No Relationship No Power

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A lot of people talk about loving Jesus the Son and God the Father, yet they have no relationship or real connection to the source. How do people think they will have the power given unto us without a real relationship with the Creator? It’s not possible!

There are plenty of people in this world who profess Jesus and the Father from their lips, yet they are living something else! Talking just to talk won’t get it. Doing things or speaking just to be seen and heard won’t get it. No one can have the power God has given us if they don’t have a relationship with Him.

Many people are missing out on their God given power and gifts, because they choose to gamble with their lives. You can go to church, read the Bible, be nice to people, love folks, tithe, give, go to Bible study, sing in the choir, etc, etc NONE of it will get you into Heaven! You can’t get to the Father without going through to the Son and you can’t get to either if you don’t have the necessary relationship.

Learning to mimic and mock won’t work! Matter of fact it is wrong to mock God. The very people you’re fronting/faking for has to stand before the Father on that Great Day just as you and I! The Bible says “every knee say bow to Jesus and every tongue shall confess to the Father.” That means no soul is exempt.

We are living in a satanic, demon, evil infested world. I don’t know why people still want to gamble with their souls. This world has nothing to offer but death.

Too many people are too busy trying to pretend to be something they know they are not. Sad part is the same people you’re faking in front of they are faking in front of someone else. Senseless! People are too busy trying to please man when man has no Heaven or hell to put them in. Yet, people still try to act one way in front of certain people when they know they are something else.

Time is winding up. It’s winding up for you, me, and everyone else. Every day we live to see we die a little bit. I mean physically! Everyday we are a step closer to death. We may transgress back to acting like children, but these bodies don’t go backwards they progress forward.

What do people need to gain from the world before they are ready to go all the way for the Father and the Son? Seeking after everything or anything else other than God leaves you with nothing, but being a lost soul.

Many people get emotions confused with the anointing when they are completely different. Many people get gifts and talents confused. Gifts are from God, talent is a whole other story (something innate or learned). Many people are led astray by their churches, leaders, and others; because they don’t have that personal relationship for self. They are too busy following everyone and everything other than God the Father and His Son Jesus.

The Holy Spirit is here to lead and guide, but it can’t when people aren’t willing vessels. You can’t walk in the Spirit with the Spirit when you don’t acknowledge the Father and Son. People must be all the way in; if not then they are out. Plain, simple, and to the point!

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In Control or Controlled

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I’m referencing people who allow themselves to be controlled by anyone or anything. I can take the truth, because the truth never changes. I would rather be hurt by the truth then a lie. A lot of people don’t want the truth. They say they do, but they don’t. Many people find it difficult to accept the truth because it will normally mean there’s something wrong they need to right.

Anything that has a person tied and tangled up has control over them. If something or someone controls you it means you don’t have any control over self. People shouldn’t give their power to nothing or no one!

This world has many people who are in bad situations because they are controlled by something or someone. For instance when we see people commit terrible acts. They’ve thought on it for a while until they’ve given power to those thoughts. Then the feelings are developed, afterwards the act is committed. They allowed themselves to be controlled to the point of consumption by their thoughts due to the power they gave them. Everything starts with a thought, feelings, then actions. The difference is when people are in tune with self and love self, they are not allowing themselves to be consumed by any negativity. They will dismiss it no matter what or who.

People who allow themselves to be controlled are people who have unresolved issues. The many unresolved issues causes much chaos in their lives. I know some people are thinking “everyone has issues.” Listen, I agreed. However, the difference is are you controlling those things or are they controlling you? That is the big difference! Yes, we all deal with this or that, but how we allow it to affect our lives makes the difference.

You may disagree, but I know it’s fact. Individuals who are allowing those issues to control their lives are people who haven’t healed. They are carrying around their baggage day in and day out. It’s affecting their relationships, decisions, choices, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It leads them to making bad relationship choices (getting with people for the wrong reasons (sex, looks, what they have, who they are, the position they hold, titles, trying to save/fix other broken people when you are also broken, etc). It leads them to getting with the wrong people (already in a relationship, married, underage, abusive, slothful no ambition, etc, etc). It keeps them in abusive relationships, controlling, obsessive, possessive, etc). It keeps people chasing after the flesh (in all kinds of ways = sex, money, fame, becoming addicts (sex, money, drugs, alcohol, fetishes, etc). It leads people into doing unthinkable things such as commit murder or suicide, road rage, etc; because they are emotional, angry, bitter, confused, hurt, etc. etc). They haven’t dealt with their issues and they don’t love self. What many people fail to understand the more they add to their already problematic lives the worst things become. It’s hard to deal with new issues you’ve adopted when you haven’t yet dealt with the old ones.

People must heal and learn to love self. If people don’t get past their pains they can never move forward to become healthy minded and properly functioning individuals. Their lives will continue to be on auto repeat. They will keep making the same mistakes with similar but different people. They will continue to look for things in others they don’t even possess within self. Their relationships won’t work. Their relationships may continue, but they aren’t healthy. People are in loveless relationships and are lonely as can be. People are staying with people who don’t love them and people they don’t love, because their seeking something in others.

I can go on and on about it. The reason individuals are controlled by other people and/or things is because #1 they haven’t healed from their pasts and #2 they do not love self. You can’t have one without the other! It leaves people lacking esteem, confidence, having trust issues, not knowing how to show affection, not knowing how to communicate effectively, depending on others, seeking security, seeking love, etc.

People are very quick to blame things such as alcohol, drugs, etc for their problems. No, no, no! Those things may amplify, magnify, or intensify problems, but something happened to cause a person to begin those things in the first place. Whatever it was/is; it is where the problem truly lies. Truth is people hurt themselves by becoming addicted to those and other things. Alcohol and drugs affects the mind, body, and soul of individuals who are controlled by it. Some people think because they are functioning addicts they aren’t addicts. Wrong! Anything you can’t do without has power and control over you! People can’t gain control until they heal self and love self. A person can pretend all day and they can put on a smile, but it doesn’t fix their issues. Pretending keeps people right where they are!

People who are harboring their own issues haven’t learned how to love self. They will take whatever to be with someone. They are influenced, manipulated, coerced, and persuaded to do things they don’t want to do. They go along to get along. They get involved with things to have a sense of belonging. They put up with ridiculousness and they take disrespect and mistreatment on all levels. It’s because they haven’t healed and they don’t love self. A person who loves his or herself cares about their own well being. They are careful as to what they get involved with, who they are involved with, and how they allow anyone to treat them.

The R. Kelly Controversy

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I don’t normally talk about this type of stuff. I don’t follow R. Kelly or even listen to his music, but I wanted to write about this due to the topic at hand. R. Kelly is obviously someone who was once at some point victimized. However, it is absolutely NO excuse to victimize anyone, especially children. When people don’t heal from their pains they move forward in life with all of the unresolved hurt, which leads them into doing the same things once done to them.

R. Kelly is someone considered as a celebrity. Oftentimes famous people are sought after. Although I fully blame R. Kelly for his actions since he was the adult, I also blame the parents or any other adult who allowed these awful things to occur. Any adult who contributed to what happened in any way should also be under scrutiny. They were dead wrong too! They did it to gain something which is normally material things, money, etc. It’s VERY sad!

Hey, my daughters were once teenagers. Although some children look older due to physically developing faster than others they are still children. They may know about sex and they may do things to try to be noticed or known, that’s beside the point. The fact is they are children. They may get out of line by trying to be seductive, etc; the fact remains they are children. If a child get out of line, it’s up to the adult to put them back in line.

I think a program should be developed specifically for children who are involved in situations such as this. These children should be mandated into this program. If they are doing it of freewill they need to know it’s wrong. If they are doing it because someone else wants them to they need to know it’s wrong. They need a program to teach them to say NO to ANYONE who tries to persuade them in anyway to get involved in this type of relationship. I don’t care who that person/people may be. They should be taught what grooming is and what sexual predators are. Sexual predators look like you and I. Meaning, they have no particular look. They come from all walks of life. These young children need to be taught about healthy and unhealthy relationships. I’m not saying they are at fault in no shape or form. However, what I am saying is if they understand enough to know they are trying to get something out of the situation, then they understand enough to know they are doing something they should probably not be doing. They know they are getting something for something; whatever the something is! This is why many of them get involved in this types of situations. A lot of them do it of their own free will while many others are groomed, coached, manipulated, or coerced by others (the sexual predator, parents, relatives, friends, etc). If society do not EVER start looking at these young children then society is at fault as well, because it is repeatedly failing to teach these young children what they are doing is inappropriate. All I’m saying is they need to be taught it is NOT okay. They need to be taught how to avoid these types of situations. Obviously the adults who are taking part in this aren’t teaching their children it’s wrong. Society knows this problem is prevalent and running rampant in the world; why not do something to fix it?

ANY adult who becomes sexually involved with a child are absolutely wrong. R. Kelly was one thousand percent wrong for what he done. He shouldn’t have ever put himself in any of the positions he were in. He do not love himself nor do he know what love is. If he did he would have loved himself enough to not cause himself unnecessary drama. If he knew about love, then he would of known being with children is wrong and has nothing to do with love. This clearly shows he has unresolved issues. He knew EXACTLY what he was doing and he knew what he was doing was wrong. I have written several topics on this subject. These people get into certain positions and they use the power they’ve obtained to do what they are intending to do.

I’ve talked to plenty of predators and all of the stories derive out of childhood experiences. It doesn’t make victimizing right. Is is NOT a greenlight to victimize others. A lot of people I’ve spoken to said they battle with beginning to enjoy what they went through versus hating it. Those who begin to like the feelings are the ones who normally end up victimizing others. They begin the same behaviors of manipulation, lies, and deceit as those who victimized them. As victims it was their first encounters with sex or intimacy through touching (molestation, incest), etc. They are confused about how they feel. When they don’t deal with what has happened they carry the thoughts, feelings, and emotions with them throughout their lives. They may look as if they are functioning properly in society, but the truth is they are dsyfunctional people functioning in dsyfunctional ways in society. Many end up repeating the same cycles of those who victimized them. They become predators!

As I’ve said many times before and will continue to say. No one on the face of the earth can fix their problems by continuing to add to them. You can’t fix self until you face self. To continue to hide, lie, scheme, manipulate, deceive, etc. etc does absolutely NOTHING to help you heal from your issues. Nothing a person does is done in secret!!!!

Control and Power Is Yours

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It’s up to you what you allow in your life. I’m not saying you always have control of what happens, no! I’m not saying that at all, because life happens to us all. What I am saying is you have full control as to how you allow life and all it brings to affect you. Only you have the power to control this unless you give this power away.

The problem with most people is they freely give their power away. When a person do not take ownership and responsibility of who they are they fail self. The blame falls on no one other than the individual! It may seems like a lie, but I assure you it’s the truth!

People spend most of their lives blaming other people for their problems instead of trying to fix their lives. I will admit sometimes people can contribute to, but at the end of the day the responsbility falls on the individual. People contribute to how a person may think, feel, and act, because it’s what the individual gets accustomed to (what they learned), STILL yet, a person can and MUST choose to form their own thoughts and feelings in this life. What I mean is this; no matter what has happened to you, no matter how tragic, no matter who did it, how it affects your life depends on you! The memories and thoughts possesses and controls your life when you allow them to. People must free their minds of their wrong ways of thinking, no matter how they got that way.

A person can choose drugs, alcohol, sex, suicide, homicide, anger, bitterness, envy, hatred, jealousy, bad relationships, etc. etc, the choice is theirs or a person can choose to take their power and control into their own hands and not allow anyone or anything to control their life.

People do bad things to other people. It’s because they too need to face their issues. A lot of times it’s family and friends who will hurt you the most. It doesn’t matter who, what matters is how you’ve allowed it to affect your life. If people would grasp the fact what you give your energy and power to controls you; maybe they will decide to change their ways of thinking.

Memories are only as powerful as you make them. Most people are stuck by their own ways of thinking. They are literally prisoners to their own states of mind. Your memories forms your thoughts, but YOU have control as to how they affect you. Stop letting your thoughts consume you! You can’t control thoughts from coming, but you certainly can control how they affect your life. You can control the degree of power you give them. You can control the intensity of them. Anything you give your power to you give the power to control you!

The only way to heal from past pains is by facing them. Those pains causes many people the inability to properly function. People allow themselves to be consumed by all of the dark ugly things. Many people have allowed this built up ugliness to ruin their lives. They are filled with anger, hate, blame, and bitterness until it spills from the inside out into every facet of their lives doing nothing but destroying whatever in it’s path. This is because people allow all of the pent up stuff to consume them.

This is exactly why we see all of the racism (people hating and don’t have a clue as to why), road rage (people are on the attack when the situation isn’t the problem the angry individual is their own problem), senseless killings (out of pent up anger, wrong ways of thinking and feeling) suicides (due to their thoughts and feelings they let consume them), doing things they think are in secret (when there are no secrets), lying-faking-pretending (when it doesn’t fix the problem), bad choices and decisions made by people all over the world.

People get into bad relationships based off of their thoughts and feelings. People seek love in the wrong ways, wrong places, and from the wrong people based on their thoughts and feelings. People pressure and try to force others into relationships with them based on their thoughts and feelings. People do things they wouldn’t normally do to please others bases on their thoughts and feelings. People hold in unnecessary junk based on their thoughts and feelings. People are angry, bitter, jealous, hating, etc based on their thoughts and feelings. People give their power and control away to how they think, feel, and act! Think about it, if you’re thinking the wrong way, don’t you think all of the decisions and choices you make will be based on how you think and feel? They will!

The ONLY way people can heal from it all is by changing how they allow things to affect them. No one can do this if they don’t first change their negative/wrong ways of thinking. It’s YOUR life! Love you enough to want the best for yourself. Guess what if you don’t love yourself you’re failing yourself AND it’s clear you are giving your power and control to your wrong ways of thinking. This wrong way of thinking and feeling allows you to give your power to people and things.

We are going into another year! Today make a choice to love you! Seek love in yourself, before you seek it in ANY other human being. Forgive yourself and embrace this new coming year with the greatest passion. Your power and control ONLY belongs to you! Take it!!! Take it by being intentional, aware, and consistent in what you are thinking and how you allow it to affect you in every single situation. Say NO to your negative thoughts and ways of thinking. You must be aware of what you’re doing to self. This phenomenal change starts with you. Start right now! You can re-gain your power and control. Once you do, never give it away again! Remember all any of us has is this moment we are living right now. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn’t promised. All we will ever have is the present moment! We can’t live in the past it’s gone. We can plan for the future, but can’t live in the future until it gets here. By the way once it’s here it ends up as the present. We can only actually live in the present!

Playing The Fool Gets You Played

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Yeah, I wrote! Listen we can try to sugarcoat and water things down, but the truth of the matter if you’re dumbing yourself down or playing the fool in a relationship, the ONLY one getting played is you!

As a woman I’ve heard other women say, “I’m pretending I don’t know this or that is going on or I’m just going along with it, but I know what’s up.” If you’re acting like you don’t know, but you are still going along with it, then you’re still accepting whatever it is. If you’re pretending to not see what’s happening, although you really do see. Then you’re accepting it! You’re
“playing the fool only to get played.” As long as you go along with another person’s crap, they get to do to you whatever they like. It says something about them, but it also says something about you!

Both men and women do it. They turn a blind eye to their situations as if it will make things go away. NO, it doesn’t! In their hearts they know the mess they’re in, but try to act as if it’s alright, when it isn’t. You’re only (playing the fool only to get played).

I know many of you won’t see it this way and I don’t expect for you too, but the truth is still the truth! People make a million excuses as to why they put up with what they put up with. Remember, people will treat you EXACTLY how you allow and in fact you teach them how to treat you! That goes for family, friends, significant others, children, co-workers, or whomever.

In many relationships people put up with unnecessary crap, because of their individual true relationship with self. People who are dealing with unresolved issues will oftentimes seek out things they desire and want, dismissing what they truly need. They will go along to get along; which includes putting up with unnecessary mess to be a part of something or to be loved. Most are led by their feelings and emotions.

Folks can sense vulnerability in others. They see it in the actions of others. There are plenty of people with agendas different than the person they are with. They will get from you what they can and they will treat you exactly how they want to, because it’s what’s allowed. They know it and you know it!

Trying to love someone into loving you just doesn’t work, especially when you don’t even love yourself. There are many people who don’t know what love is or what love isn’t. They go off of their feelings and emotions only to find themselves in bad situations in which they willfully got into. Sometimes you have to stop looking at the other person and examine yourself.

Many women accept ridiculous crap from their men. They have restrictions, boundaries, and guidelines put on them by their significant others, yet their significant others do what they want. You’re being played! I know it doesn’t sit well with someone, but it’s okay. I hope it rattles you enough to take an assessment of yourself and your situation.

I want people to stop denying the truth and face reality. A lot of people ask for the truth, but when they get it they feel some type of way about it. No matter the truth, some people will turn a deaf ear and blind eyes to it. It all goes back to who you really are as an individual. What’s inside of you speaks volumes in your actions.

I understand sometimes people are in very abusive relationships and they pretend this or that in fear of their lives. I completely understand this logic. However; no matter the situation if this happens, you’re still going along with it. You’ve given power to the other person to do whatever they want to do to you, because they know you’ll go along with it! Devastating as it may be you’re still “playing the fool and getting played.” Why? Because your significant other gets to treat you any kind of way, because it is what you’ve allowed. If you’re afraid to leave you’ve stayed way too long!! Seek help with your situation before it’s too late!

Moral of it this blog is your life belongs to you! Your power, self esteem, peace of mind, courage, strength, etc, etc, belongs to you and ONLY you! However, your significant other or anyone else whom you allow will take it from you causing yours to diminish. Never give anyone or anything power to take what belongs to you! Never play the fool, if you play the fool then you subject yourself to being played. Why? Because technically who you allow to play you see you as a fool! If you have to be lied to, deceived, manipulated, cheated on, abused, etc, etc it is NOT love, because love has NOTHING to do with it! Don’t play the fool, because it makes you one who will undoubtedly get played!

Memories and Thoughts and the Power you Give Them

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There are millions of hurt people in this world who unfortunately hurt other people. Many people live their lives based on what others have said or done to them. They find it difficult to move forward because they are pulled backwards by their minds; which by the way have imprisoned them. No one can save you, no one can fix you, and no one can change you. The only one who can do it is you! You may have people around to influence, motivate, encourage, or inspire you to want to change, but if the willingness to change doesn’t come from you, the change will only be temporary. People who change to please others will always revert back to who they really are.

There are many people who feel they must be validated by others and because of it they are at the mercy of others. They allow other people to dictate how they feel about self. Those you give your power to know they have it and they will abuse it. People prey on who they think are weak, because the prowler him or herself are weak! They see and feel it in their prey!

Most people are accustomed to how they’ve been all their lives. It feels familiar and comfortable. Instead of trying to change they continue to live how they’ve always lived. No matter how miserable and hurt they feel they continue living their lives the same way. Many people blame others for who they are. I admit other people contribute to our lives in many ways both positive and negative. However, when you point at someone to blame them, you have three fingers pointing back at self. I think it’s a way for us to take ownership of who or what we’ve become.

Despite what a person goes through, despite how traumatic; who a person becomes as adults falls on the individual. People can choose to remain the same or they can choose better than what they came from. When people choose to remain the same they’ve seem to opt out of changing. Sometimes the people who have wronged them are dead and gone; yet people are still holding on to their experiences with the person/people through their memories. Memories are real, how strong they reign inside of a person is up to the individual.

Believe it or not none of our pasts exist today. None of them! We are all living in the present. If people do not deal with the issues of their pasts they are affected for a life time. It affects every facet of a person’s life. Not once have I said the past didn’t exist, of course it existed, but it’s not what we live in today. It is behind us and only the memories of it remains. Unfortunately for many people those memories are very real and strong. People are trapped by their own minds, because they’ve given power to the memories of their pasts. They carry these residual affects throughout their lives. It shapes them into what they’ve become. It’s a cycle most past down through generations until someone breaks the chain.

Many people walk around smiling, yet they are broken and hurting inside. Pretending will never give a person the understanding or will to deal with what’s causing them pain and suffering. People must learn to face it in order to move on. Those who do can go on to lead productive lives. However, those who don’t will live their lives as a revolving door. They will go in and out the same type relationships with the same types of people and wonder why. They will make the same bad decisions and choices and wonder why. They will allow people to take advantage or misuse them and wonder why it’s happening. They will continue to be unhappy which oftentimes lead to other things such as depression and even worse things like suicidal or homicidal thoughts, etc. Not all people will go through those thoughts, feelings, or emotions, but some will, because they don’t understand most times our biggest enemy is self. The power of the mind is beyond belief, but our thoughts and memories are only as powerful as we make them.

Things will happen to us, but how we deal with those things depends on how we receive them, perceive them, and the power we give to those things. We are our own greatest enemy, because we give so much power to negative memories of our pasts which has led to negative ways of thinking, period! The past doesn’t cause people any further pain, people do it to themselves by not dealing with the issues of their pasts. Instead they focus on the memories as if they are present today. It’s like a wound, if you constantly dig in a wound it won’t heal properly and because of the constant manipulation of it, the person could cause other issues. This is how many live their lives. They keep going back to the memories of their pasts. They are trapped by their own minds.

Today is a brand new day given to each of us. We can choose to become better or we can choose to stay the same. None of us will forget what we’ve gone through, but none of us have to be prisoners to our own minds, causing the inability to move forward. We don’t have to give our power to anything or anyone!

Live your life for you first! If you’re not healthy and whole you’re really not any good for anyone else. Sadly many go through life with all of their issues while trying to love others when they first don’t love self. This is proven every single day by people who constantly are in and out of unhealthy relationships or people having children and messing them up from the gate. Those are only two examples out of many.

Learning to become better has to be something a person wants. It starts with the individual. You’re not what or who someone else says you are unless you believe it yourself. No one should ever accept negativity from anyone else. You have the power to be whatever you choose to be. Never settle and think you should be a certain way because of what someone else said or did. They don’t get to choose, you do!

Suicide is Permanent Troubles are Temporary

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I know I’ve blogged more than usual this week, but I wanted to send this one out. It’s my opinion and based on many years of experience working with people from all walks of life. No matter the race, gender, age, or population everyone has their issues.

It really saddens me to hear when people take their own lives. We all have a story we could tell. We are all affected by other people and life in some form or another. However, no matter what or who, this life we have is ours and ours alone to live. No one gets to live it for us. Individually we can give our power away to others, but at the end of it all we live and die for self.

Struggles come and struggles go, they are temporary. Unfortunately many choose the permanent fix to their temporary problems; which is suicide. No trouble last always. It may feel as if it does, but it doesn’t. People are so filled with darkness they literally can’t see. They don’t believe their “light at the end of their tunnel” exists. There is light, there is always light if people will hold on.

A lot of readers may say if I haven’t experienced it, therefore I don’t know. Wrong, I’ve gone through storms over and over in my life. The difference for me is I’ve always even as a young child figured out bad things happen. No matter how young or old, no matter how good you are; bad things happen. I’ve learned to accept it. We will all go through storms at some point. Our lives are like hills and valleys. We go in and out of things. We must learn to hold on, because those troubles won’t last always. Life is a cycle and we have to endure the bad and the good. No one complains when it’s feeling good, but people complain when they are enduring those hard times. Unfortunately for some they never experience the good, because what’s inside doesn’t allow them to feel happy about anything.

Individually we must look at ourselves. Yes, there are many people and things affecting us along the way, but we STILL must always look at self. We can’t change other people; only ourselves. Oftentimes people already have issues they are dealing with from childhood. Childhood is normally where it all begins. If a person doesn’t deal with those issues I don’t care how old they become they will carry those issues with them throughout life. Then on top of it they have families, significant others, careers, etc coupled with what they’ve never dealt with (their issues). It all compiles and weighs the individual down. Individually we must learn to lessen the load. It begins for each and every one of us by dealing with self first and foremost. If not you will be a struggling individual, struggling even more due to the pressures of life. People have the tendency of compiling their issues and instead of fixing them it leads to anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, for some homicidal thoughts, physical ailments and other issues.

I don’t care who loves you, they can’t fix or save you! You’re the only person who can do it for yourself. It starts and ends with you. Some people think because they are successful with lots of money life will be easier. This isn’t true at all! You’re still you and no matter where you are your problems will follow because they are inside. No amounts of money, love from others, friends, family, material things will fix what’s wrong inside. People have to deal with self.

Love yourself no matter what! Forgive yourself and anyone else who needs to be forgiven by you. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s actually for you. It’s for your peace of mind. It gives you the ability to let go and move on. We don’t forget stuff, but we certainly can get to a point where stuff doesn’t bother us like it once had.

Instead of dealing with things a lot of people want to give up on self and life all together. This is the wrong ways of thinking. If a person begin to dwell on taking their own life if they don’t change their ways of thinking the bad thoughts could eventually consume them. The thoughts become fleeting (coming and going). Do you know why? It’s because once a person allows bad thoughts to enter in and do nothing about them, those thoughts will stay there and they will become stronger, because the person is giving power to them. This is very dangerous and it’s when people do unthinkable and unimaginable things such as commit suicide, homicide, or a host of other things people do when they’ve succumbed to the darkness. People must acknowledge and take ownership of when they are going through these moments and not simply go through them allowing them to consume them.

Not one of us are exempt from the troubles of this world. As I said earlier in this post we have to take the good with the bad. I’ve written and said many times trouble free people do not exist. I believe the greatest gift we can give ourselves is the gift of love. It doesn’t matter what you went through or who did something to us, we all must learn to love self. When a person truly loves his or herself it changes their mindset, therefore their outlook on life.

Too many individuals give their power to people and things. Living this way means you’re at the will of those people and things. If you give your power away it means you don’t have it. Before living a life of stress due to life and others, take back your power! There will be things for which we can’t control. However, we can always control how we react to those things.

People will look you right in your face and smile. They will carry on as if they are happy, yet inside they are filled with pain and misery. No one can deal with their issues by trying to hide and pretend the pain doesn’t exist. People who commit suicide give up on self and life, but they don’t realize what they leave behind for their families and friends. Talk to someone, talk to anyone about what you are thinking. The thoughts will intensify if you don’t and often to the point of a successful suicide. The thoughts come from a very dark place, a place where it’s difficult to see your way. Life never has to be this way for anyone.

I know things are awful for some people, but again it all starts with you. Never live to please other people or to be validated by other people. Don’t allow your dreams or goals to put you in the wrong mindset. Remember, you can’t please everyone, so don’t waste your time trying. Remember you are unique and no one is like you, others won’t think like you, don’t get frustrated because of it. Love you and be happy for you, it makes everything else better! Individually we must look inside and deal with what ails us! Life is worth living! Change whatever needs changing. Sometimes it means new, places, people, and things. However, no matter where you are in life, nothing changes if you don’t fix what’s wrong. If a person doesn’t change all they will do is take the toxicity from one place to another. No matter what life throws us, it’s all about what we make of it! If you’re in pain, own it and deal with it because it will not go away until you make a change in yourself! No one can do it for you. Life is precious and it’s worth living. Change your attitude it changes everything else!

1-800-273-8255 is the National Suicide Hotline number they are available to assist. There are also hospitals, churches, thousands upon thousands of different sources available, where help is available. No one can help if a person doesn’t open up about what they are thinking. Never give power to your negative and unhealthy thoughts, they may pull you into a dark place you find it difficult to get out of; please, please, please seek help!

I don’t know you, but I care about you and your life!!