Addictions Make Million Dollar Businesses

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You may or may not agree, either way is fine with me! Every single thing starts out with a thought! Regardless of what it is; it will start out with thoughts that grow depending the power you give it. People don’t wake up addicted they get exposed to it for whatever reason and they willfully choose to engage in it. A person may ponder over doing a substance of some kind until they give in and do it. Many allow what has festered inside of them for years to lead them down a road of addictions. A lot of people took the same journey they saw their parents, other caregiver, friends, or family members take; while others decided on their own to take that particular path due to something they were dealing with in life. A long history of issues lead many to addictions. People want to numb their pains without realizing they’re actually adding to it. They get in too deep to the point of complete submersion.

Personally I don’t believe it’s a disease, what I believe is it’s a billion dollar making industry. Society wants people to believe it’s a disease so liquor industries, mental health facilities, and rehab places gets to stay in business. I know first hand no amount of treatment will cure someone who DOESN’T want to be cured. If the world REALLY thought it was a disease why do they sell alcohol? Why do they freely choose to make alcohol legal when because of it so many are dead in their graves? Alcohol and other substances have been reasons for many deaths whether by suicide, some other form of accident, overdose, or sickness due to it. Every single day someone dies due to the affects of some type of substance. If they didn’t die many have lost all they’ve acquired due to it (family, friends, possessions, health, etc).

Alcohol itself nor any form of substance kills. Over use and misuse of it can destroy the body and the mind which may ultimately lead to death. Alcohol or any form of substance will sit wherever it’s placed until someone picks it up to use it. The only people born with it in their bodies are children born to using mothers. It is not a disease! Long term use of it causes diseases! Cancers, heart problems, Crohn’s etc; those are diseases and even some of them can be prevented depending on the lifestyle of the individual.

Addictions of any kind are a choice (alcohol, any substance, food, sex, buying, many other things). People get offended when they hear it, but it’s the truth. People are their own problem. Many don’t deal with their many issues. People compile problems on top of the problems they already have. They make bad choices and decisions because they don’t deal with what’s plaguing them on the inside. They live unhappy lives because of it. If it were a disease I know I should have it, because it’s prevalent on both sides of my family (father and mother). There are several who are alcoholics.

Like suicide, no one decides out of the blue “I am going to kill myself today.” No, no, no, they don’t! People ponder over it. It’s the same way with becoming addicted to anything. The more you ponder over things, the more you give power to it, then the next thing you’re acting out on those thoughts. It’s 100% about a state of mind! As for alcohol and other substances I’ve seen up close and personal the affect it has on the individual and the lives of those around them. I’ve lost a best friend, aunts, and uncles to the affects of alcohol and substance abuse. None of them had to die the way they did, they made personal choices. One of my aunts even said “if it kill me it kills me, but I won’t stop drinking.” The affects of it did just that! It’s because she was controlled by it. She gave all of her will and power to it. All of them did! They were once healthy individuals and for whatever reason they chose the path of drugs and alcohol. They all chose to indulge in the lifestyle which ultimately caused their deaths.

My prayer is people regain their control. What they’re doing isn’t working. Seeking help is the best course of action. However, no amount of help can change an unwilling person. A person must want to change and the ONLY way they can change is by doing something different. We all have gone through and will go through things. Some people’s experiences are more extreme than others. Regardless, how we allow those things to affect us is up to each of us individually. We can grow from them or we can allow them to stagnate and stunt our growth. When people choose to partake in drugs and alcohol they willfully choose to add to their problems in life.

If you have to do drugs or alcohol to be with someone or to belong to a particular group, etc, then you’re definitely associating with the wrong people (friend, family, or foe)! Never ever allow anyone to talk you into doing something you KNOW you shouldn’t do. Stop giving power to your thoughts! The more power you give to your thoughts, you give to your feelings, which in return fuels your will to act upon them.

I don’t believe alcohol is a disease. The disease is the state of mind. If you lose your will you will lose your way! This is only my opinion!

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God Isn’t Dead People Are

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I’m here to tell you He yet lives! God isn’t dead, the church isn’t dead, but millions of people are dead! Most think just because they have breath in their bodies and are moving around they are alive. Naturally they are alive, however; if they aren’t serving the one and only true living God they are dead! They are dead men/women walking, the true zombies in this world, dead an don’t even know it! People are all into zombie movies and the ridiculous movie style zombie apocalypse, but fail to realize we are living amongst the walking dead right now! Those zombie movies are fake, but we are already living amongst real life walking dead. It’s scarier than any movie. These people are subject to do anything! People are dead, because they don’t know the Lord Jesus, our Father God, and no true experience with the Holy Spirit!

The Bible says “to gain the whole world and lose your soul.” No one has to, it is all by choice. No matter how awful or dark, people still love the world more than they do the true and living God. They serve many other gods, but they won’t commit to the one and only true God.

I’m not here to bash or to impose my belief on anyone. I’m only here to give a message. People can and will do whatever they choose. You can choose the Father and the Son, or you can choose whatever you desire. My job and mission is the give what I know I must, which is the unadulterated truth. God wishes for none of us to perish.

Many people don’t or won’t believe. It is their choice. However, those who claim to believe and are living a life unpleasing to the Father are damning themselves; for they have chosen the world. It doesn’t matter what they profess with their tongues. It doesn’t matter that they act the part or look the part. What matters if they are living it!!! Those who are only performing lip service are dead in Christ! They think they know Him, but their actions prove they don’t! This goes for the preacher, teacher, prophet, faithful church goer, apostle, bishop, evangelist, or whomever professes Him with hearts far from Him. They are the walking dead!

Jesus lives, He died for us all. We all have the same opportunity for salvation, because he has no respect of persons. It is us, the people who put limits and boundaries on Him. As humans we segregate and separate as a form of division and oppression, but it is NOT of the Father or the Son! He doesn’t have any respect of persons. It is we ourselves who must decide which side to serve. It is freewill! There are only two choices (right or wrong) Jesus or the adversary the devil. We can’t serve both!

People love the world much more than they do God. They act as if they don’t come up out of the world they would be missing something. In fact they are correct!! If they DON’T, they will be missing the mark and their chance for Heaven! They will have “gained the whole world only to lose their souls.” It’s a sad shame!

God is the same God, Jesus is the same Son, and the Holy Spirit is still available to all who believe! He’s still in the blessing business and He’s still working miracles. People have no power because they haven’t activated their power given to them by God. People must learn to fast and pray. We all need a daily prayer life, but we must learn to fast too! Fasting is important for our spiritual growth.

I found out long ago people are upset with the truth. They want it sugarcoated or watered down. I don’t do either. I can give my opinion all day, but at the end of the day, the truth is the truth! This world is getting worst day by day. People have no love in their hearts. They will kill at the drop of a dime as if it means nothing. They’re taking their own lives like it’s nothing. I’m talking about people who don’t know God and those who claim to know Him. I expect those who don’t know the Lord to do anything, but for those who claim to know Him, their actions tells the truth. In doing the Lord’s business we sometimes will have to stand alone, people don’t want to hear you or see you. I’m even talking about those who CLAIM to love Him so much! That’s fine by me, because it’s not about me anyways, it’s all about God the Father and Jesus the Son!

Darkness can’t dwell with the Light! Think about it, even on a bright and sunny day, when the clouds roll in for a storm they block the sunlight! Both can’t dwell at the same time. The moon can’t shine the same time the sun shines. That’s how it is with us. We can’t live for Jesus and the adversary (the Devil) at the same time. You will love one more than the other. If you are trying to serve both, you’re truly only serving one and that’s the devil. We either live for Jesus or die for the devil. This is why people who profess Christ are caught doing all kinds of stuff they know they shouldn’t be doing. They do what’s right according to man, in the eyes of man, for man to see. They forget the one they CLAIM to serve sees it all. Therefore they are ALWAYS caught dead on the spot! I’m writing the word caught, because NOTHING gets pass God. Man may miss a few things, but God sees it all! He yet live!

Results of out of Control Negative Thinking

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Negative thoughts aren’t good, period! However, when thoughts are negative and out of control, they can lead to bad situations. We all have thoughts sometimes which are not what we normally would think. Thoughts will pop in our minds out of nowhere it seems. We all go through mental warfare. However, what we give power to controls us. The first thing the world wants to say is a person has a mental illness. Everything isn’t a mental illness, a lot of people are plain evil (learned behavior caused by some negative experiences) and some people simply allowed their negative thoughts to take control. They succumbed to them.

There are many people who have done the unthinkable. It started out with a simple thought which they allowed to grow. They fed it everyday all throughout the day giving it power. Once they gave power to it they were controlled by the thoughts. Remember with thoughts comes feelings and then actions. When people act out on their negative thoughts it can lead to dire consequences.

I don’t care what the thought is, if it’s negative and a person keep thinking about it, it does something inside. People begin to ponder over it, the more they do this, the more power those thoughts gain. They have feelings soon to follow and once feelings are involved people often have lost control. The next thing they know they’re doing the unthinkable (following through with actions) or at least doing something they never thought they would actually do.

Many people are talked into things by other people, and because of it they get things in their heads planted by others. Before they know it they’ve allowed the negativity to take hold of them and because of it they do bad things. It’s bad enough we get negative thoughts on our own. We shouldn’t allow others to influence us to do bad things. If you’re involved with people (anyone at all) who encourage or influence you to do something wrong, they are the wrong people to be around! It doesn’t matter who they are! This is why it’s extremely important people learn to think for self! Have sense enough to understand if it’s wrong, you shouldn’t want any parts of it. A lot of people do foolish things to belong, to gain what they think are friendships, to belong to a certain group or social circle.

People don’t understand the power they give to their thoughts! They don’t understand how consuming their thoughts become when they are fixated on them. It’s what they think about all the time. Then they end up with the feelings and emotions behind their thoughts which drives them to take some form of action. No one EVER do bad things out of the blue. They have taken time to think about it. If you take time to think something, you HAVE time to think about NOT committing the act. The problem here is, normally by now people are too far gone. All they are only focusing on at this point is committing the act behind the thoughts and feelings they’ve become consumed by. They don’t care about the consequences, they only care about committing the act!

There are many people who have a lot going on inside, they are (toxic, tainted, broken). A lot of these people get into relationships they shouldn’t be in. Although they get involved with other individuals; because of their own many issues they make things all about self. They don’t care who they hurt, they just want to feel vindicated for what they’re going through at the moment. Their present situations are extended branches of what was already brewing inside. Everyday people find themselves involved with these types of people and are ignoring the signs they are receiving.

Again I will write this; when you know and love yourself you’re more aware of who you’re getting involved with. You see and adhere to the signs. No matter how good it looks, feels, etc, you’ll know it’s not good for you and therefore will run the other way! People will come into your life already messed up and if you’re not careful they’ll mess you up even more than what you are. They have nothing to lose and therefore will make you lose all you have; to include your mind, body, and soul.

Blind by Feelings can Lead to a Deadly Outcome

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Yes, I am writing on this again. My daughter called me and told me someone who worked in her building was murdered by her boyfriend. The female went to the home they both had previously shared to retrieve her belongings and as soon as the guy answered the door, he shot her point blank in the face. This is so awful, sad, and could have been avoided.

I’ve always said and will continue to say is if you wait until things get bad in a relationship you may never get to leave. You may die in the relationship. Everyone has signs concerning our relationships, whether we adhere to them is another thing.

When initially starting a relationship people must first know who they are (self). You must first love yourself, know and understand the difference between your wants, desires, and needs. Most people don’t have a clue there are differences. When people don’t first love self, they are looking for something in somoene else that they don’t possess in self. They are led by emotions and feelings. They think because it looks good or feels good it is good for them. Wrong!! They are led solely by their flesh! They get into relationships with the wrong people for the wrong reasons.

People get into bad relationships thinking they can save or change the individaul. They think their sex is so great or whatever they’re offering is so great it will change the other person. No, it doesn’t work! You may give a person a reason to want to change, you may encourage them to change, but change ONLY occurs because the person needing to change decided it was time. If they change before they are ready they will ALWAYS revert back to who they really are, because the change was for you and not for them.

You can love a person with everything in you, it’s NOT enough if they’re an individual with a lot of issues. They need to work on self, therefore until they do they will ALWAYS have chaos following them where they go. You can’t fix, save, or change them. Those who get involved with these types of individuals oftentimes have their own issues as well. Let me put it this way. Those who stay definitely have their own issues. People who know who they are as individuals (self) will adhere to the signs and run for the hills!

I don’t care what you feel about a person, make sure you can see through the fog. People will ALWAYS in some form or fashion show you who they are and show you their tendencies early on. If you’re blind by your feelings and overwhelmed then you will most likely NOT see the signs staring you in the face! This is why people get into relationships for all the wrong reasons, with the wrong people, and in the wrong ways. They are being led by their thoughts and feelings about the person while missing all the signs the person is giving as to who they are.

People are cussed out, disrespected, physically assaulted, obssessed over, controlled early on, they are kept from other people, etc. etc. This isn’t love. Some individuals think it’s cute how a person goes crazy over them to the point of wanting to fight someone. They think it’s cute a person tells them what to wear, who they can and can’t be around, tell them what to do or demand them to do this or that. They think it’s cute how the person wants to spend all their time with them and not allow them around anyone else. They think the person playfully cursing them or smacking them is okay when they present it in a playful way. I can go on for days. These are signs of what’s to come. It is NOT LOVE! It’s a clear indication of what you can expect in the future.

The problem is many people stay; they try to work it out. Then they get to a point where they’ve stayed too long. The person is possessive, obsessive, controlling, and ALL THE ABOVE, now it’s a problem with leaving. People are afraid to leave because they know how the person will react. Some stay because they want security or they like what the person does for them, completely looking over the fact how they are treated. Many, many people have died in their unhealthy relationships when they shouldn’t have. They should have left long before the point of no return.

Stop being quick to tell a person where you live and other information you should keep to yourself until you really know who you’re dealing with. Stop being quick to have sex with people thinking it will make them want you; sex hasn’t EVER kept a relationship together. People will act according to what you tell them you want so they can give you exactly what you say you want TO GET YOU! The very thing you tell them you went through many will put you through, they will manipulate you into a relationship, because you allowed it before.

Both parties are to blame. They will be who they are, but you should always leave when you see potential for trouble. People show you who they are, but many think it’s a fluke, (a one time thing). NO it’s the real deal and many will see it! People show potential problems that individuals ignore! There are consequences of failing to adhere to the signs. People end up in miserably unhealthy and unhappy relationships or they end up dead!

Not every person with issues will allow nonsense in their lives. Some people despite their many issues still has sense enough to walk away. Thank God! However, there are a lot of people who won’t walk away. They stay and endure unnecessary drama from individauls they think they love.

People must wake up!!! Deal with your many issues before getting into relationships. Face your problems and work them out, because your problems and your significant other problems together can be a ticking time bomb! People with a lot of unresolved issues ends up with other people with unresolved issues. People are eager and some desperate for love, when they don’t really love self. People will treat you EXACTLY how you allow.

Holding on to the Past Affects Your Present

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Too many people do this! Many people focus on what has happened. Many people live this way entertaining a life long pity party. They can’t move forward, because they are stuck in the past. A past that no longer exists! It’s true! I’m not ever going to say the past didn’t exist or people didn’t go through what they’ve gone through. What I’m saying is the past itself is just that! It is gone! People must learn to stop giving power to the memories of their pasts. The more power you give to anything it controls you!

Many adults don’t give themselves chances to have the happy and fulfilled lives they should have, because they are fixated on what was! They’ve allowed the memories of their past experiences to control their possibilities for wonderful lives. They ruin their lives by their wrong ways of thinking. They are mad and angry over things that are long over. Hanging on to such junk is like drinking a bottle of liquid self destruction and expecting not to be affected by it.

It’s time people learn to let go of negative things. No matter who HAVE hurt you in the past, it’s you whose now hurting yourself. Your life is your life! All of us can choose to stay stuck or move on. Bitterness destroys!! The more power you give to negative thoughts the more they control you and keep you stuck in negative states of mind.

Some of you may say I don’t know or understand what you’ve gone through. You are correct, I don’t know! However, I know we all have a story we can tell. I do know and understand hurt, disappointment, unfairness, suffering, rejection, abuse, and many things that affects us. Although things may hurt us or even scar us, life goes on. Wounds heal if you stop picking at it! Pain subsides if you stop giving it power! Memories fade if you stop giving them life by constantly reliving them!

Feelings of hurt, pain, and suffering are universal. No one is exempt! People learn to move on by letting go. It’s 100% okay to feel the pain, however; when it defines you and controls your life it’s no longer okay. People who hurt people; are hurt people. Get it? It’s a vicious cycle!

It’s easier for people to believe they have to remain the way they are then for them to believe they can change. No matter the chaos people get content in their old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. They know change means having to do something different. It means putting forth intentional efforts to be better! If you don’t choose change the only option is to remain the same. No matter who a person blames; the way an individual chooses to be is the individual’s choice.

Choosing to move on doesn’t negate the fact things happened. What it does is it puts the power back where it belongs; in your hands! Never allow someone or something power over you! Learn and gain strength from everything you go through, don’t let it render you powerless. The ONLY power anyone or anything has over you is the power you give!

Nobody to Man Somebody to God

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Sadly we are all looked at and judged according to who we know and who we are to people. Many people don’t get opportunities because other people don’t consider them as “somebody.” They may be as talented or even more talented, but if they’re not well known they are considered a “nobody.” People miss out on what great individuals have to offer when they categorize individuals this way. I think this is one of the worst things people can do to one another and it’s a very shallow way of thinking.

People of the world make it all about who they know. They want to be associated with well known people. They gravitate to people they believe are well known. Why? I believe it’s because of what individual’s feel about self. They think they need to be associated with someone with who is well known for their own recognition or just to say they know the person. It’s sad! A lot of people invest a lot of time in others, but none in Jesus or developing self. They focus on what man says, does, and thinks.

When individuals like people according to their statuses it’s how people end up with big heads thinking they are better than others. It’s how people end up high on man made pedal stools. Many begin to act as if they know everything, simply because of the pedal stools they’ve been put on. Some become gods to the people following them. None of it impresses or pleases God the Father.

No title or status changes what’s inside. It’s why we continuously see people of status from all walks of life doing stupid stuff. Many folks busy trying to rub elbows with individuals because of their statuses or titles when many of those individuals have as many or more issues than they do. Facts!!!

In the sight of man as long as they consider you to be “somebody” they love you. You can say anything or do anything and people will eat it up. Yet another person who isn’t considered as “somebody” can say or do say the exact same thing and people will have nothing to say. I think it’s very ridiculous!

God doesn’t look at us this way, He has no respect of persons. With Him there’s only one big happy family. We are all His Children, but we individually choose whether to be Children of God. He allots us this choice! All the other titles the world wants to give people means absolutely NOTHING to Jesus the Son and God the Father! We may have favor for something, it doesn’t mean God favors you over anyone else. He does not! He doesn’t look at us this way! In Him there’s no big I’s and little u’s!

People want validation from man. People want to feel as if they’re a part of something when they associate themselves with known people. In my opinion those who feel this way need to work on self. Stop being shallow minded and accept people for who they are, period! Stop looking at statuses and positions; choosing to like a person according to what they are considered to be to the world.

When we die none of what is gained here on earth will matter. None of it will matter when we leave this life. If you haven’t served the Master by living according to his Word, nothing else will matter. People keep on living as if they will never die. People are too busy trying to gain man’s approval and validation, yet they aren’t concerned with living pleasing in the sight of God!

Don’t worry about man thinking you’re a nobody, you are somebody to God. He loves you! Those same people the world deems “somebody” will someday depart this life like everyone else! There’s no bartering, bargaining, or buying your way out of leaving this world. Not one single person has the power to stop it! How well a person is known won’t stop it!

If you continue to be caught up in who man says you are or who man says someone else is; you won’t ever be able to be who God wants you to be! Stop worrying about what man says and focus on pleasing Lord Jesus!! He loves us and doesn’t want any of us to lose our soul’s. The world cares about pleasing the flesh, God cares about spiritual house that our physical houses will someday depart!

Your Inside Issues Causes Chaos Outside

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This post is intended for anyone who can relate regardless of status. People must learn not to worship others. All the time and energy put into loving, praising, and worshipping other folks, a person should put into learning to love self. One thing most fail to realize is the people they worship have their individual issues too! They aren’t perfect and they seek the same things everyone else seeks (whatever they consider as peace, love, and happiness). It’s crazy how individuals are worshipped because of who people think they are!! Just because individuals are followed, researched, worshipped it doesn’t mean you know them. As I’ve said before, sometimes people want so badly to be someone when that someone they want to be wants to be someone else.

Many people will do anything to become known. People chase the fame, then they can’t handle it once they get it. People will do anything for what they think is love, only to find themselves in unbearable relationships. None of it it won’t or don’t change what’s inside. What’s inside always comes out if it’s not dealt with; and despite who you are it will ruin lives and relationships.

This is why many people succumb to drugs, alcohol, and a host of other things as a way to cope. People already have issues inside, yet they are chasing fame or trying to maintain their fame, recognition, approval, or most of all love. A lot of people become known only to find out it does absolutely nothing to change their life long issues. It’s the same with people chasing after love, they get what they assume is love and realize it’s not love at all. All of the pressures add to the issues they’ve already been dealing with. The notoriety or relationships doesn’t take away the pain inside. It doesn’t fill the void inside. What’s inside spoils everything else if it’s not attended to and will always affect an individual’s life.

People allow themselves to be put up on pedal stools they shouldn’t of ever been on, when they see it’s hard to stay on those pedal stools they can’t deal with it. They can’t deal with maintaining their pedal stools, rejection, or ridicule from the world, so they turn to different ways to cope. This normally intensifies their current issues.

People who are chasing after love find that trying to maintain their relationships is much harder than they ever imagined. It too intensifies their current issues causing them more stress and more problems.

People think the change of scenery, new people, new places, new positions, new statuses, money, relationships, etc, etc, will help. No, it won’t! You can have everything brand new it will not work when you’re still the old you!!!!!

I encourage anyone who is dealing with lifelong issues to work on resolving them before they pursue love or anything else in life. No one can hide from self. If the old you hasn’t changed, no matter what happens in your life your issues will spill out and wreak havoc. You can’t love anyone effectively if you don’t love yourself. You can’t be happy in any situation if you’re not happy with yourself. Those issues will always manifest and show up in your life whether famous, successful, average Joe, rich, or whomever or whatever you may be!