It’s Not Love, It’s About What You Do


Many people find themselves in relationships where they are being used. Relationships that are built on WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR ME!  People continue to get into relationships based solely on how they feel about the one they’re with, completely overlooking how they’re treated. They can’t see what’s staring them right in their faces.

It’s not hard to see the truth if you’re open to the truth. A person can’t see the truth if they are blind by their feelings. Many individuals are in relationships, but are still lonely and unhappy.

Oftentimes the truth is plain and clear to everyone but the one who needs to see it. If you give everything at your disposal thinking it will make a person love you; YOU’RE WRONG! Some of you give money, money, money. Then there are those of you who are constantly buying and giving material things. Some of you think because you have status that it will make the person you’re with love you. NONE of it works! You can literally take your heart out of your chest and hand it to them, it will not make them love you. You could give them the moon, sun, and stars; if they don’t REALLY love you, it won’t matter. Stop looking outward and start looking inward.

These types of people will take from you as long as you give. If you’re with someone and it’s ALWAYS about giving something or doing something for that person, you need to check yourself and re-examine the relationship you’re in. Sadly, you’ve taught that person exactly how to treat you.

I don’t care how much you think you love someone, if it’s all about the other person all of the time, this says a lot about you. You can make a person comfortable, they will make you think they love you, but in fact they love what you have and what you can do for them. Does this sound like you?

You can’t buy love in no shape, form, or fashion. It’s wonderful to be a nice giving person, but if you’re allowing someone to take advantage of you, it’s a different story. If your relationship is one-sided it’s because that is exactly what you’ve settled for. You started out the wrong way, you set the standard, and you taught the other person how to treat you.

Anytime you’re in a relationship with someone you will always get what you’ve allowed. A person can’t treat you any other way then how you’ve allowed them to treat you.




Let me first say; whether you accept it for what it is or not, how a person feels about you will ALWAYS show in his or her actions towards you. Please make NO mistake about it and please stop accepting it! Stop going solely off of how you feel about someone; you must realize, accept and understand how the other person feels about you! No matter how you feel it won’t change how THEY feel. How they REALLY feel will always show in their actions towards you.

Too many people continue to get into and stay in BAD, UNHEALTHY relationships based on their own personal feelings. Too caught up in their own emotions to see the truth for what it is. This way of thinking will until the end of time lead people into making bad decisions. People must gain control over their emotions, which is what their being lead by. People get too overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings, and then they can’t see past it all to the truth.

If a person would take a moment and reflect; moments to examine their relationship or what they call a relationship they could see the truth. To examine the relationship you’re in you MUST get your emotions in check. I keep hampering on emotions and feelings, because they are what leads millions into very dangerous waters. However, if you step out of your own way, you will be able to see the real deal.

I don’t care how much you THINK you love someone if they don’t love you back, you need to wake up. If they talk to you any kind of way that is abuse and disrespect. If they abuse you in any way; one way is no greater or less than the other. Abuse is abuse; period! Stop trying to sugarcoat it and/or cover it up. Doing that NEVER fixes the situation. It only keeps you in that bad situation.

A real man or woman will NOT mistreat, disrespect, abuse, cheat on, hurt, harm, etc. etc.; the one they truly love. One who has the mind of an immature version will. I get sick, sick, sick of hearing “a man will be a man.” That’s ridiculous. What is even more ridiculous is many men and women believe what society says about men. Immature men want sex just like immature women, because it’s what they’re into. Both are also very focused on how someone looks, so they are fixated on the physical part of a person (booty, chest, boobs, eyes, hair, legs, etc. Grown and mature men and women understands this isn’t  the main focus of a healthy relationship.

Do you know when you’re in a relationship; it’s important to have your emotions in check, because you MUST be able to really understand how you’re treated? If you’re all caught up in your feelings, you’re going to be messed up and I guarantee you that more than likely you’ll end up hurt. I challenge any person on the face of the earth, to step back and think about their current relationship or any previous one. Think about how you’re treated or was treated. Focus on what you’re getting from the relationship, focus on the communication between the two of you, focus on their  interaction with you. If you accept it for what it is there you will find the truth!! You can deny it all day, but the truth will stare you in the face!

I am very sure of what I’ve written to be true. I’ve seen it over and over again. It’s always the same situations, but different people. I’ve been many places overseas and in country and I’m telling you, I’ve seen it over and over again.

People must wake up! Take responsibility of your own lives and STOP putting it in the hands of others who can’t figure their own lives out. If a person doesn’t know what they want for his or herself, you think they will be able to give you what you need? NO! They can manipulate you into believing that they can, but they can’t and it will eventually show. Sad part is they know you better than you know yourself, because they have figured out your weakness and insecurities and will play you to get what they want. Many people get bamboozled because they’re going solely off of what they’re feeling and completely ignoring how they’re being treated. It’s foolish and it’s time to wake up!!!

Stop blaming him or her; they’re doing what they do. It is YOU who need to work on you. You have to deal with why you are allowing yourself to get deeper into an unhealthy relationship or to remain in a relationship where you’re not receiving what you really need. A person can say they love you all day long, but the truth always shows in how they treat you. People can only pretend for so long before the truth is revealed. Please stop ignoring this truth and please stop allowing your emotions to keep you tied to someone who isn’t tied to you.