When you Don’t Love Yourself


It is apparent to most people, but not apparent to the individual. Most people think they have it all together, however the truth is told in the decisions people make about their lives. People are quick to say they want to know the truth until you give it to them, then they are upset with you.

There are many people in this world who are seeking love and many unfortunately think they’ve found it. My question is how do you know what love is from someone else when if you first don’t love yourself or haven’t really experienced it from anyone?

People focus on receiving love from others, but not on loving self. Other people will treat you exactly how you allow. I don’t care how good you treat someone else people will play with your heart, feelings, and emotions for as long as you allow. Why you may ask? It’s because they too have issues they need to face. If a person don’t know what love is they will accept what they are getting as love.

This is why we see many women and men getting with people who abuse them or kill them. They also abuse or kill their children. This is why we see people getting with individuals who drain them financially, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Again, people do to you what you allow. What they think is love simply is not!

When a person is desperate for love they will do anything to get it. This is a person who doesn’t love his or herself. There’s no way possible a person can love his or herself an allow someone else to mistreat them or their children. No way on earth! People who love self no their worth!

You shouldn’t have to buy love. By the way it’s impossible to buy love, people think they can. They aren’t buying love, they are buying the other person. Stop giving and watch what happens! You shouldn’t have to ever deal with abuse, disrespect, belittling, controlling individuals, obsessed or possessive individuals, or people who cause you or your loved ones harm. None of it signifies love in no kind of way.

A lot of people don’t know what love is, because it’s how they were brought up and unfortunately they got comfortable with it and settled for it. What I mean is as people get older who they choose to become falls on them. We can stay the same or we can choose to change. Point blank! People who do not embrace change carry baggage from one place to another continuing to pile up the drama in their lives and the lives of others.

If a person doesn’t love his or herself they will take and take either until some tragic happen or their eyes become open and they realize the unhappy relationship they are in. If you don’t love yourself people will sense your vulnerability and many will prey on you. Other people can sense when a person is eager in their quest for love. The people who prey have their own issues as well, but the individuals who become involved with them can’t see their issues, because they can’t see their own.

Love is many things, but it’s never abusive, disrespectful, controlling, demanding, obsessive, or possessive. It can’t be brought with money or material things. If you don’t love yourself it’s time to look in the mirror and deal with you! No one can fix you, but you!

Think about why are you allowing someone to treat you the way they are. Think about why you are settling. You will find it starts and ends with you! A person may try one time, but if you love yourself, you will nip it in the bud asap! Don’t allow your feelings and emotions to blind you to the truth. If you do you will always find yourself getting in a bad situation or staying in one. As I always say; face that man or woman in the mirror and accept a change needs to occur!


Don’t let the World be Your Downfall


I know a lot of people get sick of me talking about this. God wishes for none of us to perish. Too many people are against Him in these days and times. It saddens me how some people simply don’t believe while others who claim to believe act as if they don’t. They live something opposite of what they profess. They pretend to be one way when they are actually another.

God can’t use any of us if we are “lukewarm.” In His Word He says “He will spew you from His mouth.” He despise “lukewarm” and it is going to be the downfall for many. People choose the world when everyday people are corrupting the world and it is being filled with more and more evil workings of people. People profess to love Jesus and God the Father, yet they live the lives of hypocrites. In all honesty can’t use anyone who is living this way.

Too many people make excuses for being how they choose to be. It’s all an excuse to continue to live for the world. None of us can live eternally with Jesus if we are trying to straddle the invisible fence I often mention. People who do this are only fooling themselves because God knows and sees it all.

This world isn’t worth losing your soul over. If Jesus isn’t worth a person serving with honesty and truth, then they don’t have a chance with anything else! Jesus is the ONLY way and none of us can get to the Father lest we go through the Son.

Every little thing a person who claims to love Jesus does to try an please man or hide from man is sealing their fate for sure damnation if they don’t change. Stop being a man pleaser and be a loyal Jesus pleaser. Stop trying to hide from man when Jesus sees every move you make. It doesn’t make sense and people obviously have such a profound disconnect until they think they are pulling the wool over Jesus eyes! It just isn’t possible!

If the world is who your flesh chases after then it is who you love the most. That means you’re not on Jesus side. It means you’re against Him and not for Him. It means if you don’t change you will gain the world, but lose your soul.

Our home here is only temporary. We all have a permanent home waiting and we decide now where it will be (Heaven or hell). When the curtain of life falls for the last time it is done and over; we get no more opportunities to change. We will have sealed our fate. Each day is a day to make the right decision. Each day we get is Him showing us how much He loves us; He gives us a chance to get right with Him. Still people continue to play with God.

Even if you say you choose Jesus if you’re double minded and living something other than what you profess you have NOT chosen Him. If you are living this way you DO NOT love Him. I don’t care what you say or think you DO NOT love Him and He isn’t pleased with what you’re doing! Please get right before it’s too late!!

Blaming Keeps You Stuck


When a person blame others for who they’ve become they hold back self. They don’t afford self the opportunity to change, because they become stuck and fixated. No one and I mean no one can become who they are meant to be if they are stuck in mental states of blaming other people for who they are.

As I’ve said and written many times before, I believe people and situations can contribute to who people become, however the ultimate decision is the individual’s. No one on earth is exempt from struggles, troubles, adversities, trials and tribulations, woes, sorrows, hardships, misfortunes, tragedy, or whatever you want to label them. We all will go through things and unfortunately sometimes they are things done to us by other people. Still; how we choose to hold on to things is determined by the individual NOT the other people.

We all have our own lives to live. If a person put all their time and energy to reliving and rehashing old things; they give power to it. Many think they are hurting the other person/people by being angry and acting out, truth is people who do this are hurting self the most. If a person live their life blaming other people they do not have the chance to change. These types of people spend years of their lives blaming other people instead of changing and making their lives better.

No matter what you go through it doesn’t have a grip on you, people choose to grip and hold on to those things; even though they are long gone and the benefit of holding on is none. Many people spend their entire lives angry over things that happened years and years ago. They can’t mature or grow, because they are stuck in unhealthy mindsets.

Regardless of what a person goes through if they don’t deal with whatever it is/was they will go a lifetime allowing it to affect them. No one has to live this way. Many people give power to those things and the pain and memories become so strong it consumes them. They become angry and bitter and it sickens them like a disease. They spend all of their time sulking and complaining. They are miserable and unhappy, yet they continue to blame without ever trying to get control of their lives. Many bring children into the world and raise them just like they are to be sad, depressed, angry, and bitter about life.

We all have the ability to change if it is what we choose. No one can take your power if you do not give it! People must take back their power from their pasts. Okay, you went through what you went through, but it’s over now. I’m not downplaying it, I’m not saying it wasn’t traumatic, I’m not saying it didn’t happen, I’m not saying any of it. I am saying the actual event is over, yet people allow their memories to keep them trapped in a time warp as if the event is happening in their present.

I can talk about it because I’ve been their, however I have never been one to blame. I could have, but I didn’t and I never have. I can tell you things I’ve gone through you wouldn’t believe, but yet here I am telling you that you don’t have to allow it to ruin your life. I could be angry, bitter, and all of it, but I choose otherwise. I can’t let anyone take my spirit from me, because they didn’t put my spirit in me. People allow what they’ve gone through to suck the life out of them, when they don’t have too!

You decide you want better, embrace better, and then do better! Accept whatever has happened, forgive people, and forgive yourself. When you forgive people it heals you. You can’t move towards change by holding on to what once was!

Trust He’s All You Need


I know in life some days are easier than others. If anyone says everyday is great, they are lying. We all have good and bad days, but in the midst of the bad days, God is still good! Many people add to their problems by the choices and decisions they make. There are a lot of people who are broken and sad. Many of them want to give up, but I encourage you to hang on in there.

Although His time isn’t ours, He doesn’t think like us, He’s still an on time God. He doesn’t always come when we want Him, but He’s always on time. He didn’t say he will supply our want’s but He did say He would supply our needs. A lot of people don’t know what they want, they continue to make bad choices and decisions, but God and His Son Jesus knows what we need.

God gave His only begotten Son Jesus and He’s everything we can ever imagine or think we need. He’s love when we feel no one cares, because many don’t have support or people to love them, He always loves us. Man’s love is conditional, however; the love of God and His Son Jesus is unconditional. He’s shelter in the time of storms, which doesn’t necessarily mean physical shelter, but it means spiritual shelter/protection. He’s our water when we are thirsty, this doesn’t necessarily mean running water, but the water of life from the depth of the well of water He supplies so we thirst no more.

He’s a friend to the friendless, a mother to the motherless, father to the fatherless, and so forth. He’s our first, last, beginning, and end. He’s our all and all. He’s our wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and many great things we all need. He’s a healer in our times of sickness, He’s our Comforter through the Holy Spirit. He’s peace when things seems a little much, He’s joy, that’s why you should never let anyone take from you what they never gave you in the first place. Many people feel lonely because they get all into their feelings, but we don’t ever have to feel this way because we aren’t ever alone.

I can go on and on, but I hope you understand what I am trying to relay. He is everything we need. It is up to us who say we believe to trust, lean, and depend on Him. Everything we ask for isn’t necessarily what we need, trust that Jesus knows what’s best for you. Stop getting angry with Jesus, because when you do you’re allowing the flesh to lead. When you’re angry with Jesus you’re allowing the devil to steal your joy. Believe Jesus to be “the Great I AM, because that’s exactly who He is.

No one ever said when you live for Jesus your life would be trouble free. We still go through, but instead of trying to fix your situation trust and believe Jesus got it! He can handle it if you turn it over.

Stepping Stones Into Stumbling Blocks


I hope all is well. I am actually recuperating from surgery. I am doing well it’s a 6 week recovery. However, I wanted to post since I didn’t post last week.

I wanted to encourage someone today. I find through communicating with many people they have allowed their stepping stones to become stumbling blocks. People have a tendency of doing this mostly out of fear.

Stepping stones are things on your individual journeys that are meant to move you from point A to B. They are often there to set a person up for another phase in life. They are meant to be temporary. They provide opportunity for growth and they open doors. Sometimes they may not be what a person really want, however they are only temporary moments setting you up for something greater. Problem is a lot of people get frustrated because of what the stepping stone entails. Some people may feel they deserve more. They oftentimes feel it’s beneath them. Sometimes people feel it’s too much. People don’t want what comes along with it. Bottom line is people forget they’re only pumping their brakes, it’s not supposed to be a stopping point.

Stumbling blocks are things that come along which oftentimes make people want to question why they do what they do. They make people feel like throwing in their towel. They are hindrances and forms of blockages keeping people from getting to the next level. People sometimes feel defeated, they get discouraged. Stumbling blocks can knock people down and out if it’s what they allow.

Truth is stepping stones are a way to build us up for the next level. Unfortunately most people allow their temporary stepping stones to become their stumbling blocks when they were never meant to be. People get opportunities and because of fear, self doubt, lack of faith, lack of esteem and confidence they allow what is supposed to be stepping stones to become stumbling blocks. When this happens people turn down opportunities and stay in the same place. They begin to let opportunities to pass them by because they make their stepping stones their stumbling blocks.

Many people are afraid of change. People shouldn’t allow their fears to keep them stuck and afraid to maneuver through their stepping stones in life.
If a person does their stepping stones become stumbling blocks hindering them and keeping them stagnant. People who do this fail to mature and grow. They miss out on a lot in life because of their inabilities to move forward.

Never be afraid to use your stepping stones to your advantage. Your stepping stones aren’t there to hinder or knock you down. They will if you have
allowed them to become your stumbling blocks.

Do You Even Know What You Need


My question is what do you really need? Do you understand needs and wants differ? Many people are led by their wants and desires. They don’t care what they have to do to get what they want. They don’t care who toes they step on, who they hurt, who butt they have to kiss, who they have do, they don’t care if the person is married, in a relationship or what, many will still go after the person. This is wrong! They will surely end up regretting it. Most people cause their own issues by how they start out in their relationships.

I’ve said many times, people get into and stay in relationships for all of the wrong reasons. They get into relationships in all of the wrongs ways and with the wrong people who they never should have been involved with in the first place. Many find it out the hard way.

Most people don’t have a clue the type of person they need in their lives. They have too many issues and they are moving on emotions/feelings. They allow how they feel lead them into bad situations and bad relationships. Before a person can truly understand what they need, they must get past seeking what they want out of mere feelings and emotions. In order to have a lasting relationship people must look beyond feelings and self gratification and start looking at the big picture. If a person is led by their flesh they are liable to get into any type of relationship with any type of person. They are normally moving based on feelings alone.

When I write about people getting past feelings what I am trying to make people understand is that when they are driven by feelings alone they will always end up in situations they don’t want to be in. However, out of sheer feelings, desires, and wants individuals think it’s what they need when it’s not! Yes, feelings are a part of a relationship. However when a person is blind by their feelings it causes them the inability to see, accept, and understand reality due to their distorted views. When a person is all caught up in their feelings it is what they are led by. People must mature past this and to a point of seeing the truth for what it is. Although it may look and feel good, a mature persons know it doesn’t mean it’s good for them and they will know how to avoid it or keep it moving all together.

People should grow as they go through things in life, unfortunately many don’t. They continue to make the same mistakes over and over. They are people who are led by their feelings and emotions and more than likely have unresolved inner issues keeping them in the wrong mind set. Normally they don’t understand love, therefore they seek it in all the wrong ways. Love starts with self, if you don’t love yourself you will certainly have issues trying to find it in someone else. People mess up trying to get something from someone else when they don’t really know what it is, because they don’t love self. When you learn to love yourself you know and understand your value and worth. It changes how you look at things and what or who you accept into your life.

Truth is a person who doesn’t understand love will normally gravitate to people who are not good for them. They end up in bad unhealthy relationships. Many people are afraid to leave these relationships for numerous reasons. They fear losing the security they think they have, they are afraid to go because they are afraid of the person, they feel trapped, they are caught up emotionally and think it’s the best thing for them, and the list goes on. The only person can change a situation is the person in it! It starts with the man or woman in the mirror!

Your Form of Righteousness is not God’s Form


If Jesus the Son or God the Father were like man, I wouldn’t serve them in no shape, form, or fashion. I am completely appalled at some people who call themselves followers of Christ. It’s a shame how people so easily profess their love from their lips yet they live something completely opposite. People take the parts of the Bible they want to use and apply it to their lives, but not all. You can’t pick and choose what you want to follow. As a Saint of God you must follow it all!

One thing I’m sick of seeing is some so-called pastors in the pulpit speaking words that are from them (flesh) and NOT the Word of God/Holy Spirit. Nowhere in the Bible did Jesus use any vulgarity and profanity to get a point across. Nowhere did He do what the people did to get His point across. What I’m seeing across social media, etc is a disgrace! It has absolutely nothing to do with the Word of God, God, Jesus, or the Holy Sprit. The mess I have been seeing is all from the flesh!

I’ve seen videos of dance night where people are in church dancing to the devil’s music, I’ve seen videos of people fighting in church, cursing in church, in church dressing inappropriate, and many other things NOT conducive to being a Saint of God. Yet, people want to say your judging. The ONLY people saying you’re judging are those who are trying to serve God and the devil, because true Saints of God will never be okay with such foolishness. True Saints will stand firmly on the Word of God and they won’t uphold wrong!

I’ve seen far too many people claiming to love Jesus who are liars, deceivers, and plain false. They always want to say your judging. How can you judge someone on something Jesus has already set as a requirement. We can’t live any way we want and have a seat in the kingdom. Salvation is free, however that doesn’t mean people get to live any kind of way. It means Jesus already paid the price by dying for our sins. We can freely choose salvation, it’s a personal choice.

People want the notoriety of being associated with Jesus, but they aren’t willing to let this world go to obtain a true relationship with Him. They simply want others to believe they are living for Him when they know it’s a lie. You may fool someone, but you never fool Jesus! If a person can’t understand that, then they know nothing about the Word or Jesus!

I will forever believe the reason people want to pretend is because they are still in the world doing things the way the world does them. The only reason a person will play with Jesus is because they don’t believe in Him. They say they do, but they really don’t. There’s no way on earth a person truly believes yet continues to live any kind of way. No way! If a person truly believed there is a God sitting high and looking low who know all they would live accordingly. Many don’t because they really don’t believe. Bottom line!

Jesus loves us so much He wishes for none of us to perish. Each day we are above ground is another chance to get it right with Jesus. People aren’t because they are too busy doing the work of the devil. They are still thinking, feeling, and acting worldly while trying to hide it from man. How sad is that, when Jesus sees your every deed. No matter how wicked people of this world are becoming many still don’t want to be fully submitted and committed to Jesus. News flash: if you’re not fully committed you’re not committed at all. You’re either for or against Him!

We don’t know when we will take our last breath. I don’t care how we leave this world not one single person knows when their last breath will be. People still running amok as if they are here for ever. I get it when it comes to people who haven’t chosen Jesus, but for those who claim they have and are living any kind of way; I’m here to tell you that you haven’t chosen Him either. Don’t mess around and die while sitting trying to straddle a fence that doesn’t. By the way; even if it did exist it wouldn’t do you any good, because you’re either for or against Him there is no in between!