It’s not the Skin Color it’s the Belief

First of all let me say this; The only supreme are God and His Son Jesus, that’s it!! The nonsense going on in this world is just that, nonsense!

Think about this; if a person were born with missing limbs, as a little person, mentally challenged in any way, etc. etc., should they be blamed or hated for it? Not at all, right? Then why do people think it’s okay to hate people on the basis of their skin color when people have no choice what skin color they are born with?

Millions in this world give too much power to skin color. It’s not the skin color it’s the belief what skin color signifies to people, which in fact is learned beliefs dictating people’s behaviors. Those types of people prematurely and immaturely think a particular way about people whose skin color is different than theirs. It is a form of ignorance and it strongly depicts a person who is uneducated concerning the true history of those they hate on the basis of skin color. These people are blind to the truth by their distorted beliefs ingrained in them by their environments, cultures, and social circles. They try to make other races victims when they themselves are victims to their own distorted ways of thinking. They are modern day slaves to their own ways of thinking, which has caused them to act inappropriately towards people who skin color is different than theirs.

There is no pure race, we all got a little bit of some other race in us. God is the ONLY supreme who purposely and specifically created us all. As I mentioned in a previous post; there is no such thing as a White man or a Black man. Have you seen one? I don’t think so! You may have seen some pale White people and some dark Black people, but in truth you’ve never seen a Black or White person! One word was meant to build up or empower and the other to breakdown or degrade. It is all a ploy to keep division going for hundreds of years. It is still going to this day which goes to show the world is still full of ignorant people who aren’t willing to change.

Look at the incident in Charlottesville, VA; a woman lost her life. It was a woman with the exact same skin color of those who willfully and boastfully stood protesting to be supreme. This clearly shows you the hate is beyond the skin color, because a White man killed a White woman. He was so angered he lashed out at anyone who beliefs were different than his own. It ended tragically for him, the woman he killed, and the people he hurt. It is not the skin color, it is the belief and those beliefs are what fuels the behaviors. This is all learned! The good news is learned behaviors can be unlearned if people are willing to change.

I never understood why some White people hate others on the basis of skin color; especially Blacks when the Black people were the one’s who were oppressed, killed, and slaves. Blacks were stripped of their true contributions to American History in every way possible. American History is all history. It should cover all races involved NOT just one race with the rest being downplayed or cut out all together. What is the hate about? The people doing the hating couldn’t tell you one single legitimate or good reason they hate. ALL they know are the lies they’ve been told watering down the truth. All they know is what they have been taught; many of which wouldn’t take the time to research true facts on their own. Instead they continue to embrace the foolishness.

No race is exempt. Every single race deals with the same issues and the same types of good and bad people. We all breath air to live. We all eat and drink water to live. We all bleed red blood and we ALL someday die. Anyone who doesn’t yeah, they’re special and different, but I guarantee you they DON’T exist!

Do you think Heaven is going to be segregated? No it won’t, so for those who hate people on the basis of skin color they may as well forget about Heaven right now!!! Hating on the basis of skin color means the hater has their issues. They’ve given too much power to their unfounded ways of believing without really understanding why. They are clueless and are merely going along, just to go along. It is heart crushingly sad people are this way.

Personally, I can’t wait until Jesus returns and do some major cleaning up. Nothing but love, will conquer hate. People in this world need more love. People in this world are in disarray, because people have cold mean hearts. People are still choosing to live by their generational curses, they don’t choose to break chains and be free to change. They continue with their wrongs ways of believing and therefore it keeps their awful behaviors significant to them. If you can’t love your fellowman or fellow woman because of their skin color, then you don’t know what love is, period!

What you Allow Tells the Truth About you

Although this can affect all facets of a person’s life, I am right back on the subject of people in abusive relationships. In the past two weeks I’ve heard of 2 women and 1 man dying at the hands of their significant others.

I’ve said and written countless times if you’re too afraid to leave you’ve stayed too long. If you feel trapped, you’ve stayed too long. Too many people continue to get into abusive relationships.

I believe what people accept and allow in their lives indicates who they really are. It shows a lot about the individual. People can pretend all day the truth shows in the decisions and bad choices people make.

No one is exempt! This happens to rich and famous as well as all races and genders. The only exempt people are those who have matured to a point of understanding who they are and loving self. These people will NOT allow just any ole person into their lives. They want what is best for them. They do NOT allow their hearts to lead without using their brains at the same time. They know what feels good isn’t necessarily good for them. They know “everything glitters isn’t gold.” They know people say one thing, but will do another. They aren’t led or influenced into relationships by their feelings, because they have learned to walk away from anything that is potentially unhealthy for them. It’s something people learn to do when they learn from their past choices and decisions, when they figure out and work on self, and when they learn to love self enough to demand better for self.

Many people are full of baggage they’ve carried for years which has caused them insecurities to include low esteem and low self confidence. The problem is people are in denial. Most people think they have it together, but if they would step away from their feelings and look at the truth they will see they don’t. People need to step out of their feelings into the truth. The truth hurts, because it’s the truth. The truth shows us the real deal whether it’s accepted or not.

Many people choose to get into and stay into unhealthy relationships because they are looking for love. They think by being with someone they will have love and security. You can’t find something in someone you don’t have in yourself. When people do this they are left with more heartaches and pains then before they entered into their relationships. They are totally blind by their perceptions of the truth. Their self esteem and confidence is very low and they normally are full of self blame. They lie and try to hide the abuse they endure and the take the blame many times when they are publicly abused.

All of this allowance and acceptance is due to what people feel about self. They don’t think they deserve better. They accept the wrong people into their lives. They desperately want love, when they obviously don’t know what love is, and when they don’t even love self.

When entering into relationships people must know what they need above what they want and the difference between the two. If you don’t know the difference research it and then think about it. In relationships getting what you want is based mostly on feelings of the heart (sex, money, looks, statuses of people, material things). None of it will hold a relationship together and none of it makes a person into who you wish for them to be. People are led by their feelings and emotions. They want what makes them feel good instead of what is good for them. This has led many into abusive relationships with deadly consequences for many.

Stop thinking it’s love when a person wants constant controlling tabs on you, when they tell you what to wear, when they tell you where you can and can’t go, when they ostracize you from others, when they want to control your time, when you can’t do anything without them being present, when they (push, spit on, hit you in any form) you, when they are very disrespectful in how they speak to you while alone or in public, or when they have total control over the relationship. There are many other things abusive people will do, NONE of it is love. They are displaying dangerous warning signs.

There is a difference between loving and caring for a person’s well being versus trying to control a person in obsessive and possessive ways. It is NOT love! People who do this has deep seated issues. Those who accept and allow it also has their own deep seated issues. There are ALWAYS signs, I don’t care if they’re subtle or not, they are always present. Love isn’t blind, people are blind in what they think is love.

Many people get caught up in their feelings. They think what they feel is real. They think what they feel is good for them. How do you know what’s good for you when you don’t know what love is and you don’t love yourself enough to adhere to what’s NOT good for you? People who are searching for love grab and hold on to anything making them feel good, even when it’s not good. They are blind by those feelings and emotions. They oftentimes make excuses for their abusers. They don’t understand this is enabling and giving their abusers the green light to continue abusing them. It has NOTHING to do with love.

When a person doesn’t know their worth outwardly they make act differently, but inside they are full of insecurities coming to the surface. It shows through the allowances and acceptances in their lives. A person can fake and pretend all day, but the truth shows. As I stated earlier NO ONE is exempt. Until people wake up they will continue to get into and stay in abusive relationships. Unfortunately many will continue to die at their hands of their significant others.

Love has Nothing to do With it

Love has nothing to do with it, because the people I am writing about knows nothing about love. They are only faithful, dedicated, and committed to self in their own warped ways. Meaning they get what they want, when they want it, and by any means necessary.

Many people are married or in long term relationships, but they aren’t faithful. They are some of the saddest people alive. I believe some of the biggest reasons people are in unhealthy and unhappy relationships they don’t take the time to get to know who they are with; because they fall too quickly, they feel pressured or obligated to become married, they do it because their friends or family have done it, and the biggest reason of all is they get into relationships for all of the wrong; with the wrong people for reasons beyond those I’ve just listed. Most can’t find the right one, because they are too busy trying to make it with the wrong one.

Love has nothing to do with why a person cheats. People cheat because of who they really are. What’s inside is sure to come out. They have pent up issues which makes them into who they are. These types of people take all types of risks to get what they want. They cheat multiple times and claim to be sorry, but they aren’t, they’re only sorry they get caught.

Many people are confused; but instead of dealing with their issues, they make bad choices and decisions. They continue to do the same things; getting the same results. They involve other people into their messed up lives causing havoc, heartache, and pain. This is why people should be very careful who they allow into their lives. Believe me when I write cause a person makes you feel good doesn’t mean they are good for you.

It’s hard for people to see through their issues. They allow their issues to consume them causing them to live dysfunctional lives. They don’t really care about anything other than self gratification. Oftentimes they cause pain to their significant others without remorse. They are full of hurt and pain so they inflict it into the lives of their significant others. They are oftentimes clueless as to why they continue to be unfaithful. I don’t care what a person says about their significant other, it’s not their significant other’s fault they cheated, they cheated because it’s a bad decision they made to cheat.

People shouldn’t ever get into serious relationships or marriages knowing they aren’t ready to be faithful. However, sad as it is, people do it every day. They get into relationships and then expect for their significant others to want to stay with them and deal with their mess. People need to think about the consequences of their actions and the risks they take of their own freewill.

A person may not know who they are with, but the person they are with know what’s going on with self. They know they have issues and they know they aren’t ready to be faithful. In their states of mind, they really aren’t capable of being faithful, because they only do what they want despite the pain it causes. They don’t know what they need, because they’re too focused on getting what they need. Love has nothing to do with it!

No one can see the truth until they are able to see past their feelings and emotions. With feelings and emotions cones hurt and pain. A person who is able to see beyond their feelings and emotions will be very careful NOT to become involved with those who can’t. It’s easy to see the truth when you can SEE the truth! Think about that for a moment!!!

Nothing Compares to His Agape Love

The reason I go back revisiting many previous topics is because as long as the world go around many people will NOT get it. There will always be the same problems with different people experiencing them. No matter how much information is available, people will do exactly what they choose with no heed to the truth.

Many people are doing the unthinkable in order to be loved. People are seeking something they know NOTHING about. How can you receive something and know whether it is good or bad; if you know nothing about it?

In order to truly love someone you have to first know what love is and you must love yourself. People are continuously and feverishly without fail looking for love in all of the wrong ways, in all of the wrong places, and in all of the wrong people.

Below are a few things people will do in the name of what they perceive as love:

.People will forsake their children for love and allow harm to come to them, because they base their reality on how they feel about the person they are with…..They will kill, steal, and commit other heinous acts, because they accept anything to be in the life of the person they are with (ride or die)……They will tolerate physical, mental, verbal, and emotional abuse, because they want to hold on to their false sense of love……They will perform immoral sexual acts, because they are easily enticed and influenced by who they are with even if it means doing any nasty thing to please them…….They will engage in drugs and alcohol although they never thought to try it before, because they are trying to maintain a relationship or to fit in…….Many will join gangs or other types of groups to feel a sense of love and belonging……They will accept being treated any kind of negative way and completely overlook it due to feelings of their hearts…….Some will be cheated out of their possessions oftentimes losing everything, because they allowed their hearts to lead them blindly…..They will do things they are normally against or wouldn’t ever have done before, because they are blind by what they feel is love…..They will put up with excessive foolishness as long as they can say they have a man or woman. They think some man or woman is better than no man or woman at all. How sad is that??

I could honestly write out pages and pages of nonsense people will do in the name of what they THINK is love. However, I believe I wrote enough for you to understand what I mean. People willfully and foolishly go through pure hell in the name of what they perceive as love. They are constantly in and out of relationships seeking love yet are always ending up with the same results. Still, they don’t get it!

People are desperately seeking love when God is standing with His arms wide open ready to receive anyone who is willing to receive Him. If people would only give Him and His love a try. There is no greater love in the entire world. He won’t forsake us or leave us alone. No matter what we go through He is with us. His love is never ending and unconditional. There are no stipulations for receiving His love. It’s available to everyone all across the world. He loves us despite of and He wants us to love Him!

Read carefully, I repeat; there are no stipulations for His love. However, there are stipulations to how you must live your life; for it determines how you will spend eternity. He doesn’t give you a free pass because He loves you. He also chastises whom He loves. To make it to Heaven there is a particular way we must live and it’s outlined in the Word/Bible. Him loving us doesn’t mean we are exempt. Despite of His agape love we are STILL held accountable for how we choose to live.

No one can ever love us like Jesus the Son and God the Father. We can look high and low, but there is no one who can give agape love other than Jesus the Son and God the Father. People put ALL of their trust in their significant others who repeatedly let them down, but NONE in Jesus, someone who will NEVER let them down. These types of people will do anything to be with a person who doesn’t love them yet they turn from or don’t want to receive someone who loves unconditionally.

When a person falls in love with Jesus, the first thing He does is show you what love is and in doing that He teaches us to love ourselves. When a person love his or herself they WILL not allow any ole thing or person in their life. Seeing this change in you YES people will shun you, they will talk about you, and many times you will have to walk naturally alone. It’s okay, because spiritually Jesus is with you! People won’t understand the change in you. They are okay when you’re down and out, but when you get on the right track they either pretend not to see you or they hate what they see. Just know it’s NOT you, it’s the LACK of Jesus in them.

My recommendation is after you’ve tried everything else you want to try; try Jesus, He won’t leave you alone, talk about you, stab you in your back, tell lies on you, mistreat you, do you wrong or lead you wrong in any kind of way and He will always want what is best for you. He knows everything about you and knows you better than you know yourself. He doesn’t always give you what you want, but He will supply what you need! Allow Him into your life and discover who you REALLY are through Him!! There’s no love like His agape love!!

Walking Away From the Start

People must learn to do this! If people would walk away from things that aren’t right from the start many wouldn’t be in the predicaments they are in. People allow how they feel for a person get them into avoidable situations. I will guarantee you if you walk away from bad situations from the start it will save you drama and stress later on. For some walking away will save their lives.

I’m not saying walk away from a relationship without ever trying to work on it. I’m saying walk away from unhealthy people to avoid being in unhealthy relationships. You do this by adhering to the signs. Stop looking at the outer appearance, stop looking at what a person has to offer. A person can be rich and completely tainted and toxic. They aren’t worth the pain and suffering of being involved with them.

Many women get into relationships with men who clearly show them they aren’t right for them, but because they think they love their men they continue on with the relationships. Many later find they made bad choices and poor decisions. Too many women go solely off of how they are feeling about the guy instead of looking at what is actually taking place in their relationships. They go into relationships thinking their men will change, trying to save them, or thinking they can fix them. This is a foolish and immature way of thinking and it leaves women in bad unhealthy relationships. They are fixated on the sex, how he makes her feel, and basically it all is intertwined into how he makes her feel. These women seem to lose a grip on reality until finally their eyes are open, by then it’s too far gone.

Too many women subject their children to unhealthy and unsafe environments by allowing people who shouldn’t be around their children into their lives. Children can’t fend for themselves, they rely on their parents. Women who are too caught up in their men to see what is going on are women who have a lot of issues they need to deal with. It’s a sad situation for these women and their children.

Many women are allowing men to beat, molest, rape, and hurt their children mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It scars children for a lifetime. These types of women need to get their heads out of the sand. A man who mistreats a child is a man who will mistreat his woman. Wake up and protect your children. Too many children are becoming victims to the hands of their mom’s significant others. These types of things cause dysfunction in the lives of children then they grow to be dysfunctional adults making bad decisions like their parents. I’m not saying all children will grow into dysfunctional adults, but many will and we see it every single day in some facet in all walks of life.

Men get into relationships for the some of the same exact reasons. They think they can save a woman or fix her. They are captivated by the outer appearance (shallow thinking). They get caught up in their sexual feelings or what is being done for them and to them. Sex is sex, period. Some men and women may perform a little better than others, but the bottom line is sex is sex. Some men; same as women think the person they are with will change or that they can fix them. Men like women; allow what they are feeling in their hearts to lead them into making bad decisions and choices. This does nothing but cause chaos and havoc in the lives of many.

Walking away from bad situations prevents worse things from happening. I don’t care how good it makes a person feels, if it’s not a good relationship it is bad and therefore unhealthy and unsafe. When people stay in relationships too long they suffer the consequences of their bad choices and decisions in one way or another. Sometimes those around them suffer the consequences as well.

No man or woman has to be in unhappy, unhealthy, and unsafe relationships. People get into and stay in them by choice until one day they see the truth for what it is and by then they feel stuck there by some form of fear. It can all be avoided by paying attention to the signs and walking away before things goes too far. Love isn’t unkind, impatience, possessive, obsessive, or controlling. It isn’t verbal, physical, or emotional abuse in no sense of the word. If someone loves you they will not want to cause you or your loved ones any pain. Many people miss this because they are too focused on how they are feeling. They miss all the signs until it’s gone too far. Sad, but true!

Unhealthy People, Unhealthy Relationships

This is for a lot of people in unhealthy relationships. There are many people who are in terrible relationships. They are blind by their feelings and they will do anything to please the one they are with. For many people the focus is completely off. Most people drastically fail at getting to know the one they are with. They don’t adhere to the signs nor do they ask the right questions. All they care about is trying to win who they are trying to be with.

The reason people find themselves in terrible relationships is because their focus is on doing any and everything to please the one they are with. Many will even cross the line by doing things they wouldn’t normally do. They are moving solely on how they are feeling and unable to see the truth because of it. They think because they feel a certain way the actions behind their feelings will make the person they are with truly want to be with them. This isn’t so!

A person will take from you as long as you give. A person will do to you what you allow. It is you who teach the one you’re with how to treat you! If you think giving them everything is going to make them love you more, you’re wrong! They still won’t love you any more than they really do! Matter of fact some don’t love who they are with at all, they love what the person does to them and for them. Hurtful right? It’s true! It’s better to read about it then to be living it!

There are far too many people who get into one-sided relationships. They are too caught up in how they are feeling, therefore blind to the truth. They could see it if they chose to, unfortunately it’s not on the mindset of most; their interest is giving all they can to the other person, because they love them very much. At least so they think!

Don’t be a fool to love or to what you perceive as love. Perception is normally gravely distorted when a person is going off of their feelings. The more you think of someone (good or bad), the more provoking the thoughts become which leads to the over abundance of feelings. People are totally captivated by those feelings, which leads and have led many into terrible relationships. Many have lost their lives in bad relationships.

I’ve written many posts about this very issue, but no matter how much people read, hear, or see, they will foolishly get into unhealthy relationships. Some people don’t learn or change, because they don’t want to. They continue to live unhappy lives while wondering why their lives are unhappy. Makes no sense, but it’s the way many choose to live. Everything we do is about choices. We all make them whether good or bad.

When a person gives and gives to the significant person in their life never getting anything in return, except headaches and heartaches; they teach their significant other exactly how to treat them. When a significant other takes and takes, they teach the other person how to be treated. People who are focused on the feel good feeling will only see what they want. They are blind to everything else to a point and time when they are forced to open their eyes to the truth. By this time they are more than likely in an unhealthy relationship. At this point many are afraid to leave and afraid to stay. The ONLY way to avoid unhealthy relationships is by NOT getting into them in the first place!

I keep telling people love isn’t blind, those who think they are in love are blind by their perceptions of love.

Another Senseless Killing

Many of us have heard about the recent killing of a teacher by her husband of one month. He killed her and then killed himself. This man didn’t wake up deciding to kill her, he had thought about it for a while. I’ve written many posts about people ignoring the signs. It’s no joke, it’s real. People are losing their lives, because they are too caught up in their emotions and feelings to see the signs.

I heard the relatives of the deceased teacher say as soon as the couple were married they saw the true him. The relative stated the guy changed. I don’t believe it for one second. He made not have shown his true colors to her family, but I bet he showed them to her. I’m sorry, I just do not believe there aren’t signs of the truth. I believe there are always signs no matter how subtle. The man who went into the classroom to kill his wife had a violent past which included domestic violence (sign). If she knew, why would she get into a relationship with him? If she didn’t know, I’m sure signs showed his tendencies for violence; yet she still chose him.

As I’ve always said, a person can only fake for so long, the truth will always surface. Many abusers have a way of manipulating and coercing. They know how to deceive and make their victims believe they are sorry for what they did (UNTIL THE NEXT INCIDENT). Women have to stop ignoring the signs. An abuser knows what to say and what to do. They are fighting their own demons. They want to control and dominate their victims.

I talked with many people after getting out of bad relationships who all said when they look back they could see the signs, but at the time of going through they FAILED to see them. Too many people lose their lives, because they do not adhere to the signs.

I’ve said it before and will  continue to say it; if a person is afraid to leave a relationship they have stayed too long. If a person feels trapped, they have stayed too long. The ONLY way to avoid unhealthy relationships is by NOT getting into them in the first place. People must learn to see past their emotions. It doesn’t matter how good it feels a person must see past their feelings. If it’s not right, what made you laugh will surely eventually make you cry.

Women and men who allow their feelings to lead them in and out of bad relationships need to look inward. They are seeking something in others they don’t have in self; which is love. When a person really love his or herself  they WILL NOT allow their feelings to blind them. They will walk away from drama and unnecessary mess. They will not give their power to anyone else and they will adhere to the signs. They won’t have any problems with being alone until the right one comes along. They are NOT depending on anyone else to live or for love and happiness. If you’re not happy alone, you won’t be happy with someone else, because your issues compiled with their issues is a time bomb waiting to blow.

Some individuals have their on issues and because of their issues of insecurities, lack of esteem and confidence, not loving themselves amongst other things; they allow people into their lives who they THINK love them. They bring bad unhealthy people around their families putting them smack in harm’s way. They fall for any form of love to get some form of love. Unfortunately this has caused many women and men to lose their lives.

It’s great to be loved, but first you must know what love is and what it isn’t. It’s NEVER abusive, ever! The problem with some people is they become lost in their feelings. They dismiss the treatment they are receiving and the many signs present. They feel good sporadically but they don’t understand they’re in an unhealthy relationship. They allow those good feelings to make them oblivious to the truth! They believe they can change the person, they believe it won’t happen again, they dismiss family and friends telling them what they see, etc. etc. This all happens, because these individuals are blind to the truth and they want what they want; even when it’s no good for them.

Be careful and guard your hearts. Don’t allow people into your lives who will hurt you. Open your eyes to the truth. It’s great to be in love, it’s great to be loved, but make sure you know what love is and definitely what it isn’t. Make sure you aren’t seeking something in someone because of something you’re lacking or never had. If you are you may find yourself in bad relationships and oftentimes it’s a repeating cycle. These types of people have often been in similar relationships with similar type people. If a person plays roulette long enough in any aspect of their life, eventually the unfortunate happens. Many people don’t understand the things they harbor inside can lead them into making the worse decisions and choices ever! In many cases it has caused individual’s their lives. Open your eyes and see the truth for what it is, even if it means getting the heck out of a relationship before it gets any deeper.