To Love Him Is To Live For Him


Point blank and the bottom line! People are full excuses and they are quickly offended at the truth! Although many proclaim Him, they are offended at the Word of God. Lies!!! There is no way a person who say they love the Lord and are truly about His business will be offended at the Word. People are falling away left and right, because they never had any roots. They are about lip service, but no service to Jesus.

How can a person who profess Christ in their life always defend someone who willfully go against the Word of God. This type of person is fooling his or herself. No way it should be happening. People who are always at the defense of those who are doing things clearly against the Word of God are NOT on the side of Jesus.

People have the right to do what they want to do. However, when you try to convince me it’s right when I know it’s against the Word of God, you’re wrong! I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, debate, or judge; I’m only standing for what is right and for the Word of God! Those who are offended need to check self, because you’re not serving who you say you are. If you’re agreeing with something against God’s Word, then you’re against God, period!

Many folks want to claim Him, but live any kind of way. They want to claim Him, yet follow up behind things that are against God. They are ONLY damning and fooling self! You can NOT say you love Him, yet go against Him. Well you can say it, but you would be lying if you’re defending wrong! To love Him is to live for Him. There’s no other way. It’s either this OR that! Those are the ONLY two options. It’s your choice!

I don’t care who you are or anything else, if what you do is against Jesus the Son it’s against God the Father. You can’t bypass Jesus, because through Him is the ONLY way to the Father. Yes, people have the right to live how they choose. To stand on the Word of God isn’t condemning or judging, it’s faithfully and firmly standing on the truth of God’s Word.

Individuals are VERY quick to say you’re judging and no one’s perfect. Excuses, excuses, excuses, which gets you nowhere! You can’t grow if you keep making excuses to remain where you are. You can’t be Team Jesus if you’re “professing Him with your lips, but hearts are far from Him.” It’s NOT possible. People are doing it, but the reality of it is even if you gained the whole world you STILL lose!

People must STOP being wishy washy and doubled minded. People must stand on God’s Word if you love Him, no matter what or who! A lot of people say what they think others want to hear (tickling the ears). No, if you’re a true believer than you should be upholding the Word of God and NOT going along to get along. That will get you nowhere, but in hell!


Red Flags of a Catfish Scheme


I know people are looking for love where they can. That is partly the problem, people are looking for love in all of the wrong ways, with all of the wrong people, and in all of the wrong places.

I realize online dating works for many people, but you MUST use common sense when online dating. People truly show you who they are whether it’s behind a computer screen or face to face. The main reason people miss the signs and cues is because they are allowing their hearts to lead. They are being led by feelings and emotions. They look past all of the imminent signs present, because of what they are feeling. They are consumed by what they perceive is love and it’s all they see.

Online dating isn’t the problem. The problem is the people who are partaking in the online dating. If you are led by what you’re feeling, you’re being led by the flesh. This means you’re led by your feelings, emotions, desires, and wants. If you thought about what you truly needed you would think twice about your situation.

No matter how many people have lost their lives or been affected in some way through online dating, people still are doing it. I’m not saying online dating is all together bad. It works for some people. What I’m saying is use common sense and caution. If you go in with your eyes wide shut, you will be consumed by your feelings and emotions. You will have to deal with the consequences!

Anybody who has been dating a person for months and years without ever seeing the individual this is a red flag! If every time you want to meet up with them, skype, Face Time, Facebook messenger, or see them in some way in person and they’re always unavailable, this is a red flag. There are many ways to see a person through different apps if not in person. If you decide to meet up and they don’t want to in a public area, this is red flag. Never invite someone to your home nor give them the address.

If you’re having to send them money, this is a red flag. A lot of scammers ask you for money right away. They always claims deaths or accidents. I don’t care what excuse they give, you should have common sense not to send a stranger money. It’s a scam. They know you’re vulnerable and they are playing on your emotions. They know, because many of you tell your life history and all they’re doing is building a solid case to deceive you with the ammunition you freely provided to him or her.

If you google their name and someone else pops up, this is a red flag. If you’re going to use social media online dating, there are many ways to see if you’re dealing with who you think you are. You have to put in the time to research. You can google images, accounts, and other things to see if something fishy is going on.

If you never get to talk to them it’s a red flag. Sometimes it could be an indication it’s someone you know or they simply don’t want you hear their voice for some reason. Sometimes people are foreigners and they know you will hear the accent.

If they are telling you they love you and whispering all the sweet nothings to you right away, this is a red flag. They are telling you what they know you want to hear. They are giving you exactly what you told them you wanted. They give back to you in a very deceitful way what you freely provided to them. They use it against you to manipulate you into believing they really care for you to get out of you what they want.

If they want information from you about personal things, yet never provide you with any, this is a red flag. They are fishing to find out as much about you as they can to play their game right.

I’ve always said and written, when an individual love his or herself, they will be very careful who they allow into their lives. They aren’t eager or desperate for love. They aren’t controlled by their feeling or emotions. They see things for what they are and they have the sense to get away from a relationship that has red flags!

Unfortunately many miss the signs because they are caught up by their feelings and emotions. Being led by feelings and emotions put many in dire situations, they shouldn’t of ever been in. If people do not open their eyes to the truth they will continue to be victims of the Catfish scheme!

Your Struggle Don’t Have to Consume You


Listen, I’ll be the first to say the “struggle is real!” My struggles aren’t your struggles, but we all have our own individually. We all are going through something and will do so until the day we die. Unfortunately it’s a part of life. We have to take the good with the bad, there is no escaping it. Despite the struggle it doesn’t have to control you!

I believe many people succumb to their struggles because they think it’s easier to give in then it is to fight. This isn’t true! I know I’m not going through your struggles, I have my own. However, I do know no matter the struggle it can’t consume and control you unless you choose for it to by giving in.

Every person alive will have their struggles. Struggles comes in many forms such as sickness, addictions, mental and physical struggles, finances, resources for living (home, etc), relationships, jobs or the lack of, and the list goes on.

Many people allow what they are going through to break them. It doesn’t have to! Until a person come to the understanding of who they are, they will always allow people and things to bring them down. None of us benefit from simply going through things. We all should grow as we go through things in life. Simply going through doesn’t help you to grow IF you don’t learn from it. We can all always get some good out of a bad situation. It depends on the individual and their state of mind. I believe it begins by loving self through the “good, bad, and the ugly.” When we love self we tend to see things differently. One thing for sure is when you love yourself you give nothing or no one your power. This mindset saves a person from unnecessary drama!

Troubles don’t last always, they all have a time of expiration. It may feel as if they do while you’re going through, but in reality they don’t. They come and they go. It would be a wonderful thing if we never had any trials or tribulations. Unfortunately we have, we do, and we will. As I’ve written many times before, no one is exempt!

People want to give up on self when they’re going through something difficult. Don’t do it! Hang in there it too shall pass! Something else may be around the corner, but it will pass too! No matter what we go through someone else is or has gone through worse. I know people don’t care or even want to hear it, because all their doing is worrying about what they’re going through. That’s because people are very inclined to be led by their feelings and emotions. Stop buckling under every situation! You’ll never grow this way!

One of the biggest mistakes people make is putting on facade’s. They pretend to be something they are not! They allow society to put them on pedal stools they aren’t capable of staying on. They play roles not really meant for them to play. They do and act how they believe people think they should; which isn’t who they really are. They allow themselves to be put on certain levels they aren’t able to maintain. They cause themselves unnecessary stress! These added pressures bogs them down mentally, physically, and spiritually.

People “bite off way more than they can chew” in life; only to end up choking. They can’t handle the pressure which by the way are pressures most willfully allowed. If the load is too heavy lighten it! If the pressure is too much, say so! Stop trying to be something you’re not! Stop trying to be everything to everybody. It never works out! When people do this they cause themselves much more drama; more than they already have in life. Everything teaches us to deal with the next phase in life. The problem is many people don’t learn the lessons being taught and it’s why they keep going through the same things or similar things. Don’t let your struggles consume you!!

A Woman Can Definitely Raise A Son To Be A Man


Throughout my life I’ve heard woman can’t raise boys to be men. This is a LIE! People have no clue what they are talking about. When you raise a child it’s not about raising a boy to become a man or raising a girl to become a woman. It’s about raising a child to be able to survive in this world and stand on their own two feet.

Think about this for a second. Who can teach a man how to treat, love, and care for a woman better than a woman? A woman knows what a woman needs. She can teach this better than a man through affection, love, and nuturing. As women this is what we do! Who can teach a boy how to protect his family better than a woman? As women we will fight tooth and nail to protect our young ones, this happens even in the animal kingdom. Who can teach a boy to provide better than a woman? It’s all she does, because if she works outside the house her work is never done even when she gets home. Who can teach a boy to be self sufficient in cleaning and cooking for self than a mother? Yes, I know a dad can too, but I’m trying to make a point. A woman can teach a son to pee, I know, because I taught my grandson. She can teach a son about sex and anything it takes to be a man. It’s not about feminity or masulinity, it’s about universal things we all need to live and be productive members of society with goals, positive attitudes, and mindsets. At least it’s what I believe.

I’m not saying a woman is naturally physically stronger than a man, although some are because of training. What I’m saying is not only can a man teach his son how to be strong, independent, a protector, a provider, survivor, how to treat a women and other people, but so can a woman. Dad’s who take part in raising their son’s it’s awesome, but stop selling the women short and acting as if they give less than, because she’s a woman. That’s ludicrous!

It sickens me to hear society blaming things on one household parenting. “Oh if he had his dad at home he wouldn’t of done this or that!” Bull crap!! I’ve seen two parent households many times raising undisciplined children who by the way are controlling both parents. I’ve seen two parent households who do nothing but fight causing discord in their children’s lives. I’ve seen two parent households who neglect, do not nuture, or show affection to their children. However, I’ve seen many two parent households who are doing and have done excellent jobs in raising their children. It doesn’t matter if it’s a one or two parent household. What matters is a child gets what they need to survive as adults in this world. What matters is a child is nutured, loved, and shown affection and taught respect to self and others.

The things a child needs in order to grow into a productive adult whether male or female can be taught by one parent or both parents. It can be taught by the male or the female. It doesn’t matter as long as the parent or parents are mature enough to give a child what they need in all areas of life.

We all know normally men and women act differently, however, this doesn’t mean a woman will teach her son to be feminine or that a man will teach his daughter to be masculine. Society has it all wrong. Everything is stereotypic along with the house and white picket fence. Lies!!

It reminds me of a time I was providing mental health therapy to someone who had been in the combat zone. He told me I didn’t understand what he’d gone through. I said of course not and I’m not sitting here trying to say I do. However what I fully understand is the affects of pain, suffering, mental instability, things causing a person to be suicidal, homicidal, depressed etc. My goal is to teach you coping mechanisms and the ability to function normally day to day in society whether it’s due to you being down range or due to other underlying issues compacted along with you going down range. After that, he got it!

The moral of it all is a woman can indeed raise a son to be a strong independent and loving man who is empowered to stand up on his own two feet and face the world coming at him. It’s taking nothing away from men at all. I’ve seen it done over and over. My mom did it as well! I’m just saying!!

Addictions Make Million Dollar Businesses


You may or may not agree, either way is fine with me! Every single thing starts out with a thought! Regardless of what it is; it will start out with thoughts that grow depending the power you give it. People don’t wake up addicted they get exposed to it for whatever reason and they willfully choose to engage in it. A person may ponder over doing a substance of some kind until they give in and do it. Many allow what has festered inside of them for years to lead them down a road of addictions. A lot of people took the same journey they saw their parents, other caregiver, friends, or family members take; while others decided on their own to take that particular path due to something they were dealing with in life. A long history of issues lead many to addictions. People want to numb their pains without realizing they’re actually adding to it. They get in too deep to the point of complete submersion.

Personally I don’t believe it’s a disease, what I believe is it’s a billion dollar making industry. Society wants people to believe it’s a disease so liquor industries, mental health facilities, and rehab places gets to stay in business. I know first hand no amount of treatment will cure someone who DOESN’T want to be cured. If the world REALLY thought it was a disease why do they sell alcohol? Why do they freely choose to make alcohol legal when because of it so many are dead in their graves? Alcohol and other substances have been reasons for many deaths whether by suicide, some other form of accident, overdose, or sickness due to it. Every single day someone dies due to the affects of some type of substance. If they didn’t die many have lost all they’ve acquired due to it (family, friends, possessions, health, etc).

Alcohol itself nor any form of substance kills. Over use and misuse of it can destroy the body and the mind which may ultimately lead to death. Alcohol or any form of substance will sit wherever it’s placed until someone picks it up to use it. The only people born with it in their bodies are children born to using mothers. It is not a disease! Long term use of it causes diseases! Cancers, heart problems, Crohn’s etc; those are diseases and even some of them can be prevented depending on the lifestyle of the individual.

Addictions of any kind are a choice (alcohol, any substance, food, sex, buying, many other things). People get offended when they hear it, but it’s the truth. People are their own problem. Many don’t deal with their many issues. People compile problems on top of the problems they already have. They make bad choices and decisions because they don’t deal with what’s plaguing them on the inside. They live unhappy lives because of it. If it were a disease I know I should have it, because it’s prevalent on both sides of my family (father and mother). There are several who are alcoholics.

Like suicide, no one decides out of the blue “I am going to kill myself today.” No, no, no, they don’t! People ponder over it. It’s the same way with becoming addicted to anything. The more you ponder over things, the more you give power to it, then the next thing you’re acting out on those thoughts. It’s 100% about a state of mind! As for alcohol and other substances I’ve seen up close and personal the affect it has on the individual and the lives of those around them. I’ve lost a best friend, aunts, and uncles to the affects of alcohol and substance abuse. None of them had to die the way they did, they made personal choices. One of my aunts even said “if it kill me it kills me, but I won’t stop drinking.” The affects of it did just that! It’s because she was controlled by it. She gave all of her will and power to it. All of them did! They were once healthy individuals and for whatever reason they chose the path of drugs and alcohol. They all chose to indulge in the lifestyle which ultimately caused their deaths.

My prayer is people regain their control. What they’re doing isn’t working. Seeking help is the best course of action. However, no amount of help can change an unwilling person. A person must want to change and the ONLY way they can change is by doing something different. We all have gone through and will go through things. Some people’s experiences are more extreme than others. Regardless, how we allow those things to affect us is up to each of us individually. We can grow from them or we can allow them to stagnate and stunt our growth. When people choose to partake in drugs and alcohol they willfully choose to add to their problems in life.

If you have to do drugs or alcohol to be with someone or to belong to a particular group, etc, then you’re definitely associating with the wrong people (friend, family, or foe)! Never ever allow anyone to talk you into doing something you KNOW you shouldn’t do. Stop giving power to your thoughts! The more power you give to your thoughts, you give to your feelings, which in return fuels your will to act upon them.

I don’t believe alcohol is a disease. The disease is the state of mind. If you lose your will you will lose your way! This is only my opinion!

God Isn’t Dead People Are


I’m here to tell you He yet lives! God isn’t dead, the church isn’t dead, but millions of people are dead! Most think just because they have breath in their bodies and are moving around they are alive. Naturally they are alive, however; if they aren’t serving the one and only true living God they are dead! They are dead men/women walking, the true zombies in this world, dead an don’t even know it! People are all into zombie movies and the ridiculous movie style zombie apocalypse, but fail to realize we are living amongst the walking dead right now! Those zombie movies are fake, but we are already living amongst real life walking dead. It’s scarier than any movie. These people are subject to do anything! People are dead, because they don’t know the Lord Jesus, our Father God, and no true experience with the Holy Spirit!

The Bible says “to gain the whole world and lose your soul.” No one has to, it is all by choice. No matter how awful or dark, people still love the world more than they do the true and living God. They serve many other gods, but they won’t commit to the one and only true God.

I’m not here to bash or to impose my belief on anyone. I’m only here to give a message. People can and will do whatever they choose. You can choose the Father and the Son, or you can choose whatever you desire. My job and mission is the give what I know I must, which is the unadulterated truth. God wishes for none of us to perish.

Many people don’t or won’t believe. It is their choice. However, those who claim to believe and are living a life unpleasing to the Father are damning themselves; for they have chosen the world. It doesn’t matter what they profess with their tongues. It doesn’t matter that they act the part or look the part. What matters if they are living it!!! Those who are only performing lip service are dead in Christ! They think they know Him, but their actions prove they don’t! This goes for the preacher, teacher, prophet, faithful church goer, apostle, bishop, evangelist, or whomever professes Him with hearts far from Him. They are the walking dead!

Jesus lives, He died for us all. We all have the same opportunity for salvation, because he has no respect of persons. It is us, the people who put limits and boundaries on Him. As humans we segregate and separate as a form of division and oppression, but it is NOT of the Father or the Son! He doesn’t have any respect of persons. It is we ourselves who must decide which side to serve. It is freewill! There are only two choices (right or wrong) Jesus or the adversary the devil. We can’t serve both!

People love the world much more than they do God. They act as if they don’t come up out of the world they would be missing something. In fact they are correct!! If they DON’T, they will be missing the mark and their chance for Heaven! They will have “gained the whole world only to lose their souls.” It’s a sad shame!

God is the same God, Jesus is the same Son, and the Holy Spirit is still available to all who believe! He’s still in the blessing business and He’s still working miracles. People have no power because they haven’t activated their power given to them by God. People must learn to fast and pray. We all need a daily prayer life, but we must learn to fast too! Fasting is important for our spiritual growth.

I found out long ago people are upset with the truth. They want it sugarcoated or watered down. I don’t do either. I can give my opinion all day, but at the end of the day, the truth is the truth! This world is getting worst day by day. People have no love in their hearts. They will kill at the drop of a dime as if it means nothing. They’re taking their own lives like it’s nothing. I’m talking about people who don’t know God and those who claim to know Him. I expect those who don’t know the Lord to do anything, but for those who claim to know Him, their actions tells the truth. In doing the Lord’s business we sometimes will have to stand alone, people don’t want to hear you or see you. I’m even talking about those who CLAIM to love Him so much! That’s fine by me, because it’s not about me anyways, it’s all about God the Father and Jesus the Son!

Darkness can’t dwell with the Light! Think about it, even on a bright and sunny day, when the clouds roll in for a storm they block the sunlight! Both can’t dwell at the same time. The moon can’t shine the same time the sun shines. That’s how it is with us. We can’t live for Jesus and the adversary (the Devil) at the same time. You will love one more than the other. If you are trying to serve both, you’re truly only serving one and that’s the devil. We either live for Jesus or die for the devil. This is why people who profess Christ are caught doing all kinds of stuff they know they shouldn’t be doing. They do what’s right according to man, in the eyes of man, for man to see. They forget the one they CLAIM to serve sees it all. Therefore they are ALWAYS caught dead on the spot! I’m writing the word caught, because NOTHING gets pass God. Man may miss a few things, but God sees it all! He yet live!

Results of out of Control Negative Thinking


Negative thoughts aren’t good, period! However, when thoughts are negative and out of control, they can lead to bad situations. We all have thoughts sometimes which are not what we normally would think. Thoughts will pop in our minds out of nowhere it seems. We all go through mental warfare. However, what we give power to controls us. The first thing the world wants to say is a person has a mental illness. Everything isn’t a mental illness, a lot of people are plain evil (learned behavior caused by some negative experiences) and some people simply allowed their negative thoughts to take control. They succumbed to them.

There are many people who have done the unthinkable. It started out with a simple thought which they allowed to grow. They fed it everyday all throughout the day giving it power. Once they gave power to it they were controlled by the thoughts. Remember with thoughts comes feelings and then actions. When people act out on their negative thoughts it can lead to dire consequences.

I don’t care what the thought is, if it’s negative and a person keep thinking about it, it does something inside. People begin to ponder over it, the more they do this, the more power those thoughts gain. They have feelings soon to follow and once feelings are involved people often have lost control. The next thing they know they’re doing the unthinkable (following through with actions) or at least doing something they never thought they would actually do.

Many people are talked into things by other people, and because of it they get things in their heads planted by others. Before they know it they’ve allowed the negativity to take hold of them and because of it they do bad things. It’s bad enough we get negative thoughts on our own. We shouldn’t allow others to influence us to do bad things. If you’re involved with people (anyone at all) who encourage or influence you to do something wrong, they are the wrong people to be around! It doesn’t matter who they are! This is why it’s extremely important people learn to think for self! Have sense enough to understand if it’s wrong, you shouldn’t want any parts of it. A lot of people do foolish things to belong, to gain what they think are friendships, to belong to a certain group or social circle.

People don’t understand the power they give to their thoughts! They don’t understand how consuming their thoughts become when they are fixated on them. It’s what they think about all the time. Then they end up with the feelings and emotions behind their thoughts which drives them to take some form of action. No one EVER do bad things out of the blue. They have taken time to think about it. If you take time to think something, you HAVE time to think about NOT committing the act. The problem here is, normally by now people are too far gone. All they are only focusing on at this point is committing the act behind the thoughts and feelings they’ve become consumed by. They don’t care about the consequences, they only care about committing the act!

There are many people who have a lot going on inside, they are (toxic, tainted, broken). A lot of these people get into relationships they shouldn’t be in. Although they get involved with other individuals; because of their own many issues they make things all about self. They don’t care who they hurt, they just want to feel vindicated for what they’re going through at the moment. Their present situations are extended branches of what was already brewing inside. Everyday people find themselves involved with these types of people and are ignoring the signs they are receiving.

Again I will write this; when you know and love yourself you’re more aware of who you’re getting involved with. You see and adhere to the signs. No matter how good it looks, feels, etc, you’ll know it’s not good for you and therefore will run the other way! People will come into your life already messed up and if you’re not careful they’ll mess you up even more than what you are. They have nothing to lose and therefore will make you lose all you have; to include your mind, body, and soul.