or joy within and they’ve been the way they are for a very long time. There are some people with little or no money they also have no peace or joy within. It’s because they are too bothered by issues of their pasts. It is what they are fixated on. They won’t allow themselves to be happy. They have given power to their pasts and are held prisoners to their own ways of thinking, when they don’t have to be. For many it’s easier to stay the same then it is to change.

People get used to the dysfunction and therefore think it’s normal when it’s not. They live unhappy lives by choice. The sad thing is they don’t realize they have always been in their own way. They are their own worst enemy, because they are stuck in their negative mindsets. They’ve given power to memories of their pasts and has allowed those memories to cause chaos in their lives. They make bad choices and decisions when it comes to many things in life.

We all have the opportunity to change and if we do not take it our lives will surely remain the same. Blaming others or the past does nothing to foster change. Being confined and defined by your thoughts means you’ve given power to them to keep you as prisoner. Rewrite your story. Give nothing or no one power over your life. What you give power to controls you! Rewrite your story starting right now!❤️ You have the right and the power to do it!

Guns Are An Issue, People Are The Problem

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Guns are an issue for sure, because they are getting into the hands of the wrong people. In my opinion since society doesn’t want to deal with the gun issue they use the scapegoat “mental illness.” I think when people purchase a gun it should be a more strict of a process. I think just as people ask for references for jobs, to buy things, credit, etc they should also to purchase weapons. If those references willfully lie then they should be held accountable if a person does something such as a mass shooting. It will take time, but it would be worth it. Guns are an issue, but people with their many issues are the ones pulling the triggers.

A person who has gotten to the point of no return will look you in the face with a straight face and lie. They will pretend to the end. They will put on a front to be able to do what they are fixated on doing. They have pondered over it a long time and when their mind is made up, they will do what they intend on doing. It may be to kill self, someone in particular, or commit a mass killing. Unfortunately some of these individuals get access to weapons.

I will start by going back over something I’ve talked and written about a few times. It gets on my nerves to hear the media, specialist, and others say mass shootings are results of mental illnesses. Societies will never fix the problem because they are a part of the problem. They are a part of the problem due to the fact they won’t acknowledge the truth. Some people don’t know the truth, because they don’t really know what mental illness involves, but those who do are promoting mental illness and the billion dollar business it is.

The reason I made the above statement is because anyone who really knows the truth knows a mentally ill person know they don’t premeditate and come up with a plan to kill people. A psycho or sociopath may, of who many became the way they are from past traumatic experiences. It’s not the norm. There is a definitive difference between mental illness and mental stress. However, both can lead to breakdown. Mental stress can lead to mental illnesses such as anxiety, depression, adjustment issues, suicidal and homicidal ideation, and other mental illnesses. Mental stress can cause physical and emotional issues as well.

The world is filled with broken people. These people happen to not only carry the burdens of things they haven’t released. They compile those things with other issues. Many are flat out mad, jealous, envious, bitter, and angry; so angry they commit road rage, kill the one’s they supposedly love, or commit mass killings. They are dealing with work or the lack thereof, finances or the lack thereof, relationships issues or the lack of, family issues, etc. They are dealing with interpersonal issues, self esteem, confidence, love, etc. They seek Mr. and Miss Right, but keep settling for Mr. And Misses right now, then can’t handle the chaos it brings. They don’t know what love is and they don’t love self.

People are seeking love in the wrong ways, wrong places, and wrong people. They have a sense to belong even if it’s to the wrong person or group. All they want is to belong. They are easily persuaded to do things that are wrong. Some of these people choose to be alone due to previous rejection, the lack of self esteem and confidence. It too angers them, but truth is they are their biggest problem.

In my opinion what the world needs is more love. Love needs to be promoted more. People need to unify all over the world and show love to one another. Promote it and stand for it! Stop allowing your pasts to dictate your futures. Know that you have the power and control over your life. Stop giving your power to the past and to people and things. Learn to love yourself no matter what or who. Love conquers hate! If people learn to love more I believe they will not pick up guns in hatred.

Children Dying in Hot Cars

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Listen I’m not saying it’s not possible, but for the life of me I don’t understand how something like this can happen. How on earth can a person have a child for several months are a year or more and all of a sudden forget them in a car? They’ve put them in and taken them out of the car all of that time then all of a sudden on a hot day they get amnesia. How can a person forget a new born in a hot car; a baby you carried in the womb 9 months or as a father waited 9 months in anticipation for the baby to arrive; only to leave the baby in a hot car? I’m sorry and forgive me if I’m wrong, but I do NOT believe it!

When I kept my grandson for almost 2 years he was 18 months when I got him. My children are grown therefore I hadn’t had a child around in well over 20 plus years. One day I was leaving base where I worked and before I got to the gate I remembered he was at daycare. That is because I wasn’t used to having a child around and it only happened one time the first week of me keeping him and never again after that.

However, to forget your child in a vehicle, I just don’t see how that is possible. I look in the back seat even though I don’t have any children around. When I did have my grandson I always placed him on the opposite side in the back so I could look back at him periodically. Not once EVER did I leave him in the car.

I try to wrap my brain around it, but I can not! You take your child to the daycare everyday, but all of a sudden one day you thought you had dropped your child off, but in fact your child was left in the car in scorching hot heat and they died! You mean to tell me as a parent you didn’t think of your child not once in your whole work shift??????? Makes no sense to me! How can you forget you put a child in the car, but you didn’t forget you had to be at work or wherever you were going? You didn’t forget to take the keys out of the ignition. You didn’t forget to get your lunch, purse, briefcase, bag, or whatever, but you forgot your human baby! I can’t grasp this at all. I just can’t! I can’t see this as an accident! Again I’m not saying the possibility of it happening doesn’t exist. I’m saying I can’t believe it!

Are ALL of the children sleep when they are placed in the cars? Do they not make a sound? Even with the last and most recent incident I heard of; who by the way it was twin girls. Twins!!!I believe they were a little over a year old. You put them in and out of the car a whole year and now you suddenly forgot? You thought you dropped them at the daycare. I just can’t accept it! Not once EVER did I not think of my children when they where taken to daycare. I always thought of them when I was away from them, EVERY single time. So for these people to NOT think of their children during their day’s work is disturbing to me!

Strange thing to me is we never hear of this happening in the winter and children freezing to death, but we constantly hear of it happening in the summers. I know it takes longer to freeze then to die from the heat, but it gets super cold in places, therefore it is possible. Yet, we NEVER hear of it. Hmmmmmm!

I’m just venting! It’s heartbreaking to continue to hear of this happening. Children these days are put in horrible situations.

If Children Are Our Future Protect Them

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Many people don’t want to address the elephant in the room. They want to tuck their heads in the sand despite the fact we see and hear about this everyday. Incest, rape, and molestation is happening too much all over the world to children. The most hurtful part is societies want to ignore the fact this problem exist when it’s prevalent all over the world. We all should do our parts to protect the children, when we don’t; then we too are a part of the problem. Are children really our future? If they are why are they being abused on every hand? Why aren’t they protected better? It is VERY sad grown folks are doing inappropriate things with children. There needs to be stricter laws concerning this. However, there aren’t because too many on top are a part of the problem. Laws are tougher on the abuse of animals than children. It’s sad!

Many people who are into child porn, molestation, incest, and child rape are people who were once victims. I want to direct this directly to them first. I am sorry you were once a victim. I feel because you were once a victim you should know better. Why are you victimizing innocent defenseless children? I’m sure as a victim in the beginning you hated what happened. At some point some of you as a child probably began to feel some type of way about it. As a child you don’t really understand what’s going on. You think it’s wrong, but at the same time it awakens something in you and this is where many of you remained fixated and stuck. You moved through your stages of development, but you didn’t mature mentally. What happened to you was wrong, but what you’re doing is just as wrong. The children you’re taking advantage of do NOT deserve to have you as an ADULT causing confusion and dysfunction in their lives. You didn’t deserve it and neither do other innocent children. You know exactly what you’re doing and there’s no excuse for it! Some offenders are also teenagers who developed the habit of what they are doing by what they’ve gone through. It doesn’t make what they do right. It’s still as wrong as ever! Stop blaming what happened to you as a reason to do what you’re doing. As for the many adults who do this you’re an adult stuck in a negative development mental state of mind. You’re older in age, but you’re still fixated due to earlier issues. It is NOT an excuse to do what you do! People think some of you offenders are okay, because you’re successful or appear to have it together. Wrong! Many of you are stuck in that early mental states of mind. You’re in denial and you can’t heal because you exert your energy in lying, hiding, pretending, etc. Wake up! You’re not that child you’re grown men and women. A young child has nothing you should want. They can’t offer you anything. They are unable to defend themselves just as you were as a young child. You are doing the same things to them that was once done to you. Some of you are billionaires, millionaires, or quite wealthy. Some of you are well known, have built empires, etc. Some are rich, poor, on top, on the bottom, etc. These abusers are people of all races, populations, genders, titles, status, positions etc. They are friends, family, neighbors, church members, politicians, police officers, Judges, lawyers, teachers, preachers, doctors, soldiers of all ranks, and the list goes on. Living behind your lies and disguises does nothing to help you deal with the demons inside of you. You need to face the truth and deal with the junk inside of you. To have any inappropriate thoughts about a child makes you a monster. You need to get help with your feelings because it is what you’re being led by. You may have been victimized as a child but as an adult you are now victimizing and there’s NO excuse for your behaviors! You’ve become the nasty perpetrator! The majority of you have more likely than not been doing it since you were young and have probably victimized many over your lifetime. You’ve become comfortable in the things you’ve been doing because you’ve been getting by with it. However, getting by doesn’t mean you’ll get away! You’re the problem and you will never change if you don’t choose change. Anyone can change anything they choose, but you must want to change. Give these toddlers, adolescents, and teenagers a chance to live healthy lives. Stop grooming them so you can violate them! Stop selling their pictures, stop kidnapping them holding them hostage, stop buying them things giving them the sense of what you’re doing is ok. It is NOT! You are adults who should be protecting children not violating them! Yes you’re stuck mentally in a past developmental stage, but the fact remains you’re grown. Most of you have made grown up decisions about everything else, but when it comes to offending innocent children. What you do is vile, evil, horrible, and wrong! Deal with what’s locked inside of you and has caused you to be the person you are. Sneaking, pretending, hiding, etc isn’t going to fix you. The only way to heal is to deal with your issues. I can’t stress how horrible it is what you do. Face your demons and the person staring back at you when you look in the mirror or can you even stomach looking at the monster staring back? If you can’t, that too is a problem!

To people who are sexually abusing babies you are sick. You may or may not have been abused. It doesn’t matter if you have been abused or not; to abuse a infant is beyond words. A lot of times you are displaying anger through such an hideous act. You are full of evil to perform such a horrendous act and your filth is on another level. You need help yesterday! Don’t blame anyone for the decisions you make, because you’re the one making them. Take ownership of what you are and who you’ve allowed yourself to become. Harming innocent babies who can’t do anything to protect themselves is an outrage! Shame on you! Jail is too good for your type!

Parents shame on you for selling your children for a dollar. Some of you give up your children in order to make a buck. Shame on you! You don’t deserve to have children. Some women let their male boyfriends abuse their children in order to keep the person around. Who by the way are worthless! Your mates don’t want you. They get with you in order to get close to your children. Wake up! Many of you parents don’t have love for your child or yourselves. Matter of fact you don’t know what love is at all! No man or woman is worth allowing your child or children to be abused. Parents you’re supposed to be protecting your children NOT causing them harm or putting them in harms way! Some women willfully and knowingly get with sex offenders. At that point it’s NOT about your children it’s all about what you want. You’re so broken you can’t see past your feelings. You need to seek help! It starts with learning to love yourself. If you can’t love, nurture, and protect your child give them to people who are capable of giving the child what they need in this life. Stop being selfish and making your life about you. It’s no longer all about you when you have children!

Parents and other family members; committing incest is wrong! To touch a child is absolutely wrong! To touch your flesh and blood is wrong, period! Get help with your issues. You can’t blame what you’re doing on anyone else, but yourself! Whatever happened to you happened, and I am sorry, but what you’re doing is all on you! Stop touching your children and/or family members. It’s filthy and vile! Then you want to keep it a secret, REALLY! Anyone who allows this mess to go on in their families are also a part of the problem. They may as well be touching the child too, because allowing it is as bad as doing it. Parents and other family members should be protecting children NOT violating them. You are wrong on all kinds of levels. Many of you have truly messed up the mental and emotional states of your children and/or other family members by what you do/done. Get help for your inner issues and stop the foolishness! You are weak individuals who prey on your helpless children. Get help for what you’ve allowed yourself to become! Your mind is warped and you need to face the demons in you! Deal with the man/woman in the mirror it’s the ONLY way possible change can occur!

In the lives of those with glamour and glitz children are used as sacrifices, self gratification on all levels by all levels of people. They are used for dark rituals for fame and fortune, and they are taken for sex salves for some nasty rich people who are involved in sadistic things. All of this madness comes from a place of darkness and demons. People are very broken and they have years of garbage inside. They are broken and have not tried to deal with their issues, they’ve only compiled mess on top of mess. They connect with people like them. They get into sex clubs etc and the victims range from infancy to teenagers. It’s horrible what people are doing all over the globe to children. These people are broken and filled with darkness. All they want is gratification of their flesh in some form or another. How gratifying can it be to take advantage of someone who can’t defend themselves? These people are constantly preying on children. People who do this are weak individuals. It’s disgusting and very sad! They are stuck mentally in distorted ways of thinking and distorted mental states. When people have money they think they can get away with anything and everything. They think they can do anything they want. These people need to seek help! Some people don’t change because they don’t want to, they get comfortable in their wrong doings until they are caught and displayed to the world. People want to keep their dirty little secrets when there are really no secrets. You can hide from everyone, but never yourself!

What type of future will they have if you’re messing up the minds of the children?