Blaming Keeps You Stuck

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When a person blame others for who they’ve become they hold back self. They don’t afford self the opportunity to change, because they become stuck and fixated. No one and I mean no one can become who they are meant to be if they are stuck in mental states of blaming other people for who they are.

As I’ve said and written many times before, I believe people and situations can contribute to who people become, however the ultimate decision is the individual’s. No one on earth is exempt from struggles, troubles, adversities, trials and tribulations, woes, sorrows, hardships, misfortunes, tragedy, or whatever you want to label them. We all will go through things and unfortunately sometimes they are things done to us by other people. Still; how we choose to hold on to things is determined by the individual NOT the other people.

We all have our own lives to live. If a person put all their time and energy to reliving and rehashing old things; they give power to it. Many think they are hurting the other person/people by being angry and acting out, truth is people who do this are hurting self the most. If a person live their life blaming other people they do not have the chance to change. These types of people spend years of their lives blaming other people instead of changing and making their lives better.

No matter what you go through it doesn’t have a grip on you, people choose to grip and hold on to those things; even though they are long gone and the benefit of holding on is none. Many people spend their entire lives angry over things that happened years and years ago. They can’t mature or grow, because they are stuck in unhealthy mindsets.

Regardless of what a person goes through if they don’t deal with whatever it is/was they will go a lifetime allowing it to affect them. No one has to live this way. Many people give power to those things and the pain and memories become so strong it consumes them. They become angry and bitter and it sickens them like a disease. They spend all of their time sulking and complaining. They are miserable and unhappy, yet they continue to blame without ever trying to get control of their lives. Many bring children into the world and raise them just like they are to be sad, depressed, angry, and bitter about life.

We all have the ability to change if it is what we choose. No one can take your power if you do not give it! People must take back their power from their pasts. Okay, you went through what you went through, but it’s over now. I’m not downplaying it, I’m not saying it wasn’t traumatic, I’m not saying it didn’t happen, I’m not saying any of it. I am saying the actual event is over, yet people allow their memories to keep them trapped in a time warp as if the event is happening in their present.

I can talk about it because I’ve been their, however I have never been one to blame. I could have, but I didn’t and I never have. I can tell you things I’ve gone through you wouldn’t believe, but yet here I am telling you that you don’t have to allow it to ruin your life. I could be angry, bitter, and all of it, but I choose otherwise. I can’t let anyone take my spirit from me, because they didn’t put my spirit in me. People allow what they’ve gone through to suck the life out of them, when they don’t have too!

You decide you want better, embrace better, and then do better! Accept whatever has happened, forgive people, and forgive yourself. When you forgive people it heals you. You can’t move towards change by holding on to what once was!

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Mixing and Mingling

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I know lately I’ve been writing a lot about choosing death or hell as our eternal home. The reason I am constantly writing about this is because it is a personal choice and many people freely are choosing their eternal home as hell. No one has to make this choice yet millions are when they choose NOT to stop doing what they are doing.

As always many of my posts are about people who are professing to be true Saints of Gods and those who really are. If you don’t believe it is your choice, I’m really not here to convince anyone otherwise. I’m only trying to remind people of the way to the Father is through the Son. Those who are sincere in their walks understands the many posts I’ve been writing, because as a Saint of God it is our duty to keep trying to reach as many people who will receive. It is our duty to play our parts.

My greatest sorrow is to know people are losing their souls to gain the world when it has nothing to offer other than death. I know it seems fun and full of glitz and glamour, but at the end of the road there isn’t a rainbow; instead death awaits. Everyone chose what they choose, but most don’t understand the detrimental consequences of their choices. I’m not trying to frightened anyone, I’m simply telling you the truth according to the Word of God.

People constantly talk of being judged and of not being perfect, yet in the end neither will be used as a get out of hell free card. No sir, no madam; it doesn’t work that way. Every opportunity we get to live is another beautiful day to choose eternal life!

As true Saints of God we unequivocally can’t mix and mingle with the ways of the world and think it’s okay, it is NOT! The Bible tells us we must separate ourselves. All of this bringing the world into the churches of today to reach youngsters is a crock of lies! You talking about excuses that’s all it is, no way in the world is the mess going on in churches today alright or right period!! People are falling for any and everything, because they aren’t standing for nothing! They are as I always say; like leaves in the wind. They go with whatever sounds or feels right to them at the time.

There is so much mess in churches today, people aren’t understanding, because instead of seeking understanding they are too busy being a part of the mess going on! They would rather be a party to the mess rather than to stand against it. This is why it’s very important people read, know, understand, and live by the Word of God for self! People aren’t getting what they need in churches today, because too many of the churches have brought the world to their sanctuaries. People aren’t seeing any difference between the world and the churches. This isn’t the will of God. Jesus doesn’t conform to the ways of the world or to people. We are to conform to Jesus and His ways! No matter how much people proclaim Jesus or put His name to a song, in their sermons, etc, if you’re doing things against Him, then you’re against the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit!

I don’t care how double minded a person is ANY day someone gets to see is a day to straighten up and get it right! If they continue to do what they do, they may very well lose their soul. This would be very sad!

We must be different, no way on this earth can we choose Jesus and live for Him yet be the same! No way, it’s impossible! We should become peculiar people, because we are supposed to be new creatures. When people willfully want to mix and mingle with the world it’s clear they aren’t sincere in their walk. They are strong in their talk, but weak in their walk! I don’t care how much they proclaim to be sincere they aren’t. People must want to change, when a person really wants to change they will. When a person really changes, their ways will change. Once you’re truly living for Jesus you don’t want any parts of the world any longer. If you do you must check yourself!!

Please stop playing games with your lives before it’s too late!!

To be a new Creature you Must let Things go

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There is absolutely no way around it. To become new in Christ, you must be willing to give up this world. The first step is accepting Jesus as your personal Savior (Romans 10:9), then you must seek Him in all you do and allow the Holy Spirit to lead so you can grow. We must seek after Him day and night. Our minds and hearts must be renewed daily.

Many people want to profess and proclaim they are about Jesus the Son and God the Father. However, their walk tells the whole truth. No one and I do mean no one can serve both Jesus and the adversary, the devil. The problem is many are trying to do this very thing! They turn on their holiness when they know certain people are watching or when they’re around certain people (church, etc), yet outside of it they live any kind of way. They still party, curse like they know no other way to speak, addicted to all kinds of sins of the flesh (sex, drugs, alcohols, etc), fornicating, committing adultery, killing, stealing, etc. They do all of these things and a host of others. Yet they pretend to be in love with Jesus. According to the Word of God, it’s impossible to love Him if you’re doing these things!

When you’re truly in love with Jesus you will live what you profess. Everyday of a person’s life, if they love Jesus they will strive daily to walk in holiness. It’s not about us, it’s all about allowing the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us in the way we should go. It’s all about submitting and committing to Jesus.

Those of us who are truly living for Jesus Christ become new creatures. Everything about us changes. When the devil try to attack we know through the Holy Spirit how to stand firm and tall against his tricks. We get flashes of our pasts even though we are forgiven. I believe it’s a reminder of what we came from and not to go back to. We get thoughts, but we know any thought against the flesh is against Jesus the Son, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit, therefore we quickly put away any foolishness.

I say these things because we are still flesh and bone. If I say nothing ever rises against our flesh, I would be lying. It does, but the difference is as a true Saint of God we dismiss those things. We do not fall subject to those things. Although we are human flesh and bones in this natural body, we have to walk with and in the Spirit, there’s no other way we can make it. Living for Jesus is as easy as anything else. The deeper you go, the stronger and more powerful you become. Jesus gave us power to do things, we must believe it and activate the power within us through the Holy Spirit. This walk isn’t something you pick up and put down at will. You must walk it every single day, all day. Your mind and heart must be about the business of Jesus the Son and God the Father.

We can’t be double minded, because there is no place in God’s Kingdom for double minded people. We must give up our old ways and become new in all of our ways. This sometimes mean letting go of certain people in our lives. I’m not saying we don’t love, but I am saying, if they choose the world, we can’t put ourselves in predicaments causing us to falter or fall. Therefore we have to let them go so they don’t put stumbling blocks and obstacles in our way.

As true Saints of God, the irrefutable truth is we must let go the things of the world. In these times people will love the world more than they do God. The Bible says we shouldn’t love the things of the world. This is why it’s so hard for people to submit and commit to Jesus. They are lovers of this world. No matter if the consequences are death, many still choose the ways of the world. Honestly, my belief is if people TRULY believed they would choose Jesus. They wouldn’t play or pretend, they would undoubtedly choose Jesus. If they really believed in Heaven and hell, they would choose Jesus.

It’s all about choices, people will choose what they love the most. No matter in their minds if they believe they love Jesus, if they flip flop, then they DON’T really love Jesus. Don’t be mad at me, be mad at yourself for your choices. I didn’t make it up, it’s in the Word. You’re either for Him or against Him, there’s no in between. There’s no I’m for Him today, but later on this afternoon, I’m doing me. No it doesn’t work this way. This is a flip flopper, a double minded person. Bottom line, these types of people don’t REALLY love Jesus and they certainly aren’t living for Him. I’m not trying to judge anyone, I’m trying to help people with the unadulterated truth. Time out for watering down and sugarcoating!

Something I saw on social media yesterday I want to write about. There was a picture of people in church and then a picture of people doing other things. The caption said; it’s going to be something when the ones you think will be in Heaven will be in hell and those you think will be in Hell will be in Heaven. This is my opinion; man is looking through the natural eye. They see what people portray to them and they take it as gospel. Although a person may sit in church Sunday after Sunday, may be some form of a church leader, or whatever they claim, etc, etc, it means absolutely nothing. They may or may not living the life. They know if they are and they know if they aren’t; it isn’t a surprise to them. Those who truly are living according to God’s Word will make it others will not. Acting Holy and living true Holiness are two different things. Those who were doing worldly things (whether they go to church or not), will absolutely go to hell IF they do not change their ways. The choice is ours to make, point blank, and the end!!!

The Cloth From Which You’re cut Doesn’t Define you

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Many people are in bondage and they are in bondage because of how they choose to live. There are many who feel because they were raised a certain way it defines who they are. No it doesn’t! You aren’t your mother or father and you’re not the environment for which you were raised. No matter what anyone says or have said none of it defines you UNLESS you chose for it to.

Good or bad we are all products of our environments, past, parents, etc, but none of it defines us unless it is what we choose. Stop believing you have to be this or that, because your parents are/were. Stop believing you can’t do this or that, because your parents didn’t/did. Stop believing you have to be what your parent or parents became, because you don’t! Stop believing you can’t be better than the environment for which you were raised. Stop allowing your past to define you and your future.

People who allow these things to bother them or stunt their growth or potential are people who are in bondage. They are holding themselves mentally captive; they’re not allowing themselves to grow and prosper into all they can be. They believe they are what others say they are. You are ONLY what others say you are IF you believe it!

Live your potential, follow your dreams and goals; don’t let anyone or anything make you feel you’re not worthy of the best. Break those generational curses and chains! You have power and control over your life decisions, don’t let what you’ve been told or what you’ve gone through hinder your growth or potential.

Each day you get to live is a chance given to make a change! Change doesn’t start with anyone other than yourself!!

The Truth Doesn’t Change

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Lies change, but the truth is just that; the truth! People always claim they want the truth until you give it to them. I’m not one who sugarcoats things to please people. Doing this doesn’t help a person it enables them. A lot of what I say or write hits hard and oftentimes upsets people. I make no apologies about it. As a servant I’m on this earth to help those who are willing to accept the truth. I plant the seed and it’s up to individuals what they do with it.

What I’ve found out in life is people are highly offended by the truth. Earlier in my life I was confronted by the truth and it cut me like a knife too. I didn’t want to hear it, but that didn’t change the fact it was the truth. I’ve always been a person who learned from everything I’ve experienced. When I truly knew better I done better and I always learned from my mistakes, bad decisions, and bad choices. It made me into who I am today.

People who take offense to the truth are people who need to search within self to figure out why truth hurts or upsets them. I know for a fact many so-called Saints aren’t what they profess. Therefore any time you speak or write the truth they are upset about it. They can’t stand the truth. They are people who aren’t living what they claim to live. They are people who are still doing what THEY want to do. They are still living in sin and doing things against God. A true Saint doesn’t get mad at the truth.

I understand people who are still in the world getting upset over the truth. They most definitely don’t want to hear it. The great difference is they aren’t claiming to be children of God. They aren’t claiming to be Saints who are living according to the Word of God. Therefore I expect them to get sick and tired of being told the truth. However, I don’t expect it from a true Saint.

Bottom line of this post is the truth is the truth no matter who tells it. If a person is adding to it or taking something from it, it’s no longer the truth. People can pretend all day, but at the end of the day each of us has to give in account for what we do and what we have done. As I always say how we live now determines were we will live eternally. That’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! True Saints if you’re mad about then, I highly recommend you check yourself and re-examine your lives, because what you’re living isn’t the truth and you know it!

If you Accept it you Chose it

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The post is written about people who are in relationships and accepting whatever in the name of what they think is love. Many people are in relationships never meant for them to be in. I’m currently working on a book about this. I know many before me have written on the topic and many will write about it when I’m long gone. I feel it’s time I put my opinion about it in writing. I pray someone somewhere will learn something.

It’s terrible to see people in bad relationships. Unfortunately and sadly it is a personal choice of freewill. Many people choose bad relationships due to their own insecurities derived from a host of unresolved issues. If an issue isn’t resolved it leads to other problems.

In my opinion and without a doubt people get into relationships and miss all of the important signs telling them to proceed with cautious or RUN! They think they have the power to change the other person when they can’t even change self. Does it make any sense???? First of all, if you feel it’s necessary to change someone else, then you’re at least somewhat aware there is potential for a problem to occur. Why move forward???? This is a sign straight from the start. Sadly many continue in their relationships knowing full well something isn’t right.

Sometimes I look at people and literally want to shake them to wake them up. They are caught up in their feelings about the other person and it has them totally blind. Many are disrespected, neglected, rejected, disconnected, and subjected to all kinds of things. They take and accept things from the ones they love that they themselves would never do to them.

Some people feel the person they’re with deserves the best from them, therefore they do any and everything to please the individual. However, in the midst of it they receive the worst from the individual. It makes no sense at all. Never choose to be mistreated. If you accept it, you chose it! There are no and’s, if’s, or but’s about it!

The best recommendation I can give in this situation is to STOP it before it STARTS! Too many find themselves in loveless, unhappy, and unhealthy relationships because they failed to adhere to the many signs in the beginning. Instead of treading the water they jumped right into the deep end without a clue how to swim. Later feeling pulled under and drowning due to their bad choices and decisions.

When you meet someone you’re interested in, before losing your mind, use your brain! How you start any relationship is indicative to how it will end. If you get with a person who is abusive they will certainly eventually beat you whether mentally, emotionally, or physically. If you get with a person who is already in a relationship with someone else he or she is a cheater and eventually they will cheat on you. If you get with a person who has no ambition or goals don’t expect for him or her to change, so don’t make it a problem later. If you get with a person who is into immoral things, when it becomes a problem later, remember you chose it. If you get with someone who’s beliefs are different from yours, it’s what you chose. You can’t save no one, but yourself. You can’t change no one but yourself. I can go on for days with examples.

Bottom line and the moral to it all is you can’t change ANYONE else. You may inspire someone to want to change, but the individual is the one who makes the change happen, NOT YOU! Many people have changed temporarily to get what they wanted and then reverted back to who they really are. Why? It’s because they aren’t ready for real change. It can’t be forced. If you’re struggling with trying to change someone else, the real struggle should be with changing yourself.

If you get into a relationship being led solely by what you’re thinking and feelings about the person and not looking at the big picture, I guarantee you that you will later regret it. Get out of your feelings and see the truth for what it is. Most times people are stuck on how they are feeling about the other person; dismissing what the other person’s actions are saying how they feel about them.

Repent While You Can

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God put it on my heart to tell people to repent before it’s too late. I know many people don’t believe it, because they’ve heard it for so long. There are many others who don’t believe it because they don’t believe, period! It doesn’t matter which category people fall in they will get the same out come if they don’t repent and change; which is a place in hell.

Many people think they can do what they do then repent and it will be okay. This is a lie. People who are sinning then repenting only to do the same sin again are securing themselves a sure seat in hell. That isn’t how it works. God said repent and sin no more, He wants us to turn from sin.

You can’t keep going back to your same sin; you must be willing to change. You have to get a mind set of not sinning. A person has to have no desire to sin. This is why the Bible says “resist the devil and he will flee.” You have to resist temptation. If you have a mind set focused on Jesus you aren’t going to want to sin.

People may not believe what I’m writing, but I’m here to tell you it’s true. Repenting your sins isn’t going to get you into Heaven and neither will accepting the Lord as your Savior (believing Jesus died on the cross for our sins). None of it will get you into Heaven.

The Bible says we must be born again. Being saved is the first step, which means you are accepting Jesus died on the cross for your sins. If a person doesn’t do anything beyond being saved then they won’t grow in Christ. Once being saved a person must be born again in order to live for Jesus. Born again means turning away from sin. It means changing from the old to the new. Most people are saved at early ages; to include myself. However, it was many years later that I was born again and living for Him. Thank God I had sense enough to rededicate myself to Him and be truly born again.

Far too many spend time faking and pretending to be Holy rather than being truly born again and living Holy. They are all about how they look to other people. Faking and pretending gets a person no where but to hell if they don’t change their ways. We are all given many chances to repent and change, but unfortunately many won’t do it. People are so comfortable and happy with how they are they refuse to change. They are complacent in how they are. They lie and hide what they are doing as if God doesn’t already know.

No matter how a person pretends to be; God knows how you really are. He’s the ONLY one who can put you in Heaven or Hell. He’s the ONLY one who all man will bow to. Too many people are bowing down to Man dismissing God the Father all together. Man can put you in the grave, but they CAN’T place you in Heaven or hell nor can they harm your soul. We choose where we will go by how we live right now.

Times are becoming very unpredictable and chaotic. This very moment is realistically the only time we have to decide. The next second isn’t promised. God says He’s coming like a twinkling of an eye, He’s coming swiftly. Now is time to repent and turn away from the world.