Traditions Can Lead You Straight to Hell

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I’ve written many times about people doing things out of tradition. I believe more people than not are operating this way when it comes to serving Jesus and going to church. They go to church strictly out of tradition and familiarity. It’s what they’ve known since childhood. Yet as adults many still to this day haven’t grown any closer to God, they are still “babes in Christ.”

Many think because they go to church that’s it! They think because they asked Jesus into their hearts it’s all they have to do. Don’t let the devil fool you! It isn’t so! You must be born again and you must live the life you speak of (you must be holy). People have made their pastors their Master. They have allowed themselves to be brainwashed. They go to church out of tradition, familiarity, honor, and respect for their leaders and not at all for homage and alteration to The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Believe me when I tell you; all of your pastors knees will someday bend like their flocks. No one is exempt! “Every knee shall bow and every tongue must confess.”

The worst part about it is people are sitting in their churches while allowing all kinds of disorder to take place in their churches. They go along with whatever and they conform to whatever. Most churches are man’s churches and not God’s. They are started by self appointed people or man appointed leaders who are all about the money and NOT the soul. It’s all about material prosperity and not at all about spiritual prosperity! Many aren’t chosen of God; they are chosen by man. People don’t want the truth, but it doesn’t make it any less than the truth.

My recommendation is get into the Word and get it in your hearts. Know the Word for yourselves. Stop worshipping your leaders making them your god, because a whole lot of them don’t know Jesus for themselves. There’s only ONE God and you will never reign with Him if you continue to worship and praise the one you’ve made your god here on earth. The Bible says these false leaders will be charged for leading the flock astray, but make no mistake about it; you will have to pay for following!

The crazy part of it all is people live by traditions, etc, yet they are ALWAYS trying to change God to fit their traditions and lifestyles. This will never be okay. He is an unchanging God who doesn’t EVER conform to the ways of this world. He doesn’t conform to fit us or our lifestyles.

Every day we get to see is a day to open those closed eyes, clear out those plugged ears, and get rid of those dull stony hearts. If a person doesn’t choose to change they will remain the same. This is unfortunate because the Bible plainly says He will return swiftly like a thief in the night, in the twinkling of an eye. That means any second, minute, or hour. Please don’t let Him catch you serving man and not Him!!! Don’t let Him catch you with those closed eyes, plugged ears, and dull stony hearts!

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Unhealthy People, Unhealthy Relationships

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This is for a lot of people in unhealthy relationships. There are many people who are in terrible relationships. They are blind by their feelings and they will do anything to please the one they are with. For many people the focus is completely off. Most people drastically fail at getting to know the one they are with. They don’t adhere to the signs nor do they ask the right questions. All they care about is trying to win who they are trying to be with.

The reason people find themselves in terrible relationships is because their focus is on doing any and everything to please the one they are with. Many will even cross the line by doing things they wouldn’t normally do. They are moving solely on how they are feeling and unable to see the truth because of it. They think because they feel a certain way the actions behind their feelings will make the person they are with truly want to be with them. This isn’t so!

A person will take from you as long as you give. A person will do to you what you allow. It is you who teach the one you’re with how to treat you! If you think giving them everything is going to make them love you more, you’re wrong! They still won’t love you any more than they really do! Matter of fact some don’t love who they are with at all, they love what the person does to them and for them. Hurtful right? It’s true! It’s better to read about it then to be living it!

There are far too many people who get into one-sided relationships. They are too caught up in how they are feeling, therefore blind to the truth. They could see it if they chose to, unfortunately it’s not on the mindset of most; their interest is giving all they can to the other person, because they love them very much. At least so they think!

Don’t be a fool to love or to what you perceive as love. Perception is normally gravely distorted when a person is going off of their feelings. The more you think of someone (good or bad), the more provoking the thoughts become which leads to the over abundance of feelings. People are totally captivated by those feelings, which leads and have led many into terrible relationships. Many have lost their lives in bad relationships.

I’ve written many posts about this very issue, but no matter how much people read, hear, or see, they will foolishly get into unhealthy relationships. Some people don’t learn or change, because they don’t want to. They continue to live unhappy lives while wondering why their lives are unhappy. Makes no sense, but it’s the way many choose to live. Everything we do is about choices. We all make them whether good or bad.

When a person gives and gives to the significant person in their life never getting anything in return, except headaches and heartaches; they teach their significant other exactly how to treat them. When a significant other takes and takes, they teach the other person how to be treated. People who are focused on the feel good feeling will only see what they want. They are blind to everything else to a point and time when they are forced to open their eyes to the truth. By this time they are more than likely in an unhealthy relationship. At this point many are afraid to leave and afraid to stay. The ONLY way to avoid unhealthy relationships is by NOT getting into them in the first place!

I keep telling people love isn’t blind, those who think they are in love are blind by their perceptions of love.

The Truth Doesn’t Change

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Lies change, but the truth is just that; the truth! People always claim they want the truth until you give it to them. I’m not one who sugarcoats things to please people. Doing this doesn’t help a person it enables them. A lot of what I say or write hits hard and oftentimes upsets people. I make no apologies about it. As a servant I’m on this earth to help those who are willing to accept the truth. I plant the seed and it’s up to individuals what they do with it.

What I’ve found out in life is people are highly offended by the truth. Earlier in my life I was confronted by the truth and it cut me like a knife too. I didn’t want to hear it, but that didn’t change the fact it was the truth. I’ve always been a person who learned from everything I’ve experienced. When I truly knew better I done better and I always learned from my mistakes, bad decisions, and bad choices. It made me into who I am today.

People who take offense to the truth are people who need to search within self to figure out why truth hurts or upsets them. I know for a fact many so-called Saints aren’t what they profess. Therefore any time you speak or write the truth they are upset about it. They can’t stand the truth. They are people who aren’t living what they claim to live. They are people who are still doing what THEY want to do. They are still living in sin and doing things against God. A true Saint doesn’t get mad at the truth.

I understand people who are still in the world getting upset over the truth. They most definitely don’t want to hear it. The great difference is they aren’t claiming to be children of God. They aren’t claiming to be Saints who are living according to the Word of God. Therefore I expect them to get sick and tired of being told the truth. However, I don’t expect it from a true Saint.

Bottom line of this post is the truth is the truth no matter who tells it. If a person is adding to it or taking something from it, it’s no longer the truth. People can pretend all day, but at the end of the day each of us has to give in account for what we do and what we have done. As I always say how we live now determines were we will live eternally. That’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! True Saints if you’re mad about then, I highly recommend you check yourself and re-examine your lives, because what you’re living isn’t the truth and you know it!

The Signs Don’t Lie

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IF the one you want to be with or is supposedly with only communicates with you through texting, then THEY aren’t that into you!!! When will some people get it? Look at the signs! Some of you are sitting somewhere right now waiting on a text. Stop expecting the one you want to be with or is supposedly with to be as available as you ALWAYS make yourself. The problem with many people especially women is they’re too dog gone available. You’re there at every beckoning call. Every text you receive, you’re on a reply within seconds when in return you have to wait minutes, hours, and sometimes days for a response. After hearing from them, some of you are as happy as rats in a cheese factory, (missing all the signs of the truth). Some people dismiss way too many relevant things.

When a person is insecure, eager, or desperate it shows in their bad choices and bad decisions. When a person finds all the time in the world for the person they love, but the individual has little time for them; this is a sign! Many miss this signs, because any bit of time they get they’re happy as can be; while totally overlooking the truth. Step back and assess your relationships! See who is doing all of communicating (calling/texting),then ask yourself is the person you’re with or want to be with giving to you what you need in return. If not, this is exactly what you’re bound to get once you settle for this type of relationship. How you’re treated will more than likely NOT change. If you accept excuses and crap from the start most times you will receive it throughout your relationships.

When a person isn’t as into you as you are them, they won’t take or make the effort you will take or make. This is a clear indication that something else is up! The receiver must face the fact it is what it is. If you settle you will get less than you deserve, point blank!! Don’t get twisted up about it, shake it off as their loss and move on. Stop settling for mess because it is all you will get in return! That’s a promise and a guarantee!!

Stop allowing people to handle you. This means stop letting people dictate to you, your happiness. You can give all you have, you can be available anytime and all the time, none of it will make him or her feel about you the way you feel about them. Some women think their cookies or their bodies are IT, they think it’s like no other. These women are fooling themselves, because a cookie is a cookie and a butt is a butt neither will keep your man at home and it sure won’t make a man want to make you a wife or even be with you the way you want him to be. He will get what he can when he can and still do exactly whatever else he wants to do. You can turn monkey flips upside down and do whatever he asks, if he’s not into you like you are him he will not give to you what you are looking for. This goes the same for men. You can do all you can, give all you have, but if she doesn’t feel about you the way you feel about her, it won’t matter!

My desire is to make people understand that no matter what you do if a person isn’t feeling about you the way you feel about them none of what you do or say will matter. They will continue to treat you the way you allow. They will never give you what you would like, because they don’t feel you like you’re feeling them. This is your truth, but many won’t accept it. They continue to pressure and push their way through until they finally are left feeling hurt. It’s not his or her fault it’s yours. The reason it’s yours is because you ignored the signs.

 

Relationship Hopping Tells the Truth

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Does this sound like you! Some people don’t have the sense to be embarrassed. I am embarrassed and sad for you! Please sit down somewhere and breathe! Reflect and learn how to grow and develop into a mature woman or man; someone who doesn’t need a significant other to validate who they are!

Nothing you have will change who you really are unless you change and let go of the baggage that has you in bondage. There are many wearing fake smiles, they’re dressed up and looking good, but are completely broken inside. This affects people from all walks of life to include the rich and famous.

I see and hear about people relationship hopping; some famous others are not. Some celebrities or others of well known status want the rest of the world to think they are different, but this is a lie. The difference is they can acquire and, purchase better things, they can go more places, they can do more things, and they can gain more opportunities and greater access to things. However, no amount of money will change what’s universal. We ALL despite the status; desire love, happiness, joy, and a peace of mind. Unfortunately money can buy a whole lot, but it can’t buy ANYONE a new CORE. Within the CORE lies the truth. No matter how polished on the outside and how well one tries to hide the truth it always shows in a persons bad choices and decisions.

Many people don’t take time to breathe before they’re out of one relationship right into another. It’s VERY immature and shallow to think you have it going on and all together when your actions are showing the complete opposite. You obviously don’t like yourself, because you can’t be by yourself. You feel to validate yourself you need someone by your side. This isn’t a good thing. By constantly going from one relationship to another you’re taking no time to figure out yourself. You’re too busy with trying to get the next hook up you never take a moment to understand why you’re doing what you do, you just do it! By now it’s second nature for you to move on to the next relationship. All of this comes from what’s going on inside of you; things you’ve carried around for a long time.

You will NEVER grow and mature mentally by doing this. You may get older, but you’re not giving yourself the ability to become more mature, wise, and full of wisdom by continuing to make the same bad decisions over and over. You have at this point in your life shown your inability to have a healthy relationship. You don’t give yourself the opportunity to learn how to love yourself, because you’re too busy trying to love someone else. It will NEVER work if you don’t learn to spend time with yourself, loving yourself,  and enjoying time alone.

These types of individuals live behind lies. They don’t know how to love themselves therefore they seek it in different ways and through other people. What you’ve grown accustomed to is a lie! You hide behind other things so that people don’t know the truth about who you are. Reality is you show the truth by your actions. You are in and out of relationships. Some of you are having sex with everyone you become involved with. You ruin your body by doing this, subjecting yourselves to unhealthy ways of life. Stop it! Value yourselves and your bodies!

It’s okay to want to have someone in your life, but before you can have a healthy relationship you must first love yourself and know how to be by yourself. You must learn that you are valuable and that you don’t have to settle with any ole one just to be with someone. Besides it won’t work out anyways, because you have too much unresolved baggage. You’re too focused on being with someone and not focused on getting yourself together, which is the most important thing. If you’re messed up every relationship you’re in will be messed up. This is why you’re repeatedly in and out of relationships. Some of you stay with people you don’t love, because you don’t know how to be alone. The ONLY person who can change this is YOU!!

Loving the Hell Out of Them

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IT WON’T WORK!!!! Again, IT WON’T WORK! Too many people think this strategy works but it doesn’t. What I’m trying to convey is, no matter how much you love a person they are who they are and will be who they will be. No matter how much love you have for them it will not change them. There are countless amounts of people who think they are the ULTIMATE one who can change who they’re with. You’re living in a fairy tale.

Don’t misconstrue me, there are instances where people were motivated to change and the change was lasting. However, this will NEVER happen unless those needing change finally decide it’s time to do so. The individual chose to change. You can love the hell out of them, but it doesn’t mean your love is enough to change them or even to make them want to change.

Many people have lost themselves trying to change individual’s they love. People think they got it so good it’s good enough to keep who they’re with from straying or it will make them straighten up. NOT true! This is why many people are VERY unhappy in their relationships. They give every part of them to who they are with only to get taken for granted, used, and left brokenhearted.

I’ve always said and will forever say “people treat us exactly how we allow.” If you think by loving him or her with all of you is going to make your relationships better you’re wrong. You can’t make anyone love you the way you love them. We will never find anyone who feels exactly how we do about them, it will waver somewhere. That’s life and how it should be, because people are different. Problem is too many people stray way too far off the scale of compatibility. They think how they look, what they have, how good they are in bed, what they have to offer, etc will be enough to keep who they so desperately love, but that’s not REALITY! That’s not how it works!

A lot of people wonder why despite all the love they show; their relationships aren’t working. They can’t understand why their woman or man don’t love them the way they feel they should. You’ve addressed your own concern. It’s because, how YOU feel they should love you is NOT how they love you. You’re thinking on one level and they’re obviously thinking on another.

People are building relationships on their own hopes and dreams. People continuously get into these one-sided relationships. They know they’re one-sided by what they receive in the process, but they still think their love will be enough to make the relationship work. A relationship is built on two people NOT one. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone if they’re not on the same accord as you, it’s one-sided.

A person can tell you how much they love you and want to be with you, but if you don’t see those actions then it’s simply a bunch of lip service. Too many people are falling for this type of lip service; they’re caught up in how they’re feeling and NOT seeing the truth, because they have very wrong ways of thinking. They’re led by their feeling and emotions. This way of thinking messes millions of people up. They find they’ve weaved webs they didn’t want to be caught in.

I could talk about this all day, but I won’t; besides no matter how much people read it, hear it, etc; they will continue to be a part of dysfunctional relationships. Until a person look inward and see they are their own PROBLEM they will continue to think they can love the hell out of who they are with; no matter how reality is showing them it’s NOT the truth.

A Real Friendship

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I wanted to touch bases on the subject of friendship, because many don’t seem to know what it means. The word many, includes those so called friends and the one’s who like them. Time and time again I’ve written about how we think, feel, and act comes from past experiences it molds us into who we are (good or bad). It affects our choosing the people we call friends into our lives.

Sometimes a person want so much to be loved or a part of a group that they choose the wrong individual/s or social group to be a part of. People of all walks of life do this. What a person has or don’t have has nothing to do with the decisions they make. It seem like it does, but the reality is it all comes from what lies within. You know the saying “when a person show you who they are, believe it.” This is true across the board in all types of relationships.

First; to know a friend, you must first know yourself and secondly you must know how to be a friend. I believe the problem with most friendships is the person who is doing the befriending has issues going on that causes them to dismiss the truth about their so called friend/s.  All they want is to have a friend, but they’re overlooking the fact that the person they’re befriending isn’t remotely trying to be a friend to them.

There are many people who give and give to their friend/s and what they get in return are hands sticking out for more. The person doing the befriending can’t see they are being used and manipulated, all they care about is they’re receiving some type of acceptance (when they really aren’t). These types of friends are in your life for as long as your benefits are available (whatever the benefits). Once you stop giving the benefits they are on to the next person they can use and manipulate.

These types of friends will act as if they care about you for as long as you’re willing to dish out to them what they want. These friends will more than likely not be there for you, they make excuses for not seeing you, they don’t extend back to you the willingess to want to be to you the type of friend you are to them. They are what we call “hater/s” and many or either openly or secretly envy, jealous, and pretentious.

If you have a friend that doesn’t really seem to be there for you, it’s because they aren’t. They’re not interested in you, they’re interested in what you have to offer no matter what it is. When you open your eyes to the truth, then you can see the truth. Stop trying to force yourself into the lives of a person or people who don’t really want you there. These people aren’t your friends they are what we call “so-called friends.” They will hurt you in some way because they don’t really care. Their agenda is different from yours! They will smile in your place while stabbing you in the back.

It’s time to learn who you are and what you’re willing to accept and not accept (don’t waver, don’t be persuaded). Deal with why you open yourself up to these individuals. You’re lacking something you are trying to find by allowing people into your lives that don’t have the same intentions as you. You don’t need anyone in your life who doesn’t mean you any good. You certainly don’t need to buy a friend. You don’t need a friend who only know you for what you have to offer or how you can assist them.

It’s very important to note the fact that those so called friends are also individuals who have issues that has caused them to be the people they are. Regardless, don’t allow anyone to take advantage of you (no matter what). Accept the truth as it’s presented.

The greatest way to avoid these types of people is by first loving thyself. As I’ve written many times before, people only treat you how you allow; whether good or bad. Once you learn to love you, you will then know your worth and value. You will no longer entertain in your lives those who mean you no good.