When Someone Talks About You


When someone talks about you what they say can’t hurt you unless you choose for it to hurt you. The old saying is really true “hurt people hurt people.” People who always having something negative to say are negative people. They are filled with old issues they’ve carried around for a life time. They’ve allowed the bitterness to build and fester inside. The only way they’ve learned to cope is by lashing out at other people.

You can’t please negative people. To them you’re never good enough no matter how good you are. This is why I’m always encouraging people to stand on their own and believe in self. Some of the people who should be the most influential are those we love the most. Unfortunately they are often the ones who tries to hurt us the most.

Words can hurt if we allow. A physical wound heals and sometimes the scar goes completely away and is often forgotten. However, those ugly words can get in deep inside of us and lie dormant. People hold on to them as if there’s a benefit to holding on to the negativity. Don’t be this person! It doesn’t matter what was said, you’re not who they say you are UNLESS you believe it. If you believe it this normally means you already have other things inside which has caused you to lose self confidence and self esteem. It also means somewhere along the way you’ve given away your power. If you give it people will most definitely take it!

I’m very selective about who I allow in my life. I’m very selective about who I call my friend. I have studied people for many years and I know they will look you in the face and smile, but they will stabbed you in the back. I know people will say they love you when they know they don’t. I know they can’t stand you for who you are and they will do or say anything to bring you down. I know they will say negative things about you in trying to break you. I know they are offended when you are different from them. The list goes on and on and on. None of it matters! What matters is what you think of yourself!

Never ever give anyone the power to bring you down because of the words they’ve spoken to you or about you. If you do they’ll do it every chance they get, because they know it hurts you. Know your value and self worth; when you do what others think of you means a whole lot less.

Always remember people (regardless of who they may be) who intentionally hurt you are hurt people who have unresolved issues. This doesn’t mean what they do is okay, just approach it a different way and do not let it cause a rip in your soul. Be blessed and know you’re uniquely you and don’t let anyone else make you feel otherwise!


Thin but Distinctive Line Between Evil and Mental


Listen people please trust and believe, if you’re fixated on particular thoughts and they are constantly in your head YOU HAVE GIVEN POWER TO THEM! No matter what they are, if they are constantly swirling around in your head it means you’re pondering over them. All thoughts aren’t bad, this post is about the bad/negative thoughts.

If it’s wrong YOU KNOW IT’S WRONG! Please, please, please check yourself! Please re-evaluate your ways of thinking. If you are fixated on the thoughts and they dictate your actions then you are possessed by this negativity. It will consume you and cause you to commit and submit to doing something you know is wrong.

There is so much going on in this world. People are doing foolish things every second of the day. Some days it seems as if people in the world have gone completely mad. God reminds me there is a difference between a person being mental and a person being possessed by evil! The world don’t want to deal with evil, because people are afraid to admit it exists. People are accepting when it comes to movies, but they don’t REALLY believe it’s real!

People who can’t get over bad thoughts are possessed by something not of God. God is love and He doesn’t dwell in darkness at all. He is the light in the darkness if people believe! If not they are consumed by their darkness! If something causes a person do anything wrong they are inhabited by something evil. It has consumed their thoughts, because the person has opened the door for it to come into their life in some form or another. A person’s thoughts fuels their feelings and behaviors.

Think about this:

Guns have handles, but no hands, and bullets have no eyes. The gun will lie wherever you laid it down until you pick it up. People must think about what they’re doing and STOP just doing! If there’s a thought in your head telling you to harm someone it is a BAD thought! If it’s something you’ve been thinking about go get HELP! Talk to someone about what’s bothering you! If you can’t let it go evil has entered your body through freewill and it is controlling you. Please seek help before you do something you can’t undo! This is the same for ANY weapon!

Alcohol and drugs can’t miraculously pour into a person’s body. People pick it up and induce it in some form or another. It’s done by free will. If it controls you it possesses you! It has consumed you. It is evil which has taken over your body of free will. In some way you have subjected yourself to it and it has caused you to submit to it! It is your god!

Lusts of the flesh comes in all forms. Most people think it means only sex, no this is incorrect. Sex is one form of lusts of the flesh. However, it also involves a plethora of other things; which by the way are ALL a form of evil. People don’t want to accept it, but it’s true. People entertain demons everyday without a second thought. They don’t realize the magnitude of what they are doing or the implications of their behaviors.

In case you don’t understand lusts of the flesh. It includes ALL sexual indulgences (sexual immorality of many forms such as fornication, adultery, bestiality, pedophilia, sodomy, homosexuality, etc), food addiction, alcohol & drug addictions, idolatry (people, objects, other things), greed (money, material things), I hope you get the understanding I’m trying to relay in this message!

Absolutely ANYTHING which has control over you is a form of possession. If you let the devil in he will come in and take over! People are walking around possessed and they are succumbing left and right without a fight. The devil is rejoicing over all of his angels building up his army.

It’s real! This is why people are committing such hideous acts! It’s pure evil controlling the minds and hearts of people in this world. This is why the world has so many people filled with hate. It’s darkness from evil!

People are suicidal and homicidal day in and day out! Their minds and hearts are controlled by evil. I know people will be upset over me adding suicide in it. You think you’re the only one been hurt by suicide? I have too! Again, anything that controls your thoughts consumes and control you. Would you categorize it as something good? No it’s negative! It’s a form of evil possession which has taken control. The devil wants to kill your body, mind, and soul. He wants to steal your lives, because he knows he HAS to go back to hell, therefore he wants to take as many with him as he can. He wants to destroy the hearts and minds of as many people as he can.

Suicidal and homicidal people aren’t born like that! They develop the tendencies and behaviors either through traumatic events they experienced or things they’ve seen others do. They develop certain mindsets through things they have been a part of whether willfully or forced upon them. It forms into something dark! It consumes and takes over the minds of many.

What baffles me is this; Society is quick to say someone is mentally instable. Ask yourself an honest question. Have you EVER seen a mentally unstable person? If you have you can CLEARLY tell they are incapable of the mental capacity to devise elaborate plans to harm people. Their minds don’t even work that way! Those who do are inflicted by evil, period! There is a thin but DESTINTIVE line between mental and evil.

Evil inhabits people through many different ways. It enters by the freewill of people. People welcome it in somehow by the lives they lead (thoughts-beliefs, feelings, behaviors (sex, drugs, alcohol, anger, fear, anxiety). When people are dealing with issues of their pasts and they can’t seem to move on, they are inhabited by this darkness which can lead people down dark paths into the unimaginable and unthinkable.

I’ve deal with many who have committed suicide and or homicide. I’ve dealt with many who can’t move on from issues of their pasts. You name it, I’ve probably dealt with it. This is why I know what I’m writing about. It happens to different people, but all of the hosts deals with the same types of things.

It can happen to anyone, even you and I if we don’t keep our minds and hearts on Jesus. The devil is on a mission.

Author of Destruction


I wanted to write about what is going on in the minds of people. Many people in this world are under the influence of the devil and they don’t know it. Too much evil is going on and societies are chalking it up as mental illness when it’s not. I heard on the news yesterday a woman stabbed her four children and their father to death. Tell me that’s not pure evil????????????

The devil is busy killing, stealing, and destroying. Those who haven’t uncovered the truth of what is going on with self will continue lives of dysfunction. They will continue on paths of destruction until they discover who they can be and stop embracing what they are. They then can recover and live the lives God intended.

People succumb too easily to the trick of the devil because they don’t really understand they are under his influence. When you’re not connected to Jesus you are capable of doing anything. People who aren’t in tune with self certainly aren’t in tune with God the Father and Jesus the Son.

The reason the devil is getting into the minds of people is because they are living by the flesh alone. They are in the world doing all the worldly things. They have focus on all of the wrong things. They are self absorbed and selfish; making things all about self.

Those who aren’t in tune with self are led by their negative ways of thinking. They get something into their heads/minds and although technically they know what they’re thinking isn’t right, they will continuously ponder over it until they develop feelings behind the thoughts; leading to negative actions behind the feelings. This is how people end up making bad choices and decisions; they are led by their negative and distorted ways of thinking. When you ponder long enough over negative thoughts you will more than likely act on those thoughts. People are giving power to the negativity until it takes over. This is a form of possession.

It’s nothing but the devil. He already know the minds of many people are weak. These people already have many unresolved issues they haven’t let go; which has already caused them to lead chaotic lives. It’s all destruction and the devil is the father of destruction. When you let him drive he takes over and control. This is what’s happening in the world many are under the influence of the devil and moving at his command without any resistant. This leads people to making some of the worst decisions and choices of their lives.

The powers of good and evil are in full effect. What we choose is what we choose. The devil don’t tight anyone up to serve him, he enters in through all of the avenues people make available. The devil doesn’t fight against those who are on his side; he simply leads them into further destruction and ultimately death. People must wake up!

Holiday Blues


Truth is many people are sad, unhappy, and depressed before the holidays, the holidays makes them feel worse. I believe people in this category are people who invest their energy and power in other people and things and not at all in themselves. What do I mean? I mean these are people who are depending on others for their happiness. Whenever you allow yourself to be in this type of a situation you will end up sad, depressed, feeling lonely and isolated. Some people are lonely even when they are surrounded by a lot of people. It’s because they are filled with darkness due to something they haven’t let go of which by the ways always involve other people. The real truth lies within the inner part of who we are. People can put a smile on a face, but their hearts are heavy and it shows in some form through their actions.

Your life belongs to you and no one but you. You’re beautifully created no matter what you think of yourself. Negative thoughts breeds negative feelings and actions. No one has control over your life but you. Stop putting all of your everything into other people and things and start investing and believing in yourselves. Love you first and if you do this, I promise you that you will see your life differently. You will do as the Bible says “guard your hearts.” You will stop allowing any and everything into your lives and you will certainly not give your power to others or things.

People live all of their lives searching for someone to love them or searching for what they think they’ve missed out on. They allow what they didn’t receive from others to dictate and dominate their lives. It leads them to drinking, doing drugs, acts of self mutilation, depression, suicide, homicide, immoral sex acts, lonely, sad, unhappy, confused, co-dependent, no or low self esteem, no self confidence, and a host of other things. It comes from what dwells inside; which is a place of darkness. I believe no one has to live this ways and I truly pray people understand they don’t have to live this way. How we allow our thoughts to affect us determines the feelings and emotions behind those thoughts and ultimately how we act.

We’ve all heard about how many people kill themselves during the holidays. It’s very sad, but it’s also very true. People take their lives, because they feel there’s no other way out, when there is always another way out. Troubles come and they go. No troubles will last always. Our lives are like ocean waves. We go in and out of troubles, we have ups and downs, we have those moments that tosses us to and fro. Still sooner or later the waves will calms and so will the troubles in our lives.

Many people have a hard time coping, because they have become powerless. People become powerless because they believed more in other people or other things then they did/do in themselves. When many individuals find themselves alone the turmoil they’ve always lived hits them harder. As I mentioned earlier in this post, some people feel this way even if they’re around a host of people. Despite of it all some people do not and will not be alone, they always need someone or other people around them. This is a very sad way of living. If a person can’t be alone this is a person who doesn’t love his or herself. If you don’t love yourself, things will be harder than necessary. If you can’t find peace alone, you sure won’t find in the midst of others, because it lies within. I believe either you have it or you don’t. It is determined by how you choose to perceive and deal with things.

As individuals we must be able to stand on our own. It’s great to have others in our corner and on our side, but we must be able to stand on our own and alone. Many times in life we won’t have support if you’re able to stand on your own, you can make it no matter what comes your way.

When we get a brand new day to live, it may be a day of the week we have seen before, but it’s a brand new day. Regardless of what; how we choose to perceive it determines how we will go through it. Every single new day is a chance for a new beginning. We don’t have to go day in and day out thinking, feeling, and acting the same. We all have a chance to embrace a new beginning. My life belongs to me just as your life belongs to you. I am a daughter, mother, grandmother, and so on, but none of my family or friends get to choose how I feel. Only I get that privilege. Don’t allow anyone or anything to steal your peace and chance for happiness. Your joy belongs to you, let no one or nothing take it from you. If you do you will reap the consequences of your choices and decisions.

I’ve been through the storm and the rain in many facets of my life, but I still stand. I’ve lived long enough to understand that people will fail you. I’ve lived long enough to know everything that looks and feels good isn’t good for you. I’ve lived long enough to know people will drain you if you allow. I’ve lived long enough to know my power belongs to me and if I relinquish it to anything or anyone it’s done of my own freewill. I choose NOT to do that! I pray you choose to not give your power from this day forth to anyone or anything.

The holidays are great, but keep in mind if we are blessed to see them, they are still days we are given to make changes in our lives. Don’t get caught up in the holiday; get caught up in the day itself. The day is your opportunity to change and get yourself to a happy place. People lose focus during holidays, everything has become very dramatic and commercialized. It’s a money making scam, I make no apologies for the truth. The saddest part of it all is people fall for it over and over. They go in debt and they get depressed for all types of reasons. This is what happens when you make everything and everyone more important than yourselves.

People who live through and for other people are unhappy individuals. They are constantly seeking to fill the void in their lives. If they never learn to love self they will never be happy. They will always deal with the darkness dwelling within. We are children of the most High and in Him there is no darkness. Even if you’re a person who doesn’t believe in God the Father and His Son Jesus, know that you should at least believe in yourself. I love you in the name of Jesus and I pray you grab hold of peace it’s waiting on you!!







You Are What You Believe


Many people are living day to day with negative thoughts of who they are. This negative way of thinking about yourselves was planted as seeds long ago and individuals have cultivated those seeds throughout their lives.

There are people who are suffering day to day. They can’t live a life of peace, because they can’t get pass all of the negative talk planted into them years ago. You’re not anything other than what you believe you are.

Remember I’ve said “hurt people, hurt people.” This is true! Most times people don’t understand why they do what they do. No one can move forward until they deal with their old issues. Most will continue to carry the same baggage throughout a lifetime.

You may be your mothers and fathers children, but you are NOT them. No matter what anyone have said you are not your parents. No matter what your parents have said to you, you are NOT them. No matter if you look like them or even if you have some of their characteristics (it’s normal you’re their offspring), YOU ARE NOT THEM! Stop allowing people to speak negativity into your lives and MOST of all STOP believing it.

A person can’t EVER acquire peace by constantly embracing negativity. You have the amazing ability inside of you to be whatever you choose to be. In order to the best you possible you must learn how to love yourself DESPITE what anyone has said negatively about or against you.

It is very sad that many people are walking around dysfunctional and not loving themselves because they believe the negative talk planted by others and the negative talk they continuously speak to themselves. Think of it metaphorically. Think of it as a person trying to find a priceless coin (signifying your life)in a closet piled to the ceiling with clothes (the clutter is the issues in your life that has caused you to become dysfunctional). It’s impossible to find the valuable coin UNTIL you de-clutter the closet by cleaning it out.

This is the way millions of people are living. They’re constantly piling problems and issues on top on one another and it’s wreaking havoc in their lives.

Not one single person living asked to be here, but guess what; here we are! We are given our lives and it’s up to each of us individually to decide how we will live it. I do understand as a child we don’t have a choice we survive according to what we are given. However, as we grow up into adults it’s up to us to learn another way. We can continue to embrace the way it was and what has caused us the pain and suffering or we can deal with the negativity and accept that it is what it is or was what it was and move on.

I can talk about it all, because I’ve been there. My adversities have truly made me stronger. Not only those that were put upon me by others, but also those that I put on myself. For me, all I can do is thank God Almighty for keeping me through it all and helping me to truly understand just how strong it made me and how it helped me to see clearly the things I missed before.

Things people do and say does hurt but how we allow those things to affect us is what’s most important. If you give people your power they will take it. If you allow what people say and do affect how you feel about yourself then it means you’re already not feeling good about yourself. This is something you need to work on, because it means there’s something you haven’t dealt with and is still holding on to.

I promise and guarantee if you learn how to love you your outlook on life will change. If you learn how to respect yourself it will teach you something about how you allow others to treat you. It equips you with a new confidence with self esteem and a power you’ve never known. People will look at you differently because you’re not the person you used to be. You will still have those who hate on you and hate you, THAT WON’T CHANGE. The reason this doesn’t change even though you have is because although you have a newness about you other people don’t, they are still embracing their pain and suffering. They will continue to be jealous, envious, and full of hatred.

You can’t fix other people, you can only fix you. You can pray for them (if you pray). You can provide them encouragement, knowledge, be a mentor, etc, but the bottom line of it all is the individual has to fix him or herself. They must want change in their lives.

People seek so much in life. They seek love, fame, fortune. They go through hell in order to get what they think they want until they get it; then they realize it may have been what they wanted, but not at all what they need.

This is a new day, which means it can be a new start for you. No longer give power to your negative self talk. No longer embrace the negative things you’ve been told by others (I don’t care who said it). No longer embrace the negative things that has happened to you. Embrace you and live!!! Too many are living true lives as the “walking dead.” They are alive, but dead spiritually, they don’t live, they’re unhappy. No one should be living this way! By becoming a stronger you, will be become a better you! This is what I pray you embrace.

If anyone reading don’t know God and His Son Jesus I recommend Him on today. The ways of the world are getting worse and worse. If you don’t stand for something, you fall for anything, you will be like a loose leaf in the wind, blowing any way the wind blows, because you’re not rooted in anything. I know many don’t believe in Jesus, but all I can say is this: I’m not forcing Him on you, but since you’ve tried everything, why not try Him on today? It’s up to you, it’s your decision. When you accept Him it doesn’t mean trouble won’t come, but what it means is He’s your Rock in the midst of any troubles and you won’t look at those troubles the same. You learn how to lean and depend on Him and everything else rolls off of your back like water on oiled skin. That may sounds corny, but I know it’s the truth, I’m a witness! I’m not trying to force Him on anyone, but I must recommend Him. Peace and love to all!!!



A person’s attitude can work for them or against them. When a person change their negative attitude it can alter their life. A lot of people walk around with bad attitudes and it’s an ugly sight to see. They point blame at everyone else for their situations, yet they forget to take a good look at the fingers pointing right back to self.

Sometimes we have to look at ourselves instead of always wanting to blame what we’re going through on others. Regardless of what, in order to move beyond any situation we must look at how we’re approaching that situation. If we have negative attitudes we will look at things in negative ways and will have negative actions; which will always make things more difficult than they have to be.

There are many people who are negative all of the time. These types of people bring gloom to their surroundings and they’re the type of people others don’t want to be around. Negative thinking breeds negative thought, talk, feelings, and actions. A negative party isn’t one positive people want to attend.

Bad attitudes comes from brokenness. The good news is anyone can change their life by changing their negative ways of thinking. Turn your frown into a smile and know that only YOU have the control to make a change in your life. I guarantee anyone if you consciously take charge of how you think and begin to monitor your negative ways of thinking facing them head on to foster change, your whole outlook on life will change. This begins and ends with you!!!!

You can blame whoever you want and the truth of the matter is it may have started with someone else, but it ends with YOU!! Don’t let what you’ve gone through cause you a lifetime of unhappiness because of your refusal to let it go. Many people are mad for a lifetime over things that happens many years ago. It’s a sad state of mind to be in. You use a lot of energy up holding on to negativity. If you hold on to it, it will keep you tied up and in bondage. I pray that you choose to let whatever it is go on today. Today is a new day for a new beginning!!!


Addicted to Pain


Today someone asked me why did I name the post “Addicted to Pain.”  This was my answer! The reason I named it as such is because I’m trying to help someone. You can’t help anyone if you try to give people what they want to hear versus the truth. My intentions are never to put down or hurt anyone in anyway, but I won’t sugarcoat anything to make someone feel better about their situation. The sad truth is many are addicted to pain and it’s why many are living the same way and going through the same mess. If you don’t like it  then you change it. Most won’t try to change, they don’t have time for that! They think it requires too much work. Others say they don’t know how to. I’ve said it a million times, if you’re living a negative life, because of a negative way of thinking, you must change the way you’re currently thinking  and when you do it changes your life. You change negative thinking by replacing it with positive thinking. If something bad has happened to you, IF it’s from your past; understand that your past is no more, it’s gone forever. The only thing left of it is what you bring along day in day out (your memories of it whether good or bad). Stop allowing those memories to fester into negative thoughts about people who are probably not in your life anymore, dead, gone on with their lives, or who aren’t thinking of you. Stop giving them power over your life.

No matter what or who you must make up your mind that you won’t give it power over your life. Regardless of how bad, you don’t have to let it ruin the rest of your life. You get to choose, you really do! Life goes on with or without you. If you’re stuck, life will still go on.

If you keep getting into bad relationships or doing bad things believe me; this stems from somewhere and more times than not it goes right back to past issues. It’s all in your ways of thinking. Change your wrong way of thinking and you change your life. It’s only as hard as you make it. I know many think I say it or write it so easily. I understand change is difficult, but that’s because it’s something new. If you want it you work on it until you get past whatever has you in captivity by your state of mind. With that being written, I hope you enjoy the post. If any of you have personal questions you’re more than welcome to email me personally and not comment openly. I will always respond.

Many people in this world are obviously addicted to pain, yet they don’t even realize it. I’m not speaking of physical pain although mental/emotional pain can affect a person physically. I’m speaking of pain resulting from people’s inability to let go. Millions are walking around hurting because they won’t let go of things that are keeping them trapped in negative states of mind. A lot of what people carry around with them completely corrupt their lives. It affects them in every way; and this is the pain I’m referencing. People have become comfortable and content with heartache and pain.

You can believe it or not, but the truth of the matter is many are in this dark place of free will. I can’t change anyone, you can’t change anyone; the person who needs changing must want change for his or herself.

People are familiar with their ways of life. They either outwardly show their suffering or they tried to hide it unknowing that it will eventually show in their actions. I’ve seen it over and over, time and time again. People become comfortable in whom they’ve become. They often complaint and cry about it or they keep it inside; either way they ultimately become dysfunctional individuals.

I wish everyone in this world could understand that no matter the situation or circumstance we can live healthy lives full of peace. Unfortunate things happen to us; some are out of our control, while most are in our control. However, how we accept/perceive those things determines how we will go through the events. If people could only grasp that concept, the lives of many would be better. It’s hard for people to believe this when their lives seem so chaotic to them. This is because, they have failed to properly deal with their situations. If we don’t properly deal with our troubled times, the effect of those troubled times will deal with us. We see the affect it has on lives through people’s actions.

Some people seem to relish in pain, they keep putting themselves in the same situations with the same people or similar people. The sad part is they find themselves right back at square one wondering why and how they got there. It’s simple if you get on a merry go around; you will go around and around until you choose to get off. The same analogy applies to life. You keep doing the same things; you will continue to have the same outcome. It’s the bottom line!

Before a person tries to point a finger to blame someone else, check those three that are pointing back at you! Yes, look at the man in the mirror. People will put you through whatever you allow them to put you through. If you take it, they will dish it out. If you’re gullible they will prey. If you’re eager and/or desperate they will sense it and prey upon your weaknesses. You have control of your own life. If you think you’re weak, have low esteem, or lack confidence; guess what; it will eventually show.

A lot of what people have gone through has traumatized them. I of all people get it, but we as individuals must learn to use every bad situation for our good. There’s good that can always come out of bad. Unfortunate things that happens to us can teach and strengthen us IF we allow. Every bad situation I’ve ever endured  taught me something I didn’t know. It opened my eyes to something new. It alerted me and made me aware. Most of all it made me wiser and stronger. Anyone who chooses can experience life this way!

No matter how bad the situation, how we choose to take it in is how it will affect us. I accept life as it comes, the good with the bad. I’ve learned so much and have grown in leaps and bounds. I’m thankful for everything I’ve gone through. Some things I’ve endured would have been a lot for most to handle, but I’ve always chose to see things differently. I’ve never accepted feeling sad or unhappy no matter the situation. If you allow things in life to get you down, they always will do just that. The difference is when you really learn from the choices you make; you always make better choices.

The world is full of toxic people. People are full of toxicity due to experiences they have allowed to taint them to the core. This is why we see so much hatred in this world. People are taking the lives of other individuals as if life means nothing. They are killing the ones they supposedly love; we’re seeing senseless road rage, and other senseless killing. Why? It’s because these people are full of toxicity. There is still racism in the world when most don’t have a clue as to why they hate; it’s a learned behavior, but people are too clueless to even realize it. Yet, they continue to show hatred for no reason at all just because of the stories that have been told and passed down from generation to generation. There are many other examples I could write, but the moral to the story is these types of people are filled with all types of junk. They have junk from their pasts that has caused them to become toxic people, who live toxic lives. Junk is toxic to us! It affects us mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Junk in is junk out! Period!

People are so addicted to pain. They hold on to it as if there’s a benefit from it. It causes hatred, anger, jealously, envy, strife, malice, etc. It leads to depression, suicide, homicide, pedophilia, sexual immorality, many types of addictions, and the list goes on. What is so sad is that people don’t understand how their whole lives would change IF they would change their old ways of thinking. People don’t want to change, because it takes work. It takes effort, consistency, time, commitment, and most of all the will to want to change. Many find it much easier to continue living as they have lived for so many years. They’re content, but unhappy. However, rather than choose to be become better people living better lives, they choose to continue to inflicted pain on themselves and others while afflicted by all of the pain they’ve grown accustomed to.

The only way people will change is if they want to. We all must learn how to love ourselves and by doing so we will learn how to love others. If you hate anyone, it’s because you’re not happy with yourself and that’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like it or not! We change by first changing our ways of thinking which in return change the way we perceive things, feel about them, and act towards those things (no matter what it is). We change negativity by changing our ways of thinking and if we do this, we learn how to let go of those things that has us in bondage and addicted to misery and pain.