You read it right. I mean every word! Most people blame others for how they choose to act or who they choose to become. Truth is how you act and what or who you choose to become falls directly on you! People fail self greatest of all. What I mean is many people do not have the wisdom, knowledge, or understanding of who they are because they spend their lives trying to please others, blaming others, or seeking validation from others. They spend most of their time trying to be someone else, worshipping others, allowing their pasts to stagnate them, allowing others or things to take their power, or spend time believing others make them mad, angry, etc. In doing those things they don’t allow self to mature and grow to who they can become. Many people all over the world are this way. Saddest part of it all most don’t have the wisdom, knowledge, or understanding of this because they deny themselves the power within them to change.
In order to love yourself there’s no way around dealing with the true you, which is dealing with the core. Within the core lies the truth. There lies the problems and the solutions if people would dare to uncover it. Most people continue living the same way. They choose the same paths, they choose to believe they are less than therefore they deny their worth and value, they give power to others and things such as alcohol, drugs, sex, and negative mindsets and ways of thinking.
People are stuck by their negative ways of thinking because it is what they choose. They are mad about things that happened when they were children without realizing no matter what they went through or who did it; as an individual you still have the power to decide if it makes and keeps you angry as an adult. No one makes you mad, angry or full of hate but you; yourself! It’s true! You can blame anyone you choose but the truth is the decision to be mad, angry, mean, full of hate, envious, jealous, stripe, or malice is a personal choice.
People are this way because of how they perceived and accepted things in their lives. Unfortunately many people choose to latch and hold on to negativity. They choose to not love self yet seek it in others and always ending up more broken in some way. They willfully choose to pick up drugs and alcohol as a way of coping or as their way of belonging or acceptance etc. They blame others when although people can contribute to things in your life, how you choose to allow ANYTHING to affect you falls on you, the individual!
People think, feel, and act like their parents or other care givers because it is what they choose. It’s not generational curses. It’s simply the free will of people choosing to think, feel, and act the same as those before them.
No matter what ANY of us have gone through, how we react or act because of it falls soley on the individual. How we perceive or believe it to be determines how it affects us. No matter how bad it was/is; it has no power to hurt you other than what you give it.
If you take things in as bad, then your thoughts will be negative, which in turn fosters negative feelings, and leads to negative ways of acting. This is how most people choose to live without falter. Many have died with their negative mindsets.
If you’re mad or angry it’s because it is what you chose. If you’re full of hate regardless the reason, it is what you chose. Perceiving anything as bad breeds negativity (thoughts, feelings, actions). It all ends up leading to negative mindsets. People willingly choose this poison!
Reality is we all can choose positive minds sets. If you believe troubles last always they will. If you believe your life has been ruined due to what you’ve gone through, in your mind it will be. If you believe you deserve less than, it is what you will get. If you choose to be victims of circumstances then it’s how you will live. If you feel you’re unworthy then it’s how you will act. If you don’t love yourself you won’t love anyone in a healthy way and most times you will not be loved in a healthy way. If you don’t respect yourself you will not be respected. If you give away your power to anyone or anything it will be taken. If you blame others for your life; you’re giving them power over it. If you blame your past you are stuck there and are prisoners to your own ways of thinking. If you look for happiness in others it’s because you don’t have it within. If you can’t be alone it’s because you don’t love yourself nor do you know your worth or potential. No one on earth can change your ways of thinking, acting, and feeling other than you!
I can go on and on. The moral of this post is how you’re acting falls completely on you. No one controls your thoughts, but they can control you if you allow. That too is a choice. Who we’ve become is our choice. What we think, believe, feel, and act may have been influenced in some way by others, but how it all affects us falls on us, individually! No one has power over you unless you believe they do. If you believe it you will become and act powerless. No one can change your mindset other than you! It’s all up to you! The more time you give to negativity the time you’ve lost towards positivity! You can choose change, the power lies within you! As long as you live it’s NEVER too late for change!