Guns Are An Issue, People Are The Problem

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Guns are an issue for sure, because they are getting into the hands of the wrong people. In my opinion since society doesn’t want to deal with the gun issue they use the scapegoat “mental illness.” I think when people purchase a gun it should be a more strict of a process. I think just as people ask for references for jobs, to buy things, credit, etc they should also to purchase weapons. If those references willfully lie then they should be held accountable if a person does something such as a mass shooting. It will take time, but it would be worth it. Guns are an issue, but people with their many issues are the ones pulling the triggers.

A person who has gotten to the point of no return will look you in the face with a straight face and lie. They will pretend to the end. They will put on a front to be able to do what they are fixated on doing. They have pondered over it a long time and when their mind is made up, they will do what they intend on doing. It may be to kill self, someone in particular, or commit a mass killing. Unfortunately some of these individuals get access to weapons.

I will start by going back over something I’ve talked and written about a few times. It gets on my nerves to hear the media, specialist, and others say mass shootings are results of mental illnesses. Societies will never fix the problem because they are a part of the problem. They are a part of the problem due to the fact they won’t acknowledge the truth. Some people don’t know the truth, because they don’t really know what mental illness involves, but those who do are promoting mental illness and the billion dollar business it is.

The reason I made the above statement is because anyone who really knows the truth knows a mentally ill person know they don’t premeditate and come up with a plan to kill people. A psycho or sociopath may, of who many became the way they are from past traumatic experiences. It’s not the norm. There is a definitive difference between mental illness and mental stress. However, both can lead to breakdown. Mental stress can lead to mental illnesses such as anxiety, depression, adjustment issues, suicidal and homicidal ideation, and other mental illnesses. Mental stress can cause physical and emotional issues as well.

The world is filled with broken people. These people happen to not only carry the burdens of things they haven’t released. They compile those things with other issues. Many are flat out mad, jealous, envious, bitter, and angry; so angry they commit road rage, kill the one’s they supposedly love, or commit mass killings. They are dealing with work or the lack thereof, finances or the lack thereof, relationships issues or the lack of, family issues, etc. They are dealing with interpersonal issues, self esteem, confidence, love, etc. They seek Mr. and Miss Right, but keep settling for Mr. And Misses right now, then can’t handle the chaos it brings. They don’t know what love is and they don’t love self.

People are seeking love in the wrong ways, wrong places, and wrong people. They have a sense to belong even if it’s to the wrong person or group. All they want is to belong. They are easily persuaded to do things that are wrong. Some of these people choose to be alone due to previous rejection, the lack of self esteem and confidence. It too angers them, but truth is they are their biggest problem.

In my opinion what the world needs is more love. Love needs to be promoted more. People need to unify all over the world and show love to one another. Promote it and stand for it! Stop allowing your pasts to dictate your futures. Know that you have the power and control over your life. Stop giving your power to the past and to people and things. Learn to love yourself no matter what or who. Love conquers hate! If people learn to love more I believe they will not pick up guns in hatred.

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Children Dying in Hot Cars

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Listen I’m not saying it’s not possible, but for the life of me I don’t understand how something like this can happen. How on earth can a person have a child for several months are a year or more and all of a sudden forget them in a car? They’ve put them in and taken them out of the car all of that time then all of a sudden on a hot day they get amnesia. How can a person forget a new born in a hot car; a baby you carried in the womb 9 months or as a father waited 9 months in anticipation for the baby to arrive; only to leave the baby in a hot car? I’m sorry and forgive me if I’m wrong, but I do NOT believe it!

When I kept my grandson for almost 2 years he was 18 months when I got him. My children are grown therefore I hadn’t had a child around in well over 20 plus years. One day I was leaving base where I worked and before I got to the gate I remembered he was at daycare. That is because I wasn’t used to having a child around and it only happened one time the first week of me keeping him and never again after that.

However, to forget your child in a vehicle, I just don’t see how that is possible. I look in the back seat even though I don’t have any children around. When I did have my grandson I always placed him on the opposite side in the back so I could look back at him periodically. Not once EVER did I leave him in the car.

I try to wrap my brain around it, but I can not! You take your child to the daycare everyday, but all of a sudden one day you thought you had dropped your child off, but in fact your child was left in the car in scorching hot heat and they died! You mean to tell me as a parent you didn’t think of your child not once in your whole work shift??????? Makes no sense to me! How can you forget you put a child in the car, but you didn’t forget you had to be at work or wherever you were going? You didn’t forget to take the keys out of the ignition. You didn’t forget to get your lunch, purse, briefcase, bag, or whatever, but you forgot your human baby! I can’t grasp this at all. I just can’t! I can’t see this as an accident! Again I’m not saying the possibility of it happening doesn’t exist. I’m saying I can’t believe it!

Are ALL of the children sleep when they are placed in the cars? Do they not make a sound? Even with the last and most recent incident I heard of; who by the way it was twin girls. Twins!!!I believe they were a little over a year old. You put them in and out of the car a whole year and now you suddenly forgot? You thought you dropped them at the daycare. I just can’t accept it! Not once EVER did I not think of my children when they where taken to daycare. I always thought of them when I was away from them, EVERY single time. So for these people to NOT think of their children during their day’s work is disturbing to me!

Strange thing to me is we never hear of this happening in the winter and children freezing to death, but we constantly hear of it happening in the summers. I know it takes longer to freeze then to die from the heat, but it gets super cold in places, therefore it is possible. Yet, we NEVER hear of it. Hmmmmmm!

I’m just venting! It’s heartbreaking to continue to hear of this happening. Children these days are put in horrible situations.

If Children Are Our Future Protect Them

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Many people don’t want to address the elephant in the room. They want to tuck their heads in the sand despite the fact we see and hear about this everyday. Incest, rape, and molestation is happening too much all over the world to children. The most hurtful part is societies want to ignore the fact this problem exist when it’s prevalent all over the world. We all should do our parts to protect the children, when we don’t; then we too are a part of the problem. Are children really our future? If they are why are they being abused on every hand? Why aren’t they protected better? It is VERY sad grown folks are doing inappropriate things with children. There needs to be stricter laws concerning this. However, there aren’t because too many on top are a part of the problem. Laws are tougher on the abuse of animals than children. It’s sad!

Many people who are into child porn, molestation, incest, and child rape are people who were once victims. I want to direct this directly to them first. I am sorry you were once a victim. I feel because you were once a victim you should know better. Why are you victimizing innocent defenseless children? I’m sure as a victim in the beginning you hated what happened. At some point some of you as a child probably began to feel some type of way about it. As a child you don’t really understand what’s going on. You think it’s wrong, but at the same time it awakens something in you and this is where many of you remained fixated and stuck. You moved through your stages of development, but you didn’t mature mentally. What happened to you was wrong, but what you’re doing is just as wrong. The children you’re taking advantage of do NOT deserve to have you as an ADULT causing confusion and dysfunction in their lives. You didn’t deserve it and neither do other innocent children. You know exactly what you’re doing and there’s no excuse for it! Some offenders are also teenagers who developed the habit of what they are doing by what they’ve gone through. It doesn’t make what they do right. It’s still as wrong as ever! Stop blaming what happened to you as a reason to do what you’re doing. As for the many adults who do this you’re an adult stuck in a negative development mental state of mind. You’re older in age, but you’re still fixated due to earlier issues. It is NOT an excuse to do what you do! People think some of you offenders are okay, because you’re successful or appear to have it together. Wrong! Many of you are stuck in that early mental states of mind. You’re in denial and you can’t heal because you exert your energy in lying, hiding, pretending, etc. Wake up! You’re not that child you’re grown men and women. A young child has nothing you should want. They can’t offer you anything. They are unable to defend themselves just as you were as a young child. You are doing the same things to them that was once done to you. Some of you are billionaires, millionaires, or quite wealthy. Some of you are well known, have built empires, etc. Some are rich, poor, on top, on the bottom, etc. These abusers are people of all races, populations, genders, titles, status, positions etc. They are friends, family, neighbors, church members, politicians, police officers, Judges, lawyers, teachers, preachers, doctors, soldiers of all ranks, and the list goes on. Living behind your lies and disguises does nothing to help you deal with the demons inside of you. You need to face the truth and deal with the junk inside of you. To have any inappropriate thoughts about a child makes you a monster. You need to get help with your feelings because it is what you’re being led by. You may have been victimized as a child but as an adult you are now victimizing and there’s NO excuse for your behaviors! You’ve become the nasty perpetrator! The majority of you have more likely than not been doing it since you were young and have probably victimized many over your lifetime. You’ve become comfortable in the things you’ve been doing because you’ve been getting by with it. However, getting by doesn’t mean you’ll get away! You’re the problem and you will never change if you don’t choose change. Anyone can change anything they choose, but you must want to change. Give these toddlers, adolescents, and teenagers a chance to live healthy lives. Stop grooming them so you can violate them! Stop selling their pictures, stop kidnapping them holding them hostage, stop buying them things giving them the sense of what you’re doing is ok. It is NOT! You are adults who should be protecting children not violating them! Yes you’re stuck mentally in a past developmental stage, but the fact remains you’re grown. Most of you have made grown up decisions about everything else, but when it comes to offending innocent children. What you do is vile, evil, horrible, and wrong! Deal with what’s locked inside of you and has caused you to be the person you are. Sneaking, pretending, hiding, etc isn’t going to fix you. The only way to heal is to deal with your issues. I can’t stress how horrible it is what you do. Face your demons and the person staring back at you when you look in the mirror or can you even stomach looking at the monster staring back? If you can’t, that too is a problem!

To people who are sexually abusing babies you are sick. You may or may not have been abused. It doesn’t matter if you have been abused or not; to abuse a infant is beyond words. A lot of times you are displaying anger through such an hideous act. You are full of evil to perform such a horrendous act and your filth is on another level. You need help yesterday! Don’t blame anyone for the decisions you make, because you’re the one making them. Take ownership of what you are and who you’ve allowed yourself to become. Harming innocent babies who can’t do anything to protect themselves is an outrage! Shame on you! Jail is too good for your type!

Parents shame on you for selling your children for a dollar. Some of you give up your children in order to make a buck. Shame on you! You don’t deserve to have children. Some women let their male boyfriends abuse their children in order to keep the person around. Who by the way are worthless! Your mates don’t want you. They get with you in order to get close to your children. Wake up! Many of you parents don’t have love for your child or yourselves. Matter of fact you don’t know what love is at all! No man or woman is worth allowing your child or children to be abused. Parents you’re supposed to be protecting your children NOT causing them harm or putting them in harms way! Some women willfully and knowingly get with sex offenders. At that point it’s NOT about your children it’s all about what you want. You’re so broken you can’t see past your feelings. You need to seek help! It starts with learning to love yourself. If you can’t love, nurture, and protect your child give them to people who are capable of giving the child what they need in this life. Stop being selfish and making your life about you. It’s no longer all about you when you have children!

Parents and other family members; committing incest is wrong! To touch a child is absolutely wrong! To touch your flesh and blood is wrong, period! Get help with your issues. You can’t blame what you’re doing on anyone else, but yourself! Whatever happened to you happened, and I am sorry, but what you’re doing is all on you! Stop touching your children and/or family members. It’s filthy and vile! Then you want to keep it a secret, REALLY! Anyone who allows this mess to go on in their families are also a part of the problem. They may as well be touching the child too, because allowing it is as bad as doing it. Parents and other family members should be protecting children NOT violating them. You are wrong on all kinds of levels. Many of you have truly messed up the mental and emotional states of your children and/or other family members by what you do/done. Get help for your inner issues and stop the foolishness! You are weak individuals who prey on your helpless children. Get help for what you’ve allowed yourself to become! Your mind is warped and you need to face the demons in you! Deal with the man/woman in the mirror it’s the ONLY way possible change can occur!

In the lives of those with glamour and glitz children are used as sacrifices, self gratification on all levels by all levels of people. They are used for dark rituals for fame and fortune, and they are taken for sex salves for some nasty rich people who are involved in sadistic things. All of this madness comes from a place of darkness and demons. People are very broken and they have years of garbage inside. They are broken and have not tried to deal with their issues, they’ve only compiled mess on top of mess. They connect with people like them. They get into sex clubs etc and the victims range from infancy to teenagers. It’s horrible what people are doing all over the globe to children. These people are broken and filled with darkness. All they want is gratification of their flesh in some form or another. How gratifying can it be to take advantage of someone who can’t defend themselves? These people are constantly preying on children. People who do this are weak individuals. It’s disgusting and very sad! They are stuck mentally in distorted ways of thinking and distorted mental states. When people have money they think they can get away with anything and everything. They think they can do anything they want. These people need to seek help! Some people don’t change because they don’t want to, they get comfortable in their wrong doings until they are caught and displayed to the world. People want to keep their dirty little secrets when there are really no secrets. You can hide from everyone, but never yourself!

What type of future will they have if you’re messing up the minds of the children?

Your Feelings Are In Your Way

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I talk about self love a lot. It is absolutely necessary, because without it people subject themselves to unnecessary drama. Most times their focus is seeking love at all cost. They are too blind to see the price is too high. When individuals don’t love self it obscures their view of love, because they don’t understand what it is. If a person doesn’t know what love is then they won’t know what love isn’t.

The reason people can’t see past their feelings is because their feelings is what is most important to them despite the hurt it causes. People who don’t love self are always led by their feelings. They seek what they want, which is never really what they need. They don’t understand there is a difference between the two.

If individuals would put as much energy into loving self as they do to being loved by someone their lives would be quite different. The truth hurts, but love shouldn’t ever hurt. The reason the truth hurts is because it strikes a cord. People don’t like it when their toes/feet are stepped on. It hurts! The truth is if you don’t love yourself trying to love someone else will only intensify and magnify your own issues. I’ve found that people try harder to fix and save the one they love versus dealing with their own issues. This does nothing but compile the issues of the significant other with their own; making an even bigger mess of things. This is an unhealthy relationship, but normally due to the inability to see past their feelings individuals fail to see this truth. They think they’re in love and because of it will go through all types of dsyfunction.

Most people are led by their feelings. They will do anything to be with who they want to be with despite the treatment they may encounter. People will always treat you exactly how you allow them to treat you. They will take you completely for granted if it’s what you allow. People don’t understand their worth or value when they don’t love self. All they care about is going after and getting who they want. This is because when you’re led by your feelings it prevents you from thinking clearly.

Many people find it difficult to love self because they often feel their not worthy. This mindset comes from previous experiences they never healed from. They seek all of the things they lack in self (love, security, confidence, strength, happiness, etc). It is all a part of their quest for love. It causes them to accept almost anything in their relationships.

Love starts with self. When a person learns to love self it opens their eyes to the truth. It teaches them to see past their feelings and emotions. It teaches them to use their brains to avoid bad relationships before they begin.

Love isn’t love if you first don’t love yourself. It’s not love when it’s unhealthy, when it’s forced, when it’s based solely on feelings, when its abusive in any manner, when it’s possessive-obsessive, or controlling, etc. Unfortunately individuals who are led by their feelings won’t understand this truth. They only see what they want until it’s too late.

Your Fears Are Limiting You

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Many people find themselves stuck due to their own fears. Granted this came from something they’ve gone through, but the fact remains fear will stagnate you! Many people won’t take a chance on anything due to fear. Your mind can be your worst enemy and unfortunately it is just that for many people. Fear can be crippling emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Some people have the desire to move forward, but their states of mind keeps them stuck without the ability to move forward. They are afraid of change. They live their lives without ever living. They are merely existing. They have no time to do anything other than work. When a person don’t work, they get stuck in that mode and they don’t try to become dependent. They get comfortable asking others for whatever they need. Then when become are tired of them they are upset. I say get upset at yourself, then forgive yourself and move forward.

No one is throwing any money at you unless you’re on a stripper pole. Other than that forget it! You have to get out there and work for what you need. The Bible says “a man who doesn’t work doesn’t eat!” I blame a lot of the mindset on how people give power to their pasts. I realize the past can influence us, however, we don’t have to allow it to define or dictate who we become. We all have the ability to change negative mindsets.

Many people are held prisoner to their own ways of thinking. They can’t get past how they think, feel, and act. They allow their negative mindsets to sabotage their lives. They choose life sentences due their pasts. They allow negativity as a way to live in this society. It won’t work! It doesn’t work! This negative mindset does nothing other than cause dsyfunction in the lives of many.

People are stuck for many reasons, but the bottom line of it all points at the individual. If you make your past your life sentence, then it is exactly what it will become. If you allow your fears to cripple and stagnate you they will do just that!

If people spent as much time dwelling on the here and now versus the once was their lives would be much better. People waste most of their lives hating self. They waste all of their time unable to move from point A to B. They give their power to everything and everyone! They lack self love, confidence, and esteem. They blame it all on something or someone from their pasts. It makes no sense, especially when some of the people are dead and gone.

Let me share something with you. Coming up my mom didn’t teach me about succeeding, wanting more, setting goals, college, etc. She taught me what she knew about. She taught me self respect, confidence, respect for others, self love, etc. Everything I learnt about moving forward I learned on my own through watching others achieve. I knew even as a young child without my mom instilling it that I wanted more. Despite things I’ve gone through I never allowed it to hinder my growth. You know why? It’s because there’s something positive to come out of any situation. Every single thing we experience holds something to learn.
I realized if I chose unhappiness and the lack of motivation it was all on me. Therefore I made the conscious decision early in life to do things differently and I did. We all can do it, it’s up to each person individually.

We can blame everything on our pasts if we choose. It will do nothing to help us to move forward in life. It doesn’t do a thing to pull you out of where you are. A negative mindset will keep you in a dark cold place. It will keep you stuck going nowhere fast! If you don’t believe you can; then you won’t! If you give power to your fears, they will cripple you and keep you right where you are! You can only fly as high as you limit yourself. Your fears limit you, period! Start speaking to your negative thoughts and replacing that junk with positive ones. When your conscious mind says one thing you tell it another. We are programmed to take in way more negative than positive. You must change this. Start seeing the good in all things, but above all please start with yourself!

Dark Hearts and Minds

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Our world is full of darkness. People are broken which allows demons to enter and most don’t even know what’s going on. They are doing all kinds of things. They’re seeking love in all the wrong ways, for all the wrong reasons, and with all the wrong people. They are physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusing children (pehedophiles, sex offenders, perpetrators, porn, trafficking). They are killing themselves with drugs and alcohol. They are sexually abusing animals. They are killing for no reason (friends, loved ones, children, parents, and others). They are full of anger and rage. They are full of fear, depressed, full of anxiety, suicidal, and homicidal. They lack self esteem, confidence, motivation, and are co dependent. They don’t take responsibility for who they’ve become and are masters at the blame game! They lack self love, happiness, joy, or peace. They idolize all kinds of things and people. They believe right is wrong and wrong is right. They live sexually immoral lives. They have no conviction, they seek self gratification. What they feel, want, and desire is what constantly leads them into bad situations with the wrong people. Many are followers and not leaders. People have lost their abilities to love; hearts are cold. Many are held captive by their own ways of thinking due to their mental states of mind. It’s not mental illness it’s mental states of mind which could lead to some forms of mental illnesses. I could go on and on.

All of it comes from some form of brokenness. People can choose to remain the same or they can choose change. It’s up to the individual. Many would rather remain the same because it’s familiar. It’s easier for a person to hold on to what’s keeping them down then to change. People are so familiar with their dysfunctional ways it’s normal to them. Their ways wreaks havoc in their lives, yet they stay on the same paths.

Brokenness stays where it is until it’s dealt with. It ruins lives and causes chaos. Until people take responsibility of who they’ve become they don’t allow the option for change. Blaming others for who’ve you become isn’t beneficial at all. It keeps people stuck in their old ways.

People don’t understand they allow for darkness to overtake them when they continue to stay where they are. It makes rooms for entities to come into your lives. Demons are real. Anytime a person is living in darkness it’s giving power to that darkness. Adults are living these dysfunctional lifestyles and then carrying it into the lives of their children.

People must take off the blinders before change can ever occur. They can’t do it until they face who they’ve become and deal with the mess inside. Change happens only once you make the choice to change. Come out of the darkness into the light!

Loving You and Your Flaws

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Unfortunately a lot of people hate how they look, however the problem is deeper than that! I think we all have something we may want to improve, but this post is referring to people who don’t like what they see to a point of surgery, etc. This goes deeper than just wanting to lose fat or tighten up an area.

It doesn’t matter how pretty, not so pretty, famous, non famous, rich, not rich, titles, positions, statuses, etc, concerning a person; none of it will make a person love self. That is what it boils down to; self love. I can’t make you love yourself and neither can anyone else. It’s all on you, the individual. I do pray that I can help you to see things differently in how you see yourselves.

No one is perfect in how they look, we all have flaws, we all have something we would like to be different. However, when people go to the extreme of getting their faces cut on, implants in their faces/butts/chest/breast/eyes, etc then something is going on inside. Something is wrong on the inside that needs to be resolved. Until people deal with the inner parts of them they will remain unhappy and without the ability to love self.

I’ve seen many good looking people go under the knife and mess themselves up completely and sometimes it’s to a point of being irreversible. People hate themselves so much they would rather try to look like someone else then self. They hate self so much they’d rather add something or cut something off to look what they think is more appealing. This is a huge red flag something is wrong within.

People get boob jobs, breast implants for men to get bigger pecs, butt implants, face implants to plump up their cheeks, stomach implants for six packs, etc. Okay, you do what you want, but remember foreign things in your body in places it shouldn’t be in is never a good thing. Oftentimes later in life people start having affects from those things. There have been some cases where individuals have gotten infections and died or they died during surgeries.

People are now going to the extreme of getting their eye color changed. It’s crazy and all of its a risk, but people do anything in the name of what they think is beauty or in the name of what they think society says is beautiful. Sad, sad, sad!

People who are risking their lives doing these types of things need to look at who’s facing them in the mirror and deal with that person. Guess what? You can have all the nips, tucks, lifts, implants, etc that you want to have; it WILL NOT change what’s inside. It changes the appearance, but the junk inside will remain. Sometimes people end up hating themselves even more because they hate the results.

I feel sorry for people who feel they need plastic surgery to feel good about self. It’s a figment of their imaginations. Anyone who does this is most often concerned with what the world thinks of them. They are concerned with what other people see when they look at them.

You can change the outer appearance it won’t change what’s inside of you. It may make you feel good about how you look, but it won’t change why you don’t like yourself in the first place. To love yourself means accepting yourself with all of your flaws and imperfections. If you have a flat butt so what? If your face isn’t full as you want so what? If your chest is flat, so what? So on and so on, it is who you are! Adding things or taking things away doesn’t make you who you are unless you’re defined by it and if you are there is something wrong with that!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may be good looking to one person and not to another. You may be good looking on the outside, but because you’re so ugly inside it makes you appear not so good looking. None of it matters you be your own beholder of your beauty and that starts with you! To do all of the things people are doing to their bodies is crazy. People have lost their lives going under the knife. Remember, anything foreign in your body can eventually start causing you problems. Another thought to ponder is, you’re not authentic when you do it. What you’re presenting once the procedure/s is/are done is still something fake. Afterwards, you may feel good about it or you may not. Regardless of which it’s still not the true you! I know some people have to be disappointed afterwards, because some people look absolutely ridiculous.

In case you didn’t know; even if you’re a model your body doesn’t define who you are. It doesn’t define you unless you’re fixated on it. People are fixated on their bodies due to inner issues. They try to fix the outside when it’s the inside they should be working on.

Do what you want if you think it will make you happy. Let me tell you this; happiness isn’t in the butt, chest, pecs, boobs, face, eyes, etc. It’s within you. You either have it or not! It can not be bought or made. People have life so misconstrued. Most people so worried about how they look to the world they will do anything for the world to look at them. Clear to me they are unhappy people. Drama, chaos, and dysfunction always follow them due to their unhappiness. Most people who are this way always are trying to remain relevant, become relevant, or to be or stay in the spot light at all cost. They may pretend to be happy, but the truth is the truth and it shows in what they do!

Love you for you and NOT for what the world thinks of you! Stop allowing the world to decide for you how you should look. If people don’t like how you look they don’t have to look at you. If you don’t love yourself you will NEVER be able to accept your flaws and imperfections! When you learn to love yourself you will also learn to accept your flaws and imperfections. No one is perfect. I don’t care what you get done to yourself you will never be perfect. Learn to love yourself regardless of what or who! When you love you what others think will NOT matter!