Blaming Keeps You Stuck


When a person blame others for who they’ve become they hold back self. They don’t afford self the opportunity to change, because they become stuck and fixated. No one and I mean no one can become who they are meant to be if they are stuck in mental states of blaming other people for who they are.

As I’ve said and written many times before, I believe people and situations can contribute to who people become, however the ultimate decision is the individual’s. No one on earth is exempt from struggles, troubles, adversities, trials and tribulations, woes, sorrows, hardships, misfortunes, tragedy, or whatever you want to label them. We all will go through things and unfortunately sometimes they are things done to us by other people. Still; how we choose to hold on to things is determined by the individual NOT the other people.

We all have our own lives to live. If a person put all their time and energy to reliving and rehashing old things; they give power to it. Many think they are hurting the other person/people by being angry and acting out, truth is people who do this are hurting self the most. If a person live their life blaming other people they do not have the chance to change. These types of people spend years of their lives blaming other people instead of changing and making their lives better.

No matter what you go through it doesn’t have a grip on you, people choose to grip and hold on to those things; even though they are long gone and the benefit of holding on is none. Many people spend their entire lives angry over things that happened years and years ago. They can’t mature or grow, because they are stuck in unhealthy mindsets.

Regardless of what a person goes through if they don’t deal with whatever it is/was they will go a lifetime allowing it to affect them. No one has to live this way. Many people give power to those things and the pain and memories become so strong it consumes them. They become angry and bitter and it sickens them like a disease. They spend all of their time sulking and complaining. They are miserable and unhappy, yet they continue to blame without ever trying to get control of their lives. Many bring children into the world and raise them just like they are to be sad, depressed, angry, and bitter about life.

We all have the ability to change if it is what we choose. No one can take your power if you do not give it! People must take back their power from their pasts. Okay, you went through what you went through, but it’s over now. I’m not downplaying it, I’m not saying it wasn’t traumatic, I’m not saying it didn’t happen, I’m not saying any of it. I am saying the actual event is over, yet people allow their memories to keep them trapped in a time warp as if the event is happening in their present.

I can talk about it because I’ve been their, however I have never been one to blame. I could have, but I didn’t and I never have. I can tell you things I’ve gone through you wouldn’t believe, but yet here I am telling you that you don’t have to allow it to ruin your life. I could be angry, bitter, and all of it, but I choose otherwise. I can’t let anyone take my spirit from me, because they didn’t put my spirit in me. People allow what they’ve gone through to suck the life out of them, when they don’t have too!

You decide you want better, embrace better, and then do better! Accept whatever has happened, forgive people, and forgive yourself. When you forgive people it heals you. You can’t move towards change by holding on to what once was!


Author of Destruction


I wanted to write about what is going on in the minds of people. Many people in this world are under the influence of the devil and they don’t know it. Too much evil is going on and societies are chalking it up as mental illness when it’s not. I heard on the news yesterday a woman stabbed her four children and their father to death. Tell me that’s not pure evil????????????

The devil is busy killing, stealing, and destroying. Those who haven’t uncovered the truth of what is going on with self will continue lives of dysfunction. They will continue on paths of destruction until they discover who they can be and stop embracing what they are. They then can recover and live the lives God intended.

People succumb too easily to the trick of the devil because they don’t really understand they are under his influence. When you’re not connected to Jesus you are capable of doing anything. People who aren’t in tune with self certainly aren’t in tune with God the Father and Jesus the Son.

The reason the devil is getting into the minds of people is because they are living by the flesh alone. They are in the world doing all the worldly things. They have focus on all of the wrong things. They are self absorbed and selfish; making things all about self.

Those who aren’t in tune with self are led by their negative ways of thinking. They get something into their heads/minds and although technically they know what they’re thinking isn’t right, they will continuously ponder over it until they develop feelings behind the thoughts; leading to negative actions behind the feelings. This is how people end up making bad choices and decisions; they are led by their negative and distorted ways of thinking. When you ponder long enough over negative thoughts you will more than likely act on those thoughts. People are giving power to the negativity until it takes over. This is a form of possession.

It’s nothing but the devil. He already know the minds of many people are weak. These people already have many unresolved issues they haven’t let go; which has already caused them to lead chaotic lives. It’s all destruction and the devil is the father of destruction. When you let him drive he takes over and control. This is what’s happening in the world many are under the influence of the devil and moving at his command without any resistant. This leads people to making some of the worst decisions and choices of their lives.

The powers of good and evil are in full effect. What we choose is what we choose. The devil don’t tight anyone up to serve him, he enters in through all of the avenues people make available. The devil doesn’t fight against those who are on his side; he simply leads them into further destruction and ultimately death. People must wake up!



I felt a great need to talk about anger today. I am seeing and hearing about horrible things people are doing out of anger. The reason most people continue to do the things they do is because they NEVER face the root of their issues. Anger is a learned behavior that creates hatred in people.

People think they go from 0 to 100 right away, but although one’s reaction seem so, people really don’t. Everyone has a moment to reflect, but most don’t take it. They go off instead. People like to blame the next person for the decisions they make to react negatively in situations.

It’s not the next person’s fault as to how you act it is your own fault. If people would take a few minutes to think before they react they wouldn’t be in the predicaments many find themselves. The root of anger lies within and as mentioned earlier in this post, it is a learned behavior.

The biggest problem is, many do not face whatever it is causing this anger. Instead, people act or re-act without taking the time to think. They live their lives pushing away those who love them and most don’t like who they are as individuals. People become angry due to things they’ve experienced ( all types of abuse and mistreatment, neglect, abandonment, lack of attention, lack of nurturing, bad surroundings, etc. etc).

As children many have seen anger in their parents (parents are angry for whatever reason) or whoever brought them up. Behaviors are learned and although children learn a lot from people outside of their home, much starts early in life and in the home. As children many are raised in chaotic homes/environments. When children don’t know how to deal with negativity it all goes inward. It messes them up and they carry this into their adulthoods. They carry the anger inside (suppressing it) causing problems throughout their lives. They become adults who don’t know how to handle this anger.

I’m praying people learn to deal with their issues by facing what has gotten them to the point they’re at. No one can do this by constantly being self destructive. This behavior not only ruins their lives it causes destruction in the lives of those around them. Many of these people are in jail or dead. They weren’t able to deal with their anger and because of it they end up doing things they couldn’t undo. Others are unhappy and instead of trying to deal with their issues they continue on the war path while living in misery.

It’s unfortunate, but many have killed themselves as well as others. I keep telling people “we only have one life to live here on earth.” No status or amount of money will change that fact. It’s terrible that people live their lives being angry when they can choose to change by facing their ways of thinking.

People are trapped by their ways of thinking. How we think about things is what influences our behaviors. People have allowed their thoughts and feelings of their pasts and other situations they’ve experienced to keep them in bad states of mind. They lose focus over their situations because there’s no control over their anger.

To change takes a person’s willingness to change. It takes the belief you can change. Unfortunately many make a million and one reasons for not changing. Look around at the destruction left behind by people who can’t control their anger. They do unthinkable things out of their uncontrollable anger. They are full of hatred. Anger leads to hatred and rage when it’s allowed to build up and is carried within year after year. If a person don’t deal with it they continue to live their lives in unhealthy ways.

I pray that those with anger issues stop acting out prematurely and learn how to deal with their issues. If they do it will change their lives for the better. You deserve peace!!