Obsession is Unhealthy and Dangerous

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There are many people who has allowed their obsessions with people and things to get them into big trouble. Some people’s obsessions has caused them total discord and destruction, yet they choose to be powerless to it. When you are obsessed over anything, I believe you’ve lost focus which ultimately leads to loss of control.

When a person is obsessed they allow themselves to be in unhealthy states of mind. People are obsessed over many things. Anything you’re obsessed over actually possesses your mind, because it’s what you’ve given power to. You think about it all of the time.

It all starts with a thought. Anything a person constantly thinks about the thought gets stronger and stronger until most times people take actions behind those thoughts. It doesn’t matter what the thoughts are about it works the same for anyone. If you’re obsessed with anything, whatever it is has power over you and will consume you if you don’t change your mindset!

People find themselves obsessing over other’s significant others. They go after people even when they know they are in relationships with others. People obsess over how they look some to the point of depression. People obsess over harming self or harming others until they end up doing it. People obsess over food, sex (unhealthy and immoral ways), obsess over other people in unhealthy ways, obsess over substances (alcohol/drugs), etc. People obsess over their pasts, they can’t move forward, because they’re too busy looking behind.

I can go on and on. The point I am trying to make is whatever you can’t control will control you. If you give power to it that power grows and it’s never into something healthy. Fixating over unhealthy things results in unhealthy feelings and actions.

It’s very important to be aware of what you’re entertaining in your head. Too many people have done stupid things, because they acted upon those negative unhealthy obsessive thoughts. A lot of times people don’t try to resist instead they insist on following through with their obsessions. They lose control, because it is all they think about. There are things in life for which we have no control, obsessing isn’t one of them. You do have the ability to change your states of mind.

Anyone on earth can control what they obsess over. They must be intentional and conscious concerning their obsession. For example, if you obsess over food and it’s all you think of you must intentionally shift the focus to something else more positive. Whether the obsession has caused you to be overweight or underweight, neither is healthy. Think of the consequences of your obsession and what it causes in your life. Remember if you don’t have control, you’ve lost your power to your obsession. You must constantly stay in the moment in order to shift the focus on something positive. This means take ownership of what you’re thinking and re-direct those negative thoughts. Learn to face what has control over you and take back your power. Think of the benefit of your obsession, I’m almost certain the benefit is none!!

I already know some of you will say it’s easier said than done. It is if it’s what you believe. Individuals must stop making excuses to continue to be the way they are when they know the way they are isn’t conducive to a healthy way of thinking, feelings, and acting! No one can do it for you, other than you!

Instead of dealing with their situations many people will continue to allow their obsessive thoughts to creep in. When obsessions linger long enough people risk treading those dangerous waters because feelings flow and we know most are already led by their feelings and emotions. Once they are engulfed by those thoughts individuals succumb and find themselves in situations they never should have been in (overweight, underweight, jail, dead, bad unhealthy relationships, mentally unstable, and the list goes on).

Stop making excuses and make a change! Individually this is something we all have to take the responsibility and ownership for in our lives. None of us have to go through life this way if we choose to embrace change. Don’t for a second think obsessing over anything is good, because it’s not. There is a big difference in obsessing and having passion. Don’t get the two mixed up. You control your passion over something, but you lose control when you’re obsessed!

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Suicide is Permanent Troubles are Temporary

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I know I’ve blogged more than usual this week, but I wanted to send this one out. It’s my opinion and based on many years of experience working with people from all walks of life. No matter the race, gender, age, or population everyone has their issues.

It really saddens me to hear when people take their own lives. We all have a story we could tell. We are all affected by other people and life in some form or another. However, no matter what or who, this life we have is ours and ours alone to live. No one gets to live it for us. Individually we can give our power away to others, but at the end of it all we live and die for self.

Struggles come and struggles go, they are temporary. Unfortunately many choose the permanent fix to their temporary problems; which is suicide. No trouble last always. It may feel as if it does, but it doesn’t. People are so filled with darkness they literally can’t see. They don’t believe their “light at the end of their tunnel” exists. There is light, there is always light if people will hold on.

A lot of readers may say if I haven’t experienced it, therefore I don’t know. Wrong, I’ve gone through storms over and over in my life. The difference for me is I’ve always even as a young child figured out bad things happen. No matter how young or old, no matter how good you are; bad things happen. I’ve learned to accept it. We will all go through storms at some point. Our lives are like hills and valleys. We go in and out of things. We must learn to hold on, because those troubles won’t last always. Life is a cycle and we have to endure the bad and the good. No one complains when it’s feeling good, but people complain when they are enduring those hard times. Unfortunately for some they never experience the good, because what’s inside doesn’t allow them to feel happy about anything.

Individually we must look at ourselves. Yes, there are many people and things affecting us along the way, but we STILL must always look at self. We can’t change other people; only ourselves. Oftentimes people already have issues they are dealing with from childhood. Childhood is normally where it all begins. If a person doesn’t deal with those issues I don’t care how old they become they will carry those issues with them throughout life. Then on top of it they have families, significant others, careers, etc coupled with what they’ve never dealt with (their issues). It all compiles and weighs the individual down. Individually we must learn to lessen the load. It begins for each and every one of us by dealing with self first and foremost. If not you will be a struggling individual, struggling even more due to the pressures of life. People have the tendency of compiling their issues and instead of fixing them it leads to anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, for some homicidal thoughts, physical ailments and other issues.

I don’t care who loves you, they can’t fix or save you! You’re the only person who can do it for yourself. It starts and ends with you. Some people think because they are successful with lots of money life will be easier. This isn’t true at all! You’re still you and no matter where you are your problems will follow because they are inside. No amounts of money, love from others, friends, family, material things will fix what’s wrong inside. People have to deal with self.

Love yourself no matter what! Forgive yourself and anyone else who needs to be forgiven by you. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s actually for you. It’s for your peace of mind. It gives you the ability to let go and move on. We don’t forget stuff, but we certainly can get to a point where stuff doesn’t bother us like it once had.

Instead of dealing with things a lot of people want to give up on self and life all together. This is the wrong ways of thinking. If a person begin to dwell on taking their own life if they don’t change their ways of thinking the bad thoughts could eventually consume them. The thoughts become fleeting (coming and going). Do you know why? It’s because once a person allows bad thoughts to enter in and do nothing about them, those thoughts will stay there and they will become stronger, because the person is giving power to them. This is very dangerous and it’s when people do unthinkable and unimaginable things such as commit suicide, homicide, or a host of other things people do when they’ve succumbed to the darkness. People must acknowledge and take ownership of when they are going through these moments and not simply go through them allowing them to consume them.

Not one of us are exempt from the troubles of this world. As I said earlier in this post we have to take the good with the bad. I’ve written and said many times trouble free people do not exist. I believe the greatest gift we can give ourselves is the gift of love. It doesn’t matter what you went through or who did something to us, we all must learn to love self. When a person truly loves his or herself it changes their mindset, therefore their outlook on life.

Too many individuals give their power to people and things. Living this way means you’re at the will of those people and things. If you give your power away it means you don’t have it. Before living a life of stress due to life and others, take back your power! There will be things for which we can’t control. However, we can always control how we react to those things.

People will look you right in your face and smile. They will carry on as if they are happy, yet inside they are filled with pain and misery. No one can deal with their issues by trying to hide and pretend the pain doesn’t exist. People who commit suicide give up on self and life, but they don’t realize what they leave behind for their families and friends. Talk to someone, talk to anyone about what you are thinking. The thoughts will intensify if you don’t and often to the point of a successful suicide. The thoughts come from a very dark place, a place where it’s difficult to see your way. Life never has to be this way for anyone.

I know things are awful for some people, but again it all starts with you. Never live to please other people or to be validated by other people. Don’t allow your dreams or goals to put you in the wrong mindset. Remember, you can’t please everyone, so don’t waste your time trying. Remember you are unique and no one is like you, others won’t think like you, don’t get frustrated because of it. Love you and be happy for you, it makes everything else better! Individually we must look inside and deal with what ails us! Life is worth living! Change whatever needs changing. Sometimes it means new, places, people, and things. However, no matter where you are in life, nothing changes if you don’t fix what’s wrong. If a person doesn’t change all they will do is take the toxicity from one place to another. No matter what life throws us, it’s all about what we make of it! If you’re in pain, own it and deal with it because it will not go away until you make a change in yourself! No one can do it for you. Life is precious and it’s worth living. Change your attitude it changes everything else!

1-800-273-8255 is the National Suicide Hotline number they are available to assist. There are also hospitals, churches, thousands upon thousands of different sources available, where help is available. No one can help if a person doesn’t open up about what they are thinking. Never give power to your negative and unhealthy thoughts, they may pull you into a dark place you find it difficult to get out of; please, please, please seek help!

I don’t know you, but I care about you and your life!!

Motivation for Change

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There are many people who are in the exact same place not growing at all. I think this is very sad when there are many opportunities to become better individuals. When people choose contentment and stagnation it inhibits their ability to grow. They become fixated in the wrong mindset. If a person is not content, but comfortable, this should be an issue for them. It is up to each of us to change what needs to be changed in ourselves. No one can do it for us it’s something we must do individually.

I know many people who are in this situation and I have seen others who will do nothing to change their lives. They haven’t grown at all. They are in the same spots from years and years before. Their lives are like revolving doors. Despite of the struggles they endure, they choose to be content with their lives. Most times people are this way due to some type of fear and/are other debilitating issues. It traps people in the wrong mindsets and stops their abilities to move.

It irritates me when people want to benefit from the fruits of your labor, but they do nothing to improve self. Althought they may not support you, they certainly want to benefit from your hard work and they will if you allow it.

Stop enabling people to be comfortable with being the way they are when they way they are hasn’t changed. You can’t make a person change, but you sure can change you and not allow a person to constantly use you to supply their needs.
You teach people exactly how to treat you!

Life can throw us all some hard blows. How we perceive those events will most likely determine how we choose to go through them. Unfortuantely and sadly, some people choose to carry the residuals of their situations through a lifetime. It’s hard to move forward with such weight. Some people stay where they are, because it’s most comfortable and familiar. It’s okay to feel what we go through, but it’s not okay to allow whatever it is to hinder our growth.

In this world rarely or ever do people give you anything, you have to work for what you need. If a person choose to live the same way forever then they don’t give self the opportunity to progress. You can’t progress if you choose to remain the same. A lot of people play the blame game, but it get’s you no further than doing nothing. In order to grow, progress, and change, you must do something other than what you’ve been doing. Most of all you have to change your mindset, if you do your attitude and everything else will follow suit!

Blaming Keeps You Stuck

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When a person blame others for who they’ve become they hold back self. They don’t afford self the opportunity to change, because they become stuck and fixated. No one and I mean no one can become who they are meant to be if they are stuck in mental states of blaming other people for who they are.

As I’ve said and written many times before, I believe people and situations can contribute to who people become, however the ultimate decision is the individual’s. No one on earth is exempt from struggles, troubles, adversities, trials and tribulations, woes, sorrows, hardships, misfortunes, tragedy, or whatever you want to label them. We all will go through things and unfortunately sometimes they are things done to us by other people. Still; how we choose to hold on to things is determined by the individual NOT the other people.

We all have our own lives to live. If a person put all their time and energy to reliving and rehashing old things; they give power to it. Many think they are hurting the other person/people by being angry and acting out, truth is people who do this are hurting self the most. If a person live their life blaming other people they do not have the chance to change. These types of people spend years of their lives blaming other people instead of changing and making their lives better.

No matter what you go through it doesn’t have a grip on you, people choose to grip and hold on to those things; even though they are long gone and the benefit of holding on is none. Many people spend their entire lives angry over things that happened years and years ago. They can’t mature or grow, because they are stuck in unhealthy mindsets.

Regardless of what a person goes through if they don’t deal with whatever it is/was they will go a lifetime allowing it to affect them. No one has to live this way. Many people give power to those things and the pain and memories become so strong it consumes them. They become angry and bitter and it sickens them like a disease. They spend all of their time sulking and complaining. They are miserable and unhappy, yet they continue to blame without ever trying to get control of their lives. Many bring children into the world and raise them just like they are to be sad, depressed, angry, and bitter about life.

We all have the ability to change if it is what we choose. No one can take your power if you do not give it! People must take back their power from their pasts. Okay, you went through what you went through, but it’s over now. I’m not downplaying it, I’m not saying it wasn’t traumatic, I’m not saying it didn’t happen, I’m not saying any of it. I am saying the actual event is over, yet people allow their memories to keep them trapped in a time warp as if the event is happening in their present.

I can talk about it because I’ve been their, however I have never been one to blame. I could have, but I didn’t and I never have. I can tell you things I’ve gone through you wouldn’t believe, but yet here I am telling you that you don’t have to allow it to ruin your life. I could be angry, bitter, and all of it, but I choose otherwise. I can’t let anyone take my spirit from me, because they didn’t put my spirit in me. People allow what they’ve gone through to suck the life out of them, when they don’t have too!

You decide you want better, embrace better, and then do better! Accept whatever has happened, forgive people, and forgive yourself. When you forgive people it heals you. You can’t move towards change by holding on to what once was!

Mixing and Mingling

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I know lately I’ve been writing a lot about choosing death or hell as our eternal home. The reason I am constantly writing about this is because it is a personal choice and many people freely are choosing their eternal home as hell. No one has to make this choice yet millions are when they choose NOT to stop doing what they are doing.

As always many of my posts are about people who are professing to be true Saints of Gods and those who really are. If you don’t believe it is your choice, I’m really not here to convince anyone otherwise. I’m only trying to remind people of the way to the Father is through the Son. Those who are sincere in their walks understands the many posts I’ve been writing, because as a Saint of God it is our duty to keep trying to reach as many people who will receive. It is our duty to play our parts.

My greatest sorrow is to know people are losing their souls to gain the world when it has nothing to offer other than death. I know it seems fun and full of glitz and glamour, but at the end of the road there isn’t a rainbow; instead death awaits. Everyone chose what they choose, but most don’t understand the detrimental consequences of their choices. I’m not trying to frightened anyone, I’m simply telling you the truth according to the Word of God.

People constantly talk of being judged and of not being perfect, yet in the end neither will be used as a get out of hell free card. No sir, no madam; it doesn’t work that way. Every opportunity we get to live is another beautiful day to choose eternal life!

As true Saints of God we unequivocally can’t mix and mingle with the ways of the world and think it’s okay, it is NOT! The Bible tells us we must separate ourselves. All of this bringing the world into the churches of today to reach youngsters is a crock of lies! You talking about excuses that’s all it is, no way in the world is the mess going on in churches today alright or right period!! People are falling for any and everything, because they aren’t standing for nothing! They are as I always say; like leaves in the wind. They go with whatever sounds or feels right to them at the time.

There is so much mess in churches today, people aren’t understanding, because instead of seeking understanding they are too busy being a part of the mess going on! They would rather be a party to the mess rather than to stand against it. This is why it’s very important people read, know, understand, and live by the Word of God for self! People aren’t getting what they need in churches today, because too many of the churches have brought the world to their sanctuaries. People aren’t seeing any difference between the world and the churches. This isn’t the will of God. Jesus doesn’t conform to the ways of the world or to people. We are to conform to Jesus and His ways! No matter how much people proclaim Jesus or put His name to a song, in their sermons, etc, if you’re doing things against Him, then you’re against the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit!

I don’t care how double minded a person is ANY day someone gets to see is a day to straighten up and get it right! If they continue to do what they do, they may very well lose their soul. This would be very sad!

We must be different, no way on this earth can we choose Jesus and live for Him yet be the same! No way, it’s impossible! We should become peculiar people, because we are supposed to be new creatures. When people willfully want to mix and mingle with the world it’s clear they aren’t sincere in their walk. They are strong in their talk, but weak in their walk! I don’t care how much they proclaim to be sincere they aren’t. People must want to change, when a person really wants to change they will. When a person really changes, their ways will change. Once you’re truly living for Jesus you don’t want any parts of the world any longer. If you do you must check yourself!!

Please stop playing games with your lives before it’s too late!!

To be a new Creature you Must let Things go

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There is absolutely no way around it. To become new in Christ, you must be willing to give up this world. The first step is accepting Jesus as your personal Savior (Romans 10:9), then you must seek Him in all you do and allow the Holy Spirit to lead so you can grow. We must seek after Him day and night. Our minds and hearts must be renewed daily.

Many people want to profess and proclaim they are about Jesus the Son and God the Father. However, their walk tells the whole truth. No one and I do mean no one can serve both Jesus and the adversary, the devil. The problem is many are trying to do this very thing! They turn on their holiness when they know certain people are watching or when they’re around certain people (church, etc), yet outside of it they live any kind of way. They still party, curse like they know no other way to speak, addicted to all kinds of sins of the flesh (sex, drugs, alcohols, etc), fornicating, committing adultery, killing, stealing, etc. They do all of these things and a host of others. Yet they pretend to be in love with Jesus. According to the Word of God, it’s impossible to love Him if you’re doing these things!

When you’re truly in love with Jesus you will live what you profess. Everyday of a person’s life, if they love Jesus they will strive daily to walk in holiness. It’s not about us, it’s all about allowing the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us in the way we should go. It’s all about submitting and committing to Jesus.

Those of us who are truly living for Jesus Christ become new creatures. Everything about us changes. When the devil try to attack we know through the Holy Spirit how to stand firm and tall against his tricks. We get flashes of our pasts even though we are forgiven. I believe it’s a reminder of what we came from and not to go back to. We get thoughts, but we know any thought against the flesh is against Jesus the Son, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit, therefore we quickly put away any foolishness.

I say these things because we are still flesh and bone. If I say nothing ever rises against our flesh, I would be lying. It does, but the difference is as a true Saint of God we dismiss those things. We do not fall subject to those things. Although we are human flesh and bones in this natural body, we have to walk with and in the Spirit, there’s no other way we can make it. Living for Jesus is as easy as anything else. The deeper you go, the stronger and more powerful you become. Jesus gave us power to do things, we must believe it and activate the power within us through the Holy Spirit. This walk isn’t something you pick up and put down at will. You must walk it every single day, all day. Your mind and heart must be about the business of Jesus the Son and God the Father.

We can’t be double minded, because there is no place in God’s Kingdom for double minded people. We must give up our old ways and become new in all of our ways. This sometimes mean letting go of certain people in our lives. I’m not saying we don’t love, but I am saying, if they choose the world, we can’t put ourselves in predicaments causing us to falter or fall. Therefore we have to let them go so they don’t put stumbling blocks and obstacles in our way.

As true Saints of God, the irrefutable truth is we must let go the things of the world. In these times people will love the world more than they do God. The Bible says we shouldn’t love the things of the world. This is why it’s so hard for people to submit and commit to Jesus. They are lovers of this world. No matter if the consequences are death, many still choose the ways of the world. Honestly, my belief is if people TRULY believed they would choose Jesus. They wouldn’t play or pretend, they would undoubtedly choose Jesus. If they really believed in Heaven and hell, they would choose Jesus.

It’s all about choices, people will choose what they love the most. No matter in their minds if they believe they love Jesus, if they flip flop, then they DON’T really love Jesus. Don’t be mad at me, be mad at yourself for your choices. I didn’t make it up, it’s in the Word. You’re either for Him or against Him, there’s no in between. There’s no I’m for Him today, but later on this afternoon, I’m doing me. No it doesn’t work this way. This is a flip flopper, a double minded person. Bottom line, these types of people don’t REALLY love Jesus and they certainly aren’t living for Him. I’m not trying to judge anyone, I’m trying to help people with the unadulterated truth. Time out for watering down and sugarcoating!

Something I saw on social media yesterday I want to write about. There was a picture of people in church and then a picture of people doing other things. The caption said; it’s going to be something when the ones you think will be in Heaven will be in hell and those you think will be in Hell will be in Heaven. This is my opinion; man is looking through the natural eye. They see what people portray to them and they take it as gospel. Although a person may sit in church Sunday after Sunday, may be some form of a church leader, or whatever they claim, etc, etc, it means absolutely nothing. They may or may not living the life. They know if they are and they know if they aren’t; it isn’t a surprise to them. Those who truly are living according to God’s Word will make it others will not. Acting Holy and living true Holiness are two different things. Those who were doing worldly things (whether they go to church or not), will absolutely go to hell IF they do not change their ways. The choice is ours to make, point blank, and the end!!!

The Cloth From Which You’re cut Doesn’t Define you

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Many people are in bondage and they are in bondage because of how they choose to live. There are many who feel because they were raised a certain way it defines who they are. No it doesn’t! You aren’t your mother or father and you’re not the environment for which you were raised. No matter what anyone says or have said none of it defines you UNLESS you chose for it to.

Good or bad we are all products of our environments, past, parents, etc, but none of it defines us unless it is what we choose. Stop believing you have to be this or that, because your parents are/were. Stop believing you can’t do this or that, because your parents didn’t/did. Stop believing you have to be what your parent or parents became, because you don’t! Stop believing you can’t be better than the environment for which you were raised. Stop allowing your past to define you and your future.

People who allow these things to bother them or stunt their growth or potential are people who are in bondage. They are holding themselves mentally captive; they’re not allowing themselves to grow and prosper into all they can be. They believe they are what others say they are. You are ONLY what others say you are IF you believe it!

Live your potential, follow your dreams and goals; don’t let anyone or anything make you feel you’re not worthy of the best. Break those generational curses and chains! You have power and control over your life decisions, don’t let what you’ve been told or what you’ve gone through hinder your growth or potential.

Each day you get to live is a chance given to make a change! Change doesn’t start with anyone other than yourself!!