Depression and Suicide


There are many people in the world who are suffering in silence for whatever reason. Depression is very real, people become depressed for many reasons, but depression doesn’t always lead to suicide.

You never know what the next person is feeling. You never know if your words would be “the straw to break the camel’s back.” It’s important to be kind to people. The problem with this is there are a lot of hurt people who hurt others. When you have a lot of issues inside you have the tendency to lash out at people. Your words are hurtful to those who are already hurting.

One big reason a person becomes depressed is because of their environments. When raised by someone who’s depressive in nature the behaviors of the depressed person is picked up and mimicked by children. They end up acting depressed, because it’s all they’ve known. I’ve seen it personally through people I’ve counseled.

People become depressed for many reasons to include past and present issues. When people don’t deal with past issues they can’t heal from those past issues. They carry past issues into their present compiling new issues on top of their unresolved issues. This can lead to overload and breakdown.

When a person feels overwhelmed its hard to function properly. Giving others the power to hurt you or dictate how you feel (happy, sad, mad, etc), means you’re led by how someone else acts. Not dealing with your own inner issues keeps you in a bad mental state, making you more susceptible to being influenced by others. This is why some people can’t handle breakups, their children, their relationship issues, issues on the jobs, maintain pedal stools they’ve allowed people to put them on, losses, rejection, and the list goes on. They don’t develop good coping skills.

Some people don’t want to tell anyone how they feel or want to seek help. The bottled up pain leads to a breakdown or a point of no return. There’s no weakness in seeking help. You can’t become better if you’re stuck in unhealthy mindsets. Some overwhelmed people contemplate suicide. They have fleeting thoughts, attempt, or complete suicide. A person with a made up mind will plan it out and do it. There’s nothing you can do to stop a person with a made up mind, because you probably won’t know.

Life always have ups and downs. Many people have unresolved issues of their pasts and present. New issues only intensify old ones. No one has to go at it alone. You’re not alone! You may feel alone, but there’s always many people who feel like you. Talk to someone, seek help! If nothing else call the suicide hotline 800-273-8255. Never fool yourself into thinking no one cares, or you’re a bother if you to talk to someone. Seek help, never let pride get in the way. Troubles come and they go! Inner issues remain until you deal with them, but life will always happen to us all. If you constantly think negative you will feel and act it.

Learning to love yourself will empower you to never give power to the past, present, to anyone, or anything. Many people allow everyone and everything to hurt them. Loving yourself puts you in a different mindset. It takes growth, but if you choose you can become stronger and better mentally. How we think affects everything, to include how we feel and act!. Your life is worth living. Please seek help! If you know of anyone who needs help please speak up! Talk to them or seek help to make sure they get help!

Lifelong Demons, Lifelong Problems


It’s long, but please read it. People think when reading this title I’m talking about demons with horns and all of that. Well for some people they may have actual demons if you believe in that type of supernatural. The Bible does speak of it. I am talking about the many unresolved issues most people aren’t dealing with. They too are demons people hold within, which affects all areas in their lives.

I am clearly seeing how people are hurting. I am sure many of you can see it as well through the actions, choices and decisions of people. There is so much going on in the world today. There are many people who simply don’t know how to cope. I can only tell you what I know to be true.

Many people go about life never taking the time to look within self and deal with all of what’s causing them dysfunction in life. They don’t take the time to figure out why they can’t love self, but without fail seek it in others. They don’t take the time to figure out why they keep holding on to past hurts. They don’t take the time to deal with what’s caused them to make poor/bad choices and decisions. They don’t take the time to figure out why they allow fear to keep them stagnant. They don’t take the time to figure out why they sabotage their lives. They don’t take the time to figure out why they allow and accept terrible things in their lives. They don’t take the time to figure out why they can’t control their children. They don’t take the time to figure out why they have allowed themselves to be controlled by substances, food, sex, money, fame, fortune, people, etc. I can go on and on, but I hope you get what I am writing about. All of your own problems compiled with those life has thrown at you and the issues of other people is an eruption waiting to happen. Especially when you haven’t mastered dealing with self.

People go about their lives getting involved in unhealthy relationships and not understanding why they are unhealthy. They relationship hop, they get into relationships while already in relationships, and many go into relationships while still having deep feelings for their ex’s. It all causes drama, stress, and unnecessary problems. People try extremely hard to make it work with others when they can’t even deal with self. They seek love from others when they don’t love self. You will never be able to work through another person’s problems until you can work through your own. The sad part is people continue to try. It’s because they are moving off of how they think and feel. They want what they want regardless of what they’re getting. This should tell a person something, but unfortunately it doesn’t. People feel a certain way, because they think a certain way and until people ways of thinking change they will continue to make bad choices and decisions. Oftentimes mindsets become even worse.

I wrote all of the above to say this. We are seeing how people think by the choices and decisions they make. We see it by what they are doing. We see it by what they’re allowing into their lives, etc. People are falling apart during all of the crises going on, because they can’t deal with who THEY are as an individual. Many people don’t want to face this truth and it’s why many are stuck in life. It doesn’t matter the status, title, etc. Many people have unresolved issues which due to how they think are stuck in mental states which affects their ability to function. This inability affects every facet of a person’s life.

Look at what is happening with the pandemic. People would rather risk their lives to go to beaches, have parties and other big gatherings than do the right thing for self and their loved ones. Their mindsets are in places that keeps them seeking after self gratification. What they want and desire is more important than the reality of the pandemic. Many people think it won’t happen to them, because it haven’t happened to them yet. That way of thinking can be deadly for them and others around then. It all comes from those demons I mentioned earlier. Those unresolved issues coming from a dark place within. Many people don’t think rationally. You can’t when your ways of thinking are wrong.

This is why we’ve heard of the many suicides. Despite what you may think, no one wakes up wanting to commit suicide. That isn’t how it is. The pandemic hasn’t caused ANYONE to commit suicide. Those who have committed suicide done so because of the dark places within. They have had unresolved issues over a period of time that has lead them to attempt or commit the act. They’ve undoubtedly had a history of unhappiness and depression. The pandemic had us locked down for awhile, social distancing, etc and many people were losing it. It’s unfortunate, but true. When you can’t deal with you while alone, it’s highly likely you can’t deal with you while with anyone else. A person can be around a group of people and still be alone. It has proven to be true.

There is so much I can write about in this post. However, the last topic I want to hit on is the hatred we’ve seen displaced. The Black Lives Matter movement is going on and some people aren’t getting it. They think Black people are saying all lives don’t matter when it’s furthest from the truth. They are saying all lives DON’T matter if Black lives don’t matter. Racist people are within their own races, but I’m talking about White on Black hate. It’s a learned behavior (LEARNED). It too comes from demons within. Those unresolved issues due to the negative mindsets. If you don’t like or hate people due to the color of their skin something is wrong within, period! Until people deal with their demons and mindsets lives will NOT change.

People walk around faking, lying, pretending, and you name it. They act as if they’re okay when they are not. They act as if they have it together when they do not. Some are acting as if they’re not racist when they are. Many act as if they know about love when clearly they don’t (you can’t if you can’t love yourself). What you say and how you feel can be totally different. What you say and what you do can be totally different. All of the mixed singling comes from within. It comes from what I call the core, which is what is within and where the demons lie. Unresolved issues will always without fail come to the surface!

Most people spend a lifetime pointing the figure when they should be looking at self. It ALL starts with you; how you think fuels your feelings, and actions. It’s up to you, the individual to implement change! EVERYTHING comes from how we think, therefore your mindset is very important!

Raise Your Hand If You Can Say Yes


I pray people get some understanding from this post. Please read it even if you have to read a little here and there until you read it all. I keep hearing some people take offense to the BlackLivesMatter movement. Let me be clear about something! Stop being ignorant, these people who are protesting knows all lives matter. Come on! AllLivesMatter without a doubt! The movement isn’t about wanting to be superior or racist, it’s about bringing attention to a lifelong fight of racism and inequality against the Black race! Black people would be worst than any racist if they didn’t think all lives mattered. For people who misconstrue what is meant by the movement it would be laughable if it weren’t so sad! Use common sense please!

I’ve also heard some people say they can’t support it because some gay people initiated it. That is downright ridiculous. You’ve missed the whole point of the movement? I’m flabbergasted at people’s ways of thinking. To support the meaning of the cause doesn’t mean you’re supporting their sexual preference. Sometimes people are too ignorant in their ways of thinking. Use common sense please!

I’ve heard people talk about Blacks killing Blacks as if Whites don’t kill Whites. I agree Blacks need to stop killing Blacks. I believe the Black race should protest about it with just as much energy that’s use in the BlackLivesMatter Movement. However, that’s different than what the current movement is about. The movement is fighting against racism and inequality. It’s about police brutality, equal justice etc.

Lastly yes there’s been rioting and looting. However, all eyes and blame are always on Black people when Blacks in many cases aren’t the ones who started the rioting or looting. People don’t want to face this truth. Another truth people fail to face is the terms thugs, savages, bullies are always used against Blacks when racist people to include some police officers are the ones who act like thugs, savages, and bullies. Same type of behaviors were displayed against Blacks during slavery (when Whites looted, rioted, murdered, raped, during and after slavery. They also destroyed Black businesses, communities, and stole their inventions after slavery was supposedly abolished, etc, and so forth).

Laws that weren’t meant to include the very people who help build America needs to change to include Black people, laws need to be put on the book to call hate crimes based on skin color a crime punishable under the law, the KKK needs to be labeled a terrorist group and therefore banned, equality should be across the board in all areas, racist people needs to be terminated from all positions, all racist names and antics needs to be banned, people who call the police on Blacks because they are Black for non emergency things should be held accountable and fined, etc

As I move forward with this post, I ask you to search your hearts and truly be honest and think about what I am asking. Then, please in the presence of yourself raise your hand if you can say yes! This post is for racist people who hate Blacks on the basis of their skin color.

Can you say you’re a descendant of slaves? Not all Black people can either, but you get my point!

Can you say your race of people constantly have to face discrimination, prejudices, racism, and inequalities?

Can your race of people say you get the same treatment as Blacks when it comes to the justice system?

Can you say your race of people are constantly called derogatory names such as Black, nigger, nigga, gigaboo, spook, colored, monkey, etc, because of your skin color?

Can you say your race of people are always being told to go back to Africa- a place the majority never been, just because their race of people at one point were slaves? Not all Blacks came from Africa.

Can you say your race of people at one point where slaves and to this day it’s always something to remind you of it?

Can you say regardless of the many races of people your race is the most targeted?

Can you say people think your race shouldn’t be in the United States because of their skin color, when they have every right to be here?

Can you say you’ve been denied certain opportunities because of your skin color (positions, pay, titles, access that others have, etc)?

Can you say your race has been fighting against racism and inequalities for more years than anyone alive is old?

Can you say when you’re in the store you’re followed around based on your skin color?

Can you say your race of people constantly get the police called in them for simply living their lives?

Can you say people assume you can’t afford something based on the color of your skin?

Can you say you’re profiled by the police due to your skin color?

Can you say police officers pull guns on you almost immediately when they see you?

Can you say your ancestors for many years were hung, beaten, ostracized, murdered, stripped of everything, forced into chains, raped, forced into unpaid labor (taking care of the families, raised their children, cooked for them, took care of their homes inside and out, tended their fields, etc, built homes, built the slave owner homes and businesses, etc), homes where burned, crosses were burned in their yards, graffiti, racial slurs, and symbols were spray painted on home then and now, everything they acquired was stolen, children were taken-murdered etc, families were ripped apart, etc?

Can you say your ancestors where sold as if they were commodity?

Can you say you have faced inequalities in schools to include colleges based on your skin color?

Can you say your race of people are the only race who no matter the so called research statistics shows your race is the worst in absolutely everything such as (health, deaths, in prisons, in poverty, health issues, on drugs, on welfare and other systems, etc)? This alone tells you something when out of all of the races the Black race is the worst every single time, something is wrong with that picture. It’s a form of continue oppression, degrade, and belittling.

Can you say your race of people are constantly scrutinized, discriminated against, stereotyped, etc?

Can you say you see more police brutality to your race than any other?

Can you say there are negative signs, symbols, and monuments all around to remind you of slavery and racism in some form or fashion?

Can you say people paint their faces to mock your race?

Can you say your race built a lot of America way back when, but a lot of history isn’t in the history books? Many people still don’t want to accept this very important and profound truth!

Can you say your race of people’s true history (other than slavery) were never put in the history books even though it existed and is a part of history?

Can you say when the laws were put into place hundreds of years ago your race wasn’t meant to be a part of it?

Can you say your race at one point and time were separated and segregated from others because of your skin color?

Can you say your race experience/ed years ago and today in some towns and establishments signs saying your race of people aren’t welcomed due to the color of their skin?

Can you say your race of people is more accepted during voting, sports, etc than any other time?

I can go on and on. Moral of the post is for people to understand what the movement is about. Some Black people don’t even understand. They think because they haven’t been called a derogatory named due to the color of the skin they haven’t faced discrimination and it’s very sad! This post is for people to understand why Black people are fighting for equality and against inequalities and racism faced all of the time in some form or another. It’s not to put Blacks on petal stools or any of that foolishness. It’s to raise awareness to what has taken place for more years than anyone alive is old. Some people are over 100 years old. So what does that tell you? I hope it tells you the Black race has been fighting the same fight for years. Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman, and many others fought. It doesn’t mean what they did wasn’t meaningful or powerful. They did some great things, but it didn’t stop racism.

Racism is learned and it’s ugly. It comes from a nasty cold heart. Racists people don’t really know what love is no matter what they think. They are embedded in every profession there is out there. It’s terrible! Racists people have negative ways of thinking and it keeps them stuck in the negativity. They make themselves modern slaves due to their own ways of thinking.

The only race God cares about is the Human Race and if He intended for ANY race to be superior He would have made them superior. He would have made a difference so profound it would be undeniable, but He didn’t!

Racist people don’t want to own up to the truth. Their ancestors came up on the backs and shoulders of the slaves. Why? Think about it, if the slaves didn’t exist how would the racist people and their families have made it? The slaves did absolutely everything for them. I heard a pastor name Giglio out of Atlanta said it shouldn’t be called “white privilege” it should be called a “white blessing” because basically of what I wrote in the beginning of this paragraph. I am glad he acknowledged that truth! However, it is never a blessing when you treat people so horrible and deplorable for your own survival. One thing about it is those slaves drew strength and power from all of those adversities and managed to rise despite it all!

I believe it should have been considered a “racist man’s lesson.” Unfortunately they didn’t learn it back then or now. The lesson was then and still is today, no matter what you do Black people will be here! When they tried to beat them down, kill them off, drag them down, oppress them, etc they still rose! Black people became everything the White man didn’t want them to become back then and today. They are powerful, resilient, strong, creative, intelligent, brilliant, and all of the other good things. Despite the tragedies they have always been loving and forgiving.

Negative people are in every race. All races have crimes on the same race, murderers, poverty, people on welfare and other systems, liars, cheaters, thugs, etc. It is not limited to Black people. It affects ALL races. No race is exempt from the good, bad, and ugly. The thing is just as they did back in slavery and today racists people are still racists without a clue as to why. I was NOT a slave, neither was anyone I know. You wasn’t a slave owner nor do you know anything about slavery other than it existed. Yet people want to be racists over a history they have no clue about. If racist people knew the real history it would break many of their hearts, because they think it was one way when it was the complete opposite. Black people are a huge monumental part of history going way beyond slavery. They rose above and beyond slavery. They put an imprint in history no one can take away.

Stop the unwarranted hate. Learn how to love yourself so that you can learn to love people of all races. There is no White man, there is no Black man. Those terms were used to represent what people thought of the White race and the Black race. White signifies power, pure, superior etc. Black signified by the White man as nasty, dirty, inferior. Both are disgraceful! There is no superior race and I don’t care what people think there isn’t a pure race. We all came from the same source, therefore we all got a little bit of other races in our individual DNA. There’s nothing you can do about it!

Learn how to love and accept your fellowman and fellow woman regardless of their skin color. No one asked to be born in the skin they’re in. Some White people want to be Black, some Blacks want to be White. The problem isn’t the skin color, the problem is the individual and their wrong ways of thinking. It’s a learned negative way of thinking, feeling, and acting. It’s very sad! If you can’t love the skin you’re in it means you don’t love yourself. You can’t ever find peace when you can’t love yourself or love others. Hatred is learned, but it can also be unlearned. It depends on you!

Why Do You Allow Stagnation


Most people in the entire world need to ask self this question. People spend all of their lives stopped, blocked, and stumped by their past experiences, situations, and events. People spend most of their lives seeking in others the things they should, but don’t possess in self. All it does is plunge people deeper into their own problems. It causes people to remain stuck where they are mentally. It doesn’t allow them the ability to move forward in life.

When people don’t want to change they won’t. No depths of loving them will change this, because a person has to want and accept change for self. Sadly, many don’t and won’t, because they are too busy being angry, hating, sad, depressed, and so forth. They are too busy trying to find love not knowing what it is, acceptance when they don’t accept self, validation when all they’ve done is validated the unhealthy things in their lives allowing it to keep them in terrible mindsets, and many other things. They are too busy trying to figure out others when they haven’t figured out self. They live most of their lives pointing the finger at someone else blaming them for what they’ve chosen for self. You, no one else chooses for your life. It is you who chooses how you think, feel, and act. People contribute, but the choice to stay on the same path as what was taught, learned, etc is always up to the individual.

People allow dysfunctional people to influence them and cause them the inability to grow. They get with other dysfunctional people and then comes the complete train wreck. What do people expect when they haven’t resolved their own issues, but they continue to get involved with others who haven’t resolved theirs as well? You’re going to get a train wreck!

Life can be tough, but our storms come to help us see how strong we can be and are. People fall apart because they didn’t have it together in the first place. No one or nothing makes you feel a certain way unless you choose the feeling and/or emotion. People blame others too much and they give others way too much power over their lives.

If you want things to change in your life, it is you and only you who have to make the change. You can continue to go around in circles living the same cycles or you can choose to remain the same. Unfortunately even though it’s always an option to change, many won’t choose it! It says a lot about about the mindset.

Look in the mirror! What you actually see is determined by what’s in your head and heart. It’s not up to significant others, friends, family, or other people. It’s up to you and you alone! This is the main reason people can’t spend time alone. They don’t like who they are and they feel this way, because it’s what they’ve learned to believe about self. This is why some people find it difficult to deal with their children, because they are reflections of the parents and their dysfunctional ways. If you don’t choose change the dysfunction spreads.

If you’re still allowing all types of things (people and things) to affect your life, it alters what you see. Many people hate themselves, because of what they believe about self. People don’t give themselves the chances they deserve to be happy and better. Most have bought into what others have said about them. They’ve bought into the belief they don’t deserve better. If you don’t believe what I’m saying is true take a sit down right now and honestly assess your life. Where are you at this moment (happy, sad, depressed, abusive relationships, disrespected in your relationships, can’t manage your children, addicted to substances, no ambition-goals, money hungry, constantly seeking self gratification, suicidal, etc)? Whatever you feel has been YOUR choice and yours along. Whatever you continue to go through has been your choice.

Choosing to remain the same gives you NO wiggle room. If leaves you immobile. You want to know how to know this is true? Simply assess to see if you’re doing the same things you were last year, the year before, etc. If you’re still thinking the same, then you’re feeling and acting the same as well. Only you
can choose change.

I’m not trying to make you feel any worse about yourselves. I’m trying to give you a reason to look at your lives! You deserve better, but despite this fact many people still choose to remain the same. Changing is all up to you, the individual. You have to realize the need, accept it, and make a decision to change. Life is how you perceive and receive it! It’s what you make of it regardless if it’s of your doing or because of a curve ball thrown at you! Change how you think it changes everything about you and your lives!

Truth of Who You Are is Always Shown


People live most of their lives trying to pretend, fake, disguise, please, appease, and live for others. It doesn’t matter how much you give, how much you love, or anything else; how you allow people to treat you is on you! People have the tendency to blame others for how they are treated. Truth is what you accept and allow from others teaches them how to treat you. You signed off with your stamp of approval by your acceptance and allowance of negative and bad attitudes and behaviors.

The reason I wrote what I did above is because it’s an opener to what this post is about. Most people parade around acting as if all is well when it isn’t and as I’ve always stated the truth is forever shown in what people let others do to them and what people do to themselves. Choosing to stay the same means you’re choosing to remain stuck mentally. You can maneuver and progress through life, but it doesn’t mean you’ve matured mentally gaining a more stable and healthy state of mind.

Most people seek many things not knowing what they need. They accept anything and everything in order to receive love, friendship, security, success, acceptance, validation, etc. The main thing most people seek is love. It’s sought after in the wrong ways and with the wrong people. People who do this are individuals who obviously have unresolved issues. If they didn’t the last thing a person would do to self is seek love from undeserving and wrong individuals. Yet, many people do! They get into unhealthy relationships and many go through hell and high water to stay in them without caring how bad they are until it’s unbearable.

People are not only this way in their relationships, they are this way in all aspects of their lives, because dysfunction begat dysfunction. I don’t care how together people appear to be most are far from it. People can’t become better, because they are used to their dysfunction even though it’s causing drama in their lives. They are led by what they want, desire, feel, and see. This is the thought processes of immature people.

Plain truth is until people mature mentally they will not grow in the way they are meant to grow. Although people are getting older, they aren’t maturing, because they can’t. You can’t mature until you’ve dealt with things causing you stagnation. People are stuck in their wrong ways of thinking. No one can progress forward by being this way. Many people become successful and things of that nature, but it doesn’t mean they are mature. Many people are still riddled with dysfunction causing them to make bad choices and decisions in their lives. Unresolved issues follow you, because you’re the only person you can’t get away from. It doesn’t matter where you go, what you do, who you become, or who you are with. Dysfunction will always come to the surface, because it lies beneath the surface unresolved.

We look at the things some people do and we are surprised or shocked. All individuals know what their tendencies are. You may not know, but each individual does. Every day people live their lives pretending, faking, and disguising the truth. Yet, no matter what they do, the truth somehow always presents itself through the choices and decisions people make.

What you are truly about shows in the choices and decisions you make. I don’t care what people say or how they look, the truth is always shown. Most people don’t understand this reality.

Think about it. If you truly loved you then it means you have learned to by getting pass past and present issues that may have caused you negative ways of thinking about yourself and other people, which often led to dysfunction. Unfortunately many people haven’t yet reached this level in life, because they make everything and everyone more important than self. They want what they want no matter what or who. They are comfortable and complacent! These people are from all walks of life. When a person has reached this level the things they accept and allow are different from what they once accepted and allowed in their lives. Choices and decisions become different, because they come from more mature and wise individuals who no longer see the way they’ve once seen. As I’ve always stated; change the way you think, it changes your life!

Poisoned Mind


In life we all know things are thrown at us which are out of our control. However, even then it’s up to us how we choose to handle those things. Many people handle them badly because of where they are mentally. Other than those unexpected things that happens to us all. People willfully pick their poison. Instead of it killing them physically, it kills their souls and prevents them from choosing to become better. It keeps them in bondage and slaves to their ways of thinking. This poison is harmful to them mind, body, and soul. Most continue to drink it up!

I’ve described it in a metaphoric way, but it is still the truth! If people only understood how they cause their own dysfunction and if they made decisions to change lives could be much better. The blame is always put on everyone else. People don’t want to take ownership and responsibility of the behaviors they’ve chosen. Lives are destroyed, sabotaged, ruined, full of blame, anger, hurt, and pain. That’s just a few of the many things I could list. This is the main reason millions find/found it difficult to stay home during this pandemic. This is why many can’t deal with their own children or significant others. It’s all about what’s stewing inside. This stew isn’t nourishing for the body it’s damaging! People embrace this slave mentality for a lifetime. It’s total poison.

It’s heartbreaking to see how people give everything to try an please or appease others. They seek love in others, but not self. They do any and everthing in the name of their perceptions of love. They work hard trying to make sure others are happy, while they are hurting inside. All of us are affected by something or another. The difference is how we allow things to hinder our lives. The majority don’t handle things well. Most people don’t cope in a healthy manner. People get comfortable in their ways of living due to their ways of thinking. Regardless of how stuck most people are they don’t think they need to change. They live each day, week, month, and year thinking, feeling, and acting the same way. This is being complacent and comfortable. When a person is this way they can’t see the truth of what they are willfully doing to self. Instead they blame and/or complain, but they don’t try changing. Anyone can become better if better is what they choose. It’s up to the individual.

Although spiritually our lives are not our own. In the natural how we choose to live is what we choose. People drastically fail self each day they live when they never chose the option to become better. The option is always there. Instead most people are on autopilot. They go about life thinking, feeling, and acting the same. Despite the dysfunction the headache, heartache, and pain; most people do not and will not choose change. Going through this pandemic has most definitely shown this is true. People don’t value their lives all they want is their outlets and they’ve proven it’s not being home. If you don’t know how to accept and love yourself you can’t be happy anywhere. When people had to face self while in isolation (whether alone or with family) most couldn’t deal with it, because they had too many overwhelming issues that are unresolved. If people don’t deal with their issues, they will always pool out. The depth of dysfunction is always shown in the choices and decisions people make.

As humans we have the free will to change anything in our lives, but the sad truth is most won’t. Most people are too busy worrying about other people (loving someone, wanting to be someone else or be like them, concerned with what others have, worshipping others, being a part of other’s lives, etc). Yet, they are never concerned enough about self triggering a need to deal with what ails them and cause them to live dysfunctional lives. This is very sad! Most don’t possess a healthy balance between selfishness and selflessness. They allow other people and things to control them or they are people who are trying to control others and things. There will never be a healthy balance until people learn who they are and learn to love self. This is an absolute must in
all of our lives! Love yourself enough to let go of the dysfunction! You deserve better!

When you learn to love self, you grow and mature! Once this happens everything else falls into place, because scales falls off of the blind eyes. People will no longer seek to have their ears tickled with those words sweet like a honeycomb. The lack of validation, acceptance, or support is no longer crippling. They will see the truth for what it is no matter the truth! This is a level many will never reach. Sad, but unfortunately it’s true! Many are their own worst enemy and are in their own way. It will never change until individuals choose change for self! People have embraced their slavery mentalities because it’s the poison they’ve chosen. If you live to see another day, it’s never too late to change! A new day is always a new chance! As always the only person stopping or blocking you is you. Not the past, not those who’ve hurt you (past or present), you and only you is stopping and blocking you! Get out of your way!

The Affects of the Invisible Monster Inside


The invisible monster lies within, but it always comes out to cause chaos in the lives of millions. Until people deal with what causes them dysfunction lives will remain the same. Many people live life unhappy, because they are doing what others want them to do, being controlled by others, believing they are what others say they are, defined by their pasts, fearful, and many other things. Most people are mentally incapacitated, because of being trapped and held in captivity by their own states of mind. People are not aware of the power they willfully give to others.

The lives of many people could be different and would be different if they understood what they are doing to sabotage their own ability to grow. We all only get one life to live. Sadly many people willfully choose to stay where they are mentally, because it’s what they’ve become accustomed to. They’ve settled into their modes of being comfortable. They don’t seek to become better despite of the constant troubles they face and the repeated cycles they live.

People are filled with hatred, anger, bitterness, pain, sorrow, hurt, pain, anxiety, depression, unhappiness, sadness, and many other negative things. It is because it’s what people have embraced for many reasons. None is beneficial. The lives of most people could be much better if people would choose to change.

The way we think holds us down and back from being able to move forward. People give way too much power to other people to dictate their lives. They look to others for love, happiness, security, validation, support, recognition, and many other things. With this type of mindset it causes people to end up being used, abused, mistreated, disrespected, taken for granted and many other things.

Everything about us as individuals is determined by whether we love self. If we don’t it greatly affects how we think, feel, and behave. This comes from the invisible monster which fuels thoughts, feelings, and actions. The problem is many people think they love self, but in reality they don’t. The great test of knowing is by looking at what you allow and accept in your life. A person who really loves self is careful about what they allow and what they accept in life. They don’t allow others to rule or control their lives. They don’t give their power away and if people aren’t to them what they think they should be, they will not fall apart. They don’t allow the dysfunction of others to disrupt their lives. They see beyond their eyes, because most of what is seen is a lie.

Too many people haven’t healed from their issues and because of it find themselves in terrible relationships and bad situations. Wrong ways of thinking get you in wrong situations with the wrong people. People make bad choices and decisions because of their wrong ways of thinking. People subject themselves to things they shouldn’t. They are blind to the truth. Most people are led by their feelings, only seeing what they want and desire. They allow their eyes to get them into trouble. They can’t see past their feelings.

Life is what we make it. No matter the troubles life brings we can get through anything if we have the right mindset. Settling for dysfunction shouldn’t be an option for anyone. Staying in negative mindsets should never be an option. Not knowing your value shouldn’t ever be an option. Anyone who chooses can mature and grow into individuals with positive ways of thinking and better lives. It’s all about choices. If you don’t seek to become better you won’t! Ask yourself this question and answer honestly. How many people do you know who haven’t ever changed? They are still complaining about the same things yet are not trying to change. Instead they continue to settle and go through the same types of things. How many people you know who are still acting the same way? While asking this question don’t leave yourself out, because many of you are in this category with people you know.

Change starts with no one on this earth other than you! If you never choose to become better you won’t be better! If you don’t choose to see beyond your feelings, you’ll continue to seek out the same things and getting the same results in return. If you can’t learn to love yourself, you will always be unhappy because dysfunction will follow you all the days of your life! Defeat the monster don’t let it defeat you! Change starts with you!



What if they would make a law saying if you got sick, but haven’t been wearing a mask, you get no treatment? If they did this many people would be in an uproar, because if gravely sick you will get into the mindset of wanting to live. However, many people aren’t valuing their lives at such a crucial time. Many people are out and about as if there is no virus out there that could kill you. People are making getting out, hanging out, and doing stuff more important than the value of their own lives.

I’ve talked and written about the mindset forever. The reason I keep doing so is because it’s evident people are not getting it. If you don’t value your own life, then there’s not much else you will have the sense enough to value. Nothing is more valuable than your life, because you only get one to live! Many people think it won’t happen to them. For all you know you could be walking around with it. Just because you don’t have symptoms doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have it. At least have the sense to wear a mask to help protect other people. I’ve been completely appalled by what I’ve seen people do. States have lifted restrictions and people are acting as if there is nothing happening. They are acting as if the Coronal Virus is gone. It is not! It’s a sad shame!

People are running here and running there. They can’t stay home, because they don’t like having to deal with self up close and personal. They don’t like dealing with the children they can’t control or deal with their significant others. It all points back to self. If you can’t control your children, it’s not them it’s you, because they ONLY do what you allow. The same goes for your significant others. People only do to you what you allow. Many people are showing just how much they can’t deal with themselves.

I’ve mentioned on my podcast how the Corona Virus has changed many lives, but in the process many people haven’t changed; which is VERY profound. People have come out of their locking down in place the exact same ways they went in; selfish and dysfunctional. Some people are not trying to change in any way and they will go back to doing the exact same things they have always done. If this worldwide experience haven’t changed you, what will it take?

People are more concerned with running out to the stores to buy stuff, but if you get this virus and it kills you, all of the stuff you thought was worth risking your health/life to get will be left behind. It’s sad the priorities people have on things and other people, but no priority on their own lives! Although life is very delicate and precious people aren’t acting as if they value their lives at all.

If you can’t deal with yourself then no wonder you can’t enjoy being alone or enjoy being in the presence of your families. People want out and as soon as things were lifted in many places people ran out like animals. It’s crazy the things I’m seeing. It ONLY hits home when it hits home! It’s a risk many are obviously willing to take.

When You Can’t See Your Own Issues


There are people who can see the fault in everyone other than self. When you can’t see you have issues you need to deal with it blinds you to the truth. Thinking or pretending you have it together when you don’t keeps people stuck in negative mindsets. Sometimes people are truly blind to the fact they have issues and no matter what you say to them they won’t believe you. They always feel you’re jealous, envious, a hater, etc. They always blame others.

This too is a reason many people are their own worst enemy and in their own way. They refuse to deal with self. They go through life with all of their problems in which many people project their inabilities to cope onto their significant others, family, friends, and other people. The truth of who they are always shows in their bad choices and decisions.

One reason many people get into unhealthy relationships is because they are unhealthy individual’s who most times will get into relationships with unhealthy people. When they do it all becomes a mess. There are many people who try their best to find what’s lacking in self in their significant others such as love, happiness, security, confidence, etc. Oftentimes they end up powerless and lost. They give their power away to significant others, because they think it’s the way they are supposed to love. Sadly before they realize or accept the fact it isn’t, they are in very unhealthy situations.

The reason many people can’t deal with their children and their significant others is because of self. The truth is always coming to the surface and manifest in unhealthy ways. I’ve always said if you want to know the real truth about yourself sit back and take note of how you act or react. Take note of what you allow or accept. Take note of what you do in the name of love. Take note of who you spend your time around and what you entertain in your lives. I could keep going, but I hope you get it.

The mindset is EVERYTHING! Many people walk around smiling, but in reality they are crying inside. This will never ever help a person to become a better individual with a positive way of thinking, feeling, and acting. It keeps people in negative states of mind.

In order for any of us to mature and grow into strong individuals we have to directly face and deal with what is causing dysfunction in our lives. Dysfunction presents itself in a person’s life long before significant others and children are present. The problem is when dysfunction isn’t dealt with it causes more dysfunction in the lives of all involved. It affects your ability to be a good significant other, family member, friend, parent, and other positions you may hold.

We all have flaws and short comings. The difference is owning up to them and working on those things causing dysfunction. Many people refuse to, therefore they are continually led by their feelings, wants, and desire, which lands them into many treacherous situations and relationships. This will never change until people face the man or woman in the mirror. It all starts with taking ownership and responsibility of who we’ve become. It means making adjustments and changes in order to become the best you can be. Dealing with self is the only way you will ever be able to affectively deal with anyone else. No one can make you better other than yourself! It starts with you! Many people go a lifetime thinking, feeling, and acting the same way despite the many problems it causes. Change the way you think it changes everything!

The Truth Shows by What You Allow and Accept


Believe it or not, the truth about your mental state shows in what you allow and accept in your lives. Most people don’t get the realization or profoundness of this statement! No matter how people try to hide the truth, pretend all is well, or how they fake, the truth shows in what people allow and accept in their lives. Most people do not understand they are their own worst problem, enemy, etc and in their own way!

As individual’s we teach others how to treat us. If you take crap it is what you will be given. Never accept from anyone something you don’t give! If you do it is showing you something about yourself. It is very ridiculous to get into a relationship taking all kinds of crap from someone when you don’t give all kinds of crap. A lot of people do it. They get into relationships and allow themselves to be mistreated, disrespected, beaten, abused in other forms, taken for granted, used, cheated on, and a plethora of other things in the name of what they think is love. Unhealthy love love is not love. It is simply an unhealthy relationship people shouldn’t allow themselves to be in.

The reason people do this is they are seeking things in others they don’t possess in self such as love, validation, security, happiness, and a host of other things. They do this because they have unresolved issues causing negative ways of thinking. No one can heal if they aren’t facing and dealing with their issues. Too many people act as if they don’t have any issues. You can’t heal by acting no issues exist.

On top of individual’s own problems they take on the problems of other people. They do this because they think it’s the proper way to love. They try to figure out their significant other’s when they can’t even figure out self. They spend so much time taking all kinds of unnecessary things and the shenanigans of others. They think in loving someone they should take crap. Not true! Many people lose themselves in trying to love their significant others. If a person is truly mature and have learned to love self they would never allow or accept the crap from others such as mistreatment, disrespect, abuse, etc from their significant others or anyone else.

People are more focused on loving their significant others than learning to love self. Many people are hurt mostly by those who claim to love them. It’s because many of your significant others haven’t dealt with what causes them dysfunction as well. It’s true hurt people hurt people. Whatever you allow is what you will get.

Most people are led by their negative ways of thinking, which directly impacts how they feel and act. It all comes from the negative cores which lies within. People hold in invisible things which affects them in visible ways. Until people deal with self their lives will always be affected. Due to dysfunction many people will continue to make bad choices and decisions.

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