Staying Yet Straying


Okay, here I go again. It is up to each individual as to what they choose in their relationships. However; you ARE to blame for what you allow. You’re to blame for what you accept and put up with. No one can do to you more than you allow. People allow much unnecessary drama in the name of love when love has nothing at all to do with it. Love isn’t those things a lot of people claim it to be.

People who stray outside of their relationships don’t do it because of the person their cheating on. Yes sometimes that person is a problem, but the real reason a person strays is due to their own inner issues. Some people make all of the excuses in their world, but at the end of the day, they cheat, because they want to.

If you stray it’s no one’s decision to do it, but yours. If you stay after he or she strays it’s no one’s decision, but yours to do it. People stray for many reasons, but the fact of the matter is those reasons are all excuses. People cheat because they want to and them wanting to come from other underlined unresolved issues. People stay for the same reason. People who stay give excuses as to why, however truth be told their reasons all boils down to what’s going on inside of them. This is normally due to long ago unresolved issues. People seek love no matter the consequences; which is a sad thing!

I’m all for people remaining together. However, only in healthy relationships! Anyone who stays in an unhealthy relationship must look at the man/woman in the mirror and figure out why. Anyone who’s cheating on their significant other must do the same. Facing inner issues is detrimental in being able to grow into mature adults.

Society is full of tainted and broken people filled with toxicities of their pasts. When people don’t deal with their issues it affects every facet of their lives (relationships, jobs, decisions, choices, health, etc). People embed themselves into all types of positions only to have their demons surface to the top and ruin their opportunities. People get into relationships with clear indications it’s bad from the start only to allow their demons and their significant others demons to rise up and interfere with the relationship.

“The blind can’t lead the blind, unless they both fall in the ditch.” You can’t save anyone and no one can save you! You can’t change anyone and no one can change you. As I will continue to say; families, friends, and significant others may motivate, inspire, or influence you, but the decision to be saved or change falls on the individual who needs it. People think their love making skills, cooking, material things, looks, statuses, titles; may influence a person to change. NOT necessarily!! Even if a person changes due to some type of influence if they don’t change because they feel a need to change the change will not be lasting. It will ONLY be temporary to appease the other person or the situation. The same issues will come up again and again.

Every last one of us can put on facades pretending to be this or that, but every single time something will show the truth. It may be subtle, but nevertheless the truth will always present. Who a person try to hide and who a person is are different for immature people who think they are mature. Those who pretend to be one way yet knowing they’re another show the true signs at some point. It is shown through their actions, decisions, choices, etc. It NEVER fails! We can run, change locations, change jobs, hide, deceive, pretend, disguise, put on facades. However, we can’t EVER run or hide from the truth. We can’t run or hide from self! The truth lies within!! Unless a person resolve their issues they will NOT mature to be the people they’re destined to be.

A cheater will cheat until he or she decides to deal with the inner man or woman and come to the conclusion they are better than that. They are never satisfied with who they have, because they don’t truly love self, due to their inner issues. They choose not to be faithful and loyal to no one, because they can’t be faithful or loyal to self. They are immature in their thinking and for them it’s about gratification of the flesh (physical body, their eyes, material things, statuses, etc).

A person will stay in an unhealthy relationship (cheated on, beat on, disrespected, mistreated in all forms), until they deal with the inner man or woman and decide they deserve better; which starts with loving self. It’s always up the individual. You, you, and I! Every last one of us willfully choose what we allow into our lives. We can make excuses, but what we choose falls on us individually.

Walking Away From God is Your Choice


Many people blame God for bad things that goes wrong in their lives. I’ve seen it and heard it many times. People curse God because they are angry. People walk away from God, because they feel He’s not listening to their prayers or they feel He’s allowed something bad to happen. People are quick to walk away from God when things aren’t going their way or when tragedy strikes, yet they hang on for dear life to the significant others in their lives who disrespects and mistreat them. They hold on to people who have let them go long ago.

As long as we live in this dark world we will go through trials and tribulations. No one on earth is exempt from tragedies, trials, or tribulations. Troubles will come and they will most certainly go. The world we live in is full of darkness. If we say we love God the Father and his Son Jesus then we must be ready to withstand the tests. The tests are coming time and time again. Things are getting darker and therefore tougher, if people are not standing for Him, then they are standing against Him. We can’t call ourselves Saints of God and are unable to withstand when things get rough and rocky. Although we will go through the storms, He will always be our peace in the midst of whatever we are going through; if we believe it.

The Bible says there will be “a great falling away.” People will leave Jesus. This is a person’s individual choice. Jesus doesn’t force us to come, stay, or leave. It’s all a personal choice.

A lot of people want what they want right now. They don’t want to tarry about anything. They don’t want to be quiet and listen to hear God, they want things to work out or be fixed right now. They lose faith and trust in God, because to them He’s not tangible. The Bible says “for faith is the substance of things hoped for, evidence of things not seen.” We are to “walk by faith and not by sight.”

Many will fall away and have fallen away, because they are/were walking by sight and NOT by faith. No matter what it looks like, God will “never leave or forsake us.” He’s an on time God! Not sometime, but all the time! Saints of God must remember there is both evil and good forces at work twenty four hours a day. God is always on the job, but so is the devil, but remember who has ALL power! The devil is limited!

His presence is forever shown to us if people see with their spiritual eyes and not their natural eyes. God is always showing up and showing us exactly who He is! People get discouraged because they continue to see through their natural eyes and not the spiritual eyes given to us when we serve Him. The Holy Spirit dwells within us and is that beacon flowing through us making us the light in this dark world.

Not one time is it written anywhere in the Bible when you give your life to Jesus and you live for Him your life would be trouble free. Nowhere in the Bible does it say a person’s life will be free of troubles in any form. That’s a misconception some people seem to have. The devil gets even busier trying to mess with you when you’re serving God. He’s trying to win you back on his team. He throws everything at you and on your path. As a child of the Most High we have to stand firmly on the Word of God. Keep on your full Armor of God. The devil is going to do his job of killing, stealing, and destroying. It is up to us individually to make sure through it all we still have trust, faith, and belief in Jesus the Son and God the Father.

Jesus loves us all and wishes for none of us to fall away. However, the decision is for each us to make on our own. Mom, dad, sister, brother, significant other, family, friend, or anyone else can’t make the ultimate decision. They can’t make the decision or walk the journey for us. People can plant the seeds, but we have to cultivate them and grow on our own. Coming to Jesus is your choice, staying is your choice, and leaving is your choice. I pray through it all you never allow anything or anyone to turn you away from the true and living God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit.