You get Exactly What You’ve Allowed

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In relationships if you don’t love yourself don’t expect for anyone else to love you. What I am saying here is many people are in bad relationships because they’ve become involved with people who are like them (messed up emotionally). Stop doing this especially thinking the one you chose to be will love you when you don’t love yourself. What you fail to understand is the person you’re trying to love don’t love his or herself either. They will treat you exactly how you treat yourself (no respect, no love, no care).

Many people take any type of treatment, because they’re trying to make something out of nothing. You can’t change a person no matter what you do unless they want to change. Before you try tackling someone else’s issues, you must first tackle your own!

Love can’t be bought! A person will love what you do for them, but not love you! If you start a relationship off by trying to buy love, that’s what you will have to do to keep the person you’re with. Nothing you give a person will make them love you or want to be with you.

Many people get into relationships seeking something they are missing and oftentimes never really had (this thing called love). Love first starts with you! When you love yourself you know what love is. You will know you don’t have to buy love nor do you have to take any unnecessary drama to be loved by someone.

The person you’re with will treat you exactly how you allow, because you’ve taught them exactly how to treat you! When you take unnecessary crap from someone they will surely give it. People try you to see what you will take and when they see they can get away with crap, they will freely oblige you with it! It can be disrespect, abuse, cheating, lying, manipulation, using you, or whatever. If you allow it they will do it!

It all goes back to what you think and feel about yourself. It’s also how you treat yourself! If you have no standards, you get no standards. If you have no requirements, no requirements is what you will get. If you have no self respect, you get none. The list goes on!

A person who loves his or herself will always feel good about self. This type of individual will treat you right. Anything less than that gets you any type of treatment. Any individual who allows his or herself to be mistreated in any way need to look inward at self. You are your own problem! You can’t change anyone and no one can change you! However, if you allow someone to mistreat you, they will!

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The Hearts of People (RACISM)

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I know writing this post some will agree and some won’t (what’s new) right? I want to write about this foolishness that continues to happen in this world. It’s pure ignorance to hate on the basis of skin color. ANYONE who does was TAUGHT this way. Babies aren’t born knowing anything about racism, they are taught as young ones who grows up to carry on this ignorant way of thinking. They’re in bondage without understanding it or even realizing they’ve adopted this way of thinking.

All we’ve seen and heard lately is racism this or racism that and although it’s what seen on the surface it comes from something much deeper. Many cry racism, because they don’t understand the truth depth of the problem. The problem is the HEARTS OF people! What’s in the heart is coming out one way or another. A person can put on the finest clothes, live in the best homes, drive the best cars, have the best jobs none of it will change what’s in their hearts. If they are nasty inside it will spill out. The same with those who may not have as much. What’s in the heart will come out in some form or another. No matter how hard some people try to hide it they always show the truth in some fashion.

To say racism isn’t prevalent would be an outright lie! However, what I want the world to understand is that the problem ISN’T actually racism itself, the problem is the hearts of those who are racist! These people were taught to be this way by someone  and most likely it started at home. Not all racist people learned this at home, some learned it from other people. Regardless where it originated, it is a LEARNED behavior!

People are so focused on the word racism and it ALWAYS seems to be about Black and White. First of all as I mentioned in a post months ago. I’ve yet to see a Black person or a White person. All of this nonsense started from the hearts of man (man or woman). The terms were meant to defile one race while uplifting the other and it has ALWAYS been this way. It’s all so very sad! People have been brainwashed for years that one race is superior over all races and it’s simply a LIE! We ALL have the same Jesus! He didn’t give one race a different requirement to live; we ALL require the same things to live (food, water, and some form of shelter). Our skin is different shades because we are all a part of the Covenant He left for us (the Rainbow). It doesn’t mean one race is superior than the next. MAN has done this separation! It’s stupid, ignorant, and a very shallow way to think.

Racism is prevalent in all races and within some races people hate their own race. Bottom line it is what has been taught. People have been taught to HATE rather than to LOVE for whatever reason. This hatred pools out into what we see as racism. The focus is ALWAYS Black and White, but this is how MAN continues to manipulate and try to separate to cause confusion. Sadly society and communities continue to be little soldiers marching to the beat of this foolishness!

This world will NEVER end racism UNTIL they first realize, understand, and accept the fact that it stems from what’s in the hearts of the people. Nothing and I mean NOTHING can conquer hate, but love. I understand that some people don’t know how to love. This is because they NEVER received it as a child. A person can be taught how to love if they are willing to be taught. No matter what we are taught as children, as young adults and adults it’s OUR responsibility to change what is negative. If all you know is the wrong way, then the wrong way is how you will think and it’s how you will live. These types of people have to be willing to change their wrong ways of thinking, which will change their feeling, and their behaviors. This will ultimately change their cold hearts.

If we want change we have to embrace change. People are enslaved, this includes all racist people despite the color of their skin. They are in bondage and in captivity by their own ways of thinking. They are carrying around their generational curses of hatred and are blind by it. They are completely imprisoned by their own ways of thinking and most aren’t aware they act the way they do, because it was instilled/ingrained in them at an early age.

I pray in the name of God the Father and Jesus Christ that our land is healed. I pray for the hearts of man, because if those hearts don’t change no change can occur in this world when it comes to racism. I pray people learn how to love and stop falling for this foolishness. If you want to make a difference learn how to love your neighbor despite the color of their skin. If a person has a problem with the color of another person’s skin they need to understand the person they hate had NO control or CHOICE as to what skin they were born into. We need love, peace, and harmony in our world.

Some White people don’t want to be White and some Black people don’t want to be Black. There are many other races who feel the same about their own race. This was how they were taught. We are all a gift from God and a part of the Rainbow. Think what this world would look like if it were all one color; even the thought isn’t appealing. God makes no mistakes, He made us this way for a reason. The hatred needs to stop, it didn’t come from God, because He’s nothing but love. What’s in the heart of any person will show in some type of way and this is why we see racism.

 

It’s Not Love, It’s About What You Do

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Many people find themselves in relationships where they are being used. Relationships that are built on WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR ME!  People continue to get into relationships based solely on how they feel about the one they’re with, completely overlooking how they’re treated. They can’t see what’s staring them right in their faces.

It’s not hard to see the truth if you’re open to the truth. A person can’t see the truth if they are blind by their feelings. Many individuals are in relationships, but are still lonely and unhappy.

Oftentimes the truth is plain and clear to everyone but the one who needs to see it. If you give everything at your disposal thinking it will make a person love you; YOU’RE WRONG! Some of you give money, money, money. Then there are those of you who are constantly buying and giving material things. Some of you think because you have status that it will make the person you’re with love you. NONE of it works! You can literally take your heart out of your chest and hand it to them, it will not make them love you. You could give them the moon, sun, and stars; if they don’t REALLY love you, it won’t matter. Stop looking outward and start looking inward.

These types of people will take from you as long as you give. If you’re with someone and it’s ALWAYS about giving something or doing something for that person, you need to check yourself and re-examine the relationship you’re in. Sadly, you’ve taught that person exactly how to treat you.

I don’t care how much you think you love someone, if it’s all about the other person all of the time, this says a lot about you. You can make a person comfortable, they will make you think they love you, but in fact they love what you have and what you can do for them. Does this sound like you?

You can’t buy love in no shape, form, or fashion. It’s wonderful to be a nice giving person, but if you’re allowing someone to take advantage of you, it’s a different story. If your relationship is one-sided it’s because that is exactly what you’ve settled for. You started out the wrong way, you set the standard, and you taught the other person how to treat you.

Anytime you’re in a relationship with someone you will always get what you’ve allowed. A person can’t treat you any other way then how you’ve allowed them to treat you.

SKIN COLOR

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Was it your choice? Did you choose to come in this world the color you are? The only choice in the matter was with the woman who conceived you. Why do people hate on others due to the color of their skin? It’s JUST skin! A person’s skin color doesn’t make them inferior or superior to another race. It’s all so ignorant. All of the hate is a LEARNED behavior.

There are many people in this world who are acting out and don’t have a clue what’s going on. They are hating individuals because of their skin color. The ONLY slavery they know is what they’re experiencing. They are slaves and held in bondage by their ways of thinking; which by the way was learned at some point in their lives. They act out foolishly by saying ignorant and mean things. They commit unthinkable acts, but they have NO clue the true root to why they feel the way they do. All they know is what they’ve been taught. Many are obvious followers of those before them who have taught hatred.

There are young one’s acting out because they got it from the older ones. Most of the people they learned the behavior from are like them, they know NOTHING about slavery other than the slaves they’ve become. The sad, sad, part is they don’t realize they are slaves. They have become their own slaves and are held in captivity by their own ways of thinking. They have made themselves prisoners and they don’t even know it. How sad is that????

Hate keeps you in bondage. It makes you a SLAVE, when you have allowed it to taint your spirit and your ways of thinking. You have given power to hatred! No race is better than the next. No one on earth is white and no one on earth is black. Those are words given by man to pump up one race and to break down another. It’s sad; but it’s even more it’s ignorant!

How can SOME people hate others who have darker skin than their own when they are going to tanning booths, spray tanning, sunbathing and you name it to end up the same color? Do that make ANY sense? It’s foolish!!!! Many people have carried this foolish way of thinking around for years and years, yet they don’t change. Lives are crippled by hatred. It makes no sense!

When will it get better? When will people stop the foolishness? We have people hating their own race due to the color of their skin. It’s because of what they were taught. We have people hating other races, due to the color of their skin; when not one single person on the face of the earth had a choice in what skin color they were born in.

No matter what anyone thinks, no race is better than the next. No one race is superior than the next. No one race is inferior to the next. We all live, we all experience pain, love, sorrow, joy, peace, happiness, the good, the bad, the ugly, and we ALL will someday die. Your skin color doesn’t make you exempt from none of it.

There are many people who are brainwashed and couldn’t give you a good reason why they hate another race if you paid them too. It’s a learned behavior, but the good news it can be unlearned. Each individual on earth has a role they can play in this if they choose. The cycle needs to be broken. Society must stop shading the entire world one color and postulating that if you don’t look a certain way you’re less than. It’s such a ridiculous and shallow way of thinking.

If you peeled the skin of a person from all races you wouldn’t know the difference, because what keeps us alive looks the same and works the same for all of us. We all need a heart, lungs, kidneys, etc to live and we all have red blood pumping through our bodies.

Every race has the good, the bad, and the ugly. There’s way too little love and way too much hate in this world. I wrote an earlier post that said “Nothing Conquers Hate, but Love.” That’s a fact! All of what we’ve become was learned at some point and in some way (good or bad). As individuals we can make a difference one person at a time. Stop being a part of the problem and become a part of the solution!

Poverty reigns in all races, uneducated individuals reigns in all races, stupidity reigns in al races, ignorance reigns in all races, rich/wealthy individuals reigns in all races, slothful people reigns in all races, criminals reigns in all races, brilliant individuals reigns in all races, and the list goes on and on. People are hating individual’s based on the color of their skin; how immature is that?

I pray that there is a turn around in the way people think. I pray that people learn to embrace one another no matter the skin problem. I pray for peace, love, and tranquility all across the world. The very one you hate, may be the very one who someday save your life or be the very one who helps you out in the time of need!