Blind by Feelings can Lead to a Deadly Outcome

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Yes, I am writing on this again. My daughter called me and told me someone who worked in her building was murdered by her boyfriend. The female went to the home they both had previously shared to retrieve her belongings and as soon as the guy answered the door, he shot her point blank in the face. This is so awful, sad, and could have been avoided.

I’ve always said and will continue to say is if you wait until things get bad in a relationship you may never get to leave. You may die in the relationship. Everyone has signs concerning our relationships, whether we adhere to them is another thing.

When initially starting a relationship people must first know who they are (self). You must first love yourself, know and understand the difference between your wants, desires, and needs. Most people don’t have a clue there are differences. When people don’t first love self, they are looking for something in somoene else that they don’t possess in self. They are led by emotions and feelings. They think because it looks good or feels good it is good for them. Wrong!! They are led solely by their flesh! They get into relationships with the wrong people for the wrong reasons.

People get into bad relationships thinking they can save or change the individaul. They think their sex is so great or whatever they’re offering is so great it will change the other person. No, it doesn’t work! You may give a person a reason to want to change, you may encourage them to change, but change ONLY occurs because the person needing to change decided it was time. If they change before they are ready they will ALWAYS revert back to who they really are, because the change was for you and not for them.

You can love a person with everything in you, it’s NOT enough if they’re an individual with a lot of issues. They need to work on self, therefore until they do they will ALWAYS have chaos following them where they go. You can’t fix, save, or change them. Those who get involved with these types of individuals oftentimes have their own issues as well. Let me put it this way. Those who stay definitely have their own issues. People who know who they are as individuals (self) will adhere to the signs and run for the hills!

I don’t care what you feel about a person, make sure you can see through the fog. People will ALWAYS in some form or fashion show you who they are and show you their tendencies early on. If you’re blind by your feelings and overwhelmed then you will most likely NOT see the signs staring you in the face! This is why people get into relationships for all the wrong reasons, with the wrong people, and in the wrong ways. They are being led by their thoughts and feelings about the person while missing all the signs the person is giving as to who they are.

People are cussed out, disrespected, physically assaulted, obssessed over, controlled early on, they are kept from other people, etc. etc. This isn’t love. Some individuals think it’s cute how a person goes crazy over them to the point of wanting to fight someone. They think it’s cute a person tells them what to wear, who they can and can’t be around, tell them what to do or demand them to do this or that. They think it’s cute how the person wants to spend all their time with them and not allow them around anyone else. They think the person playfully cursing them or smacking them is okay when they present it in a playful way. I can go on for days. These are signs of what’s to come. It is NOT LOVE! It’s a clear indication of what you can expect in the future.

The problem is many people stay; they try to work it out. Then they get to a point where they’ve stayed too long. The person is possessive, obsessive, controlling, and ALL THE ABOVE, now it’s a problem with leaving. People are afraid to leave because they know how the person will react. Some stay because they want security or they like what the person does for them, completely looking over the fact how they are treated. Many, many people have died in their unhealthy relationships when they shouldn’t have. They should have left long before the point of no return.

Stop being quick to tell a person where you live and other information you should keep to yourself until you really know who you’re dealing with. Stop being quick to have sex with people thinking it will make them want you; sex hasn’t EVER kept a relationship together. People will act according to what you tell them you want so they can give you exactly what you say you want TO GET YOU! The very thing you tell them you went through many will put you through, they will manipulate you into a relationship, because you allowed it before.

Both parties are to blame. They will be who they are, but you should always leave when you see potential for trouble. People show you who they are, but many think it’s a fluke, (a one time thing). NO it’s the real deal and many will see it! People show potential problems that individuals ignore! There are consequences of failing to adhere to the signs. People end up in miserably unhealthy and unhappy relationships or they end up dead!

Not every person with issues will allow nonsense in their lives. Some people despite their many issues still has sense enough to walk away. Thank God! However, there are a lot of people who won’t walk away. They stay and endure unnecessary drama from individauls they think they love.

People must wake up!!! Deal with your many issues before getting into relationships. Face your problems and work them out, because your problems and your significant other problems together can be a ticking time bomb! People with a lot of unresolved issues ends up with other people with unresolved issues. People are eager and some desperate for love, when they don’t really love self. People will treat you EXACTLY how you allow.

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Holding on to the Past Affects Your Present

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Too many people do this! Many people focus on what has happened. Many people live this way entertaining a life long pity party. They can’t move forward, because they are stuck in the past. A past that no longer exists! It’s true! I’m not ever going to say the past didn’t exist or people didn’t go through what they’ve gone through. What I’m saying is the past itself is just that! It is gone! People must learn to stop giving power to the memories of their pasts. The more power you give to anything it controls you!

Many adults don’t give themselves chances to have the happy and fulfilled lives they should have, because they are fixated on what was! They’ve allowed the memories of their past experiences to control their possibilities for wonderful lives. They ruin their lives by their wrong ways of thinking. They are mad and angry over things that are long over. Hanging on to such junk is like drinking a bottle of liquid self destruction and expecting not to be affected by it.

It’s time people learn to let go of negative things. No matter who HAVE hurt you in the past, it’s you whose now hurting yourself. Your life is your life! All of us can choose to stay stuck or move on. Bitterness destroys!! The more power you give to negative thoughts the more they control you and keep you stuck in negative states of mind.

Some of you may say I don’t know or understand what you’ve gone through. You are correct, I don’t know! However, I know we all have a story we can tell. I do know and understand hurt, disappointment, unfairness, suffering, rejection, abuse, and many things that affects us. Although things may hurt us or even scar us, life goes on. Wounds heal if you stop picking at it! Pain subsides if you stop giving it power! Memories fade if you stop giving them life by constantly reliving them!

Feelings of hurt, pain, and suffering are universal. No one is exempt! People learn to move on by letting go. It’s 100% okay to feel the pain, however; when it defines you and controls your life it’s no longer okay. People who hurt people; are hurt people. Get it? It’s a vicious cycle!

It’s easier for people to believe they have to remain the way they are then for them to believe they can change. No matter the chaos people get content in their old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. They know change means having to do something different. It means putting forth intentional efforts to be better! If you don’t choose change the only option is to remain the same. No matter who a person blames; the way an individual chooses to be is the individual’s choice.

Choosing to move on doesn’t negate the fact things happened. What it does is it puts the power back where it belongs; in your hands! Never allow someone or something power over you! Learn and gain strength from everything you go through, don’t let it render you powerless. The ONLY power anyone or anything has over you is the power you give!

Nobody to Man Somebody to God

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Sadly we are all looked at and judged according to who we know and who we are to people. Many people don’t get opportunities because other people don’t consider them as “somebody.” They may be as talented or even more talented, but if they’re not well known they are considered a “nobody.” People miss out on what great individuals have to offer when they categorize individuals this way. I think this is one of the worst things people can do to one another and it’s a very shallow way of thinking.

People of the world make it all about who they know. They want to be associated with well known people. They gravitate to people they believe are well known. Why? I believe it’s because of what individual’s feel about self. They think they need to be associated with someone with who is well known for their own recognition or just to say they know the person. It’s sad! A lot of people invest a lot of time in others, but none in Jesus or developing self. They focus on what man says, does, and thinks.

When individuals like people according to their statuses it’s how people end up with big heads thinking they are better than others. It’s how people end up high on man made pedal stools. Many begin to act as if they know everything, simply because of the pedal stools they’ve been put on. Some become gods to the people following them. None of it impresses or pleases God the Father.

No title or status changes what’s inside. It’s why we continuously see people of status from all walks of life doing stupid stuff. Many folks busy trying to rub elbows with individuals because of their statuses or titles when many of those individuals have as many or more issues than they do. Facts!!!

In the sight of man as long as they consider you to be “somebody” they love you. You can say anything or do anything and people will eat it up. Yet another person who isn’t considered as “somebody” can say or do say the exact same thing and people will have nothing to say. I think it’s very ridiculous!

God doesn’t look at us this way, He has no respect of persons. With Him there’s only one big happy family. We are all His Children, but we individually choose whether to be Children of God. He allots us this choice! All the other titles the world wants to give people means absolutely NOTHING to Jesus the Son and God the Father! We may have favor for something, it doesn’t mean God favors you over anyone else. He does not! He doesn’t look at us this way! In Him there’s no big I’s and little u’s!

People want validation from man. People want to feel as if they’re a part of something when they associate themselves with known people. In my opinion those who feel this way need to work on self. Stop being shallow minded and accept people for who they are, period! Stop looking at statuses and positions; choosing to like a person according to what they are considered to be to the world.

When we die none of what is gained here on earth will matter. None of it will matter when we leave this life. If you haven’t served the Master by living according to his Word, nothing else will matter. People keep on living as if they will never die. People are too busy trying to gain man’s approval and validation, yet they aren’t concerned with living pleasing in the sight of God!

Don’t worry about man thinking you’re a nobody, you are somebody to God. He loves you! Those same people the world deems “somebody” will someday depart this life like everyone else! There’s no bartering, bargaining, or buying your way out of leaving this world. Not one single person has the power to stop it! How well a person is known won’t stop it!

If you continue to be caught up in who man says you are or who man says someone else is; you won’t ever be able to be who God wants you to be! Stop worrying about what man says and focus on pleasing Lord Jesus!! He loves us and doesn’t want any of us to lose our soul’s. The world cares about pleasing the flesh, God cares about spiritual house that our physical houses will someday depart!

Your Inside Issues Causes Chaos Outside

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This post is intended for anyone who can relate regardless of status. People must learn not to worship others. All the time and energy put into loving, praising, and worshipping other folks, a person should put into learning to love self. One thing most fail to realize is the people they worship have their individual issues too! They aren’t perfect and they seek the same things everyone else seeks (whatever they consider as peace, love, and happiness). It’s crazy how individuals are worshipped because of who people think they are!! Just because individuals are followed, researched, worshipped it doesn’t mean you know them. As I’ve said before, sometimes people want so badly to be someone when that someone they want to be wants to be someone else.

Many people will do anything to become known. People chase the fame, then they can’t handle it once they get it. People will do anything for what they think is love, only to find themselves in unbearable relationships. None of it it won’t or don’t change what’s inside. What’s inside always comes out if it’s not dealt with; and despite who you are it will ruin lives and relationships.

This is why many people succumb to drugs, alcohol, and a host of other things as a way to cope. People already have issues inside, yet they are chasing fame or trying to maintain their fame, recognition, approval, or most of all love. A lot of people become known only to find out it does absolutely nothing to change their life long issues. It’s the same with people chasing after love, they get what they assume is love and realize it’s not love at all. All of the pressures add to the issues they’ve already been dealing with. The notoriety or relationships doesn’t take away the pain inside. It doesn’t fill the void inside. What’s inside spoils everything else if it’s not attended to and will always affect an individual’s life.

People allow themselves to be put up on pedal stools they shouldn’t of ever been on, when they see it’s hard to stay on those pedal stools they can’t deal with it. They can’t deal with maintaining their pedal stools, rejection, or ridicule from the world, so they turn to different ways to cope. This normally intensifies their current issues.

People who are chasing after love find that trying to maintain their relationships is much harder than they ever imagined. It too intensifies their current issues causing them more stress and more problems.

People think the change of scenery, new people, new places, new positions, new statuses, money, relationships, etc, etc, will help. No, it won’t! You can have everything brand new it will not work when you’re still the old you!!!!!

I encourage anyone who is dealing with lifelong issues to work on resolving them before they pursue love or anything else in life. No one can hide from self. If the old you hasn’t changed, no matter what happens in your life your issues will spill out and wreak havoc. You can’t love anyone effectively if you don’t love yourself. You can’t be happy in any situation if you’re not happy with yourself. Those issues will always manifest and show up in your life whether famous, successful, average Joe, rich, or whomever or whatever you may be!

Christianity Is Not a Cult, It’s How It’s Taught

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I know I’m stepping on some toes. Good!! People need to wake up! I’m so sick and tired of hearing people say they left Christianity for this and that reason. Stop making excuses; you left because you were persuaded to by your god or by someone else! You left because it is what you wanted to do. Stop blaming people, the church, and Christianity! When you put your salvation in the hands of your leaders and other people then negativity and disappointment is what you’re bound to get!

The Bible says “everyone who cries Lord Lord will not enter the Kingdom.” You know why? It’s because they aren’t living according to His will. They are the hearers, not the hearers and doers. They are the double minded, they are the wishy washy people, they are the ones trying to straddle the none existing fence, and they are the ones mocking God. They are the leaders and those who warm the pews Sunday after Sunday. The leaders teach well and they act the part very well, but many aren’t living according to God’s Word. The one’s sitting under their leaders are going to church to please their pastor’s and NOT God the Father and Jesus the Son! They are blind by the truth!

People must wake up and stop blaming the church when you SHOULD have the church within you! Where you attend or go is ONLY a place of worship to gather and fellowship. The church is within a Saint twenty four hours a day.

Many people go to churches of man and NOT churches of God, then they want to blame the church for their disappointments and bad spirits in the churches. Most churches of today are businesses about the mighty dollar and NOT our Mighty God and Lord and Savior! Churches of today allow anything into the church. The churches are ran more worldly than anything else. This alone tells you it’s not of God! Leaders are living any kind of way, speaking all kinds of trash from their mouths, and doing everything they know is against God. Yet, people are sitting under their leaderships praising and worshipping these leaders. They can’t see anything wrong with what’s going on and they are offended when you tell them the truth! If it’s not scripture then it’s NOT of God! When people know Jesus for themselves they should know better and do better! It’s not about pleasing man, it’s all about pleasing our Lord and Savior! Stop getting angry because of man when it is who many of you are worshipping and praising. When you worship and praise man expect to be let down!

Many church leaders are controlling their members. They literally tell them what they can and can not do. It’s because they are being taught as if it’s a cult. They are under the leadership of someone who isn’t under the leadership of Christ. When leaders make it all about self and material prosperity they leave out Christ! They only say enough to make people think it’s about Jesus when “the proof is in the pudding.” People must wake up and read the Bible for self! Don’t go to hell following people who aren’t following Christ. Stop allowing yourselves to be brainwashed and bamboozled! False leaders will definitely be charged, but you too will pay the prize for following him or her!

There are many people who can’t see the truth, because as I have said many times before, they’ve made their pastors their masters! People are led astray due to emotions and feelings about their leaders, churches, etc. Their leaders are saying things to “tickle their ears,” but doing nothing to feed their souls. Your soul salvation isn’t the responsibility of your leader, because he or she can’t give you salvation. Your salvation is your own responsibility and it’s free; the price has already been paid by Jesus Christ! Your leader knees will someday bow before the Father and the Son just like yours! Don’t let your leaders lead you to hell!

Will you continue to believe and put all your trust in man or will you begin to truly trust and believe in God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit? Don’t allow your leaders, anyone else, or anything to lead you to hell. The devil has his angels and they are working for him doing whatever they can to get you to lose your soul for this world. Don’t let it happen to you. Stand up for Jesus and stand firmly on HIS Word and NOT the word of man! People willfully are being brainwashed, because they subject themselves to the word of man and NOT God the Father! People have given their leaders a position belonging ONLY to the True and Living God the Father Almighty!

Seeking Love in a Loveless Relationship

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I don’t know how many ways to say it or write it. You’re being treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. Loving him or her isn’t enough when they don’t love you. Stop putting yourself in situations where you’re used and taken advantage of. Stop giving everything you have thinking it will make him or her feel about you the way you feel about them. It won’t!

Love is only a figment of your imagination when you’re not loved in return. Far too many people are in loveless relationships. It’s loveless when it’s one sided. You loving him or her means nothing if they don’t love you back. If you loved yourself you wouldn’t ever allow someone to treat you any way they want. If you loved yourself you wouldn’t be desperate to be loved by someone who doesn’t love you.

Look at yourself and deal with you! Stop trying to love someone and give them your heart when you don’t even love yourself. You and your heart will be trampled on. Love isn’t one sided, not at all. A person who truly loves you knows it’s a word with action, which does NOT mean using you and taking you for granted. People who treat you this way are all for self, it doesn’t involve loving you. They know what they want and they know it’s not you! Stop selling yourself short! A significant other will stay in a relationship knowing full well their minds and hearts are many moons away! A person will ONLY treat you how you allow them to treat you! If you have no standards or requirements, then you get none! It’s as simple as that!

In these types of relationships, there is always someone else in the equation. The people you’re involved with always have other agendas. Matter of fact, they are people who aren’t happy with self. They too don’t know how to give or receive love. Love starts with you; the individual. You must be able to love yourself before you can effectively and in a healthy manner love someone else! If you don’t you will take or do anything in the name of love; when it’s not love at all!

The problem with many folks is they are too busy seeking something most never really experienced before. Instead of focusing on self they put all emphasis on the person they chose, when technically that person hasn’t chosen them. Regardless of how good a person makes you feel, if they don’t feel the same as you, it’s not about you. Sadly many people try to force something with someone when it was ever meant to be. This is why many are in unhealthy and loveless relationships.

The person you love is definitely some of the problem, but your biggest problem is yourself. People get all wrapped in their feelings and emotions allowing them to take control. Anything you have given your power to has control over you, (feelings, emotions, people, things). People who never really loved you or wanted to be with you will always show it in some way or show how. Those who deny it are denying the truth! It’s why they are in loveless relationships. They believe it’s love, but it’s not! Many people hold themselves back from true love trying to hang on to somone who wasn’t ever intended for them.

If They Don’t Want You, They Don’t Want you

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Nothing you do will work and you’re wasting your time! A lot of people are in relationships and they are unhappy, they are doing everything they can think of to hold on to the individual, yet it’s not working. Guess what? Unless the individual loves you and wants to be with you, nothing you do will matter.
The individual will take whatever you offer, but they still won’t want to be with you! People need to stop acting powerless and clueless. Face reality and accept things as they are. Life goes on! Stop walking around with your eyes open, but not seeing a thing because you’re blind by your feelings.

Most people are in bad, unhealthy, and unhappy relationships because they are trying to do everything they can to keep someone who doesn’t want to be with kept by them.

Sometimes people think if they sex them enough it will keep them.
No, it won’t! Sometimes people think if they buy them a lot of things it will keep them. No it wont! Sometimes people think if they forsake their family and friends it will keep them. No it won’t! Sometimes people think if they have a child it will keep them. No it won’t! Sometimes a person thinks if they dumb down it will keep them. No it won’t! Sometimes a person thinks if they do things against their morals and beliefs to please him or her it will keep them. No it won’t! Sometimes people think if they are at their beckoning call it will keep them. No it won’t! Nothing you do will matter when you do not matter!

If you feel a need to buy a person’s love, then you’re in the wrong relationship! If you feel you need to forsake yourself and lose you to be with someone, you’re definitely with the wrong one. You can give the world, it will never be enough, if the person doesn’t want you.

Know your worth and value. If you de-value yourself you will be treated how you treat yourself. Who you consider your significant other may not consider you there’s. You’re treated exactly how you’ve allowed.