Unfaithful Accept it or Not

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You know it’s going on long before you act or react to it. A lot of people try to force something that shouldn’t be. They try to make people love them or want to stay when in reality you can’t. Unfortunately some people want to have a blind eye to the truth, it doesn’t make it any different. The truth is the truth. People can choose to do something about it or do nothing at all. Doing nothing at all is still doing something!

Life goes on! You can’t make a person stay or love you. If a person wants out open the door for them. If a person chooses to keep straying lock the door behind them when they go and don’t open it again. I’m not telling anyone to give up on their relationship. What I am saying is when in a relationship if you’re in a constant negative stay of mind it’s time to reexamine your relationship and yourself. When you no longer have any intimacy for your significant other it’s time to reassess. When you’re constantly arguing and fighting, it may be time to move on. If you have no peace of mind, it messes you up mentally, physically, and spiritually. When a person can’t stay faithful to you, then you learn to be faithful to yourself and send them down the road. People treat you how you let them treat you! No excuses!

MEN: Men who cheat almost never fail to show their hand. They simply lose their minds over someone new. They begin to do things they didn’t do before. They become bitter towards who they are with. They treat the one they supposed to love with disrespect and hatefulness. They dismiss the feelings and concerns of the one they are with. They always find an excuse to start an argument or to leave. They do stupid things, period!

Although responsible in some ways some men are still immature. These types of men are different, they are never satisfied with who they are with no matter how good. They want what they want without fully comprehending the risks. They normally try to control the one they are with even though they are out doing their thing. They don’t think things through, they simply go for what they want! They fail to realize the hurt and chaos they will cause. They are more interested in satisfying their flesh. Mature men, understand the risk and choose to be mature men to who they are with.

Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age. Some people take a lot longer to mature. No matter how old some people are they are still led by their flesh. It’s sad! If a person don’t want to be committed in their relationship then they shouldn’t be in one. They should not be in any relationship until they deal with what’s causing them to be the way they are. Those who get into relationships do nothing but cause drama.

Individual’s who are constantly trying to be with other people when they are already in relationships don’t fully love self. If you don’t really love you, you can’t love someone else the way they deserve. These individual’s will always put aside what is right and wholesome to satisfy their flesh. Many people are making bad choices and decisions based on who they really are. What’s going on inside ruins what’s going on outside!

WOMEN: When a woman is with someone she will do all she can to make it work, but if there is no change her attitude will change and then her feelings and actions follow. If she meets someone who an thinks he’s given her what she’s not getting at home some women will stray. Some women will get so fed up they will leave. I thinks it’s wrong to stray or to leave one person for another. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side! Women show their hands too. They begin to stop doing the things they used to do. They find excuses also, they’ll do anything to get away from who they are with.

A lot of the problem with people is many get into relationships for all of the wrong reason. Most times when it’s wrong, the same way it started will normally be how it ends. You can’t expect to get into a relationship the wrong way and something great come from it. Most times it won’t work!

If you can’t love who you’re with, then perhaps you need to move on. Trying to stay where you’re not loved and respected is hard. Staying with someone when you are always straying is wrong. If you’re not happy with who you’re with why stay? I know for many people straying has nothing to do with who they are with, it has everything to do what’s going on inside of self that causes them to be who they are. At the end of the day I don’t care the reason, if a person can’t be faithful, they definitely shouldn’t be in a relationship. Many people in this world miss out on good relationships, because they are hanging on to bad ones!

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Change Or Remain The Same It’s Up to You

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In life many people settle. Some people make no efforts to change. They become content. They want to reap the benefits of others labor, while they stay in the same place OR they continue the old generational ways of doing things with no attempts to change. They envy other people because they don’t like who they are as individuals or they hate others, because in truth they hate self. I find if very sad!

Every one of us has our own individual lives to live. We can choose to waddle in pity, continue to carry the same torch, or we can choose to change the cards dealt to us. No matter the situation a person can change their life. It takes the need to change coupled with the desire to change. It takes willingness and consistency. It’s only as easy or hard as the individual choose to make it. Some people spend more time complaining and blaming others then they do putting forth effort to improve their own lives. Improvement can’t come unless change happens.

There are already life obstacles thrown in our way. People shouldn’t put added pressures on themselves or others due to their unwillingness to change. Too many people hold on to terrible things which keep them stuck and unable to move forward. In order to move forward, people must first deal with what’s causing stagnation in their lives. If you are filled with anger, rage, bitterness, envy, malice, hate, etc you’ve cause stagnation in your life. You can’t go through life weighed down if so it’s like trying to walk through quicksand. It’s impossible! People become stuck in one place.

One of the biggest problems I’ve found with a lot of people is they don’t even attempt to break their generational curses of wrong ways of thinking. You ever seen a supervisor or manager come on a job, instead of implementing change they get on the band wagon and carry on the same foolishness as the previous person in charge, it affects morale and work productivity. This is exactly how many choose to live their lives. They carry their wrong ways of thinking for a lifetime despite the pain it causes self and others. No matter how wrong, many people feel it’s easier to continue to be the way they’ve always been then to change. They become content and comfortable as the years roll by.

In reality it’s not easier, it’s harder and it’s evident by the chaos and destruction seen in their lives. I find selfishness and unwillingness to make an effort to change keep them bound in captivity by self. Many people don’t realize they’ve imprisoned themselves by their negative thought processes. People expect for you to put up with their foolishness. They think how they think, feel, and act is okay when it’s not. These types of people don’t realize they are their own problem and in their own way. They miss out on things in life, because they refuse to change their ways. Many continue to carry hatred, slothfulness, bitterness, envy, and many more negative ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. If they aren’t things passed down from generation to generation they are things individual’s encountered early in life. Either way it has made them embrace negatives ways of thinking. It has caused them chaos and negative states of mind. It all inhibits an individual’s ability to grow!

People of all walks of like are this way. It’s universal! No one can change a person but the individual. People can be influenced, inspired, or motivated by others, but the true decision to change lies with the individual.

The old saying “when you know better you do better.” It’s a lie!! There are plenty people who know better but do NOT choose to do better. This is extremely sad! These types of people continue through life the same. They inflict pain and suffering on others, because it’s what they have bottled up inside. You can’t teach or love it away. The person must choose change for self.

Do You Choose A Breakthrough or Breakdown

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The choice is always yours! We will always go through something for as long as we all live. Our lives have constant peaks and valleys that we must endure. No one on earth is exempt! It’s the way it is. However, how were perceive and receive things determines how we choose to go through them. Our trials and tribulations can make us stronger or break us down. I believe they are meant to make us strong, but people choose to breakdown.

I say choose, because it is a choice. How we handle our adversities can brighten our days or darken our days. In the midst of dark times Jesus is still the light! People want to pull away from others when they are going through. They want to dismiss all encouragement offered, because they choose to embrace their pains of what they are going through. People are oftentimes angry with God, what they fail to realize is God didn’t do it. Yes, you’re allowed to go through things because this world is full of the good, bad, and the ugly, but breaking down as you go through is a choice.

People are already dealing with things in their lives they’ve never resolved. They carry those things with them every where they go. During their journey of life they allow other things to compile on what’s already hindering them. Then when the storm comes they often drown because they can’t tread water to stay afloat. This is when the breakdown occurs.

I believe every single thing we go through is meant for a lesson, even when we make not so smart decisions. If people learn from those things they will grow during their lessons. It will open their eyes, it gives them strength to tackle the next storm. The problem is, so many are led by the flesh (money, sex, love, material things, the many things important to man = titles, positions, fame, fortune etc, some people get obsessed with these things and will do anything to get them). It can all inhibit their ability to see, because they allow their flesh to lead. They want what they want right now. When the flesh leads it causes chaos. People who allow their flesh to lead have a daily struggle with making the right choices and decisions. It’s because they have a lot of things going on inside that are unresolved while they are trying to get whatever it is they want. This can lead to breakdown. The ONLY way a person can grow is first by dealing with the things that have them stuck in their wrong ways of thinking. During this process they learn to love self. They then begin to see that everything else is no longer as important as they once thought it was. They are able to handle things thrown at them, because they understand the difference between what they can control versus what they can’t. If they can’t control it, they know how to deal with it accordingly and keep it moving.

With every single storm sunshine is soon to follow. People don’t have patience, they want to get through their storm. Honestly some people don’t want to go through anything. When people feel this way they oftentimes become burdened. Some people can’t deal with their storms because they are already dealing with unresolved things. They feel overwhelmed. This can lead to stress overload, depression, anxiety, and suicidal and homicidal thoughts. No one situation caused these feelings, they were caused by a plethora of things compiled over the years.

A breakthrough is always at the end of a storm if people learn to weather their storms and not breakdown. Some people feel they constantly live in storms and in a sense it’s true, because they are at odds with self. When people don’t deal with their inner issues it is a constant steady storm. When they have life to happen then it presses them down even further. The only way people can stay afloat is by learning to relieve themselves of those things that are hindering and binding them up in negativity states of mind. No one can move forward if they are always looking behind. No one can move forward with the load they are trying to carry, it’s way too much!

People have to decide the life they were given is theirs and regardless what they must embrace it. It doesn’t belong to another soul. I don’t care what happened or who did it, NO ONE or NOTHING can control your life if you don’t give it to them to control! Over years of experience I’ve found the biggest factor is self love! I believe with everything in me if a person love self they are very aware and careful of who or what they allow into their life. A person who loves self will learn you can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control the stress you allow them to cause in your personal life. You know people will be people. They will smile in your face and stab you in the back at the same time. They will envy, despise, hate, wish they were you, etc. They will manipulate, control, coerce, demand, possess, and obsess. It doesn’t matter what they do, what matters is how you allow it to affect you! You must learn how not to be affected by everything you encounter. If you don’t give your power it can’t be taken! End of story!

Forgiveness is important, it’s most important to you and for you. People must learn to let go of their past pains, because there’s absolutely no benefit of holding on to it. It hinders you for a lifetime. It keeps you stuck in a negative mindset. It keeps you from loving self. It makes you breakdown preventing you from getting your breakthrough. Most importantly it keeps you from growing, if you don’t grow, it means you don’t mentally or spiritually mature. You stay the same! It’s a choice, I pray you choose growth. Storms will come, but surely as they come they will go. People always tend to put more on themselves then they can bear. Don’t let a breakdown be an option!

Going Against the Grain Despite the Signs

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Many people get into relationships knowing full well they see the signs present. Problem is they choose to ignore the signs until they are overwhelmed, overtaken, and consumed emotionally. People willfully put themselves in bad situations expecting good results. It doesn’t work! They go into relationships blindly allowing emotions and feelings to lead.

People who do this has issues they need to resolve. No one can see clearly when they are blind by their feelings and emotions. People who do this oftentimes find themselves in situations they didn’t imagine being in.

Significant others know exactly how to treat the people they are with, because they are taught by those individuals. Significant others who haven’t overcome their own issues will bring their issues into the relationship. Then you have two individuals who are both blind by their feelings and emotions. This leads to destruction. There’s no true ability to communicate when communication is the key to any relationship.

It’s hard to understand what you need when you’re hell bound on getting what you want. Many times people get what they wanted only to find out they don’t want it at all.

I can’t tell people enough the importance of knowing and loving yourself. It’s very important in relationships. A true healthy relationship starts with self. Knowing who you are, being self aware, and loving self helps keep you focused and smart about what you really need. You learn to see beyond emotions and feelings. When you figure you out, people will then sometimes have a problem with you, because they have problems with self. They expect for you to be the way you used to be.

My suggestion to people is to figure self out. Learn to love yourself before you try to commit to and love someone else. Take time to enjoy you. Some people jump from relationship to relationship, because they don’t know how to be alone. I’ve seen it time and time again. People from all walks and caliber of life do this. A lot of times people think folks with a lot of money do things differently. This may be true as for buying things, going places, etc, but as for relationships, many are dealing with the same types of issues. Nothing changes what’s inside, but change itself. Money, fame, fortunate, titles, will not do it. What’s inside is always shown through bad choices and decisions and it doesn’t matter who the individual is or what they have. What a person thinks and feels about self is shown through their choices and decisions. In life they will go against the grain, because they think it’s best for them when it’s not!

Some people don’t care how plain the writing is on the wall to others because they can’t see the writing on the wall for self. They go against the grain out of the love they think they feel. For many it has caused great stress and for some their lives. The signs do not lie! They will present every time, but people ignore them due to their feelings. They think they love the person and they feel they got to have the person. Then they begin to see the chaos and drama in their lives.

Some people don’t attempt to get out of unhealthy relationships, because they are afraid. They are afraid to stand on their own two feet. They are afraid of the person. They are afraid of how they will make it. If you’re afraid for any reason you’re in the WRONG relationship!

No one can give what a relationship deserves when they haven’t yet learned to love self and are not self aware. They will always be led by how they feel, because it will over power everything else making them look at things in a distorted view. People will use and abuse you, because they know you will take it. You teach your significant other exactly how to treat you! If you keep making the same types of decisions and choices it’s a clear sign you’re not learning from your experiences!

We The People or We The Particular People

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It is sad and embarrassing the ways things are going in our country. I thought everyone had the same goal; which is caring for and loving America. Instead, people care more about tearing one another down. I feel American is being torn apart because of those who aren’t standing for American, they are standing for a Party and skin color. This is very sad!

This country is divided and people are filled with hatred. Sadly many are racist and don’t have a clue as to why. Racism is ignorant, but the icing on the cake is to be racist without knowing why. People are going along to get along. They hate people on the basis of their skin color because of what they were taught somewhere down the road by someone. They don’t try to change the negativity or break the negative cycles, they continue with the same negative mindsets. It’s more prevalent today than ever. Sad part is no matter what anyone thinks or how badly they wish it were so, there is no pure race, we’re all mixed with something either a little or a lot! It’s a fact!

The country is divided from the top down. I don’t understand why it’s about the Party and skin color and NOT the people of America as a whole. United We Stand Divided We Fall is very true and it is clearly seen. We are too busy bickering, back biting, pulling down, pushing down, and tearing down one another. It’s horrible!

This also proves what I’ve said and written for years. No matter what position a person holds, what’s in the heart will come out. It’s evident today. We don’t seem to be able to show love to one another in order to get along in peace and harmony. The devil is definitely busy, but people are willfully allowing all of the chaos. They are accepting the chaos and getting on the band wagon of foolishness!

No one race is better than any other race, all races have a certain caliber of people. No political party is better than the other. All parties should be about uplifting America instead of division and breaking it down. People should be ashamed of what they are showing the world and the younger generation. We should come together and stop the bickering! That is the ONLY absolute irrefutable way to truly MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN! It will not happen the way things are going. There is too much division. There is too much hate and not enough love. Love will always conquer hate and fear, but sadly many have lost their way by trying to following people who are clearly showing them things other than love. People are at all cost too fixated on trying to be a part of a particular group versus trying to spread love so we can all come together as one. Loving others is the greatest Commandment! <

We must do better. We can't do it until some mindsets change. When people change their mindsets their hearts will change in the process. We need more love, peace, and harmony. There is foolish, selfish, and senseless killings every day. We need more love! If things continue as they are things will only become worse. I pray for our country. I hope you do too!

Jesus Never Changed to Teach Anyone

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People need to stop the lying! I’m tired of people who know they are still in the world yet pretending to love the Lord. Just because a person says they love Him, it means nothing if they aren’t living it. Listen, if you love Him you will serve Him. You won’t be double minded. You will stand on the Word and you will not waiver for anyone. You can’t serve both Jesus and the adversary the devil. If you think you can you’re wrong and lying to yourself. If you serve the devil when you feel it’s convenient, then you’re on his side! Jesus the Son and God the Father accepts it no other way. You’re either for God and His Son or against Him, there is absolutely no in between!

There are many people in this world who are still doing things of the world, yet they use the Lord’s name in vain pretending to love and serve Him. They do worldly things and pretend it’s to draw the children or a particular group. Please! No, you do it, because you’re still in the world and what you’re doing is worldly and what you are really about is the world. You may fool some people, but you’re NEVER fooling the Son or the Father! Jesus knows exactly what you’re doing! Then you wonder where is your power, you can’t activate something you don’t possess. You can’t possess what you haven’t yet received and accepted. All of the shenanigans people display pretending and mocking God is for man.

People continue to want to change this and that to appease man. They want to add to and take away from the Word when God said don’t do it! Show me anywhere in the Bible where God acted differently to preach or teach any particular group of people. The people in the world constantly change jumping from one thing to another, because they go with whatever pleases them the most at the moment, but God is unchanging. The WORD is unchanging! People can believe the hype that the world is changing and you have to change with it if they want too. Although it may be true, people are doing things against the Word therefore against the Father to please others and self. No matter the changes occurring it doesn’t mean you EVER have to go against God’s Word to please or appease ANYONE. When it comes to the Word of God, you just can’t twist and turn it. It is what it is, has been, and always will be (unchanging)!

There are no specific ways set aside for the children, young adults, or older people. He teaches the same across the board for all people. His Word is just that and it fits all people. This is one reason I never believed in children’s church. There shouldn’t be any division. This is man’s doing NOT God’s, because Jesus never used a special teaching for anyone.

Those who are still in the world have worldly views about how the people of the church should conduct themselves. They have worldly views on how the church should operate. Their views are normally based according to how they allow the flesh to rule in their lives. Their focus is on the pastor and NOT the Master. They are too busy trying to please man. They do as the world says do and NOT God!

Excuses Won’t Matter or Work

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This past weekend I was looking at some videos sent to me on some so called pastors. Yes, I will say so-called, they are the ones who call themselves pastors, but they aren’t called of God. How do I know? I know because when you’re living for the Lord and you’re called you won’t be doing what you once did and on top of it; making excuses for what you’re doing. Those who are on Jesus’s side are not trying to please man and they certainly don’t use excuses for why they are still doing worldly things. Only people who are still in the world display such behavior. It won’t get you off the hook. You will pay for the choices you make.

Judging, this normally comes out of the mouth of those who are still in the world, but always making excuse for self and those like them. When serving Jesus, you’re either in or out. There’s none of the other stuff. If people are trying to give people encouragement, enlightment, motivation, insight, etc to do a self examination it is not judging. It is not judging to call people out on their bull, especially in relation to the Word of God. Only those who are not doing what thus saith the Lord complains it’s judging. Those excuses will not give you a go for going to Heaven. It will give you an exit the other way!

He’s still a man. This irks me! It has nothing to do with a man being a man when serving God. Flesh is flesh, period, and it’s what most are led by. People want to make excuses for men and women who are still doing worldly things. Listen, if you’re on Jesus side and you really love Him the way you profess, then you will do what’s right when that ole devil try to make you do wrong. You will not be led by your flesh. Those who are easily led by their flesh makes excuses for what they do. Accept who you really are when you’re still doing worldly things. You do it because you’re still in the world, point blank! Those who are making excuses for people doing wrong by blaming they are still flesh and bone are people who are also in the world and doing worldly things. Children of God know better! They don’t allow the flesh to lead them. They know they have a certain criteria they must live by and they won’t allow anyone or anything to hinder their walk with the Lord. It’s sad when people make excuses for themselves or for others who are outwardly doing wrong with no regards of their salvation. You can’t serve God and do what the world does, you just can’t!

Another excuse will land many in hell is “no one’s perfect.” This is an excuse to keep doing wrong, but I tell you one thing it won’t work when standing before the Lord. We are made in His image, therefore we are capable of doing right, making right choices, and living holy lives. It’s not forced, but if you live for Him you must want it and you must take on the characteristics of a changed individual. There’s absolutely no other way! You have to be born again, you must be changed from the ways of the world (the ways you used to be). People can’t continue to use the crutch of not being perfect, they will find themselves hobbling and wobbling right on into hell (you and your crutch). This crutch will not save you from hell!

I don’t care what anyone says if you’ve made up your mind and you are on the Lord’s side than your life will be a reflection of it. No one or nothing will influence or coerce you into going against God the Father, His Son Jesus, or the Holy Spirit. ALL aspects of your walk will change. Honestly I don’t know what the problem is that prevents people from living right other than THEY JUST DON’T WANT TO! I’ve never ever once looked back into the world. I’ve never wanted to. I’ve had plenty of temptations, but I’ve never succumbed to any. I live to live again. I live to see my Jesus face and not just for when I stand before Him, but to reign with Him forever, that is my goal! I don’t give in to my flesh, because I know the tricks of the enemy. I call ole satan out for who he is, every single time! I don’t care how he comes, you have to put him in his place! The more you do this, the stronger you will become and the more power and anointing you will have in your life. You have power and authority by Jesus Christ, use it!

The Bible says “He’s coming in the twinkling of an eye.” We’ve seen it over and over in the lives of others, yet people are still acting as if it doesn’t apply to them. It applies to you, you, you, and me! No one is exempt. He’s coming back for each and every one of us. If your house isn’t in order then you’ve made your choice. If He catches you with your work undone, then you made your choice. If He comes and you’re still doing what the world does, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you’re still using people are judging you as an excuse, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you’re still using not being perfect as an excuse, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you haven’t chosen Him, then you’ve made your choice. The decision is up to each of us, it’s not forced. We have to want to serve him of free will! Remember, your excuses won’t matter or work!