Can’t Satisfy Lust


It’s like trying to fill a bottomless pit. People lust after many things trying to satisfy their flesh. In this post I’m referencing lust and relationships. Unfortunately a lot of people in relationships are lusting after the flesh. A lot of people are in relationships with people who are always cheating on them. If you keep allowing someone to cheat on you then you obviously don’t know your worth and you have no requirements in your relationships. You will always be treated exactly how you allow. When someone cheats it’s because they are chasing the desires of their flesh. What a person has at home will never keep the person at home without straying when they aren’t mentally mature and capable of being in a committed relationship. They have to fall in love with self first.

Many people are in relationships but aren’t committed. This includes single and married people. Until individuals deal with what has caused them to be the way they are they will continue to chase after the flesh. They will always lust after the next person that comes along. They are never fulfilled or satisfied. They don’t love self therefore it’s hard for them to truly love someone else. They can’t find happiness with anyone until they can find it within self.

Many of these types of people would rather get into relationships than be alone. Although they don’t know how to be committed they will still get into relationships knowing the drama they will cause. One of their favorite sayings is (I’m sorry). After awhile those words will fall on deaf ears. They will keep doing the same things even though they see how much they hurt their significant others.

A person chasing flesh will never be satisfied until they are no longer chasing after the flesh. The only way this happens is a change has to occur. A person can’t change without first dealing with their dysfunction and then developing a positive mindset change. With a positive mindset a person learns forgiveness and how to love self. They also learn happiness starts with self. Once this takes place maturity and growth happens. They then are mature enough to handle being in a committed relationship. Until this occurs they will never be happy with one person. They expect their significant other to be committed to them when they know they are expecting something they can’t give. They want to be trusted when they aren’t trustworthy.

It’s sad there are many people who are in these dysfunctional relationships. Some people never mature. They cheat all of their lives. It’s a pitiful, sad, and unfortunate way to live. Those who are in relationships with these individuals live unhappy lives in unfulfilled unhealthy relationships. Some people accept this behavior. When people accept it a lot of times they are hoping the person will change then most times they realize they don’t.

People who accept this repeated behavior must figure out why; just as the cheater need to deal with why they cheat. Cheaters can’t blame no one other than self. Nothing their significant others do will keep them home until they’re ready to stay home. A person can have the best of everything, but until they deal with self it will still never be enough, because you can’t satisfy lust!

The Other Woman/Mistress


After a conversation I had this weekend, I felt a need to talk about the above topic. There are many women who put themselves in positions to be categorized as the “other woman or the mistress.” It’s NOTHING to be proud of by no means. Some women have the audacity to call the wife or girl friend and tell her they’re sleeping with their husband or boyfriend. Many tell the wife or girlfriend explicit things about the relationships they’re having with the wives or girlfriends of significant others. This isn’t okay , it’s wrong, immature, and stupid.

My advice to any “other woman or mistress” is to get a life of their own and stop trying to ruin other women’s relationships. What this type of woman is doing proves she is a woman who don’t have a clue about what she needs and knows nothing about love. If she knew what she needed she certainly wouldn’t be with some other woman’s man.  If she knew anything about love, she would not seek it with a man who is already in a relationship; this type of situation has nothing to do with love.

If a man whose in a relationship approaches a woman she has the choice to tell him to beat it! Playing with fire can cause you to be burned (both of them)! Any woman who thinks it’s okay to mess around with someone else’s man is a woman who lacks integrity, values, morals, and a host of other things. Some of these women act heart broken when the men don’t leave their women or they harass the wives or girlfriends. It’s ridiculous.

Any woman who brags and boast about sleeping with someone else’s man is foolish. She is a woman who have no respect for herself and too immature to understand what she’s doing will come right back on her. This type of woman is very ignorant to think she has it going on because she’s with someone else’s man. First of all she obviously can’t get her own and secondly she’s very foolish to want someone else’s man. If he’s cheating with her on his wife or girlfriend, he’s showing upfront he’s no good. He’s showing upfront he isn’t trustworthy. He’s showing upfront he lacks morals and values. He showing upfront his commitment and dedication to a relationship are seriously flawed. He’s showing he’s immature.

If a woman thinks she’s doing something good by being with someone else’s man, the last laugh will be from the wife or girlfriend, because he will do to her the same thing he’s done to his wife or girlfriend. Sadly she’s too caught up in her emotions to see the truth.

Women must stop allowing themselves to get involved with men who are already involved with other women. STOP accepting ANY type of excuse from these no good men. If he says he’s going through a divorce then let him get through it. If he says they’re separated, then let him get a divorce. If he says he’s staying with her for the children, then he’s not for you, because he’s in a relationship already. If he says they only live together, but they aren’t together, LIES, LIES, LIES! Stop falling for it. Stop falling for it no matter what the excuse he gives to you. He’s with someone should be enough to send him on his way. I realize sometimes women are lied to by these men, but I believe if she is paying attention he will reveal in some way or another the truth. The signs will be present!

The man isn’t putting the other woman or mistress in a predicament or situation; she’s putting herself in one by going along for the ride. The particular woman that made me want to write this post bragged to the wife about she was paying the bills in her house (the wife’s house). How DUMB can you be???? If a woman is with a married man and she’s paying his bills, she is very stupid! Bad enough she’s in a relationship with him, but even worse; she’s paying his bills. On top of it she’s bragging to the wife about it. Very silly indeed! This is a woman who is led by her emotions into foolishness. She’s thinking with her heart and not her brain. The same way she’s bragging to the wife;  he’s bragging to his friends how he got him a sucker. Believe that!!

Although this post is about women it also relates to men as well. Some men do the exact same thing. They fall for women who are already with someone. It doesn’t matter who does it, it’s wrong! If a person can’t be faithful then they shouldn’t be in a relationship at all. Sometimes to cheat on someone cost people their lives. People aren’t playing games anymore they will take you out when you mess with their emotions. Don’t take any chances with ruining what you have.

I pray for anyone with a cheating spirit to get their lives together and change their ways before they destroy their lives. If you know you can’t be faithful it’s best to walk away before you find yourself in a situation you can’t handle. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. If you’re in a relationship but not committed you are wrong. If you don’t want to be there then it’s not where you should be. Karma is for real and it will bite you when you least expect it. Some of these women you cheat on aren’t playing and neither are some of the women you cheat with. You don’t know what doors you’re opening when you start messing with people’s emotions. Infidelity can get a person in a situation they regret. This goes for a cheating man or a cheating woman.




All I will say is if the shoe fits wear it. You want to be the main one when you’re second in line. Why, why, why? Why do people settle for this? Why do you think you’re so special he/she will leave their spouse or girlfriend for you? Why would you want them to? Don’t you know if someone cheats with you, they will cheat on you? Stop allowing yourselves to be treated this way.

Some women and men both got the nerves to try an cause trauma for the significant other’s of the person they’re cheating with. This is absolutely wrong. You have no right to do this! Get your head out of the sand and face reality. If the man or woman you’re messing with is already in a relationship they’re off limits; whether they act it or not. People should have enough dignity and integrity that they think more of themselves then to be someone’s side piece. It means you’re second in line and you will always be for as long as you allow it.

An individual who’s in a relationship yet getting their kicks from their side piece is a person who is immature and needs to grow up. They’re not committed to the relationship they’re in and they certainly can’t commit to anyone else. If they’re cheating on their significant other they won’t be faithful to anyone else and that’s a fact.

I’ve said a million times and will continue to say; people will always do you exactly how you allow them too. If a person is foolish enough to get involved with an individual who’s already in a relationship the first person they need to look at and deal with is the one starting back at them in the mirror.

No matter how strong a TAKEN person comes on to you, get out of your emotions and see the truth staring you in the face. If you’re interested in someone you meet one of the FIRST questions should be are you married or in a relationship with someone. Don’t wait to allow yourself to get all mixed up by your emotions. This is something you need to address right away. If the answer is yes, you need to keep stepping.

Too many people out there are settling as side pieces. Most are only getting sex. Others get some material things here and there, but the man or woman goes home to their significant other. Then the side piece has the audacity to get upset and start drama when they can’t get the time, etc from the person they’re cheating with. They knew in the beginning what they were getting into. Individuals show the world how insecure and desperate they are when they get with someone who’s already involved with another person.

A lot of people get into these relationships but the individuals they’re with (mostly men) don’t want their side pieces giving up the goodies to anyone but him; while he’s getting the goodies wherever and whenever he can. They want to give just enough to the other woman to keep her wanting for more. This is child’s play! Ladies and gents stop settling for these roles. They get you no where but heart broken.

If they do it with you they will do it to you. They’ll mess with you and someone else while they’re yet in a relationship with their significant other. Why? It’s because they can’t be faithful. If they’re miserable at home then let them handle that, before they pull you into his or her drama. Love yourselves enough to avoid these type of situation. Stop allowing the emotions of your hearts to put you into situations you don’t want to be or should be in.

If someone approaches you don’t hesitate to ask them are they married or involved with someone. If the answer is yes, FORGET everything else (next thing comes the excuses), you run as fast as you can. Don’t let your heart get you messed up in the head and off focus, because of your emotions. If you ever been cheated on then you know how it feels, don’t do it to anyone else. Know your worth and value yourself. Respect yourself and your sister or brother.

May God bless you and may you grow more stronger and wiser every day.



Today I want to spend a little time on a touchy subject for some of you. I talked a little bit on something similar a couple of weeks ago, but I think it’s necessary to talk about this particular subject today. You may or may not agree, I’m simply putting it out there. Some of you are bitter, sad, and broken hearted over someone who left you. Many of you are mad at the person they left you for. Understand this one thing: NO ONE can take your man or woman from you UNLESS they want to go. When they choose to go or IF they want to go, LET THEM!!

I can understand how you can be upset and it’s okay, don’t stay there. Don’t allow your emotions to put you in a bad place or situation. Stop holding on to bitter feelings, emotions, and thoughts. If it’s over let it go and continue on with life. The problem for many is you want to hold on to someone who let you go emotionally a long time ago. Then when they physically walk away you’re devastated over something you should have seen coming.

Sometimes a person’s significant other may leave them for someone they knew. If this happens he or she still left because they wanted too. Everyone who says they’re your friend IS NOT! No matter the situation and no matter who; no one can take your significant other from you without them wanting to go.

Many people want to say they didn’t see it coming, etc. Lies!!!! When people don’t want to face the truth this is when they lose focus and oftentimes their way when relationships end. Give no one or nothing this type of power over you. If you do it’s not their fault it’s yours for allowing it.

I honestly believe one of the most major mistakes people make is when they give all of their being to another person. When you do this you have given someone something that doesn’t belong to them (power over you). The only person who deserves every single part of you is the Creator of all of us, because we all belong to Him. If you don’t believe in the Creator that’s your prerogative. This is simply my belief. It’s wonderful to love and to be in love but when you are blind in the midst of that love you often set yourself up for a fall. I’m calling it the way I’ve seen it over and over again.

Moral to this short post is if they left you, it’s because they wanted too. That other person didn’t take them away from you, your significant other left of their own free will. Stop beating yourself up and live. You only have one life to live, please don’t live it being in an unhappy state of mind. Joy belongs to you.

Peace and love!!



If I could I would stand on the highest mountain and yell “our thoughts are what fuels our emotions (feelings), and in return our actions/behaviors.” I chose the above title because EVERYTHING COMES FROM SOMETHING. What I mean by this is no matter what we think, feel, say, do, or act; it all comes from something previously experienced; whether good or bad.

I am dedicating this post to people who have distorted ways of thinking about their significant others. The purpose is to try and help people understand EVERYTHING we do in our lives are controlled by our ways of thinking. Unfortunately many people are allowing troubling thoughts to lead them into destructive behaviors.

To further elaborate, I’ve heard a couple of stories this week about men killing their significant others, because they found out they were cheating. Infidelity is a tough pill to swallow whether in a marital relationship or a dating relationship. However, it’s never worth losing all control and doing something unthinkable. Once you do anything it’s done, some things can be retracted and done over, but many cannot. WHATEVER YOU SAY OR DO PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, OR MENTALLY to someone else YOU CAN’T EVER RE-DO WHAT’S DONE.

Unless you have something wrong that has you unable to mentally understand; you’re aware of when a significant other is cheating. People say they didn’t know or this and that, but it’s a big lie. People know, whether they want to face the truth or not. Some don’t want to accept it as fact, but the signs are staring them in their faces in some form or another. Regardless of the situation when a person steps outside of the relationship it is NO REASON to hurt or kill that person and/or the person they’re cheating with.

I know how upsetting it can be, because no one wants to be hurt this way. It can change how you feel about your partner and the relationship as a whole. However, it’s STILL no reason to hurt or kill the individual’s involved. People who do have lost control. They’ve allowed their thoughts and feelings over the situation to lead them down roads of pure destruction. IT’S NOT WORTH IT.

If someone is cheating on you the couple needs to sit down and talk it out. Figure out what’s wrong with the relationship and try to fix it. People have a millions reasons as to why they cheat. They’re ALL EXCUSES, every last one of them. Who ever is cheating needs to take ownership and responsibility. Face whatever the problem is and fix it. If the cheater has fallen out of love then say it. If the cheater doesn’t want to be in the relationship then say it. DON’T cheat, because you then bring other problems into an already bad situation. It compiles on top of problems already there; which adds gasoline to an already burning fire.

Cheating is NEVER the solution!!! On the other hand if it happens it’s no reason to hurt or kill anyone. NEVER!! People who do has no control over their emotions and has allowed their emotions planted by their seeds of thought to influence and control their actions/behaviors. They’re not thinking rationally, because their uncontrolled thoughts has lead to anger and rage. IT’S NEVER WORTH THIS!

People must learn to control themselves. Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t entitle either person the right to hurt or kill that person. People who are contemplating or who has done this need help. Hurting or killing someone doesn’t fix the situation. It only causes problems for those who commit the senseless acts. People must learn to move on. If a person cheats on you, they too are dealing with unresolved issues. However, truth be told, people who hurt or kill are also dealing with unresolved issues. People don’t wake up and say I’m going to hurt or kill my significant other, things have happened over time to have gotten these types of people in this state of mind. A state of mind in which all rational thinking has been lost. Most times these types of people have ALWAYS had distorted ways of thinking whether others knew it or not. Distorting thinking (thoughts) is what lead to the breakdown. These types of people need help. They allow their ways of thinking to cause them to act out in ways unbecoming.

EVERY SINGLE THING IS DICTATED BY HOW WE TAKE IT IN AND PROCESS IT. If you take something in AS BAD and you constantly allow it to play around in your head it will mess you up, because this is what you’ve allowed. I don’t care what it pertains too, this is across the board. Our thoughts can be powerful and they CAN lead people to do unimaginable things if people aren’t conscious of those thoughts. Thoughts can fester into things causing chaos for all involved and sometimes for innocent people who had nothing to do with the situation. It’s so unfortunate.

If you’re with someone and they don’t think enough of you to stay loyal, dedicated, and faithful to you, then hello, RED FLAG! In my personal opinion it’s no reason to stress yourself out about, because YOU CAN’T CONTROL WHAT THE NEXT PERSON DOES AT NO GIVEN TIME. If who you’re with isn’t valuing your relationship, this is something the both of you need to work on. If someone steps outside of the relationship it is them who made the decision to do so. Value yourself and make a decision as to what it is you want to do next. Don’t allow it to send you on a whirlwind of destruction (whether mentally or physically). It’s not worth it and they’e not worth it. If they were they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Keep your thoughts and emotions about the situation in check and deal with it accordingly.

Another side of this type of situation is many of the individuals who choose the decisions to hurt or kill their significant others are people who have had issues long before making the decision. These are people who are often insecure, controlling, obsessive, or possessive. The signs were present long before they made the decisions to do what they chose to do. Too many people get into relationships with individuals who have clear signs of these problems, but those involved choose to continue on in the relationships (for whatever reasons mostly which are they think the person will change). These types of individuals often have had problems handling situations for a long time, so imagine how they will handle infidelity. This is why I always say “what you accept from the start is what you will end up with.” Only difference is it is often worst.

I was cheated on in a 12 year relationship and my decision was to forgive him. We talked about it and he gave me the spill of his I’m sorry, but after the second time, I sent him packing. If he couldn’t value me or our marriage what on earth did I need someone like that for? The first time wasn’t a mistake, it was a bad decision. It hurt me, but I chose to get past it, but when it happened again, I let him see the door. It’s not worth the heartache or headache. You can’t control other people. We hope for them to act as they should, but we also get what we allow. First time was on me, second time was on him, and I wouldn’t allow a third. LIFE GOES ON, unless you choose to let it knock you down and out. No one and I mean no one is worth my peace or your peace, but it is you who have to understand it and make the decision to believe it.

I pray people find peace in their minds. Things we endure in this world aren’t always fair, but they’re never things that we should allow to cripple us. I don’t care how bad, it’s always a choice as to how we choose to deal with things. Lord knows I’ve gone through some trials and tribulations. No matter how they look; they come to make us strong. People who don’t believe it are those who allow their situations to keep them in places (states of minds) that they don’t have to be in. It’s NEVER as bad as it seems, but it’s ALWAYS as bad as we make it! That’s my motto and I firmly believe it.

You can’t control your significant other; no matter how much you try. One thing you can’t do is make someone love you, want to stay with you, or NOT cheat on you. However, you can control how you respond and how you allow someone else to affect your peace of mind.

I learn from everything and one thing I know is true. If you allow it to happen, it will happen. If you lose focus, you’ve lost control. For me, I choose peace.



Yes, you read it right! It’s a choice! People want to make excuses for everything they do, but the truth of the matter is that’s all it is; EXCUSES. People don’t accidentally do things and it’s no mistake. It’s WRONG CHOICES/BAD DECISIONS. However, people want to call it mistakes. THESE ARE EXCUSES! The first thing a person want to say is I made a mistake. Oh really! Then why do so many go back and made the very same one over and over again? It happens all of the time.

There are many types of temptation people can fall into, but the bottom line of it all is no matter what it is, IT’S A CHOICE TO FALL INTO IT OR NOT. People can walk away, but most won’t; instead they will dive head first into it. This post can relate to any situation concerning temptation. However, this one is concerning relationships.

Anyone can be faced with temptation at any moment in life. When you do think about your entire life. Think of your current situation. Think of what your significant other will feel. Think of how you would feel if your significant other would do it to you. Think of the risk you’re taking. It could destroy you and your relationship. Then think is it worth it?

At every turn there is a chance to walk away. I know some of you don’t believe in God and as I always say it’s a personal choice. As a Christian, I want to add a few verses from the Bible concerning temptation. Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it. This is letting you know temptation will come, but it doesn’t mean you have to fall into it. You have a choice to do the right thing if you choose the right decision. It is yours to make.

It also says in Matthew 26:41 Keep watching and praying that you may not enter into temptation; the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. This means when we live by the flesh (lusting and living by the desires of your loins and what your eyes see) it is easy to fall into temptation, because of the flesh. However, although that statement is true, we still have the power to resist it, because our spirits are willing to do so. It is us who has to have the strength to resist, we can do it if we choose too.

The problem comes into play when individuals completely ignore the consequences of their actions. They simply toss it in the wind. Some people don’t take a second to think about anything, they just do it. Others may think of the consequences, but they still take the risk. Then they have the nerves to open the holes in their faces to say, “it was a mistake.” Lies, lies, lies!

Men and women both, must start taking into consideration the risks they’re taking and the aftermaths of their actions. It’s time people open their eyes to reality and stop following the tingling of their loins and the lust of their hearts TO DO THE RIGHT THING.

Stop falling into temptation and taking all kinds of unnecessary problems into your relationships. You wonder why your significant others don’t trust you. You can’t do right, because you continue to FREELY choose to do wrong. You keep bringing mess into your relationship. It’s been your personal choice to do so.

People aren’t forced into temptation. They fall into it by freewill. Yes, it will come in some form or another until we die, but it doesn’t mean we have to fall into it.

Learn to be faithful to who you’re with. Live your life with integrity. Treat your significant other in and out of their presence the way you want them and expect them to treat you. As I’ve said before, “many of you can dish it out, but you can’t take it.”

When people fall into temptation they defile and cause damage to their relationships. It changes what your significant others think/thought of the person who chooses to enter into temptation. It casts doubt and mistrust. People choosing to fall into temptation can ruin their relationships and sometimes it costs them everything they’ve worked hard to build. Sometimes it has even cost people their lives.

It’s truly a “dog eat dog” world we live in. When people fall into temptation and step out on their significant others they don’t always know what they’re getting into. Sometimes the people they choose to become involved with wreak major havoc into their lives and the lives of their significant others. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true.

The world isn’t getting better, it is getting worse and if you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. Know that you can control your flesh. It’s like doing anything else new. At first it’s difficult, but then it becomes easier and you will learn the many faces of temptation. You will begin to stand for right once you stop willfully falling for wrong. It’s a process like any other process and you become stronger by resisting and living by good morals. Stop risking it all for self gratification. It’s not worth it.

Deal with whatever is messing you up inside and causing you to be the type of person who won’t stand for what’s right. There’s something that’s causing you to be a person who lacks honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, and integrity. Until you deal with it you can’t EVER be faithful to the one you’re with.

I pray individuals who are suffering with this problem realize it’s a problem, because they’re making it one. It’s an issue, but a person don’t have to make it a problem in their life IF they deal with it and work to change the behavior. It’s all a state of mind (believe it or not). I pray that wisdom and knowledge fall upon you and that your life is changed. I’m absolutely sure loved ones don’t marry to divorce or live in misery. Be faithful in your relationships and love the one you chose to be with. Build a love that can withstand any storm, but don’t let the storm be one you’ve caused…..Blessings!



The first thing I want to say is it is possible. I won’t even try to make excuses for people who cheat on their significant others. To me there’s no excuse. I don’t believe in it at all. Nothing just happens and it’s never a mistake. People willfully get into affairs (physical, emotional, or both) It’s not a fluke. It’s an intended and a willful act. Before people decide to cheat they should always put themselves in the shoes of their significant others. Could you handle it if it happened to you? If you can’t take it, don’t dish it out. You must always consider the consequences, because believe me; you will face them.

When you’re out cheating you don’t know what you’re getting into (especially when you’re cheating with random people). There are many true stories about people who get with sexy men or women who unknowing to them have AIDS or other diseases. You have sex with these people risking your life and the lives of your significant others.

Some of you end up with psychos who end up wreaking havoc in your lives and the lives of your loved ones. You ever seen a movie called “Fatal Attraction?” If you haven’t check it out! Then there are some of you who cheat with individuals who take you for everything you have. There are many types of scenarios I could mention. When you’re cheating you never know what you’re getting into. It may be all fun and games to you, but it may be a completely different story to the one you’re cheating with or cheating on.

However, through it all and despite of it all it is possible to move on and beyond it if individuals are willing. This post is for both the one who is finding it hard to trust again and for the ones who’ve cheated.

The biggest problem I’ve found with individuals learning to trust again is when the person who defiled the relationship by cheating says “I need for you to trust me,” knowing full well they’re still cheating. Some of these cheaters nag the heck out of their significant others to trust them. Why? Why ask for forgiveness and trust when you’re #1 still cheating, #2 not serious in your asking,  and # 3 you’re trying to force it?

Some cheaters cry their eyes out. You carry on like big babies pleading your sorry until the cows come home, yet you’re still cheating. You know you are! You have the gall to get mad when your significant other can’t seem to trust you. You will say things like, “if you can’t trust me we can’t keep going on like this, or I need for you to trust me.” Please! People like this have some nerves! You have no idea the pain you’ve caused. The only time you all seem to get it is when you’re on the receiving end of the situation. Get yourself together and straighten out your life. You don’t deserve to be trusted if you’re not doing right. Stop asking when you know you’re DEAD wrong! Stop causing pain to the one you’re supposed to love. Figure out why you’re the way you are and deal with your issues. This is the only way your relationship will work, you must change your ways.

Many of you know you’re not serious when you ask for forgiveness. You want trust without honesty. What I mean is, you want to be trusted, but you’re not willing to do right by your significant other. You’re not ready to give up what you’re doing. You’re still lying, deceiving, and cheating. If you don’t change you’re risking the possibility of losing what you have. You can’t move forward until you fix you.

Some of you give ultimatums. The nerve of you! This isn’t right! You cause the problem and then you turn around and give ultimatums when the other person is finding it hard to trust or believe in you. To trust again IS NOT on your terms or whenever you feel it’s time. You have to give the other person the opportunity to accept and deal with it. You don’t have the right to try an force it. You cheat, but then you turn around and try to tell your significant other it’s time to move on. You don’t want to hear or talk about it anymore. This isn’t right! You must give your significant other time to process it, deal with it, and heal. They have every right to decide if they will stay or leave your cheating butt behind.

Some of you won’t change your ways no matter what. You want to be forgiven, ONLY because you don’t want to hear about it anymore. IF you’re forgiven on YOUR terms it is putting the ball in your court. Your significant others has basically given you the power. You know you have the upper hand and you’re likely to continue cheating. You’re masters of manipulation. You’ve lied, begged, and plead so much you’re a master at it.

Sometimes people cheat and after realizing the devastation it has caused they will not cheat again. These are individuals who realized and accepted the consequences of their actions. They understood they were wrong and decided to never put their loved one through it again. Although you were wrong to cheat, I can still take my hat off to you for cleaning your act up. It may have cost some of you your relationships, but the most important thing is learning from it and never doing it again.

Often there are individuals who can’t seem to get past infidelity. It definitely takes time. A person has every right to take the time they need to deal with it. A lot to times individuals make decisions to leave their relationships. They don’t want to continue on with someone they can’t trust and who has defiled the relationship. On the other hand there are others who decide to stay. They accept what has happened, they deal with it and move on. Then you have those individuals who can’t seem to get over it. They claim to forgive, but they can’t let it go. If you say you forgive and you choose to stay you must be willing to move on. You can’t keep bringing it up every time the other person looks around. No matter how much it pains you, you must move on. There has to be a point where you either get over it or decide to move on away from the relationship. You CANNOT constantly bring it up, because you will further damage an already damaged relationship. Your relationship may as well be over, because it won’t work if you continue to bring up the affair.

Some of you are so desperate you will constantly endure infidelity in your relationships. You will act as if it’s your fault. It wasn’t you who cheated and you shouldn’t take the blame. Many cheaters will put the blame on you in order to take it off of them. However, when you constantly accept being cheated on it says a lot about you! You’re insecure and you have issues that have debilitated you. Your significant other know they can do whatever they want as long as they come home and throw you a bone every now and then. It’s so sad to see individuals who allow themselves to be treated so disrespectfully. Cheating is an issue within the cheater, but to constantly accept this type of treatment also shows you’re someone who has issues as well. As an individual it doesn’t matter who you are; you will be treated by others exactly how you allow. According to how you treat yourself, people know exactly how to treat you. You take foul treatment from others according to issues you have and allow to dictate your life.

A one time affair may or may not end the relationship. It doesn’t have to end the relationship IF the cheater never cheats again and is truly remorseful for what they’ve done. However, when a person doesn’t take in consideration how they’ve hurt you and they continue to cheat, this is another story. To me, this type of individual doesn’t deserve to constantly receive free passes. SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE! His or her feet must be held to the fire and they should have to deal with the consequences of their actions. It may mean them going to counseling or seeking some form of help. It may also mean existing the relationship. It’s the decision of the person being cheated on don’t let the other person make the decision for you.

There are many reasons people come up for cheating. The bottom line is people can make any excuse they want for cheating, they’re ALL wrong! There is no excuse for it. If you’re in a committed relationship you shouldn’t become involved with someone else. It takes two people to make a relationship work, but it only takes one of the two to mess it up. Some of you are trying to have the best of both worlds, but it just doesn’t work! If you can’t stay committed DO NOT COMMIT!