Power Given is Always Taken

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I was recently talking to a group of people and it never ceases to amaze me the things people are going through. Most of what people go through they’ve actually caused by allowing it in their lives. You, me, nor anyone else when in a relationship has to take anything you don’t want to take from another person. Without a doubt people will always get what they allow.

There are many people who will take anything from someone in the name of their versions of love. The people I was talking to are actually allowing their significant others to control them. They have gotten into their relationships and lost self, because self was never priority. They think it’s love to relinquish their control and power to the individual’s they are with. This way of thinking is definitely caused by some type of brokenness.

As I’ve always stated, people who don’t heal from their issues which has caused their brokenness will continue to affected by what lies within. What’s inside is always stronger, therefore it interferes with what’s happening outside. It affects all facets of an individual’s life.

Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want you is a horrible one to be in. Being in a relationship and in love by yourself is no love at all. Being in a relationship with someone who’s cheating on you, abusive to you, disrespecting you, controlling you, manipulating you, isn’t communicating with you, their only taking from you, etc. etc, is a terrible relationship to be in and it’s NOT love! Love has nothing to do with it!

People seek love in others when they don’t love self, which causes further discord in their lives. They give up their freewill and therefore are subjected to ill behaviors at the hands of those who claim to love them. Significant others mistreat who they’re with because they know it’s allowed.

No one has power and control over you in a relationship unless it’s the foundation you’ve laid. If you don’t think you’re deserving of real love you will never have it, because you won’t know it when it comes. True love starts with loving self. People who mistreat their significant others are people who have their own issues. What’s in you is always coming out!

Allowing your significant other to control you says a lot about your confidence and esteem. Many people who are going through it don’t believe it, it’s still true. It’s a great indication you should re-examine yourself because something is most definitely wrong. Not only with you, but also with the one you think you love.

You must learn to love yourself first. Loving yourself teaches you about yourself and it teaches you about others as well. You become careful of who you allow in your life. You’ll know your power belongs to you and no one else. You will know you never have to lose yourself to be with someone. You will learn that to love someone doesn’t mean losing self. You will know love isn’t controlling, obsessive, abusive, or possessive. You won’t settle and you learn spending time with yourself is awesome!

To anyone who’s dealing with this type of relationship; it will always be the same unless you decide changing is the only option. Find yourself through self love. Deal with your issues so you can heal from them. This will change your mindset and your life!

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The Beautiful Presence of The Holy Spirit

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It dwells in all who believes. The Bible says “faith without works is dead!” People talk real good, but they don’t walk it. We can’t simply be hearers of the Word, we must be doers as well. This is why many don’t believe miracles are happening today. They ARE happening, people must believe! Many people haven’t activated the power given to them from the Lord.

The Holy Spirit is to teach and guide us, but many aren’t connected due to their lack of faith. They are walking by sight and not by faith, because their eyes are on the world! When eyes are on the world and man, expect to be bamboozled into believing things that aren’t true! You’re blind into believing what’s wrong is right and what’s right is wrong! The Bible says “faith without works is dead and faith is the substance of things hoped for, evidence of things not seen.” The only way you can understand is by walking it out through faith. Keep your eyes on Jesus and take it off of the world!

Brainwashing is a big part of today’s societies. People are coerced and persuaded into believing it’s okay to mock God and mimic the Holy Spirit. This is blasphemy against the Holy Spirt, Jesus, and God the Father! A lot of people fail to see it as such, because their eyes are on man. Jesus will not trick, coerce you, or persuade you to choose Him. He wants you to come to Him of freewill. In this world they trick, coerce, persuade, encourage, entice, force etc to get you to do what is against the Lord. They will make it appear good to you, when in reality it’s not good to you or for you!

When you give your life to Christ your life isn’t the same. There is no way you can be a “new creature” doing the same old things. No way! You realize your life is no longer your own. Unfortunately many don’t get pass the milk into being the “new creature.” They choose to not move forward, because they start following man and not the Creator! They lose focus before they ever get started good, because they place their eyes on man! This causes people to lose focus and then sight of the true and living God!

The Holy Spirit dwells in us all, but it can’t work until it’s activated! The only person who can activate it is you, the individual. The Bible says we will be living in times where people will love the world more than Jesus. I see it every day! People are choosing the world over Jesus, God, and the Holy Spirit.
You can’t have one without the other. People are choosing their gods over the true and living God. This is why they disbelieve and have no faith in the power of healing and working of miracles in these days and times.

Jesus took all sickness to the cross. We are already healed! You must command it to be so in your lives. Those who don’t believe must activate their power through the Holy Spirit. Jesus said in the Bible “we will be able to do the works He’s done and greater.” That tells you there is awesome power given unto those who believe. Isn’t that wonderfully refreshing news!!

People are walking around with their eyes on man. In other words, their eyes are wide open, yet shut closed! Their hearts has indeed waxed cold. Love has diminished. Through it all; I believe it will all turn around sooner or later. No matter what we see or how we feel; we must stay encouraged. We must stand without wavering! We must believe and walk by faith; not by sight! Jesus has given us everything we need, but it’s our choice to whether we accept it into our lives or not.

Many people are constantly searching for something (love, peace, happiness, friendships, belonging, etc). Everything starts with self. That means we must get in tune with self and Jesus! His Spirit dwells within us, because we are a part of Him! All any of us has to do is tap into the power given to us! Allow the Holy Spirit to do what it is meant to do in your lives. It will turn you into the new creature you should be in Jesus! You won’t see the world or people the same! You will see through the spiritual eye rather than the natural. If you don’t know Him I encourage you to get to know Him. If you know Him, but aren’t living for Him the way you know you should, I encourage you to do so. There is only one way! Either you live for Him or you don’t; there are no in between. Knowing of him and knowing Him is a great difference. Go on, tap into what Jesus has given to you and watch your life change!

Stuck Is What You Choose

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Unfortunately there are a lot of people in this world who are this way. They are in the same place year after year, because they choose to be. I think it’s ridiculous to see grown people who refuse to make a change, yet all they do is complain and look for handouts. Some people are mad over other people’s money. Some people want to spend your money while they sit on their butt’s. In other words, they always asking others for something, but aren’t attempting to do anything to change their situation. As long as you give they will take. When the well runs drive they are off to the next person. A lot of people are enabled by others, which becomes debilitating for the individual and oftentimes those around them.

Every person alive has the opportunity to move forward in life. It’s all about choices. If a person choose to waddle in self pity or believe they aren’t capable then they won’t be. Stop blaming your past; take ownership and responsibility for who you’ve allowed yourself to become. No one is obligated to take care of another grown person unless the individual is mentally and physically unfit to care for self.

Some job is better than no job at all. You can’t run if you can’t first stand up and walk. Too many people have life misconstrued. They want this and that, but are not doing anything to get a thing! Some people feel they are owed something. No one owes you anything! If you want something in life you must be willing to go after it in a positive way! Some people only want a hand out and they are comfortable with living that way. They don’t want to do anything to get what they need; all they want is to get what they can from who they can get it from. There’s no growth in this!

If you’re doing the same things year after year and getting the same exact results, WHAT DO YOU EXPECT? If you don’t want to change, then stop complaining and for goodness sake, stop walking around with your hand out! Stop being mad at other people because they have gotten sick of you asking for a hand out. It’s different if a person is trying hard, but are struggling versus someone who hands are always out, but they are sitting on their stumps of do nothing doing absolutely nothing! If you change your mindset changes in your circumstances will follow.

A lot of behaviors and mindsets comes from a person’s upbringing. However, people can choose to change. No one has to continue traveling the same road for a lifetime. What I’ve seen are many unhappy people accepting negativity and never choosing to change. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you have brokenness and negativity will follow you until you choose change. Brokenness has NOTHING to do with how much or how little a person has. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with skin color, titles, or positions. What’s inside will always manifest in some way. It’s the ugly truth!

People have chosen to allow their pasts to ruin their present affecting any chances of a future because they choose to remain stuck. People have chosen a lifetime of drugs and alcohol because of their unwillingness to change. People have chosen many negative things as a way to cope. They project many negative things on to others because it’s what they have been accustomed to all their lives. It’s easier for a person to hang on to what looks and feels familiar then to attempt to change. They recognize their vicious cycles, but many will not attempt to change. Instead they choose anger, bitterness, malice, unhappiness, and many negative things. The negativity follows them everywhere they go affecting everything they do. I’ve seen this sad truth over and over!

Most people don’t understand their ability and power to change. It’s in every single person if they choose! If you’re unhappy with who you are, you have the power to change! As I’ve always stated “change must start with you!”

Millionaire Appetite on Dollar Tree Budget

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Flat out if the shoe fits wear it! There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreams and goals, but those are things you work towards to obtain. Right? Until then, stop trying to live above your means. It has gotten you nowhere and it will get you nowhere! Stop pretending to be something you’re not. Stop trying to please other people by fronting as if you got something you know you don’t have or as if you’re someone you know you are not. It’s complete foolishness to live your life this way, yet many people do. This leads to unnecessary stress.

Go back to the basics and learn to love yourself. One thing I know for sure is if you learn to love yourself it changes your ways of thinking, feeling, and acting, especially when it comes to other people. There are many people who live their lives wishing they were someone else. The whole time the person they wish they were are wishing they were someone else. It’s sad!

There are a lot of people who spend their lives trying to keep up with other people when they don’t know how some of those people got what they have. All money isn’t good money and everything glittering isn’t gold. Facts!

If you’re not happy with yourself do not let it be because you’re unhappy you don’t have what the next person has. Don’t allow what others have to cause you to hate yourself. Truth is it’s not the other person it’s you, period! Many people blame how they are on others when they are their own problem. No one can change what’s holding you back, because it’s you! You’re the only one who can change you!

Many individuals are stressed out; they are in debt or jail, because they have tried to live a lifestyle they know they can’t afford. They are busy trying to portray themselves as something they know they are not. It leads to destruction, which could be emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially.

Get yourself together and then pray for financial wisdom. There are plenty of people who are constantly in the hole, because every time they get a dime they are spending a quarter. They don’t attempt to budget. They spend everything they get and most times their money is gone before they get it. Get financial wisdom it will change your circumstances! There are many people with an abundance of money, yet they don’t have financial wisdom. It causes them many problems. They too try to keep up with those who they think has something they don’t. People must change their mindsets, period!

If you want to spend every penny you get you won’t ever have anything. If you are trying to keep up with the Joneses it won’t work, you will fail! Live within your means and grow from there. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel you have to pretend when you don’t! Everything you, me, or anyone else acquire on this earth will remain when we leave this earth. We can’t carry one single thing with us, not one!

No one can change your situation but you! If you don’t change your mindset/ways of thinking it hinders and affects everything else. It’s like a person who is on a diet. If they are restricting what they eat to lose weight as soon as they begin to eat again they will gain the weight back and some. It won’t work or last until the mindset has changed, which will change the lifestyle. If the mindset changes then so does everything else! There are far too many people worried about the next person and not enough about self. It goes back to the mindset. If the mindset changes then so will the life of the individual!

Good Or Bad The Past Shapes Us

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Ok, in saying that, I do NOT mean it dictates our future or present. It should not! However, what I am saying is exactly what I wrote “good or bad the past shapes us.” What I mean by this is what a person has endured in their past can have a grave affect on their rest of their lives depending on how it was perceived. A person can make good out of the bad or they can choose a life sentence of bad/negativity. We see it every single day! Many people don’t know how to cope so instead they lash out and project their pain on others through some form of abuse. Not all abuse is physical or sexual. Mental and emotional abuse can be just as devastating and debilitating.

There are a lot of good stories, but there are also a lot of bad stories. Anyone who chooses can make good from any bad situation. My focus is on helping people to overcome the negativity. Everything is based upon the mindset. How people think always affect how they feel and act. No one can change this but the individual.

I would be lying if I said the past doesn’t affect us, it does, but it doesn’t have to be in a negative way regardless of the negativity a person went through. The problem here is many people choose to hang on to the negativity versus moving on away from it. Everything each of us has gone through or will go through is a learning experience. I’ve always told you this! It teaches us what to do or what not to do! Experience is the greatest teacher IF people would choose to learn from it instead of using it as a life sentence of pain and negativity.

If you went through something painful as a child that’s very unfortunate, but my prayer is as a adult you understand you’re no longer a child. What started may have been bad, but through it a lesson is to be learned. If nothing else it is a lesson about people and how they can mistreat you. Just because a person is your mom, dad, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, cousin, grandparents, etc doesn’t mean they mean well by you. We assume so and we hope so, but it doesn’t mean they do or will. People regardless of who they are have their own demons and because they don’t deal with those demons they project their issues onto other people. They were probably victims at some point. Most times people who allow their pasts to wreak havoc in their lives will wreak havoc in the lives of other people. Sadly those other people are often family members sometimes not.

Any person who doesn’t deal with their past issues will live a life of lies and pretense. They will hide the truth because they know the truth is unacceptable and ugly. They KNOW IT! Therefore, they pretend to be something they are not this causes further dsyfunction. As long as a person does this they will never seek change as an option. They will always think as long as their pulling the wool over the eyes of people they are okay. No, this isn’t true! As long as a person pretend they will always live in negativity. It pools onto their children, family, friends, and others.

It is very sad when adults have children they bring into their cesspools ways of living, thinking, feeling, and acting. They taint their children with their toxicity often causing them mental, emotional, and physical harm. No child deserves this! That’s why this world is filled with broken people. People don’t choose to deal with their brokenness. Some people have the victim mentality for all of their lives. The cycle repeats itself.

This is why we see so much hatred, anger, homicide, suicide, depression, etc in this world, People have deep seated issues they refuse to deal with. Then on top of it they are searching for what’s lacking in their lives often latching on to someone as broken as they are. There are plenty people who are NOT coping well at all. Sometimes they end up murdering innocent people, killing themselves, committing road rage, fighting over significant others, cheating, being abusive, and a whole bunch of nonsense. They do these things, because they don’t know how to cope with the dysfunction in their lives. They keep on living and repeating the same cycles not even trying to change. It’s very sad!

Many people will say “you think I choose to be this way!” I will say absolutely yes! Why? It’s because it’s the truth. No one has to accept negativity in their lives. No one has to continue to cause chaos in their lives. No has to be filled with hate and anger. I can list a whole page of things. The moral is no one has to continue a life of negative ways of thinking, acting, and feeling. All of it comes from what lies within you! No matter who help plant the seeds it is the individual who cultivates them to go. Until individuals deal with the root of their problems those problems will continue to exist. Individuals often have their own problems and at the same time will try to deal with the dysfunction of the people they allow into their lives. It never works!

The past is exactly that! You can’t go back to it, but you can relive it in your memories. Our thoughts are formed by memories of something. The power you give them is how they are bound to control your life. A lot of people live as if they are still going through it. They are mad, angry, spiteful, filled with hatred, bitter, full of malice, holding grudges, etc for a life time when the experience is over. They have given complete power and control to their memories allowing their thoughts/ways of thinking to keep them held captive. They are held captive to their ways of thinking. They have formed completely negative mindsets which has affected all parts of their lives. No one on earth has to live in such a negative mindset. It’s up to you, the individual to decide you need to change.

Back to the title at hand. I believe without a doubt good or bad our pasts shape our lives. There’s not one person alive who live a negative dysfunctional life or a life of pretense who hasn’t been affected in a negative way by what they have gone through. They do not have to accept this negativity! Your life, my life, our lives are ours to live. In the beginning many others were involved in some way, regardless of what or who, the individual (you) has the power to overcome and be who you choose to become. Whether good or bad, that choice is the individual’s to make. Unfortunately, many choose a life time of discord when they don’t have to!

My prayer is people stop using their pasts as a crutch. Stop making excuses and stop holding on to negativity. Decide to live a beautiful peaceful life. Troubles will come and go for us all at some point, but nothing is to break us. If we learn from our experiences it will make us into stronger better people. It’s a choice. Even more importantly learn to love self. You can’t be of any good to anyone else in your life until you first learn to love self. Negativity has no benefit for the mind, body, or soul!

God Loves You, You Love The World

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I am not the judge of anyone, but I won’t be a party to the shenanigans or foolishness of anyone. I don’t care who it is! Just because a person doesn’t want to do right doesn’t mean I will go along with their wrong. People need to stop playing church and stop playing with God.

It really saddens me when people don’t realize how they are risking their souls by the lifestyles they are living. People are too busy worrying about what their leaders and other people think of them when half of those people need to be working on self as well. They worry about shining so man can see when man has to stand before God too!

The world is full of people pretending to love the Lord. What people fail to understand is if you love Him you will live for Him, period! There is absolutely no way you can love Him and live any kind of way. You can’t love Him and live a lifestyle against Him. There is no way you can live for Him and be the same! No way, no way, no way! When you live for the Lord everything about you changes. You don’t think, feel, or act the same about anything!

The problem with many people is they do a lot of lip service, but as the Bible say their hearts are far from Him. It shows in their ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. How people choose to live shows who they are really serving.

You can not live a life doing things that are against God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit and think you’re serving God. You are serving god, but it’s the other one you’ve made your master and not the Master Himself! People have fooled themselves into thinking their wrongs are right. Your wrongs will never be right in the sight of God! I don’t care if man follow you; your wrongs are wrong! They will always be wrong until you decide to choose right over wrong!

I will never stand for, support, or follow anyone who professes Christ yet live a life against Him. I will not condone your wrong in no shape, form, or fashion. I can love you, but I will never love your wrongdoings and I will not support what you do.

If you’re going to live for Jesus; live for Him! If you’re not then don’t, it is your choice, but stop acting as if you’re living for Him to please man, because God sees and knows what you’re doing. He’s the Author and Finisher of your fate. He wishes for you to live for Him and so do I, however, the decision is yours. Just because you preach or teach about Him doesn’t mean you’re living for Him. Just because you sing about Him or talk about Him doesn’t mean you’re living for Him. To serve Jesus is a lifestyle change and it’s 24 hours a day. It’s not a part time or sometime thing, it’s a 24 hour thing. You know why? If you’re doing it sometime then you’re against Him and not for Him. Living this way puts you at risk of losing your soul. He’s “coming in the twinkling of an eye and like a thief in the night.” If you’re caught in your state of pretense you will have lost your soul to the world. Nothing or no one in this world is worth it!

A lot of what people do is out of a learnt behavior. They mock God when He is not to be mocked and they mimic the true Saints. They learn how a true Saint conduct His or Herself and they mimic it. They mimic the spirit in all types of ways. They do what they think is pleasing in the eyes of man. Problem for these types of people is God sees it all and it’s not pleasing to Him. He’s weeping at the falling away of people who claim to be servers of Him. No matter how bad things in this world has become, people are still choosing the world.

I pray people turn their lives over before it’s too late. Stand up and on the Word of God without fear and with honesty and truth! I don’t care what it looks like or feels like God is still in control and in charge. The road isn’t always easy nor is it always rough. We are never alone! The Bible says “for the race isn’t given to the swift nor the strong, but to the one who endures to the end.” You can’t stay in a race you’re not in! All of the picking Him up and putting Him down don’t work and won’t work! All of the sometimes serving Him don’t work and won’t work!

You can’t be double minded, or lukewarm; either getting your ears tickled or tickling the ears of others. You only fool yourself NEVER the Father, Son, or the Holy Spirit. We can’t be just hearers of the Word, but we MUST be hearers and doers of the Word. Stop being brainwashed and bamboozled into serving man, because every man’s knee must someday bow.

If you’re trying to straddle a fence then you’re being lukewarm. If you try to live for both the world and Jesus; truth is you’re only living for the world! I’m telling you without regret or doubt you can’t love the Lord and serve the Lord if you’re still a part of what the world has to offer. In your mind you may think you, but in reality you can’t! You’re fooling yourself! Sometimes people will not tell you about yourself. They will talk about you behind your back. I am telling you and the world if you are living this lie that is exactly what it is; a lie! You’re lying to yourself! God is not pleased with lukewarm people. He’s already told us He will “sprew” you from His mouth.

Please don’t be one He turns away and tell you to “depart from me you worker of iniquity for I know you not!’ This moment right here may be your last chance to get it right! Get it right with Jesus, get a daily prayer life, get a personal relationship with Him, love Him above all, and most importantly live for Him; in Jesus name I pray! You can’t get to the Father unless you go through the Son. You can’t get to the Son if you don’t have a personal relationship with Him. Romans 10:9 is only the first step, but it’s the most important first step!

Relationships Built on Unstable Foundations

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Some people are straight delusional. They know they are in rocky relationships yet some choose to go on to marry. It’s an immature move! Some of these people get on social media and tell all of their business. They start off talking about their relationships in positive ways, then a short time later they are talking about their relationships very negatively. I don’t know what people expect. If you start a relationship off in the wrong way, wrong it what it will be! People aren’t getting it because they simply don’t understand.

Individuals get mad when others have opinions of their relationships when they are the ones who put it on social media for the world to see. Even if you don’t necessarily want a comment if you put your business out there people will have something to say. Sometimes people know what the end will be before the individual because they saw the drama the individual chose to ignore.

Many people are getting into relationships trying to find love when they don’t love self. No other person can make you happy when you’re miserable inside. There are many people easily sucked into relationships with the wrong individuals because they can’t see past their feelings and what they want and desire. Oftentimes the individuals they want to be with have just as many issues, which leads to more chaos. They can’t see it because they are blind to the truth.

People will always overlook the truth to satisfy their desires, because to them their feelings and what they want matter more. It’s due to their wrong ways of thinking. They will always seek what they lack in others. No matter how bad it is many of them will fight to stay in their unhealthy relationships. All this does is add to their issues and pain. Yet, these types of people can’t see it until something is so bad they are forced to open their eyes to the truth. Usually it’s way past bad by then.

Sharing love with someone is great, but never if it’s unhealthy. There are many people who are in love with the idea of being in love. Problem is these individuals don’t know or understand what love is. They seek it in others when they actually don’t love self, therefore it’s difficult for them to process the truth even when it’s staring them in the face.

When a person is in tune with self they’ve learned to love self. They become aware of how they think, feel, and act. They become aware of the company they keep and who and what they allow in their lives. This is when a person can see past their feelings to the truth. The signs they see will be accepted as signs and they will adhere to those signs. When a person learns to love self it changes how they see self, people, and the world. It teaches them how to move past anyone who means them no good. They see past looks, titles, statuses, money, and material things, etc, because they know none of it teaches a person to love self and they realize none of it builds a healthy relationship or keep one together.

No one can build a healthy relationship with someone else when they haven’t dealt with their own issues. You can’t be in a healthy relationship when you’re an unhealthy person. Many people have built their relationships on unstable foundations. Then they wonder why they are struggling and going through hell. People will always be in this situation when they haven’t dealt with who they are and learn to love self. They will continue to get into bad relationships with the wrong people with bad outcomes.

When a person continues to go through the same things it’s time to take a look in the mirror. It’s time for s self assessment. Unfortunately many people would rather stay on their road of destruction lashing out and blaming then to embrace the possibility of change. They continue to make bad choices and decisions without realizing why they are doing what they do. It always goes back to the issues within. When people do not deal with their issues their issues will always deal with them by wreaking havoc in their lives.

No one can change you and you can’t change anyone. What I’ve seen in life is people focus hard on either trying to change the other person or trying to be someone they think the other person wants. Neither is a good thing! An unhealthy person is an unhappy person who will live a chaotic dysfunctional life unless they choose to change. No matter who you love or who loves you, no one changes you, but you and no one changes the other person, but the other person!