I hope everyone is doing well. Before I go any further this title has nothing to do with gender, sexual preference, etc. In life most people worry about what they’re going to eat, how they look, what people are saying about them, looking like others, keeping up with the Jones’s, what people are doing, being in clicks, going along to get along, brown nosing to get what they want, not liking others because of what people says, trying to fix-save-change others, I can go on and on with this list. The bottom line is it all adds up to an accepted and embraced identity trap many people willfully fall into.
It leads most to identity traps because people get wrapped up and invested in others, but they neglect self. People chase and fall in love with individuals they choose to make their god’s and place above self. They oftentimes begin to worship these people. They empower and enable other people to misuse, disrespect, abuse, and hurt them in many ways. The more power you give to anyone or to anything the more control they or it has over how you think, feel, and act. In life people simply invest more into others than into self. It causes people to be easily persuaded, manipulated, oppressed and brainwashed without realizing this reality.
The reason it becomes an identity trap is people slip deeper into avoidance of self. It didn’t start with dealing with others and making others more important and priority. It began by neglecting self and the unwillingness to deal with debilitating inner issues. People fall into the trap by ignoring what ails them. They fall into the trap when they fail to deal with the issues that caused them the mindsets they have. They fall into the trap when they pretend all is well knowing it isn’t! Instead many people blame others for how they have chosen to become. This keeps individuals where they’ve always been mentally, stuck! People go through life with their many problems leading to dysfunctional ways of living. They begin to make others more important than self. They begin to seek out other people to to find what they lack in self. They seek out others to make them feel happy, loved, and validated. This only leads to more problems causing further unhappiness in the lives of many. You will never get from someone else what you truly deserve because you don’t understand your own worth. The constant chase is draining and will always affect your life in unhealthy ways, because people compile their issues with those of others. It intensifies the power you give to thoughts, which always affects how you feel and act. This negativity is what many carry around keeping them in their personal identity traps.
When people don’t move on in life they remain the same. They fall into identity traps because they never find self. Individuals never learn about who they are, because they don’t make self matter. Therefore they further disconnect with self as the world and the people around them become priority and more important. Lives unravel and people find themselves in unhealthy relationships, bad situations, feeling sad, feeling depressed, unhappy, stressed, suicidal, homicidal, unable to be alone for any given time, etc. People neglect self. They try to run from self when it’s impossible! It’s the identity trap many have fallen into! People are more concerned with others than with self growth. This is why people get older, but they aren’t maturing or becoming the best they can be. Instead they settle with who they’ve always been. Many people accomplish things in life, but they never accomplish the most important tasks of self discovery, self love, happiness, maturity, and growth being the best they can be for self. They choose to continue dysfunctional lives full of drama and chaos. People live the same cycles, because they refuse to get off the wheel. They fall into the identity trap and there they remain.
Why I chose to call it an identity trap is people willfully form this self made prison created by self rejection, their mindsets, and their own ways of thinking. It’s like being in a bubble. Although people move around freely realistically they’re stuck, because they haven’t dealt with their inner issues. This prevents people from finding self, loving self, forgiving, and knowing who they are. This trap keeps people bitter, angry, loathing self, mad at the world, and you name it! It is the main reason for the many bad choices and decisions people make in life. Most people will pretend to be either more or less than who they really are. If a person doesn’t choose to become the best they can be; nothing else should be more urgent or priority!