In Control or Controlled

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I’m referencing people who allow themselves to be controlled by anyone or anything. I can take the truth, because the truth never changes. I would rather be hurt by the truth then a lie. A lot of people don’t want the truth. They say they do, but they don’t. Many people find it difficult to accept the truth because it will normally mean there’s something wrong they need to right.

Anything that has a person tied and tangled up has control over them. If something or someone controls you it means you don’t have any control over self. People shouldn’t give their power to nothing or no one!

This world has many people who are in bad situations because they are controlled by something or someone. For instance when we see people commit terrible acts. They’ve thought on it for a while until they’ve given power to those thoughts. Then the feelings are developed, afterwards the act is committed. They allowed themselves to be controlled to the point of consumption by their thoughts due to the power they gave them. Everything starts with a thought, feelings, then actions. The difference is when people are in tune with self and love self, they are not allowing themselves to be consumed by any negativity. They will dismiss it no matter what or who.

People who allow themselves to be controlled are people who have unresolved issues. The many unresolved issues causes much chaos in their lives. I know some people are thinking “everyone has issues.” Listen, I agreed. However, the difference is are you controlling those things or are they controlling you? That is the big difference! Yes, we all deal with this or that, but how we allow it to affect our lives makes the difference.

You may disagree, but I know it’s fact. Individuals who are allowing those issues to control their lives are people who haven’t healed. They are carrying around their baggage day in and day out. It’s affecting their relationships, decisions, choices, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It leads them to making bad relationship choices (getting with people for the wrong reasons (sex, looks, what they have, who they are, the position they hold, titles, trying to save/fix other broken people when you are also broken, etc). It leads them to getting with the wrong people (already in a relationship, married, underage, abusive, slothful no ambition, etc, etc). It keeps them in abusive relationships, controlling, obsessive, possessive, etc). It keeps people chasing after the flesh (in all kinds of ways = sex, money, fame, becoming addicts (sex, money, drugs, alcohol, fetishes, etc). It leads people into doing unthinkable things such as commit murder or suicide, road rage, etc; because they are emotional, angry, bitter, confused, hurt, etc. etc). They haven’t dealt with their issues and they don’t love self. What many people fail to understand the more they add to their already problematic lives the worst things become. It’s hard to deal with new issues you’ve adopted when you haven’t yet dealt with the old ones.

People must heal and learn to love self. If people don’t get past their pains they can never move forward to become healthy minded and properly functioning individuals. Their lives will continue to be on auto repeat. They will keep making the same mistakes with similar but different people. They will continue to look for things in others they don’t even possess within self. Their relationships won’t work. Their relationships may continue, but they aren’t healthy. People are in loveless relationships and are lonely as can be. People are staying with people who don’t love them and people they don’t love, because their seeking something in others.

I can go on and on about it. The reason individuals are controlled by other people and/or things is because #1 they haven’t healed from their pasts and #2 they do not love self. You can’t have one without the other! It leaves people lacking esteem, confidence, having trust issues, not knowing how to show affection, not knowing how to communicate effectively, depending on others, seeking security, seeking love, etc.

People are very quick to blame things such as alcohol, drugs, etc for their problems. No, no, no! Those things may amplify, magnify, or intensify problems, but something happened to cause a person to begin those things in the first place. Whatever it was/is; it is where the problem truly lies. Truth is people hurt themselves by becoming addicted to those and other things. Alcohol and drugs affects the mind, body, and soul of individuals who are controlled by it. Some people think because they are functioning addicts they aren’t addicts. Wrong! Anything you can’t do without has power and control over you! People can’t gain control until they heal self and love self. A person can pretend all day and they can put on a smile, but it doesn’t fix their issues. Pretending keeps people right where they are!

People who are harboring their own issues haven’t learned how to love self. They will take whatever to be with someone. They are influenced, manipulated, coerced, and persuaded to do things they don’t want to do. They go along to get along. They get involved with things to have a sense of belonging. They put up with ridiculousness and they take disrespect and mistreatment on all levels. It’s because they haven’t healed and they don’t love self. A person who loves his or herself cares about their own well being. They are careful as to what they get involved with, who they are involved with, and how they allow anyone to treat them.

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Monsters in Societies Around the World

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I know many of you will think I’m off base. I don’t think so! Many in this world are living lies. They know they are doing the unthinkable to children while trying to hide it! They are tainted broken individuals. There’s no other way to put it. I’ve never sugarcoated anything and I won’t start today. In my opinion the reason the sexual perversions are going on in world is the toxicity continues to spread, because people continue to abuse the children who turn into adults who abuse children. No one is healing from their bad experiences. These people are continuing the cycles of abuse.

Sadly, many are in positons of power. Although many are in jobs which allows them authority and power; the power I’m speaking of is from the top. There are a lot of filthy nasty so-called secret societies/clubs were adult people do terrible things to children. If you don’t know then I’m trying to educate you. Unfortunately the foundation of many nations were built by some sexual perverted individuals. Notice I said some! They were/are in every areas of society. I believe this is why so much sexual perversion goes on. There are demands for sex trafficking, child porn, and sexual abuse all over the world. It trickles down to other broken people in lower positions of power. They’ve done things a certain way for so long then the next people in line has kept the cycles of abuse going. I don’t care who it is, the maladaptive behavior comes from the hearts of broken people.

If you research you will find many people were/are into sexual perversion to gain fame and fortune. It goes all the way back to Aleister Crowley and I’m sure even before him. He has taught people how to do the unthinkable to gain fame and fortune. He clearly was a broken man and he influenced other broken people to go along with his ways of thinking; despite how horribly wrong it was.

People from all walks of life are filled with evil and darkness. They appear as good people and portray themselves as good people knowing the whole time they have demons inside, many of which they don’t try to fight. They’ve learnt their ways of thinking, feeling, and acting unfortunately giving power to it. Instead of choosing to be better people they’ve kept the cycles of abuse going. I’ve known or have heard of many people professional and non-professional who have been caught doing unacceptable things to children. They include Generals and all ranks of the military, doctors, lawyers, policeman, teachers, priest, parents, relatives, friends of family, politicians, celebrities, etc, etc. The list goes on. All of it comes from unresolved brokenness! It seems our society is filled with an over abundance of these types of people who continues the cycles of sexual abuse.

It’s a shame and NO matter the reasons why, it’s all excuses. It’s dumb to think to abuse a child gains you fame and fortune. That’s an excuse! These types of people are into Satanic rituals. The bottom line is abusing children is wrong in every single way possible. To look at anyone from infant to any underage child and feel anything sexual means you have a major issue inside of yourself. You need help, because your ways of thinking are VERY distorted. If they are distorted it means they are wrong!

Some parents and other family members sexually abuse their own children/relative. Some do it for money (some will do anything to get money or to gain something else) or they do it simply because it was once done to them. As far as I am concerned, it’s all excuses! As an adult you know it’s wrong, that’s why you try to hide it. To sexually abuse a child or to allow it in any way; something is clearly wrong with the adult. People do it because they haven’t dealt with the demons inside of them. Children abuse children because they are adopting the same thought processes, feelings, and actions they’ve been taught. It’s still wrong! Children have to be taught it’s wrong and helped in order to deal with their issues and break the cycle!

Anyone adult who abuses a child of any age does it because they are broken. They are led by their wrong ways of thinking, which fuels their feelings and actions. Many will abuse until they are caught. Then they tell their sob story of being abused. I don’t take anything from anyone who were once a victim, but I will say; to use it as a crutch or excuse to abuse is an excuse! There is no reason at all to touch a child in a sexual manner. If someone has any type of thought to do so they need to deal with the demons they carry inside. To keep hiding fixes nothing at all. In fact it only keeps people repeating the cycles of abuse.

When will these types of people take responsibility for the monsters they’ve willfully become? Yep, I’m calling them monsters, because that’s what they’ve become! Stop the blame and take responsibility for what you do! You have perverted minds, because it’s what you’ve become accustomed to through years of hiding, lying, and pretending you are one way when you know you are something else. You’ve given strength to your demons to continue hurting others and yourself. It’s awful! People must face their inner selves and deal with those hidden things that have them trapped in their wrong ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. It is the ONLY way a person will change.

People who do these things don’t love self nor do they have the understanding of what love is. They are lost in their wrong ways of thinking. They’ve become so familiar and comfortable with who they’ve become. To them it seems right even though they KNOW it’s wrong. Change will not occur on it’s own, people must acknowledge the fact they need to change. Non one can change until they deal with their demons! The more people hide and pretend the more power they give to their demons to keep the cycles of abuse going. Think to yourselves the REAL reason why you do what you do and there you will find the truth. The one person you can’t lie to is yourself! Despite it all and no matter what; you are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, and your actions!

Author of Destruction

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I wanted to write about what is going on in the minds of people. Many people in this world are under the influence of the devil and they don’t know it. Too much evil is going on and societies are chalking it up as mental illness when it’s not. I heard on the news yesterday a woman stabbed her four children and their father to death. Tell me that’s not pure evil????????????

The devil is busy killing, stealing, and destroying. Those who haven’t uncovered the truth of what is going on with self will continue lives of dysfunction. They will continue on paths of destruction until they discover who they can be and stop embracing what they are. They then can recover and live the lives God intended.

People succumb too easily to the trick of the devil because they don’t really understand they are under his influence. When you’re not connected to Jesus you are capable of doing anything. People who aren’t in tune with self certainly aren’t in tune with God the Father and Jesus the Son.

The reason the devil is getting into the minds of people is because they are living by the flesh alone. They are in the world doing all the worldly things. They have focus on all of the wrong things. They are self absorbed and selfish; making things all about self.

Those who aren’t in tune with self are led by their negative ways of thinking. They get something into their heads/minds and although technically they know what they’re thinking isn’t right, they will continuously ponder over it until they develop feelings behind the thoughts; leading to negative actions behind the feelings. This is how people end up making bad choices and decisions; they are led by their negative and distorted ways of thinking. When you ponder long enough over negative thoughts you will more than likely act on those thoughts. People are giving power to the negativity until it takes over. This is a form of possession.

It’s nothing but the devil. He already know the minds of many people are weak. These people already have many unresolved issues they haven’t let go; which has already caused them to lead chaotic lives. It’s all destruction and the devil is the father of destruction. When you let him drive he takes over and control. This is what’s happening in the world many are under the influence of the devil and moving at his command without any resistant. This leads people to making some of the worst decisions and choices of their lives.

The powers of good and evil are in full effect. What we choose is what we choose. The devil don’t tight anyone up to serve him, he enters in through all of the avenues people make available. The devil doesn’t fight against those who are on his side; he simply leads them into further destruction and ultimately death. People must wake up!

Words Sweet as a Honeycomb

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Don’t be fooled by sweet and or slick talk. Too many are quickly deceived by the words that comes out of the mouth of people. A person’s words can sound real good, but aren’t worth a thing and doesn’t mean a thing, because the intentions behind the words are bogus.

When people haven’t matured they have the tendency to grasp on to whatever is said, because they are being led by their emotions and feelings. Later down the road they realize they bought “wolf tickets” that weren’t worth a thing.

A person can talk a good talk knowing the whole time they don’t intend to do what they say. They don’t mean what they say, they say it because they know it sounds good to the ears and they know you believe it. Remember I always say “we teach people how to treat us.”

You must learn to see the actions behinds a person’s words. When you see the actions it means those words has substance. The truth will always surface in some form if we are open to the truth. The problem is many are in too deep in their feelings and emotions, they overlook the truth.

There are many who are in relationships because the words spoken by their significant others sounded very good. We have heard forever “if it sounds too good to be true, it’s not true). Why is it that when it comes to relationships people completely forget about this cliché? People are too immersed in their feelings until they are oblivious to the actions of those they are with or perhaps want to be with. It is why many find themselves in unhealthy relationships. Their eyes are wide open but they fail to see a thing!

When I always say or write people are this way due to immaturity, I’m not trying to put anyone down at all. We all have been immature at some point in life. A person will mature by the aging process, but it doesn’t mean they are a mature adult, it ONLY means they have gotten older in age. People who are still being led by their emotions haven’t matured. Many people go through things, but they don’t learn from their experiences and oftentimes find themselves in and out of the same types of relationships with similar acting people. It’s because they having matured. Unfortunately some will die immature. Some people live, but never grow. They go through things, but don’t necessarily learn  which is how we grow and mature.

To really mature you must first know thyself. You must know who you are, by accepting all flaws and facing any issues you have inside to get to the point of loving thyself. You will learn from every experience and you will not allow what you’ve gone through to keep you in a stagnant state of mind. When you love yourself you will “guard your hearts.” You will no longer allow feelings and emotions to cause you to make the wrong decisions and choices. You will be able to see and enjoy the forest although it’s full of trees “so to speak.” You can see further than the end of your noses because your eyes are open and you can see the truth for the truth; beyond the smooth, sweet words. You will accept no matter how good something looks, sounds, feels, if it’s not good for you you’re not interested. Most importantly you will know the difference between wanting and needing something. or someone.

This post can relate to any facet of your lives. Stop going solely by what is said and start looking at the actions behind the words. If people do this a lot of  lives would be different. In my opinion a person’s words are only worth the actions behind them. A person can talk all day, yet do something totally different. They can speak a bunch of sweet nothings. Words can sound good, but hold no merit, because of the lack of actions behind them. When people get pass being led by their emotions and feelings they will understand this concept.

 

 

 

 

Relationships Normally End How They Begin

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I’ve written on this subject before, however I thought I would refresh some memories. Most relationships end according to how they begin. Many people get into relationship by cheating with someone who is already in a relationship. Oftentimes these are married people cheating on their mates.

It doesn’t matter if your the cheater or the one the cheater is cheating with, you’re both immature and wrong. A lot of times the cheater and the one he or she cheated with end up married. To no surprise they end up divorced later down the road, because of the same reasons they got together. Someone else came along (just as they did) and cheated with their spouse (or girlfriend/boyfriend). What do people think? They think they can wreck homes and all kinds of mess and then live in marital bliss? No it doesn’t work like that and Karma will bite them dead in the butt. You can do wrong and get by, but you won’t get away! It’s coming right back to you. Crazy to me how some people are so devastated when they’re on the receiving, but when they were cheating with the married individual they didn’t care the individual was married. It all seems to matter when they’re being cheated on.

The moral to this post is if you meet someone and you find yourself attracted to someone else’s man or woman, GET AWAY from them. If they are in a relationship of ANY kind, please don’t make an immature decision to pursue this relationship. If you do I promise you will suffer the consequences of your actions. What you do to others will come back to you! Think about what you’re doing. We all have the control as to who we fall in love with or who we choose to be with. When people choose other people’s significant others they’ve crossed the line. Nothing good will come to them! It may seem to work out, but it doesn’t last and you will find yourself in the same position you put someone else in (cheated on).

People who cheat and those who get into relationships with them are people who have no morals or values, they lack integrity, they are immature, they lack honesty, and they don’t know have a clue about commitment. What they give they will  eventually get! That’s how life works. If you start out wrong, it will end wrong. This doesn’t only pertain to cheating, it pertains to anything. If people get into relationships for all of the wrong reasons, whatever reason they got into the relationship will most likely be the very reason they want to leave it.

People are blind by their thoughts and feelings. They are led blindly and foolishly into relationships which are clearly not good for them. They always end up suffering the consequences of their actions. Sadly this means death for many (literally) whether physically, mentally, or emotionally). It is ALWAYS a personal choice to cheat, to be with a married individual, or to stay with a cheater. It’s always a personal choice as to the individual we become involved with. People see signs, but they ignore them. People are led by their emotions and because of it will ALWAYS suffer the consequences of their actions.

 

The Enemy Dwelling Within

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For as long as I  can post I will hit on subjects such as domestic abuse. There are many campaigns against domestic abuse this is my thoughts on that. I believe it’s always a wonderful and excellent  thing to educate the public about the topic, but the truth of the matter is society can’t stop it, it starts with the individual. Unfortunately I believe society goes by it the wrong way. I believe in society if we talk about subjects that helps shape character, morals, and values, there would be hope for a greater tomorrow.

Domestic abuse/violence is an issue that affects all races, genders, ages, populations, nationalities, and cultures. It starts with the individual self. Those who inflict the abuse are people who are suffering from issues they need to deal with. Those who accept abuse are people who also have issues they need to deal with. All of it comes from what lies within. What lies within each of us can be our own worst enemy.

A person who haven’t come to the realization of who they really are,  deal with whatever issues they have, and grown to become better individuals will forever be individuals who will either give crap or take it, point blank! Once a person accept and deal with their demons they can grow into a much better individual. No one can change if they don’t first accept they have issues that need to be faced and dealt with.

I believe a very high percentage of things derives from a person’s past in some form in and in some degree. Those issues more than likely began early in life through one’s environments and social circles; which creates our experiences and ultimately dictates behaviors. People can always chose to not allow negative experiences ruin the rest of their lives or  choose to accept they are broken due to those experiences and events but want to stop allowing it to ruin their lives . If they fail to acknowledge something is wrong they will always live a lie. They will portray themselves as one thing and live another. They will either do unacceptable things or get unacceptable things done to them.

No one is exempt from troubles in life but how we deal with them makes the difference. Many are crippled by their pasts. They allow what has happened or didn’t happen to them ruin their entire lives. So you know what I mean I will give a few examples ( a person raised without their father, a person abused for years = verbally  mentally . physically. sexually, abandoned as a child, neglected as a child, etc etc, received no nurturing, no structure or discipline coming up, etc). No matter what; how a person allowed things to affect them will affect the rest of their lives, but it’s still a personal choice. It may sound cruel but I’m here as a witness it’s the truth. The enemy lies within and it will always surface to the top when people do not deal with what’s causing them dysfunction.

We’ve seen the fall of people from all walks of life; they do things such as commit rape, engage in child porn, molest, form immoral sex acts, kill, cheat, steal, commit suicide, and other terrible things. The reason they do these things is because although they were products of their environments they allowed it to completely affect and taint them. As they grow up and age these people either become the ones who victimize or they live their lives as victims.

These types of people fall in love in all of the wrong ways with all of the wrong people. They have low self esteem, issues with co-dependency, depressed, unhappy with life, they bully people,  they are suicidal, homicidal, no confidence, trust issues, hold on too tight, weak minded and easily persuaded, allow all types of nonsense in their lives, they are either abusive or abused which includes controlling tendencies, and the list goes on. As I’ve said many times before, these types of people are embedded all throughout the world in statuses high and low. Some of them have hidden their demons so long they’ve become quite good at it, but eventually the truth reveals. It always amazes me at how surprised people act when people are revealed to the world.

Some think they have it all under control, but the truth of who they really are always shows up in their decisions, actions, and behaviors (it never fails). They pretend to be this when they are really that. It’s a fact of life! However, when a person deals with the core of who they are and stop pretending and trying to hide their demons; they can then fix what’s wrong. A million like Dr. Phil, Oprah, Ayanla, Dr. Drew, myself, and many more can’t change someone who isn’t acknowledging change needs to occur. We can encourage, enlighten, inspire, motivate, etc, but true change comes from the individual who is willing to change.

Stop being a victim and or stop victimizing. No other human may know what you’re doing, but YOU do! You live with you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, thirty or thirty one days a month, and three hundred and sixty five days a year. You deal with you every single second of your life, it’s time to stop pretending to be what you know you are not and start dealing with who you are. Pretending does nothing but eventually get you revealed. It also keeps you in your own self made trap. Regardless of what happened to you or what you done, you can change your ways and your lives on today. Stop giving your power to your past, stop giving your power to people and things! Today is a new day, a new beginning; embrace it and  use it for your good.

Society do psych tests, background checks, etc. Truth is although to a degree it shows some tendencies, etc ; it will NEVER be 100 proof, because people know how to hide their demons. They are good at showing what they want you to know. This why people get into positions and they molest,  get caught in child porn, or rape children. This is why people commit work-place violence (they blow up while at work or get fired and go back to their jobs and kill). This is why healthcare providers are drugged up on the drugs they provide (psych meds and pain killers). This is why people get into jobs and they completely use it as a source of power and authority over others – they are individuals who are internally broken, but are pretending to be strong. There are correctional officers sleeping with inmates or doing things for them, this why you see police officers misusing their power. I can go on and on and on. Bottom line these are people that are hired on jobs. The test they took to get those jobs didn’t reveal the truth of who they were.

If our school systems would teach esteem, confidence, what abuse is and isn’t, and other things to build and develop a strong individual, I believe children would be better equipped and therefore more capable to deal with those things they deal with in and outside of their homes. Reality of it is most aren’t getting it at home, because many parents have their own issues, children learn from what they see and hear. They are our future, because children grow into the adults we see that has all of the issues I’m addressing in this post. It’s only my opinion but I believe I’ve seen enough travesty in this world to believe it’s true. What’s being taught in our schools today is good, but it teaches one to excel academically/ professionally but not necessarily how to deal with the world of today. Another thing is  many of the one’s who teaches are some of the very ones with issues. This is across the board with every profession on earth. We’ve seen it over and over once people are revealed.  I know there are many such as myself who learned early  in life to look beyond what they endured and realized no one dictate their lives unless they allowed them too.  As for me, no one gets to choose my happiness, only I get that privilege. I am one who went through a lot, but instead of being broken, I learned from every experience and it’s my duty and honor to share the fact that no matter what; people can choose better for themselves.

Nothing you do, think, or feel is something new or hidden. You may feel it’s just you; that you’re alone, but it’s not the truth. People across the world has done it, thought it, and experienced it in some way to some degree.  If  you want to change the choice is yours and you have to take one step at a time towards change, but it can’t happen if you’re standing in the same spot, thinking the same and doing the same things. My prayer is that you let go and give up your old ways of thinking. If you change how you think everything else will follow (how you feel and how you act). The way we think, feel, and act makes us who we are. Once people understand this, they can look at the man in the mirror and no matter how dark , broken, sad, etc of a person looking back at them; they can become a new creature and start living better lives in better ways. My prayer is that you do!

 

Head Over Heels for Someone Who Doesn’t Feel the Same About You

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Why, why, why? Why do people subject themselves to this type of torment? Listen, it’s not the other person, it’s you! No matter how much you love him or her, if they don’t love you back you’re working with nothing. “Nothing from nothing, leaves nothing.”

Stop trying to force someone into loving you. It doesn’t work! It may work out for the other person, because during this escapade, they are normally getting things they want, while you’re getting nothing. Stop living in a fantasyland and step into reality. If a person doesn’t love you or truly want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do about it. You will end up hurt and resentful, but you will only have you to blame. People don’t want to hear about or read the truth.

Too many are in dead end relationships. Why? The reason is they were dead end from the start, but people try to fix and save individuals or they try to love them so hard in thinking the individual they love will come around. It doesn’t work!

You ever put on a shoe too small? Oh my goodness it’s torture right? They may be cute shoes, but they are bad for your feet. Same with many of the relationships in this world, people are trying to force themselves into the lives of the ones they love when it’s NOT the person meant for them in the first place. Get a grip on your emotions and STOP allowing them to get you into relationships that weren’t EVER destined for you. Don’t you know no matter what you’ve done or gone through you ARE worthy of true love and happiness. It can always be imitated, but never ever duplicated. When it’s an imitation of love along comes all of the unnecessary drama and all of the extra things you have to do and put up with it. This isn’t authentic genuine love.

Believe it or not, we CAN control who we fall in love with. It’s actually simple to do so, but people don’t want to do it. They are blind by their own emotions. They meet someone and fall into lust through the emotions of their hearts, losing focus and unable to see the real deal. If you try to buy your way into someone’s life, they will take from you as long as you give. If you try to sex them up, they will take it for as long as you give it up. You may break your back trying to please and satisfy them; they will take whatever you offer. However, NONE of it will cause them to truly love you. They will go along with whatever as long as you’re giving out freebies. Honestly, you’re your own problem!

Step back and reassess your life. Step back and reassess your relationship. If it’s all about you giving and doing for the other person getting nothing out of the relationship; something is wrong. Most think, because they’re giving all they can and doing all they can they have the other person locked down. NO!! The only one locked down is you, because you’re trapped by your OWN emotions. You believe something to be true when it isn’t. As I’ve always said, the truth is ALWAYS shown in how you’re being treated by the one you love. People fail to see it because they CAN’T see past what they think, feel, and want.

You’re constantly entertaining thoughts of someone who isn’t thinking of you. You’re constantly being discombobulated over feelings that ONLY exist to you. Many of you spend all your money and give your body to someone who doesn’t love you. You want to be with someone who doesn’t feel the same about you. Far too many people are in these types of relationships and it’s very sad.

Sad to say people will continue to struggle with hurt and pain in their relationships as long as they are completely focused on what they’re feeling and not at all on how they’re being treated. Again, a person can tell you they love you all day long, but the truth lies in how they treat you. If he or she truly loves you, it will always be displayed in their actions towards you. A person can talk a good game, but do their actions line up with what they say? Most times they don’t. However, those who are on the receiving end aren’t focused on the truth nor are they willing to accept the truth. They’re still stuck on what they feel and what they want.

What I’m trying to convey is this; know what love is and what it isn’t. Other than God, love first starts with you. If you can’t love yourself, then you’re capable of accepting any and everything from someone else in the name of love; which by the way isn’t love at all.