Many people walk around with big smiles on their faces, but they are broken inside. They muster enough strength to make it from day to day; yet they live dysfunctional lives. What’s inside is coming out one way or another and no amount of fake smiles will stop it. Most of these types of people don’t understand how they willfully hold themselves in negative states of mind.
Think about this; the only reason people are sad, hurt, angry, bitter, full of hate, pain, sorrow, etc, etc is because of something they haven’t let go! It always goes back to something! People need to figure out what their something is so they can leave all of the negativity behind them once and for all. People are burdened down because they hold on to stuff they should of let go.
Believe it or not, people get comfortable feeling the way they feel no matter how depressing it is. They are familiar with their pain. What they don’t understand is they have the power to control their own lives and stop giving power to the memories of their pasts and their thoughts. It is always what’s holding individuals back.
A lot of people would rather fake their way through life then to deal with what is really bothering them. Smiling on the outside when you’re hurting inside does nothing to help a person deal with their issues. It keeps people stuck right where they are. Many people think they are alone when it is furthest from the truth. No one in this world is going through a brand new situation someone somewhere hasn’t already dealt with or is dealing with. I know it doesn’t change the fact you may be going through, but it does mean you’re not alone.
We all have gone through things and will continue to go through our peaks and valleys for a lifetime. If a person doesn’t deal with what they have suppressed or pretend doesn’t exist it makes it harder to deal with those other things life unexpectedly throws at you.
As I’ve always stated; many are in this world full of negativity then they make decisions to bring children into the world raising them to be exactly like them. It is a sad thing and it is why many of the children grow up to be dysfunctional adults. People need to deal with their issues and make conscious decisions to break the negative cycles in their lives. If they don’t they will continue to go through life exactly the same way. It’s like a hamster on wheel; spinning fast yet going absolutely no where! Stuck!
To change starts with you the individual. You can blame all day, you can point the finger all day, and you can complain all day. At the end of the day the decision to change falls on you the individual. A smiling face is a beautiful sight, but it’s a super sad situation when it’s on the face of a person who is broken inside. Pretense does nothing at all to help a person heal and move on from their pains. Stop giving power to your negative ways of thinking and choose to break chains and cycles. It’s something a person has to do for self and it can only be done by the individual who needs it.