This post can be for anyone, but it’s mainly intended for those who CLAIM to love Jesus and CLAIM to live by His word. This message will slap many of you across the face (a slap many of you need). It’s not a physical slap, but a spiritual one).

Millions are addicted to sex and don’t even realize it. However, anytime you’re not willing to give something up, you’re addicted whether you believe it or not. Addiction is ANYTHING that has a hold on you. There are many forms of addiction.

Many, many make bold professions to man to love God and His Son Jesus. In reality they know that because of how they’re TRULY living that this is farthest from the truth. They live trying to camouflage and fool most until they’ve actually fooled themselves as well. To really love Him means you’re willing to live according to His Word.

Back to the topic at hand. I want you to REALLY take in what this message is saying. It will show you EXACTLY what side you’re on. The Word says “if you’re not for Him; you’re against Him.” That’s point blank, no and’s, if’s, or but’s about it!

If you’re acting out sexually with anyone that’s NOT your spouse it is sexually immoral and it’s a sin against God. Some of the things spouses do sexually are also sins against God. Millions are seeking sexual gratification in some form.What does sex mean to you? Is it worth your life? Meaning are you willing to lose your souls to sex.

Do you feel you can’t go without sex? Do you use it to get who or what you want? Do you hold it as a ransom to get what you want? Do you give it out like it’s candy to anybody who will take it? Do you make a living doing it? Do you feel you have to have it? Do you commit the act as soon as you meet someone? Married couples do some of you cross the line during this act by doing immoral things to include involving others in your bedrooms?

The answers to those questions and many more I could have asked doesn’t really matter. I was just trying to get you to think. You can’t; let me repeat, you can’t live for God and His Son Jesus and partake in sexual immorality. You’re right out lying to yourself.

Far too many are so engulfed with satisfying their sexual appetites, they’ve lost focus on the truth. It’s damnation! If you’re not willing to give it up, then it’s obvious you’re willing to gain this world and lose your soul to eternal damnation.

Listen, I get it. I know how you feel, I’ve been there and done that. However, when you know better you should do better. When I was in the world I did it too, BECAUSE I didn’t have the understanding of what it meant. Most importantly I didn’t have a true personal relationship with God. I pretended like most are doing. I was focused on man seeing and not considering at all what God saw me do. This was because I WASN’T reading the Word and walking daily with the Lord. I didn’t have a daily prayer life. It makes all of the difference in the world and without it you can’t grow spiritually. I thought I was living right, because of some of the things I wasn’t doing, but I was very wrong.

Once I decided to re-dedicate my life to Christ I started living according to the Word. I got into the Word by reading and studying and the more I studied the more I understood (I prayed for understanding). The more I understood, the more I began to live it. The Bible says “you become a new creature, you put off the old ways and all things becomes new.” It is FACT! You change!! Everything about you changes. You will gain and lose some friends and family too. Many will not get you, because they can’t fathom living this way. If they can’t fathom the thought of living this way, then they can’t understand you nor do they believe that you are living what you speak. They will criticize you a lot. They did/do it to Jesus and we’re certainly not better than Him.

Sex leads people into places they don’t want to be, but yet people are still addicted to it. Marriages and other relationships are destroyed due to the sexual immorality. The love many have for sex has destroyed many of lives in one way or another. However, there’s nothing more tragic then to gain this world and lose your soul.

God is sadden when He sees people speaking about Him so boldly yet living something totally against His teachings. This is a CLEAR indication a person isn’t living what they profess. You can pretend all day, but God knows the truth. Anything you’re NOT willing to let go is something that has a hold on you and therefore you’re addicted.

People who aren’t married don’t understand the soul ties they forms or the many things they’re subjecting themselves to during sex. I don’t want you to think I am saying sex is bad. It’s not when it’s with a person you’re married to and done in a moral way. It’s a beautiful thing, but it’s NOT everything. I know many can’t imagine going without sex, but it’s completely possible. Stop focusing so much on it and get into the Word of God, by doing this you will get the true understanding and in return you will get exactly what this post is saying. You can’t simply read and study the Word, you must live it.

I can’t make any of you do anything, but I have to plant the seed. I pray that you take it, cultivate and water it so the seed can grow in your life. If God is truly important in your life, you will be willing to give up and let go of anything that is against Him. It’s up to you, my prayer for you is that you do.



The reason I chose the title for this post is because it’s the truth. The unfortunate part is that most don’t realize it. I challenge anyone to think about their current situation and then relate it to this post to truly understand what I’m writing about.

Many people find themselves in places they don’t want to be. They feel unhappy, trapped, lost, hopeless, confused, controlled, and afraid, yet, they won’t do anything about it.

I want you to understand that your life can be snuffed away in the twinkling of an eye. In a nano sec! It’s real! People are going to sleep and not waking up. Leaving their houses never to return, etc. etc. The point I’m making is this; stop living in unhappy situations. It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship, job/career, or whatever. Stop making excuses to remain steadfast when you know you’re not happy. Many of you have been in the same exact place for years. It’s sad!!

People spend most of their time complaining about their situations rather than doing something about their situations. Complaining does nothing but give you heartaches and headaches; along with more reasons to remain where you are. NO ONE can change your situation but you. People around you may provide advice, empowerment, guidance, encouragement, etc, but it’s you who have to do the work. It’s you who has to want to change your situation.

Oftentimes people blame everything on their significant others. I’ve said many times and will write again today; your significant other and other people ONLY do to you what you allow. If you’re in a bad relationship, you’re there because for whatever reason you choose to be. Point blank! Any reason you can come up with will ONLY be an excuse.

Excuses stems from fear, it holds you down and back. Those of you who are in bad relationships can contest that significant others can use your fear against you to keep you where they want you to be. It’s YOU who gave them the power to do it. Don’t be afraid to move on and away from bad situations that make you unhappy.

Starting over or doing something different is ONLY as hard as you make. If you complain, be afraid, doubt, or worry you will never gain the courage to move forward.

It’s your life. I don’t care if you have a significant other, this is YOUR life. No one deserves the right to control it or deserve the right to have power over you. Nothing can control you or take your joy unless you freely give it.

If there’s a different career move you want to make, do it! If you want to start a business or invent something, do it! If you simply want to try something different, do it! If you really want to get out of a bad unhappy relationship, do it! There’s nothing to fear, but YOU. You’re in your own way. Blessing to you!

Hating the Jesus in Me


I was meditating on this and knew I had to share. I know I’m not alone in this. I think of how people are always saying they want to go to heaven, yet they’re not trying to live right to get there. To take it a little further, they get mad because of the Jesus they see in you.

When I was lost and couldn’t see, I done a lot of things in my lifetime that I would like to never think of, but sometimes it pops in my head. At that time, I simply thank God for His grace, mercy, and for giving me sense enough to want to change my life.

You see; I gave my life to Christ when I was 12, but I didn’t really know anything about living for God. I knew of Him, but I really didn’t understand what it meant to have a personal relationship with Him. I didn’t get this understanding until I decided to give up things that wasn’t lining up with my faith. This really didn’t happen for many years down the road.

After I became stronger in the Lord, I knew it was the best decision I ever made in my life (serving Him). Everything about me changed. Unfortunately I found out that on this journey people get annoyed with you because they get tired of hearing you speak on the goodness of the Lord and soul salvation. They feel you think you’re holier than thou.

I’ve never ever acted or felt holier than thou. However, I have given up worldly ways. It’s no joke or game. I’m in it to win it (eternal life and to be with God). I mind what I say, what I do, where I go, what I think, etc. God is always in the forefront of whatever is going on in my life. Sadly, because of it sometimes friends and family seem to hate on you.

It’s not the person, it’s the Jesus in the person. Don’t be mad at someone who  decided to live for the Lord. Don’t be mad because you see a light shining in someone that you don’t see in yourself. God has no respectable person. Any and everyone can have that personal relationship with him and the gifts He bestows upon us. When a person makes up their mind to stop being a babe in Christ by stop sucking the milk and start eating the meat it means they’ve made a conscious decision to move to another level. It’s a personal choice to make and anyone can decide to do so. If or when they do; their life will change.

People have it totally misconstrued. They think because they’ve given their lives to Christ and became saved that’s it. Well it’s NOT. Initially, getting saved is like a baby being birthed from the womb. Unfortunately too many are still suckling and not trying to grow, because they don’t want to give up the ways of the world. So sad!! Yet they stereotype and hate on people who made the decision to live for the Lord.

The moral of the post is, it’s enough of Him to go around; you don’t have to be envy, jealous, or spiteful at someone else’s glory. He’s standing with His arms stretched wide waiting to give you the same things he’s given me and others. No need to hate on anybody. If you’re not ready to give up the ways of the world, then don’t be mad at us who have made the decision to do so. “He’s knocking at the door of your hearts all you have to do is let Him in.”



It is 2015 and it’s time to do something about your current situation. If you’re STILL doing things you’ve done for the past few years yet you’re STILL unhappy it’s time to do something else. You CAN’T keep doing the same things and expecting a different outcome. Life doesn’t work that way. I’m sure you’re wondering what the “Still Syndrome” is about?

If you’re STILL begging and borrowing like you have been forever, it’s time to stop it! It clearly has become habit. However, if there’s someone who’s begging and borrowing from you, it’s time to say no. Point blank. Stop enabling them!

If you’re STILL complaining like you were all of 2014 and before, it’s time to be quiet and do something about your situation.  Complaining obviously hasn’t gotten you anywhere.

If you’re STILL in an unhappy relationship, it’s no one’s fault but yours. It’s time you stop making excuses. Neither of you can change the other. It’s time to re-examine your life, and then do something about it. No one can change your situation but you!

If you’re STILL crying over spilled milk, it’s time you clean up the mess and then move on with your life. Enough is enough! Isn’t it?

If you’re STILL stuck in the your past it’s time to stop being trapped by your own mind. It’s NOT your past, it’s YOU!

If you’re STILL running with the same negative people it’s time to cut the cord. Negativity eventually breeds negativity. If you’re a negative person it’s time to change your wrong way of thinking.

If you’re STILL lying my question is where has it gotten you? People who lie have to keep lying to cover up the last one told. A person can deal with your truth better than your lie.

If you’re STILL saying what you could of, should of, and would have done. It doesn’t matter, because you didn’t. No one wants to hear the same old thing from you. Let it go!

If you’re STILL talking about things you want to do, yet you haven’t made a move towards accomplishing those goals; shame on you! Stop talking and step out on faith.

If you’re STILL in the exact same place you were in last year and before, it’s time to make a move. You can’t get anywhere by standing in the same spot. Stop allowing fear or plain laziness to keep you in a situation you don’t want to be in.

In other words. It’s time to change those things in your life that has you feeling unhappy, lost, depressed, confused, always stressed, trapped, etc. Seriously look at your life. If you’re unhappy with your life in any way for any reason; it’s time to do something about it. No more excuses. You deserve the best and you deserve complete happiness. Any person who is unhappy about their life, it is up to the person to do something about it. You can’t look to someone else to supply your happiness. It’s comes from within. When a person isn’t happy it’s hard to find peace. I pray peace for you!!!



This post is for anyone who is holding on to someone who doesn’t really mean you any good. When it comes to family and friends we all know they can sometimes be your worst haters. Come on; you know it’s true. For family, I’m not saying discard them, but what I am saying is don’t let their actions drag you down. I’ve said it many times and will say it again, people hate on others because they lack something they see others possess. Unfortunately sometimes this includes family. If it is family, then what I mean is you love them, but you don’t EVER allow them to hold you back or to cause you unhappiness. When the situation is too chaotic, sometimes you have to learn to love people from a distance.

This post is for those of you who are holding on to significant others and so called friends who don’t mean you any good. Listen, enough is enough! New day, blessed New Year, means the opportunity for a new beginning.

It’s time to re-gain focus if you’ve lost it and to get it if you didn’t have it in the first place. It’s time to really examine your life. I know that we love those we love (significant others and friends). I understand. As a younger individual I too had to graduate from the School of Hard Knocks!

You have to stop trying to be a friend to people who don’t mean you any good. I call them so called friends, because a true friend won’t bring all of the drama into your relationships. So called friends pretend to like you when they secretly can’t stand you. They loathe you because of who you are, who you stand for, what you have, and the talents you possess. They pretend to be supportive, but secretly they despise you and hope you fail. They talk about you behind your back. They barely communicate with you or if they communicate it’s to find out something they can run and talk about. You don’t need these types of people in your lives. Stop taking all of the unnecessary crap. Stop allowing yourselves to be used and taken for granted by those who claim to be your friends. Stop being so gullible and desperate. It’s time to drop the dead weight. Be honest with yourselves about your situations.

Millions of you are in relationships with men and women who treat you like poop on the bottom of a shoe. You may not like what I’m saying, but we all know it’s true. I’ve seen it over and over. I’m not telling anyone to walk out of a marriage, but what I’m saying is if that’s the way it’s going to be you need to make a decision. A person will always treat you EXACTLY how you allow. When you’re lead solely by your heart and you’ve left your mind out of the picture you’ll normally fall on your face. You’ll find yourself in bad situations and terrible relationships. Husband’s and wives should honor one another at all times. If you’re treated like crap it is you who have signed on for it. It is you who is allowing it to happen to you and it is you who can change the situation. You definitely teach them how to treat you. If you willfully take misuse you will get it. All of the lies about “I’m happy as long as she’s/he’s happy” is a bunch of crap. Nooooo, you should be happy too.

In the last paragraph I spoke of husbands and wives, because if you’re not married and you’re putting up with being treated like poop on the bottom of a shoe “shame on you.” Shame on you period, but especially if you’re not married to him or her. Some of you are mistreated before marriage yet you go on to marry. It’s craaaazy! Trust me when I tell you people know exactly how to treat you. If you act desperate it’s how you will be treated.

I’ve been tried by the fire more than once and I’ve learned from every experience. I allow no one and I mean no one to mistreat me. You may try once, but that’s all the chance you get with me. I’m not kissing no butts and if you don’t want to be in my life I say “get the heck on.” For me life goes on, because in my life there’s God first, then me. I’ve learned if I don’t love me it means I have the great possibility of allowing others to treat me any kind of way. I know what some of you are thinking “we are different, we handle things differently.” No we’re not different. We all longed for the similar things whether good or bad. However, it all depends on what you think of yourself as to what you do in life and how you allow others to treat you.

People who don’t love themselves are insecure. They  are suggestible, more vulnerable to others, and more willing to put up with crap in the name of love. To allow yourselves to be mistreated in any way says a lot about you as an individual and it says a lot about the other person. Let me tell you this; we all fall short sometimes. However, the more you desire to be a better you, the better you’ll become. Not in some ways but in everyway. That’s a promise!!!

The moral to the post is let go of the dead weight in your life that’s killing you physically, mentally, and spiritually. Giving all you have to someone and allowing them to treat you any way they chose isn’t love. It’s time  to learn how to release those things and people who drains you of your joy and peace.