People live most of their lives trying to pretend, fake, disguise, please, appease, and live for others. It doesn’t matter how much you give, how much you love, or anything else; how you allow people to treat you is on you! People have the tendency to blame others for how they are treated. Truth is what you accept and allow from others teaches them how to treat you. You signed off with your stamp of approval by your acceptance and allowance of negative and bad attitudes and behaviors.
The reason I wrote what I did above is because it’s an opener to what this post is about. Most people parade around acting as if all is well when it isn’t and as I’ve always stated the truth is forever shown in what people let others do to them and what people do to themselves. Choosing to stay the same means you’re choosing to remain stuck mentally. You can maneuver and progress through life, but it doesn’t mean you’ve matured mentally gaining a more stable and healthy state of mind.
Most people seek many things not knowing what they need. They accept anything and everything in order to receive love, friendship, security, success, acceptance, validation, etc. The main thing most people seek is love. It’s sought after in the wrong ways and with the wrong people. People who do this are individuals who obviously have unresolved issues. If they didn’t the last thing a person would do to self is seek love from undeserving and wrong individuals. Yet, many people do! They get into unhealthy relationships and many go through hell and high water to stay in them without caring how bad they are until it’s unbearable.
People are not only this way in their relationships, they are this way in all aspects of their lives, because dysfunction begat dysfunction. I don’t care how together people appear to be most are far from it. People can’t become better, because they are used to their dysfunction even though it’s causing drama in their lives. They are led by what they want, desire, feel, and see. This is the thought processes of immature people.
Plain truth is until people mature mentally they will not grow in the way they are meant to grow. Although people are getting older, they aren’t maturing, because they can’t. You can’t mature until you’ve dealt with things causing you stagnation. People are stuck in their wrong ways of thinking. No one can progress forward by being this way. Many people become successful and things of that nature, but it doesn’t mean they are mature. Many people are still riddled with dysfunction causing them to make bad choices and decisions in their lives. Unresolved issues follow you, because you’re the only person you can’t get away from. It doesn’t matter where you go, what you do, who you become, or who you are with. Dysfunction will always come to the surface, because it lies beneath the surface unresolved.
We look at the things some people do and we are surprised or shocked. All individuals know what their tendencies are. You may not know, but each individual does. Every day people live their lives pretending, faking, and disguising the truth. Yet, no matter what they do, the truth somehow always presents itself through the choices and decisions people make.
What you are truly about shows in the choices and decisions you make. I don’t care what people say or how they look, the truth is always shown. Most people don’t understand this reality.
Think about it. If you truly loved you then it means you have learned to by getting pass past and present issues that may have caused you negative ways of thinking about yourself and other people, which often led to dysfunction. Unfortunately many people haven’t yet reached this level in life, because they make everything and everyone more important than self. They want what they want no matter what or who. They are comfortable and complacent! These people are from all walks of life. When a person has reached this level the things they accept and allow are different from what they once accepted and allowed in their lives. Choices and decisions become different, because they come from more mature and wise individuals who no longer see the way they’ve once seen. As I’ve always stated; change the way you think, it changes your life!