Love Isn’t Love When it’s One Sided

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Why are you crying over someone who doesn’t want you?????????????????????????
Why are you taking up space in your mind pining over someone who has let you go?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
I guess I’m made different from many others, because I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want me.

There are a lot of men and women who are stuck, because they are still messed up over someone who walked away. If a person wants to walk, let them walk! We all have the right to do so! When a person is caught up in their feelings they forget they’re not in a relationship along. They only think about how they feel, what they want, and desire. They never think about what they actually need. This is why people find it difficult to let go.

You can’t force anyone to be with you. If a person wants out let them go. There’s nothing you can do to keep your man or woman with you if they really want to go. People cheat because they want to. They cheat because of what’s inside of them. No matter the issues a relationship has, cheating individuals will cheat because they want too! Stop crying and losing control over someone who doesn’t even care.

If people get out of their feelings they can see the truth. Love yourself enough to not allow people to dictate your happiness. Love yourself enough to be able to stand alone when the one you love doesn’t love you. No matter how much you love a person or how much you give a person, if they don’t love you nothing you do will make them love you. They may love what you do for them, but it doesn’t mean they love you!

Many people render themselves powerless to people who don’t care less! Individuals must learn to look past feelings to see the truth of what is really happening. It’s a wonderful thing to be in love with someone, but if that someone isn’t in love with you you’re treading treacherous waters.

Life goes on! Loving yourself gives you the understanding of what love is. It empowers you with the ability to let go anyone or anything from your life that is trying to take your peace, happiness, and joy. Stop trying to run in the direction of someone who is running in the opposite direction of you!

As I’ve always said, “people get in relationships and stay in relationships for the wrong reasons.” Your love is null and void if the person you love doesn’t love you. That isn’t a relationship! A person will stay with you for the benefits you offer (security, sex, material things, etc, etc). However, it doesn’t mean they love you. Stop trying to buy people’s love, because you will NEVER have enough money to do so! You can have Steve Job’s or Oprah Winfrey’s money, but if the person you’re with do not love you, no amount of money will make them love you or stay with you.

As for cheating, there are always signs. Anyone who says there aren’t are blind to the truth. I don’t care how subtle, the signs exist. People can ignore them, but they still do exist. When a person is caught up in their feelings they are blind to the truth. Yet, the signs still exist. As humans, we put ourselves in bad and unhealthy situations for lack of self love. When a person doesn’t love his or herself they fall into many unhealthy situations because fact is they can’t see beyond their feelings and emotions.

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Trust He’s All You Need

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I know in life some days are easier than others. If anyone says everyday is great, they are lying. We all have good and bad days, but in the midst of the bad days, God is still good! Many people add to their problems by the choices and decisions they make. There are a lot of people who are broken and sad. Many of them want to give up, but I encourage you to hang on in there.

Although His time isn’t ours, He doesn’t think like us, He’s still an on time God. He doesn’t always come when we want Him, but He’s always on time. He didn’t say he will supply our want’s but He did say He would supply our needs. A lot of people don’t know what they want, they continue to make bad choices and decisions, but God and His Son Jesus knows what we need.

God gave His only begotten Son Jesus and He’s everything we can ever imagine or think we need. He’s love when we feel no one cares, because many don’t have support or people to love them, He always loves us. Man’s love is conditional, however; the love of God and His Son Jesus is unconditional. He’s shelter in the time of storms, which doesn’t necessarily mean physical shelter, but it means spiritual shelter/protection. He’s our water when we are thirsty, this doesn’t necessarily mean running water, but the water of life from the depth of the well of water He supplies so we thirst no more.

He’s a friend to the friendless, a mother to the motherless, father to the fatherless, and so forth. He’s our first, last, beginning, and end. He’s our all and all. He’s our wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and many great things we all need. He’s a healer in our times of sickness, He’s our Comforter through the Holy Spirit. He’s peace when things seems a little much, He’s joy, that’s why you should never let anyone take from you what they never gave you in the first place. Many people feel lonely because they get all into their feelings, but we don’t ever have to feel this way because we aren’t ever alone.

I can go on and on, but I hope you understand what I am trying to relay. He is everything we need. It is up to us who say we believe to trust, lean, and depend on Him. Everything we ask for isn’t necessarily what we need, trust that Jesus knows what’s best for you. Stop getting angry with Jesus, because when you do you’re allowing the flesh to lead. When you’re angry with Jesus you’re allowing the devil to steal your joy. Believe Jesus to be “the Great I AM, because that’s exactly who He is.

No one ever said when you live for Jesus your life would be trouble free. We still go through, but instead of trying to fix your situation trust and believe Jesus got it! He can handle it if you turn it over.

Standing on Your own Oftentimes Means Standing Alone

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I wanted to encourage someone this morning who may be going through their moments of feeling alone. I realize for some it seems like a lifetime, but I’m here to tell you you’re not alone, there are many people who feel like you. I’ve been there myself time and time again. However, for me I know who stands with me through it all. I know to the natural eye I look alone and if a person is caught up in that, they will feel alone. I know I’m never alone because spiritually I’m always surrounded my God’s love. I know the Holy Spirit is there as my comforter and my guide. It’s hard for a lot of people to comprehend and really I don’t expect them too, especially if they aren’t on that type of spiritual level.

Remember, no matter what you’re going through do NOT lean to your own understanding. No matter what it look or feel like do NOT lean to your own understanding. Trust Jesus to be exactly who He say He is, and when the going gets tough; keep right on praying, trusting, and believing! We wasn’t put on this earth to have a peaches and cream day everyday. We are going to have some hard times. During those times hold fast and strong to your faith in God and in yourself!

I’ve been different all of my life, I’ve felt an outcast all of my life in many situations to include work, church, family, and friends. I love all people, but all people don’t love me. I honestly don’t care who it is I have NEVER ever allowed it to hinder me or cause me any form of stagnation. I haven’t always been as close to Jesus the Son and God the Father as I am now, but even when I wasn’t and was too immature to know it; He had me covered! He kept me time and time again! Through my darkness times, He was there for me, loving me, and keeping me strong EVEN when I didn’t know it was Him.

If I was the type of person who relied on others for my joy, peace, and happiness I would have given up a long time ago. Thank God Almighty He made me the way He did. I thank Him for given me wisdom, knowledge, and understanding even when I didn’t know what it was He had given me. I only sensed being different.

I’ve been around people from all walks of life both in country and out of country, yet I’ve never been one to conform to others to be a part of the group. If you like me fine, if you don’t fine. I don’t give anyone or anything the power to cause me pain and suffering. I know exactly how to let go and let God work it out for me. Trust and believe I’ve gone through enough to be angry and full of pain, but thank God Almighty at an early age I had this something inside of me that kept and made me strong.

To anyone who may need this on today, stand tall and know that NO MATTER what you’re going through you’re NEVER alone. If being alone is what you’re focused on and if it’s what’s always on your mind you will most definitely begin to feel some kind of negative way about it. It will cause other issues for you, issues you don’t need.

I think it’s VERY important people do not lean and depend on others to a point of breakdown if the support isn’t there. Individually we must learn to stand on our own and believe in self. There will be many let downs by others. There will be many days we aren’t supported by others. If we don’t allow others to dictate our happiness, joy, peace, then they certainly can’t take it from us!! Stand, EVEN IF IT SEEMS YOU’RE STANDING ALONE!

Only A Changed Heart Can Conquer Hate

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I know and understand love conquers hate, but before a person can love; their heart must first be changed. Look around at the world we live in today, there is so much hatred. People seemingly hate for no reason, but there is always underlying reasons as to why. Hatred is a learned behavior. It’s learned through parenting, family, friends, other people, environments, and surroundings; and it starts early in a person’s life.

Some people are so bitter; you can see it in the way they speak and act. They are mean, cruel, and unhappy people. I’ve dealt many people who are in their places of business but they are mean and have no customer etiquette. They are plain rude. This anger comes from the inside; the true essence of who we are. It comes from years of learned behavior. People get used to acting a certain way; they don’t even realize how they’re acting. That doesn’t make it right!!

Nowadays killing another human being means nothing to some people. These types of people have deep rooted issues they’ve not faced. They’ve carried these issues around for years and it has made them into very sad and angry people. They hate themselves and they’re mad at the world. Through the media we’ve seen many have committed murder. People have taken the lives of many they don’t even know out of anger and rage build up over the years.

No person on the face of this earth is exempt from troubles in life. We will go in and out of our valleys, up and down our hills and mountains, but life goes on. How we deal with those ups and downs is indicative of how we will weather those storms. Problem is many don’t even try; they go through those periods of life complaining, but never trying to change to become better people. They continue to do the same things. They hold in anger not realizing it’s affecting the very essence of who they are. Anger turns into hate and hate into violence in some form or another IF it’s not dealt with.

Over the years anger has built up in these angry people and as mentioned earlier, this anger has turned into hate. It sabotaged their lives and it affects them mentally, physically, and spiritually. It makes some people into the walking dead. They are alive, but they are dead inside. They have no peace, joy, or happiness. A lot of these people project this hatred onto others and oftentimes the outcome is deadly. Things never have to get this way if people would stop downplaying what’s ailing them. If they would face things and deal with them, and stop holding it all inside. Bottom line is nothing but a changed heart will conquer their hate.

No one can receive love if their heart isn’t changed to embrace it. Unfortunately many were never shown or taught what love is, but this doesn’t mean a person can’t learn if they choose to. I am praying for peace of minds all over the world. Showing love is something people seem to have a hard time doing these days. It seems that families are against one another and people hate folks they don’t even know. It’s all very sad and disturbing. So please join me in praying for peace across our world.