Do You Choose A Breakthrough or Breakdown

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The choice is always yours! We will always go through something for as long as we all live. Our lives have constant peaks and valleys that we must endure. No one on earth is exempt! It’s the way it is. However, how were perceive and receive things determines how we choose to go through them. Our trials and tribulations can make us stronger or break us down. I believe they are meant to make us strong, but people choose to breakdown.

I say choose, because it is a choice. How we handle our adversities can brighten our days or darken our days. In the midst of dark times Jesus is still the light! People want to pull away from others when they are going through. They want to dismiss all encouragement offered, because they choose to embrace their pains of what they are going through. People are oftentimes angry with God, what they fail to realize is God didn’t do it. Yes, you’re allowed to go through things because this world is full of the good, bad, and the ugly, but breaking down as you go through is a choice.

People are already dealing with things in their lives they’ve never resolved. They carry those things with them every where they go. During their journey of life they allow other things to compile on what’s already hindering them. Then when the storm comes they often drown because they can’t tread water to stay afloat. This is when the breakdown occurs.

I believe every single thing we go through is meant for a lesson, even when we make not so smart decisions. If people learn from those things they will grow during their lessons. It will open their eyes, it gives them strength to tackle the next storm. The problem is, so many are led by the flesh (money, sex, love, material things, the many things important to man = titles, positions, fame, fortune etc, some people get obsessed with these things and will do anything to get them). It can all inhibit their ability to see, because they allow their flesh to lead. They want what they want right now. When the flesh leads it causes chaos. People who allow their flesh to lead have a daily struggle with making the right choices and decisions. It’s because they have a lot of things going on inside that are unresolved while they are trying to get whatever it is they want. This can lead to breakdown. The ONLY way a person can grow is first by dealing with the things that have them stuck in their wrong ways of thinking. During this process they learn to love self. They then begin to see that everything else is no longer as important as they once thought it was. They are able to handle things thrown at them, because they understand the difference between what they can control versus what they can’t. If they can’t control it, they know how to deal with it accordingly and keep it moving.

With every single storm sunshine is soon to follow. People don’t have patience, they want to get through their storm. Honestly some people don’t want to go through anything. When people feel this way they oftentimes become burdened. Some people can’t deal with their storms because they are already dealing with unresolved things. They feel overwhelmed. This can lead to stress overload, depression, anxiety, and suicidal and homicidal thoughts. No one situation caused these feelings, they were caused by a plethora of things compiled over the years.

A breakthrough is always at the end of a storm if people learn to weather their storms and not breakdown. Some people feel they constantly live in storms and in a sense it’s true, because they are at odds with self. When people don’t deal with their inner issues it is a constant steady storm. When they have life to happen then it presses them down even further. The only way people can stay afloat is by learning to relieve themselves of those things that are hindering and binding them up in negativity states of mind. No one can move forward if they are always looking behind. No one can move forward with the load they are trying to carry, it’s way too much!

People have to decide the life they were given is theirs and regardless what they must embrace it. It doesn’t belong to another soul. I don’t care what happened or who did it, NO ONE or NOTHING can control your life if you don’t give it to them to control! Over years of experience I’ve found the biggest factor is self love! I believe with everything in me if a person love self they are very aware and careful of who or what they allow into their life. A person who loves self will learn you can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control the stress you allow them to cause in your personal life. You know people will be people. They will smile in your face and stab you in the back at the same time. They will envy, despise, hate, wish they were you, etc. They will manipulate, control, coerce, demand, possess, and obsess. It doesn’t matter what they do, what matters is how you allow it to affect you! You must learn how not to be affected by everything you encounter. If you don’t give your power it can’t be taken! End of story!

Forgiveness is important, it’s most important to you and for you. People must learn to let go of their past pains, because there’s absolutely no benefit of holding on to it. It hinders you for a lifetime. It keeps you stuck in a negative mindset. It keeps you from loving self. It makes you breakdown preventing you from getting your breakthrough. Most importantly it keeps you from growing, if you don’t grow, it means you don’t mentally or spiritually mature. You stay the same! It’s a choice, I pray you choose growth. Storms will come, but surely as they come they will go. People always tend to put more on themselves then they can bear. Don’t let a breakdown be an option!

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The Sun, Universe, Life, and Death

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I hear a lot of people give all praises to the Sun and those who give all praises to the Universe because they don’t believe in the Father, Son, or the Holy Spirit! I really feel sad for these people.

I don’t understand how people do not believe. The mystery and amazement of the sun; it sits perfectly round in the sky without falling. It gives out bright light in the day and it warms the earth and helps with all types of necessary things pertaining to all life on earth. Do people think the sun put itself in the sky? All of the benefits and the many different aspects of the sun was made this way by God. He made the sun be what it is to us and for us.

The mystery and amazement of the universe; where do you think it came from? People want to believe in cosmic eruptions or explosions and this and that. Man will never ever know the mysteries until it’s time. I believe we will all someday know, but not before time. Scientist can come up with all of the mumble jumble they want to it’s okay, but they will never ever know the truth. There is a reason for the different constellations, stars, the moon, the milky ways, black holes, the many other planets, etc. We don’t know what it is and no matter how people pry and probe, they will never ever unlock the mystery.

The mystery and amazement of child birth; the world may use IVF to make multiples births happen, but they can’t ever make the miracle of life itself. It will always take a woman and a man. It will always require an egg and sperm. People can manipulate and do whatever they are trying to do, it won’t work! God made it specific and unique, it can’t be done by no man! It is so unique and beautiful. It’s amazing how a tiny egg and sperm forms into a fetus and grows into an infant. I am blown away every time I really think about it. Not only that, but think about a baby living in fluid 9 months, how it gets nourishment, etc. It’s amazing!

The mystery and amazement of death; death shouldn’t be scary to anyone. As sure as we’re born we will die. When we depart this world, I believe we go on someone else according to the life we lived until Judgement. I don’t know, but it’s what I believe. No one on earth knows what really happens. I know people have had their near death experiences etc. However, no one can tell exactly what happens to us when we die. I believe our bodies possess a spirit that leaves us. Where it goes is beyond any of us. I believe there is life after death and according to how we lived while in the flesh determines how we live after death into the new life we are given by the Creator.

It’s all fascinating for me to think about. People have postulated, assumed, presumed, experimented, etc. Years on top of years on top of years they’ve tried to figure it out, yet no one has been able to. There is something to it, if no one has figured it out in thousands of years. That alone is proof enough God exist! It’s proof enough for me! I know without a doubt the spiritual world is alive around us, because I’ve had unexplainable experiences. That let me know something more is to follow this life. It may sound outlandish or crazy to some of you, but I know what I’ve encountered.

People don’t want to believe in the Bible. They come up with every excuse as to why the Bible exists. Some say the White man made it up. All of it makes me further believe in God the Father, His Son, and the Holy Spirit. NO MAN has the answers, not one single man on this earth or who has been here. This proves to me there is something magnificent to it. It is the most controversial book in the world. It upsets people and make many outraged. Why?

They want to say we evolved from apes. Really? God made apes very close to the human DNA. Why, I have no clue. He made animals with the ability to procreate like humans and guess what? It STILL takes a male and female for it to happen. He made us and them very specific and unique. We all are connected to live. The sun helps us, plants, and animals to continue the cycle of life. It’s all intertwined in a special way. It is all a part of the perfect plan!

People say man wrote the Bible. Yeah, men who were anointed by God! All I know is the Bible is good to me. It’s real and things written in it is sure coming to pass and has come to pass. In my opinion no man can do this other than one who is anointed of God. To me it also proves the world existed before, because we are living exactly what it talks about in these days and times. It’s accurate about families, children, this generation, homosexuality, sexual immorality, people choosing the world, people falling away, and a whole lot of things. I believe it to be true! Come on, there’s something to it! It’s the most controversial book in the whole entire world. There is a reason why, we just don’t know what it is! We have these amazing scholars and scientists yet not one single soul has been able to figure out the mysteries.

No one or nothing will make me not believe in Jesus, God, or the Holy Spirit. If you don’t believe in Jesus you don’t believe in God. At least not God the Father, the true and living God. People worship many god’s, but they are different from God the Father.

People know it’s all a mystery this is why for more years than any of us can imagine they have been trying to figure it out. God intended for it to be this way. Read the Bible it talks about it. No man will ever figure out the mysteries of the creation of the world, life, or death until it’s time.

All I can say is to live life as if there is Jesus and God won’t hurt you, but to live life as if they don’t exist will. It’s each individual’s choice as to what they choose to believe. However, just know there is consequences for your choices. God gave us the will to freely choose. I’m not trying to convince you to believe if you don’t. I pray you would believe, but if you don’t it’s your choice.

There is more proof out there to believe than there is not to believe. People want to worship the sun and give all honor to the universe when God created it all. Sad, sad, sad! Don’t get upset about my beliefs, I’m free to have them just as other people are free to have theirs. I choose to stick, stand, and stay with the Word of God!

Holding on to the Past Affects Your Present

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Too many people do this! Many people focus on what has happened. Many people live this way entertaining a life long pity party. They can’t move forward, because they are stuck in the past. A past that no longer exists! It’s true! I’m not ever going to say the past didn’t exist or people didn’t go through what they’ve gone through. What I’m saying is the past itself is just that! It is gone! People must learn to stop giving power to the memories of their pasts. The more power you give to anything it controls you!

Many adults don’t give themselves chances to have the happy and fulfilled lives they should have, because they are fixated on what was! They’ve allowed the memories of their past experiences to control their possibilities for wonderful lives. They ruin their lives by their wrong ways of thinking. They are mad and angry over things that are long over. Hanging on to such junk is like drinking a bottle of liquid self destruction and expecting not to be affected by it.

It’s time people learn to let go of negative things. No matter who HAVE hurt you in the past, it’s you whose now hurting yourself. Your life is your life! All of us can choose to stay stuck or move on. Bitterness destroys!! The more power you give to negative thoughts the more they control you and keep you stuck in negative states of mind.

Some of you may say I don’t know or understand what you’ve gone through. You are correct, I don’t know! However, I know we all have a story we can tell. I do know and understand hurt, disappointment, unfairness, suffering, rejection, abuse, and many things that affects us. Although things may hurt us or even scar us, life goes on. Wounds heal if you stop picking at it! Pain subsides if you stop giving it power! Memories fade if you stop giving them life by constantly reliving them!

Feelings of hurt, pain, and suffering are universal. No one is exempt! People learn to move on by letting go. It’s 100% okay to feel the pain, however; when it defines you and controls your life it’s no longer okay. People who hurt people; are hurt people. Get it? It’s a vicious cycle!

It’s easier for people to believe they have to remain the way they are then for them to believe they can change. No matter the chaos people get content in their old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. They know change means having to do something different. It means putting forth intentional efforts to be better! If you don’t choose change the only option is to remain the same. No matter who a person blames; the way an individual chooses to be is the individual’s choice.

Choosing to move on doesn’t negate the fact things happened. What it does is it puts the power back where it belongs; in your hands! Never allow someone or something power over you! Learn and gain strength from everything you go through, don’t let it render you powerless. The ONLY power anyone or anything has over you is the power you give!

Nobody to Man Somebody to God

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Sadly we are all looked at and judged according to who we know and who we are to people. Many people don’t get opportunities because other people don’t consider them as “somebody.” They may be as talented or even more talented, but if they’re not well known they are considered a “nobody.” People miss out on what great individuals have to offer when they categorize individuals this way. I think this is one of the worst things people can do to one another and it’s a very shallow way of thinking.

People of the world make it all about who they know. They want to be associated with well known people. They gravitate to people they believe are well known. Why? I believe it’s because of what individual’s feel about self. They think they need to be associated with someone with who is well known for their own recognition or just to say they know the person. It’s sad! A lot of people invest a lot of time in others, but none in Jesus or developing self. They focus on what man says, does, and thinks.

When individuals like people according to their statuses it’s how people end up with big heads thinking they are better than others. It’s how people end up high on man made pedal stools. Many begin to act as if they know everything, simply because of the pedal stools they’ve been put on. Some become gods to the people following them. None of it impresses or pleases God the Father.

No title or status changes what’s inside. It’s why we continuously see people of status from all walks of life doing stupid stuff. Many folks busy trying to rub elbows with individuals because of their statuses or titles when many of those individuals have as many or more issues than they do. Facts!!!

In the sight of man as long as they consider you to be “somebody” they love you. You can say anything or do anything and people will eat it up. Yet another person who isn’t considered as “somebody” can say or do say the exact same thing and people will have nothing to say. I think it’s very ridiculous!

God doesn’t look at us this way, He has no respect of persons. With Him there’s only one big happy family. We are all His Children, but we individually choose whether to be Children of God. He allots us this choice! All the other titles the world wants to give people means absolutely NOTHING to Jesus the Son and God the Father! We may have favor for something, it doesn’t mean God favors you over anyone else. He does not! He doesn’t look at us this way! In Him there’s no big I’s and little u’s!

People want validation from man. People want to feel as if they’re a part of something when they associate themselves with known people. In my opinion those who feel this way need to work on self. Stop being shallow minded and accept people for who they are, period! Stop looking at statuses and positions; choosing to like a person according to what they are considered to be to the world.

When we die none of what is gained here on earth will matter. None of it will matter when we leave this life. If you haven’t served the Master by living according to his Word, nothing else will matter. People keep on living as if they will never die. People are too busy trying to gain man’s approval and validation, yet they aren’t concerned with living pleasing in the sight of God!

Don’t worry about man thinking you’re a nobody, you are somebody to God. He loves you! Those same people the world deems “somebody” will someday depart this life like everyone else! There’s no bartering, bargaining, or buying your way out of leaving this world. Not one single person has the power to stop it! How well a person is known won’t stop it!

If you continue to be caught up in who man says you are or who man says someone else is; you won’t ever be able to be who God wants you to be! Stop worrying about what man says and focus on pleasing Lord Jesus!! He loves us and doesn’t want any of us to lose our soul’s. The world cares about pleasing the flesh, God cares about spiritual house that our physical houses will someday depart!

Serving the Lord Jesus Will Pay Off

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I will be the first to admit sometimes it gets tough. However, we must remember He is with us! When it’s difficult sometimes to see through the fog, He is there! He said, “He will never leave or forsake us.” I know life throws us terrible things sometimes, but that’s just it; it’s life! We will all go through the rocky roads. Think about it; if you were trying to climb a mountain and it was completely smooth with no grooves or areas to catch a grip, you would probably not be able to climb it. Those tough times are meant to build us up not tear us down!

It’s hard for some people to believe in what they can’t see. He knew we would feel this way. This is why the Bible says “for faith is the substance of things hoped for, evidence of things not see.” It is meant for us to “walk by faith and not by sight.”

If we got everything we prayed for, we would be spoiled, selfish, inconsiderate, and self absorbed people. Sadly many are this way period. Difference is they aren’t serving God or they aren’t walking by faith. They may talk it, but they aren’t walking it. As Saints of God’s we can’t simply be hearers of the Word we have to be doers as well. We have to live what we profess!

There is no comparison to the reward we’ll get for staying in the race until the end. No matter how hard it gets, we must stay prayed up and in the race. Don’t allow anything or anyone to cause you to change paths. The devil wants you to get off and stay off track. He’s sending things to you in every direction to get you sided tracked. Remember, he’s a defeated foe under your feet, if you believe it! He may have some power, but God Almighty has all power. The devil is only as strong as we allow him to be in our lives.

The Bible says “if you resist the devil he will flee.” The problem for most they give into the flesh and allow the devil to have the victory. Why give the victory to the devil when the battle has been won through Jesus Christ? Through Him we have the victory! The devil’s victory is temporary, because one day he will be cast back where he belong. Right now he’s trying to fix it where he takes as many souls with him that he can!

I know it’s really hard for some people to believe Jesus exists. He does exist! Man has from the beginning caused their own destruction by going against the Word of God. To this very day man is still doing the exact same things! God didn’t give His only begotten Son to die in vain. He had a purpose which is relevant to us all today. He paid the price for us all when He died for our sins. Yet people are still spitting in His face today.

I dare you to keep trusting Him. No matter what comes your way, keep trusting and believing in Him. You may have to cry sometimes it’s okay, stay in the race. Sometimes you may feel discouraged and want to throw in the towel; don’t do it! The devil gets in any way you allow him to. Don’t give the devil a ride, because he will want to drive. If you let him drive then he has control. Keep trusting Jesus the Son, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit. You may swerve sometimes, but don’t you dare get off the road!

There is nothing greater than someday seeing Jesus’s face. We’ve experienced His beauty and glory, but wait until we can see His face! It excites me to think about! We will someday hear Him say “well done good and faithful servant.” Nothing greater than having a seat at the welcome table in the Kingdom of God!” Man can’t offer something so precious to you. You can only get this by living for Jesus until the race is complete!

I encourage you to hold your head up even when you don’t feel you have the strength. Pray even when you feel He’s not listening. Pray when you’re going through, don’t be discouraged, instead stay encouraged and keep praying! When people around you are talking against God, you stand firmly on the Word of God. When you’ve come out of the world don’t ever feel a need to go back. Nothing is there for you other than destruction and death. Stay on the Lord’s side where you belong. What you do for the Lord will pay off afterwhile. Keep holding on in the name of Jesus!

Memories and Thoughts and the Power you Give Them

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There are millions of hurt people in this world who unfortunately hurt other people. Many people live their lives based on what others have said or done to them. They find it difficult to move forward because they are pulled backwards by their minds; which by the way have imprisoned them. No one can save you, no one can fix you, and no one can change you. The only one who can do it is you! You may have people around to influence, motivate, encourage, or inspire you to want to change, but if the willingness to change doesn’t come from you, the change will only be temporary. People who change to please others will always revert back to who they really are.

There are many people who feel they must be validated by others and because of it they are at the mercy of others. They allow other people to dictate how they feel about self. Those you give your power to know they have it and they will abuse it. People prey on who they think are weak, because the prowler him or herself are weak! They see and feel it in their prey!

Most people are accustomed to how they’ve been all their lives. It feels familiar and comfortable. Instead of trying to change they continue to live how they’ve always lived. No matter how miserable and hurt they feel they continue living their lives the same way. Many people blame others for who they are. I admit other people contribute to our lives in many ways both positive and negative. However, when you point at someone to blame them, you have three fingers pointing back at self. I think it’s a way for us to take ownership of who or what we’ve become.

Despite what a person goes through, despite how traumatic; who a person becomes as adults falls on the individual. People can choose to remain the same or they can choose better than what they came from. When people choose to remain the same they’ve seem to opt out of changing. Sometimes the people who have wronged them are dead and gone; yet people are still holding on to their experiences with the person/people through their memories. Memories are real, how strong they reign inside of a person is up to the individual.

Believe it or not none of our pasts exist today. None of them! We are all living in the present. If people do not deal with the issues of their pasts they are affected for a life time. It affects every facet of a person’s life. Not once have I said the past didn’t exist, of course it existed, but it’s not what we live in today. It is behind us and only the memories of it remains. Unfortunately for many people those memories are very real and strong. People are trapped by their own minds, because they’ve given power to the memories of their pasts. They carry these residual affects throughout their lives. It shapes them into what they’ve become. It’s a cycle most past down through generations until someone breaks the chain.

Many people walk around smiling, yet they are broken and hurting inside. Pretending will never give a person the understanding or will to deal with what’s causing them pain and suffering. People must learn to face it in order to move on. Those who do can go on to lead productive lives. However, those who don’t will live their lives as a revolving door. They will go in and out the same type relationships with the same types of people and wonder why. They will make the same bad decisions and choices and wonder why. They will allow people to take advantage or misuse them and wonder why it’s happening. They will continue to be unhappy which oftentimes lead to other things such as depression and even worse things like suicidal or homicidal thoughts, etc. Not all people will go through those thoughts, feelings, or emotions, but some will, because they don’t understand most times our biggest enemy is self. The power of the mind is beyond belief, but our thoughts and memories are only as powerful as we make them.

Things will happen to us, but how we deal with those things depends on how we receive them, perceive them, and the power we give to those things. We are our own greatest enemy, because we give so much power to negative memories of our pasts which has led to negative ways of thinking, period! The past doesn’t cause people any further pain, people do it to themselves by not dealing with the issues of their pasts. Instead they focus on the memories as if they are present today. It’s like a wound, if you constantly dig in a wound it won’t heal properly and because of the constant manipulation of it, the person could cause other issues. This is how many live their lives. They keep going back to the memories of their pasts. They are trapped by their own minds.

Today is a brand new day given to each of us. We can choose to become better or we can choose to stay the same. None of us will forget what we’ve gone through, but none of us have to be prisoners to our own minds, causing the inability to move forward. We don’t have to give our power to anything or anyone!

Live your life for you first! If you’re not healthy and whole you’re really not any good for anyone else. Sadly many go through life with all of their issues while trying to love others when they first don’t love self. This is proven every single day by people who constantly are in and out of unhealthy relationships or people having children and messing them up from the gate. Those are only two examples out of many.

Learning to become better has to be something a person wants. It starts with the individual. You’re not what or who someone else says you are unless you believe it yourself. No one should ever accept negativity from anyone else. You have the power to be whatever you choose to be. Never settle and think you should be a certain way because of what someone else said or did. They don’t get to choose, you do!

Suicide is Permanent Troubles are Temporary

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I know I’ve blogged more than usual this week, but I wanted to send this one out. It’s my opinion and based on many years of experience working with people from all walks of life. No matter the race, gender, age, or population everyone has their issues.

It really saddens me to hear when people take their own lives. We all have a story we could tell. We are all affected by other people and life in some form or another. However, no matter what or who, this life we have is ours and ours alone to live. No one gets to live it for us. Individually we can give our power away to others, but at the end of it all we live and die for self.

Struggles come and struggles go, they are temporary. Unfortunately many choose the permanent fix to their temporary problems; which is suicide. No trouble last always. It may feel as if it does, but it doesn’t. People are so filled with darkness they literally can’t see. They don’t believe their “light at the end of their tunnel” exists. There is light, there is always light if people will hold on.

A lot of readers may say if I haven’t experienced it, therefore I don’t know. Wrong, I’ve gone through storms over and over in my life. The difference for me is I’ve always even as a young child figured out bad things happen. No matter how young or old, no matter how good you are; bad things happen. I’ve learned to accept it. We will all go through storms at some point. Our lives are like hills and valleys. We go in and out of things. We must learn to hold on, because those troubles won’t last always. Life is a cycle and we have to endure the bad and the good. No one complains when it’s feeling good, but people complain when they are enduring those hard times. Unfortunately for some they never experience the good, because what’s inside doesn’t allow them to feel happy about anything.

Individually we must look at ourselves. Yes, there are many people and things affecting us along the way, but we STILL must always look at self. We can’t change other people; only ourselves. Oftentimes people already have issues they are dealing with from childhood. Childhood is normally where it all begins. If a person doesn’t deal with those issues I don’t care how old they become they will carry those issues with them throughout life. Then on top of it they have families, significant others, careers, etc coupled with what they’ve never dealt with (their issues). It all compiles and weighs the individual down. Individually we must learn to lessen the load. It begins for each and every one of us by dealing with self first and foremost. If not you will be a struggling individual, struggling even more due to the pressures of life. People have the tendency of compiling their issues and instead of fixing them it leads to anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, for some homicidal thoughts, physical ailments and other issues.

I don’t care who loves you, they can’t fix or save you! You’re the only person who can do it for yourself. It starts and ends with you. Some people think because they are successful with lots of money life will be easier. This isn’t true at all! You’re still you and no matter where you are your problems will follow because they are inside. No amounts of money, love from others, friends, family, material things will fix what’s wrong inside. People have to deal with self.

Love yourself no matter what! Forgive yourself and anyone else who needs to be forgiven by you. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s actually for you. It’s for your peace of mind. It gives you the ability to let go and move on. We don’t forget stuff, but we certainly can get to a point where stuff doesn’t bother us like it once had.

Instead of dealing with things a lot of people want to give up on self and life all together. This is the wrong ways of thinking. If a person begin to dwell on taking their own life if they don’t change their ways of thinking the bad thoughts could eventually consume them. The thoughts become fleeting (coming and going). Do you know why? It’s because once a person allows bad thoughts to enter in and do nothing about them, those thoughts will stay there and they will become stronger, because the person is giving power to them. This is very dangerous and it’s when people do unthinkable and unimaginable things such as commit suicide, homicide, or a host of other things people do when they’ve succumbed to the darkness. People must acknowledge and take ownership of when they are going through these moments and not simply go through them allowing them to consume them.

Not one of us are exempt from the troubles of this world. As I said earlier in this post we have to take the good with the bad. I’ve written and said many times trouble free people do not exist. I believe the greatest gift we can give ourselves is the gift of love. It doesn’t matter what you went through or who did something to us, we all must learn to love self. When a person truly loves his or herself it changes their mindset, therefore their outlook on life.

Too many individuals give their power to people and things. Living this way means you’re at the will of those people and things. If you give your power away it means you don’t have it. Before living a life of stress due to life and others, take back your power! There will be things for which we can’t control. However, we can always control how we react to those things.

People will look you right in your face and smile. They will carry on as if they are happy, yet inside they are filled with pain and misery. No one can deal with their issues by trying to hide and pretend the pain doesn’t exist. People who commit suicide give up on self and life, but they don’t realize what they leave behind for their families and friends. Talk to someone, talk to anyone about what you are thinking. The thoughts will intensify if you don’t and often to the point of a successful suicide. The thoughts come from a very dark place, a place where it’s difficult to see your way. Life never has to be this way for anyone.

I know things are awful for some people, but again it all starts with you. Never live to please other people or to be validated by other people. Don’t allow your dreams or goals to put you in the wrong mindset. Remember, you can’t please everyone, so don’t waste your time trying. Remember you are unique and no one is like you, others won’t think like you, don’t get frustrated because of it. Love you and be happy for you, it makes everything else better! Individually we must look inside and deal with what ails us! Life is worth living! Change whatever needs changing. Sometimes it means new, places, people, and things. However, no matter where you are in life, nothing changes if you don’t fix what’s wrong. If a person doesn’t change all they will do is take the toxicity from one place to another. No matter what life throws us, it’s all about what we make of it! If you’re in pain, own it and deal with it because it will not go away until you make a change in yourself! No one can do it for you. Life is precious and it’s worth living. Change your attitude it changes everything else!

1-800-273-8255 is the National Suicide Hotline number they are available to assist. There are also hospitals, churches, thousands upon thousands of different sources available, where help is available. No one can help if a person doesn’t open up about what they are thinking. Never give power to your negative and unhealthy thoughts, they may pull you into a dark place you find it difficult to get out of; please, please, please seek help!

I don’t know you, but I care about you and your life!!