In relationships if you don’t love yourself don’t expect for anyone else to love you. What I am saying here is many people are in bad relationships because they’ve become involved with people who are like them (messed up emotionally). Stop doing this especially thinking the one you chose to be will love you when you don’t love yourself. What you fail to understand is the person you’re trying to love don’t love his or herself either. They will treat you exactly how you treat yourself (no respect, no love, no care).
Many people take any type of treatment, because they’re trying to make something out of nothing. You can’t change a person no matter what you do unless they want to change. Before you try tackling someone else’s issues, you must first tackle your own!
Love can’t be bought! A person will love what you do for them, but not love you! If you start a relationship off by trying to buy love, that’s what you will have to do to keep the person you’re with. Nothing you give a person will make them love you or want to be with you.
Many people get into relationships seeking something they are missing and oftentimes never really had (this thing called love). Love first starts with you! When you love yourself you know what love is. You will know you don’t have to buy love nor do you have to take any unnecessary drama to be loved by someone.
The person you’re with will treat you exactly how you allow, because you’ve taught them exactly how to treat you! When you take unnecessary crap from someone they will surely give it. People try you to see what you will take and when they see they can get away with crap, they will freely oblige you with it! It can be disrespect, abuse, cheating, lying, manipulation, using you, or whatever. If you allow it they will do it!
It all goes back to what you think and feel about yourself. It’s also how you treat yourself! If you have no standards, you get no standards. If you have no requirements, no requirements is what you will get. If you have no self respect, you get none. The list goes on!
A person who loves his or herself will always feel good about self. This type of individual will treat you right. Anything less than that gets you any type of treatment. Any individual who allows his or herself to be mistreated in any way need to look inward at self. You are your own problem! You can’t change anyone and no one can change you! However, if you allow someone to mistreat you, they will!