Good Or Bad The Past Shapes Us

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Ok, in saying that, I do NOT mean it dictates our future or present. It should not! However, what I am saying is exactly what I wrote “good or bad the past shapes us.” What I mean by this is what a person has endured in their past can have a grave affect on their rest of their lives depending on how it was perceived. A person can make good out of the bad or they can choose a life sentence of bad/negativity. We see it every single day! Many people don’t know how to cope so instead they lash out and project their pain on others through some form of abuse. Not all abuse is physical or sexual. Mental and emotional abuse can be just as devastating and debilitating.

There are a lot of good stories, but there are also a lot of bad stories. Anyone who chooses can make good from any bad situation. My focus is on helping people to overcome the negativity. Everything is based upon the mindset. How people think always affect how they feel and act. No one can change this but the individual.

I would be lying if I said the past doesn’t affect us, it does, but it doesn’t have to be in a negative way regardless of the negativity a person went through. The problem here is many people choose to hang on to the negativity versus moving on away from it. Everything each of us has gone through or will go through is a learning experience. I’ve always told you this! It teaches us what to do or what not to do! Experience is the greatest teacher IF people would choose to learn from it instead of using it as a life sentence of pain and negativity.

If you went through something painful as a child that’s very unfortunate, but my prayer is as a adult you understand you’re no longer a child. What started may have been bad, but through it a lesson is to be learned. If nothing else it is a lesson about people and how they can mistreat you. Just because a person is your mom, dad, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, cousin, grandparents, etc doesn’t mean they mean well by you. We assume so and we hope so, but it doesn’t mean they do or will. People regardless of who they are have their own demons and because they don’t deal with those demons they project their issues onto other people. They were probably victims at some point. Most times people who allow their pasts to wreak havoc in their lives will wreak havoc in the lives of other people. Sadly those other people are often family members sometimes not.

Any person who doesn’t deal with their past issues will live a life of lies and pretense. They will hide the truth because they know the truth is unacceptable and ugly. They KNOW IT! Therefore, they pretend to be something they are not this causes further dsyfunction. As long as a person does this they will never seek change as an option. They will always think as long as their pulling the wool over the eyes of people they are okay. No, this isn’t true! As long as a person pretend they will always live in negativity. It pools onto their children, family, friends, and others.

It is very sad when adults have children they bring into their cesspools ways of living, thinking, feeling, and acting. They taint their children with their toxicity often causing them mental, emotional, and physical harm. No child deserves this! That’s why this world is filled with broken people. People don’t choose to deal with their brokenness. Some people have the victim mentality for all of their lives. The cycle repeats itself.

This is why we see so much hatred, anger, homicide, suicide, depression, etc in this world, People have deep seated issues they refuse to deal with. Then on top of it they are searching for what’s lacking in their lives often latching on to someone as broken as they are. There are plenty people who are NOT coping well at all. Sometimes they end up murdering innocent people, killing themselves, committing road rage, fighting over significant others, cheating, being abusive, and a whole bunch of nonsense. They do these things, because they don’t know how to cope with the dysfunction in their lives. They keep on living and repeating the same cycles not even trying to change. It’s very sad!

Many people will say “you think I choose to be this way!” I will say absolutely yes! Why? It’s because it’s the truth. No one has to accept negativity in their lives. No one has to continue to cause chaos in their lives. No has to be filled with hate and anger. I can list a whole page of things. The moral is no one has to continue a life of negative ways of thinking, acting, and feeling. All of it comes from what lies within you! No matter who help plant the seeds it is the individual who cultivates them to go. Until individuals deal with the root of their problems those problems will continue to exist. Individuals often have their own problems and at the same time will try to deal with the dysfunction of the people they allow into their lives. It never works!

The past is exactly that! You can’t go back to it, but you can relive it in your memories. Our thoughts are formed by memories of something. The power you give them is how they are bound to control your life. A lot of people live as if they are still going through it. They are mad, angry, spiteful, filled with hatred, bitter, full of malice, holding grudges, etc for a life time when the experience is over. They have given complete power and control to their memories allowing their thoughts/ways of thinking to keep them held captive. They are held captive to their ways of thinking. They have formed completely negative mindsets which has affected all parts of their lives. No one on earth has to live in such a negative mindset. It’s up to you, the individual to decide you need to change.

Back to the title at hand. I believe without a doubt good or bad our pasts shape our lives. There’s not one person alive who live a negative dysfunctional life or a life of pretense who hasn’t been affected in a negative way by what they have gone through. They do not have to accept this negativity! Your life, my life, our lives are ours to live. In the beginning many others were involved in some way, regardless of what or who, the individual (you) has the power to overcome and be who you choose to become. Whether good or bad, that choice is the individual’s to make. Unfortunately, many choose a life time of discord when they don’t have to!

My prayer is people stop using their pasts as a crutch. Stop making excuses and stop holding on to negativity. Decide to live a beautiful peaceful life. Troubles will come and go for us all at some point, but nothing is to break us. If we learn from our experiences it will make us into stronger better people. It’s a choice. Even more importantly learn to love self. You can’t be of any good to anyone else in your life until you first learn to love self. Negativity has no benefit for the mind, body, or soul!

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Dangerous Thoughts

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People don’t realize the power they give to their thoughts. It can be very dangerous. It has proven to lead to unthinkable situations. We all think about things, sometimes those things causes fear to rise up. If people succumb to those thoughts then fear can take over.

There are people who think about their pasts and they allow those thoughts to control their lives. The actual experiences are no more, they no longer exist. However, due to the power people give their memories they allow the thoughts of those experiences to keep them bound to them for a lifetime. They live unhappy chaotic lives due to the power they’ve given to their thoughts. They can’t seem to let things go, instead they hold on to the negative thoughts as if there is a benefit to it. These thoughts are so real and present to them, because of the power they’ve given to them. The thoughts produce anger, bitterness, hatred, etc.

Many people meet individuals they are attracted too, but they don’t look at the whole picture. All they see is their interest. Most times they don’t care if the person is married or with someone. All they care about is the interest they have in the individual. They begin to think about the person, the more they think about the person the more power they begin to give their thoughts. They don’t think about the whole situation and this is why people find themselves in mess! They can’t see past what they are feeling, because of what’s inside of them and the power they give to their thoughts.

We all have heard many times of people committing unthinkable acts such as homicide, suicide, and a host of other things to self and to others. Do you think they woke up and said I’m going to do this or that today? Nooooo, they do not! It is something they have thought about for a long time. They probably talked themselves into and out of it over and over until they finally succumbed to it. Sometimes people are coerced into things. Other people put the thoughts into their heads, but they are the one’s who chose to let it fester into powerful thoughts that eventually take over.

Bottom line of this post is this; we all have thoughts. If I sat here and said we all didn’t get off the wall thoughts sometimes; I would be a liar. I get them like everyone else. However, I’ve never ever thought to kill myself, kill someone else, or harm anyone. People who go that far have unresolved issues which has either led them to be coerced or the issues have caused them to be angry, bitter, depressed, etc. Something caused the thoughts, but the individual is the one who fueled the fire giving power to those thoughts.

I thank God, when I get an off the wall thought, I know it’s off the wall and I put the devil right where he belongs. I never entertain any foolish thoughts. I instantly say that is foolish or stupid and I dump it as quickly as it came. What people fail to understand is they can’t control what will come, but they can control whether they entertain those thoughts or not! You can control the power you give to your thoughts. You can choose if you allow other people to put negative thoughts in your head. If you know it’s wrong then you shouldn’t entertain it or the people who try to plant them in your head. Unfortunately this isn’t the case for many. Many people are easily coerced, persuaded, and influenced to do wrong. People who choose not to control the power they give their thoughts, the power of their thoughts control them.

Comfortable in Uncomfortable Situations

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I believe this is a major stumbling block for many. We will all have obstacles thrown in our paths by life in general. Many people make them into stumbling blocks instead of the stepping stones they are meant to be. People become stuck in their ways due to their pasts and fears. Their wrong ways of thinking affects how they feel and act. It causes debilitation and dysfunction. People are too comfortable with their uncomfortable ways of living. They complain, cry, and act out; yet they do nothing to change their situations.

So many are choosing the victim mentality. No matter what, people don’t have to live as victims. No one said life was a bed of pretty roses. Things are thrown at us from everywhere, but regardless of this truth, people still have a choice as to how they deal with those issues. Most problems for the individual is individual his or herself. Individuals cause themselves many unnecessary problems by getting into bad situations, bad relationships, and dealing with bad people. They make many bad decisions, because they are in bad places mentally. They don’t change, because they are comfortable and familiar with their situations despite the pain it causes to them and those around them.

You know when something is not right or right for you. Choosing to be involved with something or someone knowing it is or could potentially be a problem means you’re willfully choosing to do something you shouldn’t do! There are always consequences for what we do. Negative ways of thinking causes many people to make bad choices and decisions. People water things down by calling them mistakes. Truth is mistakes aren’t made nearly as much as bad choices and decisions! Don’t EVER go along with wrong to belong or to get along!

If you are trying to hide what you do in any form, then you know it’s wrong! I don’t care what IT is! Yet, many people do it and afterwards have to suffer great repercussions due to their actions they didn’t have to be involved with from the start. People get comfortable with this way of living.

The false perception of love messes a lot of people up. People try to find love when they don’t first love self. Many repeatedly make bad choices and decisions in the name of what they think is love. Trying to love someone who doesn’t love you, trying to be in a relationship with someone else when you’re already in a relationship or the person you’re trying to be in a relationship is in one already, loving someone who loves someone else, being with someone for material things, being with someone for titles or positions, being with someone because of family/friends, or a child. Being with someone who is showing you they are abusive, untrustworthy, controlling, possessive, or obsessive, etc. I can go on and on, but I hope you get the point. You know these things are wrong from the start, why do them or why get into these types of relationships? People cause their own problems on top of the obvious issues they have inside.

People are comfortable with how they are; some are content with it while others aren’t. The problem is either way, most do nothing about it. People are comfortable with their past pains. No matter how hurt they are and destructive their lives are they are comfortable in their uncomfortable situations. They don’t attempt to move forward. They stay stuck where they are. Their lives are like revolving doors year in and year out. They don’t learn from their lessons in life, they keep repeating the same cycles. This is being comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. They wonder why, why, why. I will tell you why. It’s you, you, you! You’re your own problem, because people who are this way don’t try to change their lives. They keep holding on to their pasts experiences as if they don’t have a future. The future is coming for us all, but many are stuck in their past experiences. They get too comfortable despite the chaos it brings to their lives. They give too much power to their pasts, to people, and things. No one on earth can mature and move forward in life stuck in this mind set. As their future approaches they continue to sabotage their possibilities, because they are stuck in wrong and negative ways of thinking

You are not your parents; it doesn’t matter if you look like or act like them. You aren’t what people say you are UNLESS you believe you are and if you do, it alone shows you don’t love yourself; you believe what is said about you. You don’t have to let people cross your personal boundaries, I don’t care who they are. You don’t have to let others put limits on your dreams and goals; they belong to you and you’re the ONLY one who should dictate what it is you choose to do. Most times people show you who they want you to see until the real deal surfaces. What’s inside is more powerful and it will always surface in some form or another. Don’t get comfortable in faking and pretending; you will NEVER grow this way. Learn to love yourself then you won’t have to pretend. People won’t understand your growth and some won’t accept it. It’s okay, it’s not about them! Don’t allow it to stunt your growth!

If people don’t want you in their life, keep it moving. Life will go on with or without you! Never kiss anyone’s butt to get them to love you or to get from point A to B. Know without doubt people will look you in the face and stab you in the back at the same time. They will tell you one thing and do another. They will hate on you, be envious, spiteful, jealous, etc. It’s because they don’t like what they are lacking. They waste time and energy with negative feelings about other people when they should put the time and energy into changing their lives. They have allowed people, things and life to hold them back, so they project their pains on other people who chose to move forward in life. Don’t allow these people to stop or block your growth! They will if you allow.

Don’t allow the troubles in life to keep you stagnant. Trouble will come, but it will also go. Learn from everything and allow nothing to make you feel you’re not capable of progressing in life. The power is in your hands to do so. If you give it away, you lose control. Never be comfortable in uncomfortable situations you DO NOT have to be in!

Unfaithful Accept it or Not

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You know it’s going on long before you act or react to it. A lot of people try to force something that shouldn’t be. They try to make people love them or want to stay when in reality you can’t. Unfortunately some people want to have a blind eye to the truth, it doesn’t make it any different. The truth is the truth. People can choose to do something about it or do nothing at all. Doing nothing at all is still doing something!

Life goes on! You can’t make a person stay or love you. If a person wants out open the door for them. If a person chooses to keep straying lock the door behind them when they go and don’t open it again. I’m not telling anyone to give up on their relationship. What I am saying is when in a relationship if you’re in a constant negative stay of mind it’s time to reexamine your relationship and yourself. When you no longer have any intimacy for your significant other it’s time to reassess. When you’re constantly arguing and fighting, it may be time to move on. If you have no peace of mind, it messes you up mentally, physically, and spiritually. When a person can’t stay faithful to you, then you learn to be faithful to yourself and send them down the road. People treat you how you let them treat you! No excuses!

MEN: Men who cheat almost never fail to show their hand. They simply lose their minds over someone new. They begin to do things they didn’t do before. They become bitter towards who they are with. They treat the one they supposed to love with disrespect and hatefulness. They dismiss the feelings and concerns of the one they are with. They always find an excuse to start an argument or to leave. They do stupid things, period!

Although responsible in some ways some men are still immature. These types of men are different, they are never satisfied with who they are with no matter how good. They want what they want without fully comprehending the risks. They normally try to control the one they are with even though they are out doing their thing. They don’t think things through, they simply go for what they want! They fail to realize the hurt and chaos they will cause. They are more interested in satisfying their flesh. Mature men, understand the risk and choose to be mature men to who they are with.

Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age. Some people take a lot longer to mature. No matter how old some people are they are still led by their flesh. It’s sad! If a person don’t want to be committed in their relationship then they shouldn’t be in one. They should not be in any relationship until they deal with what’s causing them to be the way they are. Those who get into relationships do nothing but cause drama.

Individual’s who are constantly trying to be with other people when they are already in relationships don’t fully love self. If you don’t really love you, you can’t love someone else the way they deserve. These individual’s will always put aside what is right and wholesome to satisfy their flesh. Many people are making bad choices and decisions based on who they really are. What’s going on inside ruins what’s going on outside!

WOMEN: When a woman is with someone she will do all she can to make it work, but if there is no change her attitude will change and then her feelings and actions follow. If she meets someone who an thinks he’s given her what she’s not getting at home some women will stray. Some women will get so fed up they will leave. I thinks it’s wrong to stray or to leave one person for another. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side! Women show their hands too. They begin to stop doing the things they used to do. They find excuses also, they’ll do anything to get away from who they are with.

A lot of the problem with people is many get into relationships for all of the wrong reason. Most times when it’s wrong, the same way it started will normally be how it ends. You can’t expect to get into a relationship the wrong way and something great come from it. Most times it won’t work!

If you can’t love who you’re with, then perhaps you need to move on. Trying to stay where you’re not loved and respected is hard. Staying with someone when you are always straying is wrong. If you’re not happy with who you’re with why stay? I know for many people straying has nothing to do with who they are with, it has everything to do what’s going on inside of self that causes them to be who they are. At the end of the day I don’t care the reason, if a person can’t be faithful, they definitely shouldn’t be in a relationship. Many people in this world miss out on good relationships, because they are hanging on to bad ones!

YOUR ATTITUDE

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A person’s attitude can work for them or against them. When a person change their negative attitude it can alter their life. A lot of people walk around with bad attitudes and it’s an ugly sight to see. They point blame at everyone else for their situations, yet they forget to take a good look at the fingers pointing right back to self.

Sometimes we have to look at ourselves instead of always wanting to blame what we’re going through on others. Regardless of what, in order to move beyond any situation we must look at how we’re approaching that situation. If we have negative attitudes we will look at things in negative ways and will have negative actions; which will always make things more difficult than they have to be.

There are many people who are negative all of the time. These types of people bring gloom to their surroundings and they’re the type of people others don’t want to be around. Negative thinking breeds negative thought, talk, feelings, and actions. A negative party isn’t one positive people want to attend.

Bad attitudes comes from brokenness. The good news is anyone can change their life by changing their negative ways of thinking. Turn your frown into a smile and know that only YOU have the control to make a change in your life. I guarantee anyone if you consciously take charge of how you think and begin to monitor your negative ways of thinking facing them head on to foster change, your whole outlook on life will change. This begins and ends with you!!!!

You can blame whoever you want and the truth of the matter is it may have started with someone else, but it ends with YOU!! Don’t let what you’ve gone through cause you a lifetime of unhappiness because of your refusal to let it go. Many people are mad for a lifetime over things that happens many years ago. It’s a sad state of mind to be in. You use a lot of energy up holding on to negativity. If you hold on to it, it will keep you tied up and in bondage. I pray that you choose to let whatever it is go on today. Today is a new day for a new beginning!!!

 

Addicted to Pain

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Today someone asked me why did I name the post “Addicted to Pain.”  This was my answer! The reason I named it as such is because I’m trying to help someone. You can’t help anyone if you try to give people what they want to hear versus the truth. My intentions are never to put down or hurt anyone in anyway, but I won’t sugarcoat anything to make someone feel better about their situation. The sad truth is many are addicted to pain and it’s why many are living the same way and going through the same mess. If you don’t like it  then you change it. Most won’t try to change, they don’t have time for that! They think it requires too much work. Others say they don’t know how to. I’ve said it a million times, if you’re living a negative life, because of a negative way of thinking, you must change the way you’re currently thinking  and when you do it changes your life. You change negative thinking by replacing it with positive thinking. If something bad has happened to you, IF it’s from your past; understand that your past is no more, it’s gone forever. The only thing left of it is what you bring along day in day out (your memories of it whether good or bad). Stop allowing those memories to fester into negative thoughts about people who are probably not in your life anymore, dead, gone on with their lives, or who aren’t thinking of you. Stop giving them power over your life.

No matter what or who you must make up your mind that you won’t give it power over your life. Regardless of how bad, you don’t have to let it ruin the rest of your life. You get to choose, you really do! Life goes on with or without you. If you’re stuck, life will still go on.

If you keep getting into bad relationships or doing bad things believe me; this stems from somewhere and more times than not it goes right back to past issues. It’s all in your ways of thinking. Change your wrong way of thinking and you change your life. It’s only as hard as you make it. I know many think I say it or write it so easily. I understand change is difficult, but that’s because it’s something new. If you want it you work on it until you get past whatever has you in captivity by your state of mind. With that being written, I hope you enjoy the post. If any of you have personal questions you’re more than welcome to email me personally and not comment openly. I will always respond.

Many people in this world are obviously addicted to pain, yet they don’t even realize it. I’m not speaking of physical pain although mental/emotional pain can affect a person physically. I’m speaking of pain resulting from people’s inability to let go. Millions are walking around hurting because they won’t let go of things that are keeping them trapped in negative states of mind. A lot of what people carry around with them completely corrupt their lives. It affects them in every way; and this is the pain I’m referencing. People have become comfortable and content with heartache and pain.

You can believe it or not, but the truth of the matter is many are in this dark place of free will. I can’t change anyone, you can’t change anyone; the person who needs changing must want change for his or herself.

People are familiar with their ways of life. They either outwardly show their suffering or they tried to hide it unknowing that it will eventually show in their actions. I’ve seen it over and over, time and time again. People become comfortable in whom they’ve become. They often complaint and cry about it or they keep it inside; either way they ultimately become dysfunctional individuals.

I wish everyone in this world could understand that no matter the situation or circumstance we can live healthy lives full of peace. Unfortunate things happen to us; some are out of our control, while most are in our control. However, how we accept/perceive those things determines how we will go through the events. If people could only grasp that concept, the lives of many would be better. It’s hard for people to believe this when their lives seem so chaotic to them. This is because, they have failed to properly deal with their situations. If we don’t properly deal with our troubled times, the effect of those troubled times will deal with us. We see the affect it has on lives through people’s actions.

Some people seem to relish in pain, they keep putting themselves in the same situations with the same people or similar people. The sad part is they find themselves right back at square one wondering why and how they got there. It’s simple if you get on a merry go around; you will go around and around until you choose to get off. The same analogy applies to life. You keep doing the same things; you will continue to have the same outcome. It’s the bottom line!

Before a person tries to point a finger to blame someone else, check those three that are pointing back at you! Yes, look at the man in the mirror. People will put you through whatever you allow them to put you through. If you take it, they will dish it out. If you’re gullible they will prey. If you’re eager and/or desperate they will sense it and prey upon your weaknesses. You have control of your own life. If you think you’re weak, have low esteem, or lack confidence; guess what; it will eventually show.

A lot of what people have gone through has traumatized them. I of all people get it, but we as individuals must learn to use every bad situation for our good. There’s good that can always come out of bad. Unfortunate things that happens to us can teach and strengthen us IF we allow. Every bad situation I’ve ever endured  taught me something I didn’t know. It opened my eyes to something new. It alerted me and made me aware. Most of all it made me wiser and stronger. Anyone who chooses can experience life this way!

No matter how bad the situation, how we choose to take it in is how it will affect us. I accept life as it comes, the good with the bad. I’ve learned so much and have grown in leaps and bounds. I’m thankful for everything I’ve gone through. Some things I’ve endured would have been a lot for most to handle, but I’ve always chose to see things differently. I’ve never accepted feeling sad or unhappy no matter the situation. If you allow things in life to get you down, they always will do just that. The difference is when you really learn from the choices you make; you always make better choices.

The world is full of toxic people. People are full of toxicity due to experiences they have allowed to taint them to the core. This is why we see so much hatred in this world. People are taking the lives of other individuals as if life means nothing. They are killing the ones they supposedly love; we’re seeing senseless road rage, and other senseless killing. Why? It’s because these people are full of toxicity. There is still racism in the world when most don’t have a clue as to why they hate; it’s a learned behavior, but people are too clueless to even realize it. Yet, they continue to show hatred for no reason at all just because of the stories that have been told and passed down from generation to generation. There are many other examples I could write, but the moral to the story is these types of people are filled with all types of junk. They have junk from their pasts that has caused them to become toxic people, who live toxic lives. Junk is toxic to us! It affects us mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Junk in is junk out! Period!

People are so addicted to pain. They hold on to it as if there’s a benefit from it. It causes hatred, anger, jealously, envy, strife, malice, etc. It leads to depression, suicide, homicide, pedophilia, sexual immorality, many types of addictions, and the list goes on. What is so sad is that people don’t understand how their whole lives would change IF they would change their old ways of thinking. People don’t want to change, because it takes work. It takes effort, consistency, time, commitment, and most of all the will to want to change. Many find it much easier to continue living as they have lived for so many years. They’re content, but unhappy. However, rather than choose to be become better people living better lives, they choose to continue to inflicted pain on themselves and others while afflicted by all of the pain they’ve grown accustomed to.

The only way people will change is if they want to. We all must learn how to love ourselves and by doing so we will learn how to love others. If you hate anyone, it’s because you’re not happy with yourself and that’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like it or not! We change by first changing our ways of thinking which in return change the way we perceive things, feel about them, and act towards those things (no matter what it is). We change negativity by changing our ways of thinking and if we do this, we learn how to let go of those things that has us in bondage and addicted to misery and pain.

POINT OF NO RETURN

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This post is dedicated to anyone who feels they’re at a point of no return. Although it may be how you feel, it is a VERY distorted way of thinking. You have allowed your thoughts to overtake you and flood you with negative thinking, feelings, and behaviors. If you constantly embrace negativity you will lead a negative lifestyle. It’s all by choice. You can change your way of thinking at this very moment, but you must want too.

We all have gone through at some point in life and for anyone who claims they haven’t just keep on living and you most definitely will. If a person don’t know how to deal with what they go through they will keep allowing things to build up until they completely lose control and the ability to think realistically or rationally. They will focus on the negativity until they end up acting on it in some way; which almost always end bad.

I encourage anyone who feels they’re at a loss to please seek help. There is nothing so bad that if you choose you can’t get past. What pins many people down and keep them prisoner are there own minds and ways of thinking. If you feel it’s bad and you constantly think it’s bad, negative is how you will carry yourself. No one can live positively with a negative way of thinking. It can’t work, it won’t work!

It’s sad to see people giving up on life because of another human being or because of a situation. It’s so terrible to see people killing themselves and or killing others, because they don’t know how to deal with the negative lifestyle they chose.

Don’t get me wrong, I know sometimes things happen to us that are not of our doing. I get it. God knows I’ve been there more than once. However, I believe that no matter what the situation is, how a person perceive it is how they will deal with it.

Some people have gotten comfortable in their suffering. It may sound ridiculous, but it’s the truth. What I mean by this is; some people are so used to the hurt, pain, and being in that negative mindset until they do nothing but carry it around throughout their lives without trying to dump the heaviness from their minds. Holding on to negativity wears you down and out. It’s no good for anyone and it’s harmful to the mind, body, and spirit.

Those who constantly carry around this negativity are often sad, depressed, disassociated, and many things that causes them to become weak in their minds. People give too much power to negativity. People give too much power to other people and things. No one should have power over  you in that way. When a person subjects his or herself to this it causes chaos in their life.

The biggest problem is people don’t know how to love themselves. Instead they live a lifetime trying to please other people when they themselves are so unhappy. When you base your living and dying on other people you really have no focus or control of your own. LIFE ISN’T MEANT TO BE LIVED THIS WAY. Learn how to free yourself from the grip of others and live with peace and harmony. When a person is able to do that they learn how to put up boundaries against all others and things.

Enjoy your life by first learning to love you. By loving yourself you will also learn how NOT to allow anything to put you in a state of mind that doesn’t foster peace. If you feel you’re at a point where you can’t take whatever it may be that you’re going through, please I beg you to seek help. Go and talk with someone one.  call someone (friend, church, some hotline, hospital for help)  ANYONE is better than NO ONE. You NEVER EVER have to go through it alone. There are many agencies and people who can help you. It’s time for people to learn how to deal with their negative ways of thinking. A person’s negative way of thinking is what breeds those negative feelings and behaviors. Please, please, please, seek help.

I pray that you realize that it’s your own mind that’s keeping you stuck in such a fog. Somewhere along the way you gave too much of your power to someone or something. My prayer is that you understand that you don’t have to feel bogged down with this unnecessary weight and that you release all the negativity and find peace in your mind, heart, and soul.

Millions waste time on people who don’t want to be with them, people who don’t love them, things that are bad for them, depressed over things that happened to them in their past, and thinking about all of the situations that hasn’t worked out for them. The reason people can’t let go or get past the negativity is because they keep going over it in their minds. You can’t get rid of anything by holding on to it, and that’s the bottom line! If you continue to ponder on the bad things you will continue to have negative feelings about them as well. STOP wasting your lives on things that aren’t conducive to a positive way of thinking and  a peace of mind.