Unfaithful Accept it or Not

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You know it’s going on long before you act or react to it. A lot of people try to force something that shouldn’t be. They try to make people love them or want to stay when in reality you can’t. Unfortunately some people want to have a blind eye to the truth, it doesn’t make it any different. The truth is the truth. People can choose to do something about it or do nothing at all. Doing nothing at all is still doing something!

Life goes on! You can’t make a person stay or love you. If a person wants out open the door for them. If a person chooses to keep straying lock the door behind them when they go and don’t open it again. I’m not telling anyone to give up on their relationship. What I am saying is when in a relationship if you’re in a constant negative stay of mind it’s time to reexamine your relationship and yourself. When you no longer have any intimacy for your significant other it’s time to reassess. When you’re constantly arguing and fighting, it may be time to move on. If you have no peace of mind, it messes you up mentally, physically, and spiritually. When a person can’t stay faithful to you, then you learn to be faithful to yourself and send them down the road. People treat you how you let them treat you! No excuses!

MEN: Men who cheat almost never fail to show their hand. They simply lose their minds over someone new. They begin to do things they didn’t do before. They become bitter towards who they are with. They treat the one they supposed to love with disrespect and hatefulness. They dismiss the feelings and concerns of the one they are with. They always find an excuse to start an argument or to leave. They do stupid things, period!

Although responsible in some ways some men are still immature. These types of men are different, they are never satisfied with who they are with no matter how good. They want what they want without fully comprehending the risks. They normally try to control the one they are with even though they are out doing their thing. They don’t think things through, they simply go for what they want! They fail to realize the hurt and chaos they will cause. They are more interested in satisfying their flesh. Mature men, understand the risk and choose to be mature men to who they are with.

Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age. Some people take a lot longer to mature. No matter how old some people are they are still led by their flesh. It’s sad! If a person don’t want to be committed in their relationship then they shouldn’t be in one. They should not be in any relationship until they deal with what’s causing them to be the way they are. Those who get into relationships do nothing but cause drama.

Individual’s who are constantly trying to be with other people when they are already in relationships don’t fully love self. If you don’t really love you, you can’t love someone else the way they deserve. These individual’s will always put aside what is right and wholesome to satisfy their flesh. Many people are making bad choices and decisions based on who they really are. What’s going on inside ruins what’s going on outside!

WOMEN: When a woman is with someone she will do all she can to make it work, but if there is no change her attitude will change and then her feelings and actions follow. If she meets someone who an thinks he’s given her what she’s not getting at home some women will stray. Some women will get so fed up they will leave. I thinks it’s wrong to stray or to leave one person for another. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side! Women show their hands too. They begin to stop doing the things they used to do. They find excuses also, they’ll do anything to get away from who they are with.

A lot of the problem with people is many get into relationships for all of the wrong reason. Most times when it’s wrong, the same way it started will normally be how it ends. You can’t expect to get into a relationship the wrong way and something great come from it. Most times it won’t work!

If you can’t love who you’re with, then perhaps you need to move on. Trying to stay where you’re not loved and respected is hard. Staying with someone when you are always straying is wrong. If you’re not happy with who you’re with why stay? I know for many people straying has nothing to do with who they are with, it has everything to do what’s going on inside of self that causes them to be who they are. At the end of the day I don’t care the reason, if a person can’t be faithful, they definitely shouldn’t be in a relationship. Many people in this world miss out on good relationships, because they are hanging on to bad ones!

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Going Against the Grain Despite the Signs

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Many people get into relationships knowing full well they see the signs present. Problem is they choose to ignore the signs until they are overwhelmed, overtaken, and consumed emotionally. People willfully put themselves in bad situations expecting good results. It doesn’t work! They go into relationships blindly allowing emotions and feelings to lead.

People who do this has issues they need to resolve. No one can see clearly when they are blind by their feelings and emotions. People who do this oftentimes find themselves in situations they didn’t imagine being in.

Significant others know exactly how to treat the people they are with, because they are taught by those individuals. Significant others who haven’t overcome their own issues will bring their issues into the relationship. Then you have two individuals who are both blind by their feelings and emotions. This leads to destruction. There’s no true ability to communicate when communication is the key to any relationship.

It’s hard to understand what you need when you’re hell bound on getting what you want. Many times people get what they wanted only to find out they don’t want it at all.

I can’t tell people enough the importance of knowing and loving yourself. It’s very important in relationships. A true healthy relationship starts with self. Knowing who you are, being self aware, and loving self helps keep you focused and smart about what you really need. You learn to see beyond emotions and feelings. When you figure you out, people will then sometimes have a problem with you, because they have problems with self. They expect for you to be the way you used to be.

My suggestion to people is to figure self out. Learn to love yourself before you try to commit to and love someone else. Take time to enjoy you. Some people jump from relationship to relationship, because they don’t know how to be alone. I’ve seen it time and time again. People from all walks and caliber of life do this. A lot of times people think folks with a lot of money do things differently. This may be true as for buying things, going places, etc, but as for relationships, many are dealing with the same types of issues. Nothing changes what’s inside, but change itself. Money, fame, fortunate, titles, will not do it. What’s inside is always shown through bad choices and decisions and it doesn’t matter who the individual is or what they have. What a person thinks and feels about self is shown through their choices and decisions. In life they will go against the grain, because they think it’s best for them when it’s not!

Some people don’t care how plain the writing is on the wall to others because they can’t see the writing on the wall for self. They go against the grain out of the love they think they feel. For many it has caused great stress and for some their lives. The signs do not lie! They will present every time, but people ignore them due to their feelings. They think they love the person and they feel they got to have the person. Then they begin to see the chaos and drama in their lives.

Some people don’t attempt to get out of unhealthy relationships, because they are afraid. They are afraid to stand on their own two feet. They are afraid of the person. They are afraid of how they will make it. If you’re afraid for any reason you’re in the WRONG relationship!

No one can give what a relationship deserves when they haven’t yet learned to love self and are not self aware. They will always be led by how they feel, because it will over power everything else making them look at things in a distorted view. People will use and abuse you, because they know you will take it. You teach your significant other exactly how to treat you! If you keep making the same types of decisions and choices it’s a clear sign you’re not learning from your experiences!

We The People or We The Particular People

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It is sad and embarrassing the ways things are going in our country. I thought everyone had the same goal; which is caring for and loving America. Instead, people care more about tearing one another down. I feel American is being torn apart because of those who aren’t standing for American, they are standing for a Party and skin color. This is very sad!

This country is divided and people are filled with hatred. Sadly many are racist and don’t have a clue as to why. Racism is ignorant, but the icing on the cake is to be racist without knowing why. People are going along to get along. They hate people on the basis of their skin color because of what they were taught somewhere down the road by someone. They don’t try to change the negativity or break the negative cycles, they continue with the same negative mindsets. It’s more prevalent today than ever. Sad part is no matter what anyone thinks or how badly they wish it were so, there is no pure race, we’re all mixed with something either a little or a lot! It’s a fact!

The country is divided from the top down. I don’t understand why it’s about the Party and skin color and NOT the people of America as a whole. United We Stand Divided We Fall is very true and it is clearly seen. We are too busy bickering, back biting, pulling down, pushing down, and tearing down one another. It’s horrible!

This also proves what I’ve said and written for years. No matter what position a person holds, what’s in the heart will come out. It’s evident today. We don’t seem to be able to show love to one another in order to get along in peace and harmony. The devil is definitely busy, but people are willfully allowing all of the chaos. They are accepting the chaos and getting on the band wagon of foolishness!

No one race is better than any other race, all races have a certain caliber of people. No political party is better than the other. All parties should be about uplifting America instead of division and breaking it down. People should be ashamed of what they are showing the world and the younger generation. We should come together and stop the bickering! That is the ONLY absolute irrefutable way to truly MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN! It will not happen the way things are going. There is too much division. There is too much hate and not enough love. Love will always conquer hate and fear, but sadly many have lost their way by trying to following people who are clearly showing them things other than love. People are at all cost too fixated on trying to be a part of a particular group versus trying to spread love so we can all come together as one. Loving others is the greatest Commandment! <

We must do better. We can't do it until some mindsets change. When people change their mindsets their hearts will change in the process. We need more love, peace, and harmony. There is foolish, selfish, and senseless killings every day. We need more love! If things continue as they are things will only become worse. I pray for our country. I hope you do too!

Excuses Won’t Matter or Work

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This past weekend I was looking at some videos sent to me on some so called pastors. Yes, I will say so-called, they are the ones who call themselves pastors, but they aren’t called of God. How do I know? I know because when you’re living for the Lord and you’re called you won’t be doing what you once did and on top of it; making excuses for what you’re doing. Those who are on Jesus’s side are not trying to please man and they certainly don’t use excuses for why they are still doing worldly things. Only people who are still in the world display such behavior. It won’t get you off the hook. You will pay for the choices you make.

Judging, this normally comes out of the mouth of those who are still in the world, but always making excuse for self and those like them. When serving Jesus, you’re either in or out. There’s none of the other stuff. If people are trying to give people encouragement, enlightment, motivation, insight, etc to do a self examination it is not judging. It is not judging to call people out on their bull, especially in relation to the Word of God. Only those who are not doing what thus saith the Lord complains it’s judging. Those excuses will not give you a go for going to Heaven. It will give you an exit the other way!

He’s still a man. This irks me! It has nothing to do with a man being a man when serving God. Flesh is flesh, period, and it’s what most are led by. People want to make excuses for men and women who are still doing worldly things. Listen, if you’re on Jesus side and you really love Him the way you profess, then you will do what’s right when that ole devil try to make you do wrong. You will not be led by your flesh. Those who are easily led by their flesh makes excuses for what they do. Accept who you really are when you’re still doing worldly things. You do it because you’re still in the world, point blank! Those who are making excuses for people doing wrong by blaming they are still flesh and bone are people who are also in the world and doing worldly things. Children of God know better! They don’t allow the flesh to lead them. They know they have a certain criteria they must live by and they won’t allow anyone or anything to hinder their walk with the Lord. It’s sad when people make excuses for themselves or for others who are outwardly doing wrong with no regards of their salvation. You can’t serve God and do what the world does, you just can’t!

Another excuse will land many in hell is “no one’s perfect.” This is an excuse to keep doing wrong, but I tell you one thing it won’t work when standing before the Lord. We are made in His image, therefore we are capable of doing right, making right choices, and living holy lives. It’s not forced, but if you live for Him you must want it and you must take on the characteristics of a changed individual. There’s absolutely no other way! You have to be born again, you must be changed from the ways of the world (the ways you used to be). People can’t continue to use the crutch of not being perfect, they will find themselves hobbling and wobbling right on into hell (you and your crutch). This crutch will not save you from hell!

I don’t care what anyone says if you’ve made up your mind and you are on the Lord’s side than your life will be a reflection of it. No one or nothing will influence or coerce you into going against God the Father, His Son Jesus, or the Holy Spirit. ALL aspects of your walk will change. Honestly I don’t know what the problem is that prevents people from living right other than THEY JUST DON’T WANT TO! I’ve never ever once looked back into the world. I’ve never wanted to. I’ve had plenty of temptations, but I’ve never succumbed to any. I live to live again. I live to see my Jesus face and not just for when I stand before Him, but to reign with Him forever, that is my goal! I don’t give in to my flesh, because I know the tricks of the enemy. I call ole satan out for who he is, every single time! I don’t care how he comes, you have to put him in his place! The more you do this, the stronger you will become and the more power and anointing you will have in your life. You have power and authority by Jesus Christ, use it!

The Bible says “He’s coming in the twinkling of an eye.” We’ve seen it over and over in the lives of others, yet people are still acting as if it doesn’t apply to them. It applies to you, you, you, and me! No one is exempt. He’s coming back for each and every one of us. If your house isn’t in order then you’ve made your choice. If He catches you with your work undone, then you made your choice. If He comes and you’re still doing what the world does, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you’re still using people are judging you as an excuse, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you’re still using not being perfect as an excuse, then you’ve made your choice. If He comes and you haven’t chosen Him, then you’ve made your choice. The decision is up to each of us, it’s not forced. We have to want to serve him of free will! Remember, your excuses won’t matter or work!

Loving to the Point of Losing Yourself

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Some people may not admit it, but I know a lot of people find themselves in this type of situation. It is unhealthy! If you lose yourself in someone the only reason a person does this is because they’ve never really found self. People who don’t know the difference between wants and needs are people who don’t know what’s right for them. Oftentimes they are people who don’t understand what love is and what it isn’t. They seek love in all the wrong ways, with all the wrong people, and wrong the places. They end up in unhealthy and sometimes downright dangerous relationships.

I’ve met a tremendous amount of people who have told me they were deep into their significant other until they lost sight of who they were. Some went off into the deep end doing things they never wanted to do and acting ways out of the norm only to appease their significant other. Many people get lost trying to save or fix their significant others. If you’re trying to save or fix someone then it’s obvious you have things to work out within yourself.

Many individuals give up their hopes and dreams to help their significant others to obtain theirs. Nothing is wrong with supporting your significant other, but you should never give up your dreams to do so. There are many people who end up separating after their significant others has obtained their goals and the person left behind feels lost and brokenhearted. It’s what you signed up for, because you can change your situation anytime you choose!

I’ve written and said many times a person can definitely lose self trying to be in an unhealthy relationship with someone else. There are many people who seek love from others, yet they don’t love self. What sense does that make? They look pass all the signs of potential problems because they are led by their feelings and emotions. They are dead set on trying to fix or save the one they are with. People have lost their sanity and health trying to make it work with toxic and broken individuals. It compiles their own problems with the problems of their significant other. If you find yourself in this type of relationship re-examine yourself by looking inward to figure out why you’re putting yourself through it. You can’t fix or save anyone, especially if they’re not ready to change!

A person who loves self will not tolerate any unnecessary chaos or discord in their lives. They love self enough to walk away from people who bring toxicity and negativity their way. They look past looks, material things, statuses, etc. They understand a peaceful mind is priceless! They aren’t trying to save, fix, teach, or raise no adult! People will be treated how allowed. If you take crap, crap is what you will get! Period!

You can’t make a person want to change no matter how much you love them. People have to want to change their negative states of mind. They must want to become better individuals NOT because of you, but because it’s what they need in their life with or without you! Individual’s who change for other people will most likely revert back to who they really are once they’ve gotten comfortable enough in the relationship. The signs will be present, but unfortunately the person who is busy and fixated on trying to save or fix misses the signs until they become drained and overwhelmed with it all.

The greatest teacher in my life has been experience. Ooooweee! There are some things I am so thankful I went through, because it taught me never EVER do it again. I learn from everything. I know a lot of people don’t, they keep going through the same things with the same types of people. It’s because they aren’t ready to change. You need to change from the person who is always trying to fix and save just as much as the person you’re trying to save or fix. If not you will always continue to have chaos in your life and relationships!

When you continue to accept discord and chaos stop pointing the finger. The other person may very well be a part of the problem, but you’re the biggest problem, because no one can dictate your life unless you allow. If you allow chaos and discord, guess what? You will get it! Don’t allow anyone to cause you to stress out to the point of losing your mind and health. People end up on psychotropic medications due to stress, anxiety, depression, fear, hopelessness, etc, etc. This happens because people lose self in trying to love someone healthy. You can’t do it anyways, but especially when you’re in an unhealthy state of mind yourself. People must want to change, be willing to change, and put in the time and effort to do so! You can’t do it for them no matter how much you love them.

Is the World Really Worth Your Soul

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I want you to really think about it. Many people profess Christ in their lives yet they are living any kind of way. This is the work of a double minded person. People get mad at the truth, but it’s still the truth. When I was in the world I honestly never thought about daily prayer or a true relationship with Jesus. I didn’t think about there being no secrets. I did what I wanted to do when I wanted to. I never ever thought about the consequences of my actions. I was so blind by my feelings and emotions. I was lost in myself and the ways of the world. But God, oh but God!

I was raised in the church and gave my life to Christ when I was 12, but I didn’t understand how to go from milk to meat. I didn’t know what it all meant. I got saved and went on to do whatever I chose. Thank God for keeping me through it all. As I’ve mentioned before I weep when I think about how good He has been to me and how He kept me even when I didn’t/don’t deserve it. I remember several times I could have lost my life in accidents (in my home and on the road), but God!

When I made a vow and commitment to Christ, I promise you it was easy for me to give up everything else. As I continued on my journey I made it known to everyone around me Jesus is first in my life ( before parents, children, family, and friends). I’ve lost friends and loved ones along the way, because they can’t deal with the Jesus in me. See this is how it is supposed to be. When you give it up, you give it up!

Fortunate for me I made my mind up 100% and I knew that I knew I didn’t want any parts of the ways of the world. I laid down my mess and I never went back to it. So, if I can do it so can you. I know it’s absolutely possible. I’m no better than anyone, He doesn’t love me more than anyone else. I made the choice to give up the ways of the world and follow Him. People don’t want to give up things because they aren’t ready, and then they make excuses. When you’re ready, you become a soul who’s sold out! Walking for the Lord isn’t difficult. Yes you’re still tried and you will go through, but that is life! If you want it you will do it and no temptation will pull you away from it.

A lot of things people endure are brought on my self. Jesus died on the cross for our sins, He took everything to the cross for us. It is people who individually choose to pick up those things He took up for us! He made it possible for us to live Holy lives, but people still choose NOT to. People want to make every excuse NOT to do the right thing. They want to add to and take away from the Word to appease self! They want things now and they want them their way.

It is our choice to serve Him and to live for Him. If we REALLY love Him we will live for Him. It won’t be a struggle to decide to do so or not; we will do it! People who TRULY choose Jesus don’t keep going back to the ways of the world. They don’t try to do things in secret, because they know in Jesus there are NO secrets; for He knows and sees all things!

Regardless of how cruel, mean, nasty, cold, and evil people in this world has become; people still choose it over Jesus. They love the world more. They mock Jesus, they fake the Holy Spirit, and they blaspheme against the Lord. They do it because they love the world more.

Sad part is many want to pretend He’s first in their lives. They speak it and act the part in front of those they want to act it in front of, but they don’t live it. Living it is everything and if you’re not doing so, then you’re not for Jesus. If you’re not for Him you’re against Him. You can’t be for Him sometimes, it must be a twenty four-seven, three hundred and sixty five a year thing! It’s a daily relationship, daily praise, and daily worship!

Not one single person on earth can serve two Masters! You can think you can, but you can’t! If a person isn’t ready, they aren’t ready, but don’t think for a second you are able to serve Jesus and do the devil’s work. It won’t work, it don’t work! So again “why are you holding on to the world?” It has nothing to offer you, but hell if you don’t change your ways. Nothing you achieve or gain will matter when you leave this world, for you can’t take anything with you!

People are working faithfully and diligently to gain everything they can in this world. Some live “high on the hog.” Some think because of what they have they are better. Some live to be praised and worshipped. None of what a person has matters. People must think about their spiritual bodies and become less worried about the natural aspects of this world if they want to see the King. I’m so glad I realize nothing is more important than my spiritual walk, my faith, my love, and my commitment to Jesus the Son and God the Father.

I don’t care what anyone believes, I know I love Jesus and I know Jesus loves me. Just because I belong to Him doesn’t mean things are always easy for me, but I know I am not alone, He’s with me every step of the way through whatever!

As the old hymn says “get right church,” because someday we have to go home. That home will either be Heaven or hell. It’s always been your choice as to what you choose. Even if you feel you don’t want to choose, by not choosing your STILL choosing. Remember anything against Jesus the Son is against the Father. You can’t make it to God without going through Jesus the Son. It’s up to you what you choose. My prayer is you make up your mind before it’s to late.

Your Life is Your Life You Only Get One

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This week I’m giving you a triple treat (smile).

A lot of times people allow what they’ve gone through to hinder them for a lifetime. Life doesn’t have to be this way for anyone. Stop hindering your progress. Forgive, let go, and live! You may have started out able to point the finger at someone else, but you have 3 pointing back at you for a reason! What I mean is this; we all are products of what we’ve gone through. Whether good or bad it has an impact on our lives. No matter who contributed to the issues as maturing adults you must take responsibility for who or what you choose to become. There is no more room or time to play the blame game. It’s time to pick up the pieces and move on.

In writing this, I know many will probably say it’s easier said than done. I say, it’s only as hard as you make it. I’m not exempt! I’ve had my shares of ups and downs. However, I chose not to allow them to hinder my walk. As I’ve stated many times throughout my blogs; I learnt at an early age people will disappoint and hurt you. Sometimes they are the people you trust and love.
I learnt anyone who willfully hurt someone is a hurting person. Some type of misfortune took place in their life and they didn’t heal from it. This ISN’T an excuse, it’s simply the truth. NO ONE gets the greenlight to hurt someone else because they too at some point were hurt. People must face and deal with their pain in order to move on to be people with healthier states of minds.

Take a self assessment of your life. Don’t live thinking everything is okay, because you don’t think anyone know your little secrets. Many people continue down roads of destruction because they hide behind the truth thinking all is well, because no one knows. Oh it’s always shown through your decisions and choices in life. You can only fake it for so long then the truth will appear in some form or another. Trying to hide and/or pretend prevents you from maturing. It keeps people captive by their own ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. We all must deal with the issues affecting us, it’s the only way a person can grow.

Don’t give up on yourself, because you feel someone else gave up on you. Your life is yours and theirs belong to them. Allow no one to hinder your growth. If people don’t believe in you, it’s okay, you believe in yourself! Stop looking for acceptance and validation from others, because many times you will not get it. Other people have their own issues to work out, which by the way affects how they interact with you. Some people can’t love you, because they don’t love self. They can’t be happy for you, because they are unhappy with self. They can’t support you, because they have jealousy, malice, and envy in their hearts due to how they actually feel about self.

This is why I think it’s super important individuals take ownership and responsibility for who they are and who they choose to become. Don’t give power to anyone or anything, if you do then it means you lose the power that belongs to you! People make mistakes by thinking drugs, sex, alcohol, material things, etc will make them happy or fix their problems. No, they don’t and no they won’t! They in fact can make things worse. For one thing people will want more of it and another thing is nothing or no one can fix you, but you! It starts by forgiveness and facing the man/woman in the mirror.

There are millions of people stuck, because they don’t think they are worthy. They feel this way, because of all the issues they’ve gone through or how people have treated them. They didn’t heal from any of it, instead they carried it throughout their lives. It hinders their ability to move forward in life therefore; hindering their ability to grow. There are millions stuck in immature states of minds. They are led by their feelings and emotions. They find themselves in bad situations over and over again.

You can do whatever you set your mind to do. Just because something appears hard doesn’t mean you can’t overcome the obstacle. Things that are new appears to be hard, that is normal. However, never be afraid to challenge yourself. Never be afraid to try something different. A lot of people complain about their lives and their situations, yet they do nothing about it. You can’t expect to reap the benefit of another person’s labor when you’re not laboring for yourself! Nothing comes easy and it definitely won’t always be good. In this life we must take the good, with the bad, and the ugly. We will go in and out of situations, because our lives are like hills and valleys. Troubles come, but they will also go in time. Stop being your worst enemy and your own worst problem! Love yourself and live your life to the fullest! If you have to stand alone, it’s okay love yourself through the midst of it and remember this is your life, it belongs to no one else! I challenge you to make a change!