I believe this is a major stumbling block for many. We will all have obstacles thrown in our paths by life in general. Many people make them into stumbling blocks instead of the stepping stones they are meant to be. People become stuck in their ways due to their pasts and fears. Their wrong ways of thinking affects how they feel and act. It causes debilitation and dysfunction. People are too comfortable with their uncomfortable ways of living. They complain, cry, and act out; yet they do nothing to change their situations.
So many are choosing the victim mentality. No matter what, people don’t have to live as victims. No one said life was a bed of pretty roses. Things are thrown at us from everywhere, but regardless of this truth, people still have a choice as to how they deal with those issues. Most problems for the individual is individual his or herself. Individuals cause themselves many unnecessary problems by getting into bad situations, bad relationships, and dealing with bad people. They make many bad decisions, because they are in bad places mentally. They don’t change, because they are comfortable and familiar with their situations despite the pain it causes to them and those around them.
You know when something is not right or right for you. Choosing to be involved with something or someone knowing it is or could potentially be a problem means you’re willfully choosing to do something you shouldn’t do! There are always consequences for what we do. Negative ways of thinking causes many people to make bad choices and decisions. People water things down by calling them mistakes. Truth is mistakes aren’t made nearly as much as bad choices and decisions! Don’t EVER go along with wrong to belong or to get along!
If you are trying to hide what you do in any form, then you know it’s wrong! I don’t care what IT is! Yet, many people do it and afterwards have to suffer great repercussions due to their actions they didn’t have to be involved with from the start. People get comfortable with this way of living.
The false perception of love messes a lot of people up. People try to find love when they don’t first love self. Many repeatedly make bad choices and decisions in the name of what they think is love. Trying to love someone who doesn’t love you, trying to be in a relationship with someone else when you’re already in a relationship or the person you’re trying to be in a relationship is in one already, loving someone who loves someone else, being with someone for material things, being with someone for titles or positions, being with someone because of family/friends, or a child. Being with someone who is showing you they are abusive, untrustworthy, controlling, possessive, or obsessive, etc. I can go on and on, but I hope you get the point. You know these things are wrong from the start, why do them or why get into these types of relationships? People cause their own problems on top of the obvious issues they have inside.
People are comfortable with how they are; some are content with it while others aren’t. The problem is either way, most do nothing about it. People are comfortable with their past pains. No matter how hurt they are and destructive their lives are they are comfortable in their uncomfortable situations. They don’t attempt to move forward. They stay stuck where they are. Their lives are like revolving doors year in and year out. They don’t learn from their lessons in life, they keep repeating the same cycles. This is being comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. They wonder why, why, why. I will tell you why. It’s you, you, you! You’re your own problem, because people who are this way don’t try to change their lives. They keep holding on to their pasts experiences as if they don’t have a future. The future is coming for us all, but many are stuck in their past experiences. They get too comfortable despite the chaos it brings to their lives. They give too much power to their pasts, to people, and things. No one on earth can mature and move forward in life stuck in this mind set. As their future approaches they continue to sabotage their possibilities, because they are stuck in wrong and negative ways of thinking
You are not your parents; it doesn’t matter if you look like or act like them. You aren’t what people say you are UNLESS you believe you are and if you do, it alone shows you don’t love yourself; you believe what is said about you. You don’t have to let people cross your personal boundaries, I don’t care who they are. You don’t have to let others put limits on your dreams and goals; they belong to you and you’re the ONLY one who should dictate what it is you choose to do. Most times people show you who they want you to see until the real deal surfaces. What’s inside is more powerful and it will always surface in some form or another. Don’t get comfortable in faking and pretending; you will NEVER grow this way. Learn to love yourself then you won’t have to pretend. People won’t understand your growth and some won’t accept it. It’s okay, it’s not about them! Don’t allow it to stunt your growth!
If people don’t want you in their life, keep it moving. Life will go on with or without you! Never kiss anyone’s butt to get them to love you or to get from point A to B. Know without doubt people will look you in the face and stab you in the back at the same time. They will tell you one thing and do another. They will hate on you, be envious, spiteful, jealous, etc. It’s because they don’t like what they are lacking. They waste time and energy with negative feelings about other people when they should put the time and energy into changing their lives. They have allowed people, things and life to hold them back, so they project their pains on other people who chose to move forward in life. Don’t allow these people to stop or block your growth! They will if you allow.
Don’t allow the troubles in life to keep you stagnant. Trouble will come, but it will also go. Learn from everything and allow nothing to make you feel you’re not capable of progressing in life. The power is in your hands to do so. If you give it away, you lose control. Never be comfortable in uncomfortable situations you DO NOT have to be in!