Choosing Man’s Way Over God’s Way

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Many people of the world today have chosen man’s way over thus sayeth the Lord. Everything God says is the right way, man is saying it’s the wrong way. Everything God says is the wrong way, man is saying it’s the right way. What’s even sadder is people don’t fear or respect God. They are boldly doing what they want to do! This world has adopted the “Burger King” concept of “have it your way.” There will be repercussions and consequences for all things against the Son and the Father!

Jesus died for our sins, so we don’t have to die for them. God could have easily brought him down from the cross. He stayed there for you, you, you, and I. Yet, this world is right back in the same predicament of the Bible days. People are doing whatever, whenever, and wherever. They have no shame about anything they do or say! To put icing on the cake, many of these people profess Christ as their Lord and Savior! Lies, lies, lies and people who do this know they are telling lies, lies, lies! I’m not trying to spiritually shame anyone, I’m trying to help you realize you need to get it right before it’s too late!

Time is moving right along, it waits for no man. However the most beautiful thing is even though time is moving quickly, everyday we get to see is a day given for us to change our ways and come to the Lord. It is time given to stop mocking God and playing church. People mock God and play church to please man. They go to church out of tradition, but also out of dedication to man, yet they have no commitment or dedication to Jesus. No one can know the Father if they have no relationship with the Son!

Many people don’t want to give up this world; they think they’ll miss something if they do. They are very correct, they will miss something detrimental to them, which is Heaven trying to live for this world! Many people have and are falling away, because they have no roots. Many people want to straddle a fence that doesn’t exist.

I don’t care who YOU think you are or what pedal stool you’ve been put on. All of our knees will someday bow. No one is above the Master! We will all give an account of what we’ve done against God. There are only 2 roads to take; the right one or the wrong one. Many willfully choose the wrong road, because they don’t want to give up the wrong for the right. They don’t want to let go of things of this world.

You can’t take with you your old ways on a new journey with the Lord, you have to put them down. You must let them completely go and not turn back to pick them up. If a person truly wants to serve God they can and they will give up this world. To love Him, you must live for Him, period! Those who don’t want to give up their old ways are the first ones to say you’re judging them. They are the first ones who will say no one is perfect. These are old, old, excuses to stay where you are in the world.

I will not tell you a lie, not one time have I desired to go back to my old ways. When I came up out of my mess, I was thankful how God kept me safe from all dangers seen and unseen, natural and supernatural. I went through some stuff, but He kept me. It could have been me many times, but yet He kept me. I wouldn’t turn back for nothing or no one! God has been too good to me! When I was in the world I thought I was having fun, I did what I wanted to do. However, when I developed my relationship with Jesus, I realized all the things I had done against Him. It made me weep, I still weep when I think about where He brought me from! I can’t turn back, nothing is back there for me. I know for a fact 100% people can live Holy lives if they choose.

The devil has his agenda and has had it from the start. He makes things appealing to the eyes, he tickles the ears, he gives people this and that and sadly some think what the devil gave them is from the Lord, and he makes things glitter to look like gold when it isn’t. He is doing his job of lying and deceiving people. He pulls all types of arsenals out of his bag of tricks to make people think the world is a better option. Nothing a person gains in this world has value in Heaven or hell. We will take nothing with us when we leave this world. How we chose to live determines our eternal home. Yet, people are still choosing this world as if they will be here forever. No, we all will someday depart this world! People must get ready for this transition. We all have a chance right now to get it right while the blood is running warm through our veins.

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Staying Yet Straying

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Okay, here I go again. It is up to each individual as to what they choose in their relationships. However; you ARE to blame for what you allow. You’re to blame for what you accept and put up with. No one can do to you more than you allow. People allow much unnecessary drama in the name of love when love has nothing at all to do with it. Love isn’t those things a lot of people claim it to be.

People who stray outside of their relationships don’t do it because of the person their cheating on. Yes sometimes that person is a problem, but the real reason a person strays is due to their own inner issues. Some people make all of the excuses in their world, but at the end of the day, they cheat, because they want to.

If you stray it’s no one’s decision to do it, but yours. If you stay after he or she strays it’s no one’s decision, but yours to do it. People stray for many reasons, but the fact of the matter is those reasons are all excuses. People cheat because they want to and them wanting to come from other underlined unresolved issues. People stay for the same reason. People who stay give excuses as to why, however truth be told their reasons all boils down to what’s going on inside of them. This is normally due to long ago unresolved issues. People seek love no matter the consequences; which is a sad thing!

I’m all for people remaining together. However, only in healthy relationships! Anyone who stays in an unhealthy relationship must look at the man/woman in the mirror and figure out why. Anyone who’s cheating on their significant other must do the same. Facing inner issues is detrimental in being able to grow into mature adults.

Society is full of tainted and broken people filled with toxicities of their pasts. When people don’t deal with their issues it affects every facet of their lives (relationships, jobs, decisions, choices, health, etc). People embed themselves into all types of positions only to have their demons surface to the top and ruin their opportunities. People get into relationships with clear indications it’s bad from the start only to allow their demons and their significant others demons to rise up and interfere with the relationship.

“The blind can’t lead the blind, unless they both fall in the ditch.” You can’t save anyone and no one can save you! You can’t change anyone and no one can change you. As I will continue to say; families, friends, and significant others may motivate, inspire, or influence you, but the decision to be saved or change falls on the individual who needs it. People think their love making skills, cooking, material things, looks, statuses, titles; may influence a person to change. NOT necessarily!! Even if a person changes due to some type of influence if they don’t change because they feel a need to change the change will not be lasting. It will ONLY be temporary to appease the other person or the situation. The same issues will come up again and again.

Every last one of us can put on facades pretending to be this or that, but every single time something will show the truth. It may be subtle, but nevertheless the truth will always present. Who a person try to hide and who a person is are different for immature people who think they are mature. Those who pretend to be one way yet knowing they’re another show the true signs at some point. It is shown through their actions, decisions, choices, etc. It NEVER fails! We can run, change locations, change jobs, hide, deceive, pretend, disguise, put on facades. However, we can’t EVER run or hide from the truth. We can’t run or hide from self! The truth lies within!! Unless a person resolve their issues they will NOT mature to be the people they’re destined to be.

A cheater will cheat until he or she decides to deal with the inner man or woman and come to the conclusion they are better than that. They are never satisfied with who they have, because they don’t truly love self, due to their inner issues. They choose not to be faithful and loyal to no one, because they can’t be faithful or loyal to self. They are immature in their thinking and for them it’s about gratification of the flesh (physical body, their eyes, material things, statuses, etc).

A person will stay in an unhealthy relationship (cheated on, beat on, disrespected, mistreated in all forms), until they deal with the inner man or woman and decide they deserve better; which starts with loving self. It’s always up the individual. You, you, and I! Every last one of us willfully choose what we allow into our lives. We can make excuses, but what we choose falls on us individually.

Red Flags of a Catfish Scheme

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I know people are looking for love where they can. That is partly the problem, people are looking for love in all of the wrong ways, with all of the wrong people, and in all of the wrong places.

I realize online dating works for many people, but you MUST use common sense when online dating. People truly show you who they are whether it’s behind a computer screen or face to face. The main reason people miss the signs and cues is because they are allowing their hearts to lead. They are being led by feelings and emotions. They look past all of the imminent signs present, because of what they are feeling. They are consumed by what they perceive is love and it’s all they see.

Online dating isn’t the problem. The problem is the people who are partaking in the online dating. If you are led by what you’re feeling, you’re being led by the flesh. This means you’re led by your feelings, emotions, desires, and wants. If you thought about what you truly needed you would think twice about your situation.

No matter how many people have lost their lives or been affected in some way through online dating, people still are doing it. I’m not saying online dating is all together bad. It works for some people. What I’m saying is use common sense and caution. If you go in with your eyes wide shut, you will be consumed by your feelings and emotions. You will have to deal with the consequences!

RED FLAGS
Anybody who has been dating a person for months and years without ever seeing the individual this is a red flag! If every time you want to meet up with them, skype, Face Time, Facebook messenger, or see them in some way in person and they’re always unavailable, this is a red flag. There are many ways to see a person through different apps if not in person. If you decide to meet up and they don’t want to in a public area, this is red flag. Never invite someone to your home nor give them the address.

If you’re having to send them money, this is a red flag. A lot of scammers ask you for money right away. They always claims deaths or accidents. I don’t care what excuse they give, you should have common sense not to send a stranger money. It’s a scam. They know you’re vulnerable and they are playing on your emotions. They know, because many of you tell your life history and all they’re doing is building a solid case to deceive you with the ammunition you freely provided to him or her.

If you google their name and someone else pops up, this is a red flag. If you’re going to use social media online dating, there are many ways to see if you’re dealing with who you think you are. You have to put in the time to research. You can google images, accounts, and other things to see if something fishy is going on.

If you never get to talk to them it’s a red flag. Sometimes it could be an indication it’s someone you know or they simply don’t want you hear their voice for some reason. Sometimes people are foreigners and they know you will hear the accent.

If they are telling you they love you and whispering all the sweet nothings to you right away, this is a red flag. They are telling you what they know you want to hear. They are giving you exactly what you told them you wanted. They give back to you in a very deceitful way what you freely provided to them. They use it against you to manipulate you into believing they really care for you to get out of you what they want.

If they want information from you about personal things, yet never provide you with any, this is a red flag. They are fishing to find out as much about you as they can to play their game right.

I’ve always said and written, when an individual love his or herself, they will be very careful who they allow into their lives. They aren’t eager or desperate for love. They aren’t controlled by their feeling or emotions. They see things for what they are and they have the sense to get away from a relationship that has red flags!

Unfortunately many miss the signs because they are caught up by their feelings and emotions. Being led by feelings and emotions put many in dire situations, they shouldn’t of ever been in. If people do not open their eyes to the truth they will continue to be victims of the Catfish scheme!

Can’t Serve Two Master’s

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People are quick to profess their love for God and His Son Jesus, yet they know in their hearts they are lying. One thing I know for sure is a person can lie all day to someone, but they can’t EVER lie to God. The Bible specifically says you can’t serve two. Many who say they love God are still trying to serve both God and their other master/s.

I saw a video where this guy says there’s no such thing as the devil. They admitted to believing there’s a God, but said there’s no devil. Hmmmmm??? It makes no sense to me. How can a person believe in one and not the other? The gentleman believed we have been programmed to fear the devil, etc. Still it makes no sense to me. People shouldn’t fear the devil, they should fear eternal damnation, which is where the devil will reside one day right along with them. The devil don’t rule hell, the devil doesn’t choose who goes to hell; people choose their own eternal place (Heaven or hell) and ultimately God places them there. The devil will be cast right back where he belongs when the time is right. The only power he has is what God has given him.

God isn’t in the business of forcing people to choose Him and live according to His Word. We all have the right and will to choose what we want. The problem with people today is they want to pick and choose when they are on the side of God and His Son Jesus. They think they can live any kind of way and still go to Heaven. It’s a lie!!!!!!! It’s a trick of the enemy. If you love Him you will live for Him and ONLY Him not sometime, but ALL of the time!

God presents to us in many ways and so does the devil. It depends on who we choose and love the most; as to how we perceive, accept, and choose to live. People think they can do some things pleasing in the sight of God at certain times in front of certain people and it makes all well. It’s a lie! God isn’t impressed or pleased. He’s heartbroken and sad at how people are not willing to give up the ways of the world. He’s sad He’s having to turn people over to reprobated minds.

People don’t want to accept chastisement from God, because they wonder how can a God allow this and that or how can a God do this and that to people. As a good parent (notice I wrote a good parent) you will implement consequences for your child’s actions. You will set guidelines, rules, etc for your child to follow. Why are people upset and angry when God chastise or answer prayers in ways other than what a person hoped for? As a parent the parent knows what’s best, why do people see it differently when it comes to God? You wouldn’t if you were on His side.

One day every last one of us will die, but we do not have to perish! How we live now determines how we live eternally. No matter how tragic the ways of the world are; many still don’t want to give it up. People who don’t want to give it up are the same folks who profess God and His Son Jesus in their lives. They are some of the same ones who are full of idolatry and caught up in titles and positions. They are faithful to going to church, but they are also the one’s full of envy, malice, jealousy, contentment, and other negative things. They are offended most times when you speak about Jesus and the rest of the time, they don’t want to hear it. These people aren’t fooling God, they are fooling self. They are the first ones who say don’t judge me. They are the first ones to say no one’s perfect. Please, give me a break!!! These are ALL excuses to continue to do what a person wants to do. Whether people take ownership or not, NO ONE can serve two Master’s.

People think because they are faithful to going to church they are on God’s side. It’s all lies and they are in denial. They think because they stand and testify or give their rendition of utterance to God they are safe; NOT SO! People know exactly what they are doing and they know when what they do isn’t pleasing to God. You can serve Him on Sunday and/or Bible study nights and do everything you want to do the rest of the week, it WON’T work!! God sees your every move. Unfortunately people love the world too much to completely and totally submit to God. Well, you can’t submit halfway, you have to be in it all the way!! You can’t live this way one minute and that way the next; that’s not how it works. You have to be about God’s business 24/7 and 365/a year! Many people are constantly trying to add to or take away from the Bible to benefit them. God said don’t do it!!!!! I’m saying in writing the benefit of it is NONE! The reason the benefit is none is you’re either for Him or against Him. There’s no in between and there’s no fence to straddle, PERIOD!

Your life now determines your life later. The choice is for each one of us to make. However, don’t for a second think you’re fooling God. He knows how you are living, He knows how you present yourself each and every second of the day. No one’s mannerism, charm, beauty, material possessions, titles, positions, fake gifts they learned to mimic, or fake spiritual performance will get them into Heaven. The ONLY way to the Father is through the Son. You must be, have to be, and got to be Born Again, and you MUST live Holy! There’s NO OTHER WAY!!!!!!!oanl

God Will Separate the Real From the Fake

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You best believe He will do it. I’m talking about the God with the big G and not the little g. Time is at hand, but many people are still playing church. Look around at all of the tragedies that are happening day in and day out, things are getting worse each day. Still; it is not enough for people to want to give up the ways of the world.

My message is to encourage those who claim to believe to reexamine their lives. There’s nothing man can do other than kill your body, they can’t harm your soul. Who a person chooses to serve while they live determines where they will live for eternity. Man can’t do anything other than bow before the King. Man includes everyone!!!

All the mocking of God and Jesus is damnation. All of the mimicking is a simple form of acting with no relevance towards getting into Heaven. The old saying we’ve all heard “fake it to you make it” is shenanigans. If a person keeps faking it they won’t make it at all.

There are many leaders in the churches. They go by many titles, but not one title means nothing if they’re not called by God. Many are called by man and it shows in their walks. They do and say things not becoming of a person who is walking with the Lord. It shows in many of their shortcomings. God will reveal these people! Nothing you think is a secret is a secret!!!!

Many people claim they are on His side ONLY to be man pleasers, doing any and everything against God. The sad part is they act as if God doesn’t know. They take on a form of godliness, but they aren’t truly Godly. If you’re not for Him you’re against Him, period!! You can’t serve two Gods, period!! There is only ONE God, but many other gods!

Too many are using Him like a pawn. They pray in the church rambling on using eloquent words they think are beautiful to the ears. They fake the Holy Spirit and speaking in tongue. None of it will provide a person a seat in the Kingdom. A person must be born again and they must live Holy. Perpetrating and pretending will get a person nowhere but in hell.

Too many are running to the church house for show. It’s all a form of performance, fashion, and showboating. It’s all too appease and please man. People faithful to man in all their doings but NOT to God and His Son Jesus. Jesus died on the cross for our sins, yet many still choose sin when salvation is free. For many they act as if His dying was in vain, because of how people STILL choose to live. They claim to live for Him when they really don’t. I’m very thankful His dying wasn’t in vain, because He chose me and with honor I choose Him!

We have to be transformed completely. Many claim to live for Jesus yet they live any kind of way. We can’t do all of the things we once done and think it’s okay; it’s not! The Bible speaks of false prophets, teachers, leaders, and people in general who are professing living for Him and doing His works; yet are lying and living hypocritically!!

My prayer is that people seek Him while they can. I pray for those who don’t know Jesus in the pardoning of their sins. I pray for those who claim to know and live for Him, because IF they don’t change they will lose their souls.

Man has nothing good enough for me to be willing to give up Jesus and turn back to the world, NOTHING!! Nothing and no one is worth it and anyone who knows me, knows this is how I feel. He’s first in my life and I stand on His Word. I want Him to tell me “well done my good and faithful servant.” Nothing on this earth is worth me missing the mark!

God is going to do the separating of the Saints from those who are ONLY pretending (the aints). In His word He has already told us to separate ourselves, but too many who claim to have separated themselves have not. They are trying to play both sides when it’s NOT possible. Either you’re for Him or against Him. If you’re not 100% for Him then you’re against Him.

The Other Woman/Mistress

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After a conversation I had this weekend, I felt a need to talk about the above topic. There are many women who put themselves in positions to be categorized as the “other woman or the mistress.” It’s NOTHING to be proud of by no means. Some women have the audacity to call the wife or girl friend and tell her they’re sleeping with their husband or boyfriend. Many tell the wife or girlfriend explicit things about the relationships they’re having with the wives or girlfriends of significant others. This isn’t okay , it’s wrong, immature, and stupid.

My advice to any “other woman or mistress” is to get a life of their own and stop trying to ruin other women’s relationships. What this type of woman is doing proves she is a woman who don’t have a clue about what she needs and knows nothing about love. If she knew what she needed she certainly wouldn’t be with some other woman’s man.  If she knew anything about love, she would not seek it with a man who is already in a relationship; this type of situation has nothing to do with love.

If a man whose in a relationship approaches a woman she has the choice to tell him to beat it! Playing with fire can cause you to be burned (both of them)! Any woman who thinks it’s okay to mess around with someone else’s man is a woman who lacks integrity, values, morals, and a host of other things. Some of these women act heart broken when the men don’t leave their women or they harass the wives or girlfriends. It’s ridiculous.

Any woman who brags and boast about sleeping with someone else’s man is foolish. She is a woman who have no respect for herself and too immature to understand what she’s doing will come right back on her. This type of woman is very ignorant to think she has it going on because she’s with someone else’s man. First of all she obviously can’t get her own and secondly she’s very foolish to want someone else’s man. If he’s cheating with her on his wife or girlfriend, he’s showing upfront he’s no good. He’s showing upfront he isn’t trustworthy. He’s showing upfront he lacks morals and values. He showing upfront his commitment and dedication to a relationship are seriously flawed. He’s showing he’s immature.

If a woman thinks she’s doing something good by being with someone else’s man, the last laugh will be from the wife or girlfriend, because he will do to her the same thing he’s done to his wife or girlfriend. Sadly she’s too caught up in her emotions to see the truth.

Women must stop allowing themselves to get involved with men who are already involved with other women. STOP accepting ANY type of excuse from these no good men. If he says he’s going through a divorce then let him get through it. If he says they’re separated, then let him get a divorce. If he says he’s staying with her for the children, then he’s not for you, because he’s in a relationship already. If he says they only live together, but they aren’t together, LIES, LIES, LIES! Stop falling for it. Stop falling for it no matter what the excuse he gives to you. He’s with someone should be enough to send him on his way. I realize sometimes women are lied to by these men, but I believe if she is paying attention he will reveal in some way or another the truth. The signs will be present!

The man isn’t putting the other woman or mistress in a predicament or situation; she’s putting herself in one by going along for the ride. The particular woman that made me want to write this post bragged to the wife about she was paying the bills in her house (the wife’s house). How DUMB can you be???? If a woman is with a married man and she’s paying his bills, she is very stupid! Bad enough she’s in a relationship with him, but even worse; she’s paying his bills. On top of it she’s bragging to the wife about it. Very silly indeed! This is a woman who is led by her emotions into foolishness. She’s thinking with her heart and not her brain. The same way she’s bragging to the wife;  he’s bragging to his friends how he got him a sucker. Believe that!!

Although this post is about women it also relates to men as well. Some men do the exact same thing. They fall for women who are already with someone. It doesn’t matter who does it, it’s wrong! If a person can’t be faithful then they shouldn’t be in a relationship at all. Sometimes to cheat on someone cost people their lives. People aren’t playing games anymore they will take you out when you mess with their emotions. Don’t take any chances with ruining what you have.

I pray for anyone with a cheating spirit to get their lives together and change their ways before they destroy their lives. If you know you can’t be faithful it’s best to walk away before you find yourself in a situation you can’t handle. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. If you’re in a relationship but not committed you are wrong. If you don’t want to be there then it’s not where you should be. Karma is for real and it will bite you when you least expect it. Some of these women you cheat on aren’t playing and neither are some of the women you cheat with. You don’t know what doors you’re opening when you start messing with people’s emotions. Infidelity can get a person in a situation they regret. This goes for a cheating man or a cheating woman.

 

Your Fight Isn’t Worth It

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A lot of people find themselves fighting over their significant others and my question is why? Why do men and women do this? When a person is cheating on you in my opinion they’re not worth bickering and fighting over.

There are many women who are fighting over men. If you’re in a relationship with someone and he steps out on you it was his choice. Any woman who fights over a cheating man is a foolish woman. If there is another woman in the picture the issue isn’t with her it’s with the man. A man who steps out on his woman is not worthy to be fought over, he’s shown he’s no good and not trustworthy. Matter of fact no man or woman is worth fighting over when cheating is involved.

It’s ridiculous to see women acting fools over men who obviously doesn’t value either of them. Women who fight or lose friendship with friends and relatives because of a man are women who lack self esteem and they are insecure.  As I mentioned earlier the issue is with the man.

Sometimes women get involved with men without knowing they are involved with someone. There are men who are married but they lie about it or they lie about the status of their relationships. They say they are married but not together or they will say they are together but are divorcing. Some will even say they just live together but do their own separate things. Any excuse given is just that an excuse. If a man tell you he’s with a woman no matter what the circumstance he’s a man you shouldn’t get involved with. When women choose to get into relationships with men who are already in relationships these women are causing their own troubles.

There are a lot of times women choose to be in denial, instead they want to fight and go after the other woman. A man will do exactly what he’s allowed to get away with and anything he wants to do. Some men keep the pot stirred by continuing to see both women regardless of the chaos it’s causing. Women who stay with these men are foolish women. These men are clearly showing the women neither of them matter.

A mature and good man would never ever bring drama into his relationship. He wouldn’t want to be with any other women. Men who cheat have major issues they need to work out before entering into any relationship. Women who know the men they’re with are with other women yet continue in these types of relationships are insecure women who also has other issues. They are mistreated because they accept this type of treatment.

I’ve always said your man or woman and people in general will ONLY treat you how you allow. If you are fighting with someone over who you’re with, you’re with the wrong person. This is ONLY my opinion! Personally I wouldn’t want anyone who devalued  or defiled our relationship. Unfortunately too many women would rather waste time arguing and fighting over a man then to consider what the man really thinks of her shows in how he’s treating her. If there is another woman involved this says a lot. The issue shouldn’t be with the other woman but with the no good man.

Women who fight over men give these men power over them. These men know what they are doing is wrong but knowing isn’t enough to make them want to stop doing what they do. The women make these men feel important when they aren’t worth the confusion they cause.

Men oftentimes find themselves doing the same things as the women. They too fight and argue with other men over who they are with. No woman is worth arguing and fighting over when cheating is involved. People who cheat does it willfully and freely. They choose to do what they are doing and deciding to cheat shows their significant others exactly what they mean to them. So really;  what is the fighting about?

To know you’re cheated on is a heart wrenching thing but my plea to both men and women who are cheated on is don’t lose your mind over someone who isn’t thinking of you. Stop acting fools over people who commit acts they already know are sure to cause you pain. When a person’s action clearly shows you how important your relationship is NOT, it’s time to take notice of the truth. Deal with your man or woman but don’t fight about it with no one; not even them, because they aren’t worth the fight.