Planted, Nurtured, Maintained

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On this journey to Heaven it is all about choice. Jesus died for all of us. God made the ultimate sacrifice so that we may live. When I look at the ways of the world today it saddens me. It’s really sad when people still don’t believe Jesus is real. They say awful things not realizing they are damning their souls. You can never get to the Father if you can’t acknowledge His Son. Many people don’t want to give up their old ways or the ways of this world. They come up with every excuse to hold on to the world and stay where they are. Many who claim they believe do everything to please man, yet nothing to please Jesus. They forget those people they’re worshipping will someday bow down to the Father!

On this journey the seeds are planted by different people, but only the individual can cultivate them to grow. I believe we initially get it from Jesus through the crucifixion, because everything He endured was for us. He showed us the way in which we should live. Then after that comes parents and other people who put in a little here and there. Individual’s can receive it or not! However, the only way to flourish and grow through the cultivation process is by nurturing.

As a child of God we must learn to nurture our walk by a constant relationship with Him, we must be connected to the source, we must have a daily prayer life, we must take on the mindset of a holy person, because if you change the mindset you change the behavior, and we must implement it in our lives daily. We can’t say we are one thing yet live another. It will never work! We must choose God over the world. If we do this we must give up the old ways. There is no other way! We can’t live holy by lip service and not walking it.

We can’t give our lives to Jesus and be on milk our entire lives. We must grow and get strong enough to digest the meat. It gives us nourishment and strength to become who we are ordained to become if we receive it and believe it. A lot of people are still babes in Christ, because they haven’t grown at all. Their eyes are on the world, therefore they are blind. They are unable to see and are still on milk. They are double minded and they go with whatever is tickling their ears the most at the time. They have no roots! They are people who are always trying to change Jesus to fit their situations, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings; when Jesus is unchanging! They are the people who are constantly trying to add to or take away from God’s Word! They are people who always try to make Jesus be what they want Him to be instead of accepting Him for who He is! They are the people who believe they have to do things in a worldly way in order to reach a certain group of people. Lies! Jesus never did it! They are people who says the world is changing, people do things differently than before. Okay, that may very well be true, however; the Word of God is still the same and it’s unchanging. I don’t care how people try to flip and flop it, the Word is the still Word. It is unchanging!

People who profess one thing and live another are stunting their growth in the spirit. They are their own inhibitors. The world is the world, but it’s up to the individual if the world is what they choose. To maintain on this journey to Heaven a person must nurture their walk in order to have something to maintain. Maintaining means we are in constant communication with the Son, the Father, and the Holy Spirit. We must read and study the Word daily. We must do the works God has us to do with honesty and truth! We must stay prayed up, we must keep on the full armor, and we must live according to the Word of God and NOT the word of man! No matter what the world says we should do it’s about what God says. People can’t make Jesus their Master if they’ve reserved the position for their Pastors! We must maintain righteousness and holiness twenty four hours a day. We can’t pick it up and put it down. If you love Him you will serve Him, not some of the time, but ALL of the time!

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Is the World Really Worth Your Soul

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I want you to really think about it. Many people profess Christ in their lives yet they are living any kind of way. This is the work of a double minded person. People get mad at the truth, but it’s still the truth. When I was in the world I honestly never thought about daily prayer or a true relationship with Jesus. I didn’t think about there being no secrets. I did what I wanted to do when I wanted to. I never ever thought about the consequences of my actions. I was so blind by my feelings and emotions. I was lost in myself and the ways of the world. But God, oh but God!

I was raised in the church and gave my life to Christ when I was 12, but I didn’t understand how to go from milk to meat. I didn’t know what it all meant. I got saved and went on to do whatever I chose. Thank God for keeping me through it all. As I’ve mentioned before I weep when I think about how good He has been to me and how He kept me even when I didn’t/don’t deserve it. I remember several times I could have lost my life in accidents (in my home and on the road), but God!

When I made a vow and commitment to Christ, I promise you it was easy for me to give up everything else. As I continued on my journey I made it known to everyone around me Jesus is first in my life ( before parents, children, family, and friends). I’ve lost friends and loved ones along the way, because they can’t deal with the Jesus in me. See this is how it is supposed to be. When you give it up, you give it up!

Fortunate for me I made my mind up 100% and I knew that I knew I didn’t want any parts of the ways of the world. I laid down my mess and I never went back to it. So, if I can do it so can you. I know it’s absolutely possible. I’m no better than anyone, He doesn’t love me more than anyone else. I made the choice to give up the ways of the world and follow Him. People don’t want to give up things because they aren’t ready, and then they make excuses. When you’re ready, you become a soul who’s sold out! Walking for the Lord isn’t difficult. Yes you’re still tried and you will go through, but that is life! If you want it you will do it and no temptation will pull you away from it.

A lot of things people endure are brought on my self. Jesus died on the cross for our sins, He took everything to the cross for us. It is people who individually choose to pick up those things He took up for us! He made it possible for us to live Holy lives, but people still choose NOT to. People want to make every excuse NOT to do the right thing. They want to add to and take away from the Word to appease self! They want things now and they want them their way.

It is our choice to serve Him and to live for Him. If we REALLY love Him we will live for Him. It won’t be a struggle to decide to do so or not; we will do it! People who TRULY choose Jesus don’t keep going back to the ways of the world. They don’t try to do things in secret, because they know in Jesus there are NO secrets; for He knows and sees all things!

Regardless of how cruel, mean, nasty, cold, and evil people in this world has become; people still choose it over Jesus. They love the world more. They mock Jesus, they fake the Holy Spirit, and they blaspheme against the Lord. They do it because they love the world more.

Sad part is many want to pretend He’s first in their lives. They speak it and act the part in front of those they want to act it in front of, but they don’t live it. Living it is everything and if you’re not doing so, then you’re not for Jesus. If you’re not for Him you’re against Him. You can’t be for Him sometimes, it must be a twenty four-seven, three hundred and sixty five a year thing! It’s a daily relationship, daily praise, and daily worship!

Not one single person on earth can serve two Masters! You can think you can, but you can’t! If a person isn’t ready, they aren’t ready, but don’t think for a second you are able to serve Jesus and do the devil’s work. It won’t work, it don’t work! So again “why are you holding on to the world?” It has nothing to offer you, but hell if you don’t change your ways. Nothing you achieve or gain will matter when you leave this world, for you can’t take anything with you!

People are working faithfully and diligently to gain everything they can in this world. Some live “high on the hog.” Some think because of what they have they are better. Some live to be praised and worshipped. None of what a person has matters. People must think about their spiritual bodies and become less worried about the natural aspects of this world if they want to see the King. I’m so glad I realize nothing is more important than my spiritual walk, my faith, my love, and my commitment to Jesus the Son and God the Father.

I don’t care what anyone believes, I know I love Jesus and I know Jesus loves me. Just because I belong to Him doesn’t mean things are always easy for me, but I know I am not alone, He’s with me every step of the way through whatever!

As the old hymn says “get right church,” because someday we have to go home. That home will either be Heaven or hell. It’s always been your choice as to what you choose. Even if you feel you don’t want to choose, by not choosing your STILL choosing. Remember anything against Jesus the Son is against the Father. You can’t make it to God without going through Jesus the Son. It’s up to you what you choose. My prayer is you make up your mind before it’s to late.

Relationships With Everyone Other Than Jesus

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People make every relationship they are involved with more important than having one with Jesus. Every day people are getting into relationships with individuals many of which aren’t good for them. They go above and beyond for their relationships, yet they have no relationship with Jesus. People are concerned about relationships with their bosses, co-workers, creditors, significant others, family, friends, and others in general. Yet they have no concern about having a real relationships with Jesus.

There are many people who have lived this way for so long until it’s habitual. They focus on their relationships with everyone else, but don’t give time or thought about having one with Jesus. Sadly many of those who say they are Saints of God are guilty of this! They don’t know Jesus, they don’t have prayer lives, and they don’t give Jesus any of their time.

Many people go to church faithfully. Matter of fact I’ve heard many say how guilty they feel if they miss church. It’s sad how concerned people are with what others say about them missing church, yet have no concern about their relationships with God.

People go faithfully to church Sunday after Sunday without ever developing a relationship with God. Many don’t even know Him. A lot of people think because they go to church that’s all it takes. They are very wrong! Before anything at all a person has to accept the Lord as their personal Savior (Romans 10:9). No man or woman on earth can save a soul. They can usher those who choose to Christ, but Jesus does the saving.

We all must read the Word for self. The Bible doesn’t say try the spirit by the spirit. It says “try the spirit to see if it’s of God.” Those who don’t know Jesus or have a relationship with Him won’t understand this, because their eyes are on the creature and NOT the Creator. Many are being deceived, because they lack a relationship with Jesus the Son and God the Father. Instead of the Holy Spirit leading; people are being led by the word of man and NOT the Word of God. They are led by the feelings of their hearts. They are moving on emotions.

There’s nothing wrong with having a good relationship with the other people. However, when individuals are living to please others and are worshipping them they are wrong. It’s more important for many people to have these relationships then for them to have one with Jesus.

Nothing a pastor, boss, friend, significant other, family, or anyone else do or say will stand. The ONLY thing that will last and stand is the Word of God. If people don’t understand then they are liable to fall for anything and many have, because their eyes are closed. There’s no greater relationship then having a relationship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit!

What you Allow Tells the Truth About you

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Although this can affect all facets of a person’s life, I am right back on the subject of people in abusive relationships. In the past two weeks I’ve heard of 2 women and 1 man dying at the hands of their significant others.

I’ve said and written countless times if you’re too afraid to leave you’ve stayed too long. If you feel trapped, you’ve stayed too long. Too many people continue to get into abusive relationships.

I believe what people accept and allow in their lives indicates who they really are. It shows a lot about the individual. People can pretend all day the truth shows in the decisions and bad choices people make.

No one is exempt! This happens to rich and famous as well as all races and genders. The only exempt people are those who have matured to a point of understanding who they are and loving self. These people will NOT allow just any ole person into their lives. They want what is best for them. They do NOT allow their hearts to lead without using their brains at the same time. They know what feels good isn’t necessarily good for them. They know “everything glitters isn’t gold.” They know people say one thing, but will do another. They aren’t led or influenced into relationships by their feelings, because they have learned to walk away from anything that is potentially unhealthy for them. It’s something people learn to do when they learn from their past choices and decisions, when they figure out and work on self, and when they learn to love self enough to demand better for self.

Many people are full of baggage they’ve carried for years which has caused them insecurities to include low esteem and low self confidence. The problem is people are in denial. Most people think they have it together, but if they would step away from their feelings and look at the truth they will see they don’t. People need to step out of their feelings into the truth. The truth hurts, because it’s the truth. The truth shows us the real deal whether it’s accepted or not.

Many people choose to get into and stay into unhealthy relationships because they are looking for love. They think by being with someone they will have love and security. You can’t find something in someone you don’t have in yourself. When people do this they are left with more heartaches and pains then before they entered into their relationships. They are totally blind by their perceptions of the truth. Their self esteem and confidence is very low and they normally are full of self blame. They lie and try to hide the abuse they endure and the take the blame many times when they are publicly abused.

All of this allowance and acceptance is due to what people feel about self. They don’t think they deserve better. They accept the wrong people into their lives. They desperately want love, when they obviously don’t know what love is, and when they don’t even love self.

When entering into relationships people must know what they need above what they want and the difference between the two. If you don’t know the difference research it and then think about it. In relationships getting what you want is based mostly on feelings of the heart (sex, money, looks, statuses of people, material things). None of it will hold a relationship together and none of it makes a person into who you wish for them to be. People are led by their feelings and emotions. They want what makes them feel good instead of what is good for them. This has led many into abusive relationships with deadly consequences for many.

Stop thinking it’s love when a person wants constant controlling tabs on you, when they tell you what to wear, when they tell you where you can and can’t go, when they ostracize you from others, when they want to control your time, when you can’t do anything without them being present, when they (push, spit on, hit you in any form) you, when they are very disrespectful in how they speak to you while alone or in public, or when they have total control over the relationship. There are many other things abusive people will do, NONE of it is love. They are displaying dangerous warning signs.

There is a difference between loving and caring for a person’s well being versus trying to control a person in obsessive and possessive ways. It is NOT love! People who do this has deep seated issues. Those who accept and allow it also has their own deep seated issues. There are ALWAYS signs, I don’t care if they’re subtle or not, they are always present. Love isn’t blind, people are blind in what they think is love.

Many people get caught up in their feelings. They think what they feel is real. They think what they feel is good for them. How do you know what’s good for you when you don’t know what love is and you don’t love yourself enough to adhere to what’s NOT good for you? People who are searching for love grab and hold on to anything making them feel good, even when it’s not good. They are blind by those feelings and emotions. They oftentimes make excuses for their abusers. They don’t understand this is enabling and giving their abusers the green light to continue abusing them. It has NOTHING to do with love.

When a person doesn’t know their worth outwardly they make act differently, but inside they are full of insecurities coming to the surface. It shows through the allowances and acceptances in their lives. A person can fake and pretend all day, but the truth shows. As I stated earlier NO ONE is exempt. Until people wake up they will continue to get into and stay in abusive relationships. Unfortunately many will continue to die at their hands of their significant others.

You Signed Up For It

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Many people are okay with their significant others cheating as long as they come home. Bull crap and they must be nuts!! Some people take this stance when it comes to their significant others and I think it’s absolutely stupid. This shows signs of desperation and insecurities.  As long as the green light is green and you are okay with it, they will proceed.

I understand loving someone and being in love with that person, however if they are trying to “have their cake and eat it too”, there’s a problem. Too many people settle with cheating. If you’re a person who is okay with being cheated on then something is wrong with you! A person will do to you whatever you take and allow.

Some people are okay with it, because they don’t want to start over, be alone, or lose their benefits (money, material things, place to stay, etc). Benefits for some is sex, shallow, but true! Starting over is tough, but it’s not the end of the world. If you can’t be alone with yourself, it indicates you don’t love yourself for some reason/s. Individual’s such as this need to deal with their own issues (first). If you have your own you wouldn’t have to worry about losing what someone else has afforded you.

I’m not suggesting to anyone to leave their relationships, what I am trying to relay is if you act as if being cheated on is okay, this attitude does nothing to help your situation. If you’re a person who is okay with it, then it CLEARLY says something is wrong with you. No woman or man should be okay with it. When I hear people say I’m okay as long as he/she comes home. I literally want to shake some sense into their heads.

If you truly love someone and are in love with that individual, there’s no way on earth you’re okay with them sleeping with or being with someone else. You can say it all day, but in your heart, you know it’s a lie. People say it’s okay, because they know their significant others will do it regardless, because it’s the foundation they have built in their relationships.

People don’t wake up and decide to cheat, they were already cheating in some capacity. There are far too many who allow this behavior from the start. In my opinion you nip it in the bud from the gate! People cheat not because they hate who they are with, but because of what’s inside of them individually. They are led by the dark part of who they are. They have issues they need to deal with within themselves. They tell whoever they are with they love them, however; truth is they don’t know what love is. If they did they certainly wouldn’t cheat on their significant others. It’s not about being in love, it’s about self gratification and seeking something outside of what they already have; despite the risks.

Synopsis of Cheaters and Those who accept it

If you accept a cheater then you’re just as messed up as the cheater. Something is wrong with both of these types of individuals. Many people get into relationships with those who are already in relationships with other people, SOMETHING IS WRONG with anyone who does this!  Trust me, the very thing that made you smile will make you cry later.

Some men and women leave their significant others for the OTHER  person ONLY to cheat on the OTHER person as well who by the way acts surprised when they are being cheated on (really)!! It’s EXACTLY what was signed up for by you!

If from the start you continued in a relationship with someone who was cheating on you, then you knew what you were signing up for.

If you are okay with your significant other being in a commitment, but not committed, then you will get from him or her exactly what you signed up for.

The moral of this post is as I’ve written and stated many times; people do to you what you allow and what you accept. If you don’t value and respect yourselves then don’t expect for anyone else to. Wake up people and see the truth. Most people cause their own heartaches and headaches by signing up for bull crap! If you’re led by what you’re feeling and not looking at the big picture, you will suffer the consequences of your actions. Everything that looks, tastes, or feel good isn’t always good for you. If it belongs to someone else, then it doesn’t belong to you and you shouldn’t want or desire it! If you do then you need to look at the man or woman in the mirror and deal with him or her, because something is wrong!

Relationship Hopping Tells the Truth

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Does this sound like you! Some people don’t have the sense to be embarrassed. I am embarrassed and sad for you! Please sit down somewhere and breathe! Reflect and learn how to grow and develop into a mature woman or man; someone who doesn’t need a significant other to validate who they are!

Nothing you have will change who you really are unless you change and let go of the baggage that has you in bondage. There are many wearing fake smiles, they’re dressed up and looking good, but are completely broken inside. This affects people from all walks of life to include the rich and famous.

I see and hear about people relationship hopping; some famous others are not. Some celebrities or others of well known status want the rest of the world to think they are different, but this is a lie. The difference is they can acquire and, purchase better things, they can go more places, they can do more things, and they can gain more opportunities and greater access to things. However, no amount of money will change what’s universal. We ALL despite the status; desire love, happiness, joy, and a peace of mind. Unfortunately money can buy a whole lot, but it can’t buy ANYONE a new CORE. Within the CORE lies the truth. No matter how polished on the outside and how well one tries to hide the truth it always shows in a persons bad choices and decisions.

Many people don’t take time to breathe before they’re out of one relationship right into another. It’s VERY immature and shallow to think you have it going on and all together when your actions are showing the complete opposite. You obviously don’t like yourself, because you can’t be by yourself. You feel to validate yourself you need someone by your side. This isn’t a good thing. By constantly going from one relationship to another you’re taking no time to figure out yourself. You’re too busy with trying to get the next hook up you never take a moment to understand why you’re doing what you do, you just do it! By now it’s second nature for you to move on to the next relationship. All of this comes from what’s going on inside of you; things you’ve carried around for a long time.

You will NEVER grow and mature mentally by doing this. You may get older, but you’re not giving yourself the ability to become more mature, wise, and full of wisdom by continuing to make the same bad decisions over and over. You have at this point in your life shown your inability to have a healthy relationship. You don’t give yourself the opportunity to learn how to love yourself, because you’re too busy trying to love someone else. It will NEVER work if you don’t learn to spend time with yourself, loving yourself,  and enjoying time alone.

These types of individuals live behind lies. They don’t know how to love themselves therefore they seek it in different ways and through other people. What you’ve grown accustomed to is a lie! You hide behind other things so that people don’t know the truth about who you are. Reality is you show the truth by your actions. You are in and out of relationships. Some of you are having sex with everyone you become involved with. You ruin your body by doing this, subjecting yourselves to unhealthy ways of life. Stop it! Value yourselves and your bodies!

It’s okay to want to have someone in your life, but before you can have a healthy relationship you must first love yourself and know how to be by yourself. You must learn that you are valuable and that you don’t have to settle with any ole one just to be with someone. Besides it won’t work out anyways, because you have too much unresolved baggage. You’re too focused on being with someone and not focused on getting yourself together, which is the most important thing. If you’re messed up every relationship you’re in will be messed up. This is why you’re repeatedly in and out of relationships. Some of you stay with people you don’t love, because you don’t know how to be alone. The ONLY person who can change this is YOU!!

Selfish or Selfless

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How can you build a strong foundation if you don’t know what a strong foundation means, looks like, or what it takes to build one? I believe this is one of the biggest problems when it comes to relationships. People are eager to get into one, but have no clue what a healthy relationship involves.

In my opinion most relationships are disconnected from the start which makes it ALMOST impossible to build a strong relationship. As I’ve said many times before; people are getting into relationships for the wrong reasons and in all of the wrong ways.

People have to learn to see what they’re getting into, before they actually call it a relationship. You can’t do this if you don’t know or understand what is good for you. This means you must first know yourself. This world is full of people who are getting into relationships and trying to figure out others when they don’t even know who they are as individuals.

You can’t truly connect with someone else when you have no real connection with who you are as an individual. There are endless amounts of relationships built on the I factor. It’s all about one individual’s wants and desires. These individuals are either the one’s who are selfish or selfless. Selfish individuals seek self gratification at all cost. Although they’re in relationships it’s still about them (what I want, what I desire). They are in relationships but in their minds they’re still single and they act like single people. They are totally disconnected when it comes to their significant others. They feel they should be able to do what they want whenever they want. They don’t think of the consequences of their actions until it’s too late. At some point in these individual’s lives they learned to be this way.

In relationships selfless people care more about the other person’s well being than their own. These types of individuals have the obvious in their faces yet they are so blind by their emotions they only see what they want. Oftentimes their significant others may treat them badly, yet they only see what they want to see. They cater to the one’s they’re with and most times get nothing in return. These are the people who give and give trying to please the one they’re with. These people do and take things to please the one they’re with. It’s sad! These individuals have gone through things in their lives to cause them to be this way. There is always a disconnect in their relationships.

Until people learn who they are as individuals, in their relationships they will always be  either selfish or selfless. To know yourself is to first love and accept yourself. You must get to a point in life where you will not give people your power or base your happiness on them. It’s no surprise; people treat you exactly how you’ve taught them to treat you. They give you what you accept and allow. When a person loves his or herself they will never base their happiness, joy, or peace on another individual. They will know love is much more deeper than looks, sex, and status.

Millions of couples are very disconnected. Although they’re considered as couples reality is they couldn’t be farther apart. They don’t even know why they remain together. They are together but separated, each doing their own things. Married couples are together, but living separate in their homes. They don’t communicate in no sense of the word. They are unhappy, miserable, and lonely. This is a very sad reality for many. I don’t believe people grow apart. I believe they were NEVER connected and on one accord when it comes to love and a solid foundation. They started out wrong and never got on the path of one accord, instead they grew further and further apart (disconnected).

To build healthy relationships you must be in tune with you. If you’re not it means everywhere you go and everything you do your baggage will spill. It will corrupt all aspects of your life and ultimately the relationships you are involved with. Basically what I’m saying is it starts with you! No matter what, you must deal with you (the man/woman in the mirror)! If you don’t deal with the core of who you are it defiles everything else.

My prayer is that people learn to deal with their issues FIRST before getting into relationships. Learn to love you and embrace yourselves. The reason many relationships are messed up is people are seeking love without knowing what it is or what it isn’t. Stop waiting to be validated by other people, because most agendas are different than your own. Stand up, be strong, and most of all learn to love you!