I felt a great need to talk about anger today. I am seeing and hearing about horrible things people are doing out of anger. The reason most people continue to do the things they do is because they NEVER face the root of their issues. Anger is a learned behavior that creates hatred in people.
People think they go from 0 to 100 right away, but although one’s reaction seem so, people really don’t. Everyone has a moment to reflect, but most don’t take it. They go off instead. People like to blame the next person for the decisions they make to react negatively in situations.
It’s not the next person’s fault as to how you act it is your own fault. If people would take a few minutes to think before they react they wouldn’t be in the predicaments many find themselves. The root of anger lies within and as mentioned earlier in this post, it is a learned behavior.
The biggest problem is, many do not face whatever it is causing this anger. Instead, people act or re-act without taking the time to think. They live their lives pushing away those who love them and most don’t like who they are as individuals. People become angry due to things they’ve experienced ( all types of abuse and mistreatment, neglect, abandonment, lack of attention, lack of nurturing, bad surroundings, etc. etc).
As children many have seen anger in their parents (parents are angry for whatever reason) or whoever brought them up. Behaviors are learned and although children learn a lot from people outside of their home, much starts early in life and in the home. As children many are raised in chaotic homes/environments. When children don’t know how to deal with negativity it all goes inward. It messes them up and they carry this into their adulthoods. They carry the anger inside (suppressing it) causing problems throughout their lives. They become adults who don’t know how to handle this anger.
I’m praying people learn to deal with their issues by facing what has gotten them to the point they’re at. No one can do this by constantly being self destructive. This behavior not only ruins their lives it causes destruction in the lives of those around them. Many of these people are in jail or dead. They weren’t able to deal with their anger and because of it they end up doing things they couldn’t undo. Others are unhappy and instead of trying to deal with their issues they continue on the war path while living in misery.
It’s unfortunate, but many have killed themselves as well as others. I keep telling people “we only have one life to live here on earth.” No status or amount of money will change that fact. It’s terrible that people live their lives being angry when they can choose to change by facing their ways of thinking.
People are trapped by their ways of thinking. How we think about things is what influences our behaviors. People have allowed their thoughts and feelings of their pasts and other situations they’ve experienced to keep them in bad states of mind. They lose focus over their situations because there’s no control over their anger.
To change takes a person’s willingness to change. It takes the belief you can change. Unfortunately many make a million and one reasons for not changing. Look around at the destruction left behind by people who can’t control their anger. They do unthinkable things out of their uncontrollable anger. They are full of hatred. Anger leads to hatred and rage when it’s allowed to build up and is carried within year after year. If a person don’t deal with it they continue to live their lives in unhealthy ways.
I pray that those with anger issues stop acting out prematurely and learn how to deal with their issues. If they do it will change their lives for the better. You deserve peace!!
Sugarfreeden 