This week I’m giving you a triple treat (smile).
A lot of times people allow what they’ve gone through to hinder them for a lifetime. Life doesn’t have to be this way for anyone. Stop hindering your progress. Forgive, let go, and live! You may have started out able to point the finger at someone else, but you have 3 pointing back at you for a reason! What I mean is this; we all are products of what we’ve gone through. Whether good or bad it has an impact on our lives. No matter who contributed to the issues as maturing adults you must take responsibility for who or what you choose to become. There is no more room or time to play the blame game. It’s time to pick up the pieces and move on.
In writing this, I know many will probably say it’s easier said than done. I say, it’s only as hard as you make it. I’m not exempt! I’ve had my shares of ups and downs. However, I chose not to allow them to hinder my walk. As I’ve stated many times throughout my blogs; I learnt at an early age people will disappoint and hurt you. Sometimes they are the people you trust and love.
I learnt anyone who willfully hurt someone is a hurting person. Some type of misfortune took place in their life and they didn’t heal from it. This ISN’T an excuse, it’s simply the truth. NO ONE gets the greenlight to hurt someone else because they too at some point were hurt. People must face and deal with their pain in order to move on to be people with healthier states of minds.
Take a self assessment of your life. Don’t live thinking everything is okay, because you don’t think anyone know your little secrets. Many people continue down roads of destruction because they hide behind the truth thinking all is well, because no one knows. Oh it’s always shown through your decisions and choices in life. You can only fake it for so long then the truth will appear in some form or another. Trying to hide and/or pretend prevents you from maturing. It keeps people captive by their own ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. We all must deal with the issues affecting us, it’s the only way a person can grow.
Don’t give up on yourself, because you feel someone else gave up on you. Your life is yours and theirs belong to them. Allow no one to hinder your growth. If people don’t believe in you, it’s okay, you believe in yourself! Stop looking for acceptance and validation from others, because many times you will not get it. Other people have their own issues to work out, which by the way affects how they interact with you. Some people can’t love you, because they don’t love self. They can’t be happy for you, because they are unhappy with self. They can’t support you, because they have jealousy, malice, and envy in their hearts due to how they actually feel about self.
This is why I think it’s super important individuals take ownership and responsibility for who they are and who they choose to become. Don’t give power to anyone or anything, if you do then it means you lose the power that belongs to you! People make mistakes by thinking drugs, sex, alcohol, material things, etc will make them happy or fix their problems. No, they don’t and no they won’t! They in fact can make things worse. For one thing people will want more of it and another thing is nothing or no one can fix you, but you! It starts by forgiveness and facing the man/woman in the mirror.
There are millions of people stuck, because they don’t think they are worthy. They feel this way, because of all the issues they’ve gone through or how people have treated them. They didn’t heal from any of it, instead they carried it throughout their lives. It hinders their ability to move forward in life therefore; hindering their ability to grow. There are millions stuck in immature states of minds. They are led by their feelings and emotions. They find themselves in bad situations over and over again.
You can do whatever you set your mind to do. Just because something appears hard doesn’t mean you can’t overcome the obstacle. Things that are new appears to be hard, that is normal. However, never be afraid to challenge yourself. Never be afraid to try something different. A lot of people complain about their lives and their situations, yet they do nothing about it. You can’t expect to reap the benefit of another person’s labor when you’re not laboring for yourself! Nothing comes easy and it definitely won’t always be good. In this life we must take the good, with the bad, and the ugly. We will go in and out of situations, because our lives are like hills and valleys. Troubles come, but they will also go in time. Stop being your worst enemy and your own worst problem! Love yourself and live your life to the fullest! If you have to stand alone, it’s okay love yourself through the midst of it and remember this is your life, it belongs to no one else! I challenge you to make a change!