Toughest Battle Is Against Your Mind

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Everyone of us have mental battles we fight. It DOES NOT mean you have a mental illness. Society always call every incident a mental illness episode when it’s farthest from the truth. When a person doesn’t heal from their past issues those things can lead to forms of mental illness such as depression, anxiety, ptsd, sleep disorder etc. These can lead to suicidal and homicidal ideations or completions.

Mental battles are completely different from mental illness. As stated in the beginning we all have our mental battles. We all fight mental warfare, but in doing so a person must know it’s mental warfare. Knowing thoughts will come means you have the control to dismiss it or accept it. A lot of people struggle between doing right and wrong. It’s because when broken people haven’t allowed themselves to heal they hold in negative things which completely affects their lives. Those things affect how people think, feel, and act.

The power of the mind is something! However, a thought is only as powerful as the power you give it. I’ve seen people sabotage their lives over and over, because they can’t get past things. They dwell on old things and they allow those things to hold them back mentally. They may grow old, they may become successful, or they may have no ambition at all, regardless of what they become the way they are because they’ve chosen to hold on to junk. You can fool others but you can’t fool yourself. These people often don’t want to change because they are familiar and comfortable with their pain despite the destruction it has caused.

Our mind is a powerful thing. Yet, in writing this, I must say thoughts only have the power we give to them. The refusal or inability to let go keeps people stuck in wrong mindsets. Those wrong mindsets may ultimately lead to mental issues. If you consistently hold negative thoughts those thoughts will take over your life. They will cause chaos and dysfunction in your life. Negativity leads to stress, which when unmanaged leads to other things. Whatever you give power to can control you!

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Dangerous Thoughts

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People don’t realize the power they give to their thoughts. It can be very dangerous. It has proven to lead to unthinkable situations. We all think about things, sometimes those things causes fear to rise up. If people succumb to those thoughts then fear can take over.

There are people who think about their pasts and they allow those thoughts to control their lives. The actual experiences are no more, they no longer exist. However, due to the power people give their memories they allow the thoughts of those experiences to keep them bound to them for a lifetime. They live unhappy chaotic lives due to the power they’ve given to their thoughts. They can’t seem to let things go, instead they hold on to the negative thoughts as if there is a benefit to it. These thoughts are so real and present to them, because of the power they’ve given to them. The thoughts produce anger, bitterness, hatred, etc.

Many people meet individuals they are attracted too, but they don’t look at the whole picture. All they see is their interest. Most times they don’t care if the person is married or with someone. All they care about is the interest they have in the individual. They begin to think about the person, the more they think about the person the more power they begin to give their thoughts. They don’t think about the whole situation and this is why people find themselves in mess! They can’t see past what they are feeling, because of what’s inside of them and the power they give to their thoughts.

We all have heard many times of people committing unthinkable acts such as homicide, suicide, and a host of other things to self and to others. Do you think they woke up and said I’m going to do this or that today? Nooooo, they do not! It is something they have thought about for a long time. They probably talked themselves into and out of it over and over until they finally succumbed to it. Sometimes people are coerced into things. Other people put the thoughts into their heads, but they are the one’s who chose to let it fester into powerful thoughts that eventually take over.

Bottom line of this post is this; we all have thoughts. If I sat here and said we all didn’t get off the wall thoughts sometimes; I would be a liar. I get them like everyone else. However, I’ve never ever thought to kill myself, kill someone else, or harm anyone. People who go that far have unresolved issues which has either led them to be coerced or the issues have caused them to be angry, bitter, depressed, etc. Something caused the thoughts, but the individual is the one who fueled the fire giving power to those thoughts.

I thank God, when I get an off the wall thought, I know it’s off the wall and I put the devil right where he belongs. I never entertain any foolish thoughts. I instantly say that is foolish or stupid and I dump it as quickly as it came. What people fail to understand is they can’t control what will come, but they can control whether they entertain those thoughts or not! You can control the power you give to your thoughts. You can choose if you allow other people to put negative thoughts in your head. If you know it’s wrong then you shouldn’t entertain it or the people who try to plant them in your head. Unfortunately this isn’t the case for many. Many people are easily coerced, persuaded, and influenced to do wrong. People who choose not to control the power they give their thoughts, the power of their thoughts control them.

Seeking Everything Other Than Change

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This is the first evidence of disconnect. It is also evidence of a person who doesn’t love self or know who they are as an individual. Most people are focused on finding love or seeking something they think they want. They are blind or should I say oblivious to what they need. They move off of feelings and emotions due to their wrong ways of thinking. They are trapped by their own minds. Most are busy focusing on satisfying their wants moving from relationship to relationship doing the same things getting the same results failing to grasp why.

These types of individuals need to sit down somewhere and focus on self. Until a person makes peace with self and get self right they won’t ever live in peace with anyone else. This is one great reason many relationships fail. People are too busy trying to fix the other person when they need to fix self. They are focused on satisfying the other person and often place self on the back burner to do whatever they think it will take to make their relationship work.

No matter what a person does, says, how they look, what they have, who they are, etc, etc, it will NOT make someone love you. If you don’t love yourself, why do you think someone else will be so willing to love you? They may love what you do for them, but that’s totally different from loving you or being in love with you. Unfortunately many settle for this imitation of love and it is why many relationships are loveless. They get in relationships yet they feel alone and unhappy. This isn’t healthy for anyone!

People carry all of the woes from their pasts around like back packs. They keep stuffing junk in them as they maneuver through life. These things weigh them down, because instead of releasing and letting go they continue to carry their woes in and out of relationships coming out worse than when they started. They carry the burdens of their significant others, when truth is you can’t make anyone want to be with you or love you. You can’t fix a person, make them change, or save them. Individuals spend most of their lives trying to do this when they haven’t dealt with self.

When a person love self then self is who they will be very much aware of. They will guard their hearts and minds. They will be aware of potential problems and they will easily walk away from nonsense. They know they have control as to who they want to be with and therefore they won’t settle for someone simply because they feel something. They know the decision to be with someone goes beyond feelings, a person’s looks, status, and bank account.

When a person wears their heart on their sleeve they are moved by their emotions and feelings. It leads them into situations and relationships that are unhealthy. It further adds to the many issues individuals already have.

It’s up to each person what they choose in life. When people choose not to change then they can’t expect anything different than what they get in life. Stop looking for people to complete you when it’s only YOU who can perform that task in your life. You complete you by first loving self, forgiving self, and forgiving others, then moving on away from what has held you back. People waste much time seeking everything in others. They are seeking love, happiness, and a host of things not understanding it starts with self. Until they understand this, they will continue to live life as they always had; settling, chaotic, and unhappy.

Smiling Outside Broken Inside

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Many people walk around with big smiles on their faces, but they are broken inside. They muster enough strength to make it from day to day; yet they live dysfunctional lives. What’s inside is coming out one way or another and no amount of fake smiles will stop it. Most of these types of people don’t understand how they willfully hold themselves in negative states of mind.

Think about this; the only reason people are sad, hurt, angry, bitter, full of hate, pain, sorrow, etc, etc is because of something they haven’t let go! It always goes back to something! People need to figure out what their something is so they can leave all of the negativity behind them once and for all. People are burdened down because they hold on to stuff they should of let go.

Believe it or not, people get comfortable feeling the way they feel no matter how depressing it is. They are familiar with their pain. What they don’t understand is they have the power to control their own lives and stop giving power to the memories of their pasts and their thoughts. It is always what’s holding individuals back.

A lot of people would rather fake their way through life then to deal with what is really bothering them. Smiling on the outside when you’re hurting inside does nothing to help a person deal with their issues. It keeps people stuck right where they are. Many people think they are alone when it is furthest from the truth. No one in this world is going through a brand new situation someone somewhere hasn’t already dealt with or is dealing with. I know it doesn’t change the fact you may be going through, but it does mean you’re not alone.

We all have gone through things and will continue to go through our peaks and valleys for a lifetime. If a person doesn’t deal with what they have suppressed or pretend doesn’t exist it makes it harder to deal with those other things life unexpectedly throws at you.

As I’ve always stated; many are in this world full of negativity then they make decisions to bring children into the world raising them to be exactly like them. It is a sad thing and it is why many of the children grow up to be dysfunctional adults. People need to deal with their issues and make conscious decisions to break the negative cycles in their lives. If they don’t they will continue to go through life exactly the same way. It’s like a hamster on wheel; spinning fast yet going absolutely no where! Stuck!

To change starts with you the individual. You can blame all day, you can point the finger all day, and you can complain all day. At the end of the day the decision to change falls on you the individual. A smiling face is a beautiful sight, but it’s a super sad situation when it’s on the face of a person who is broken inside. Pretense does nothing at all to help a person heal and move on from their pains. Stop giving power to your negative ways of thinking and choose to break chains and cycles. It’s something a person has to do for self and it can only be done by the individual who needs it.

In Control or Controlled

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I’m referencing people who allow themselves to be controlled by anyone or anything. I can take the truth, because the truth never changes. I would rather be hurt by the truth then a lie. A lot of people don’t want the truth. They say they do, but they don’t. Many people find it difficult to accept the truth because it will normally mean there’s something wrong they need to right.

Anything that has a person tied and tangled up has control over them. If something or someone controls you it means you don’t have any control over self. People shouldn’t give their power to nothing or no one!

This world has many people who are in bad situations because they are controlled by something or someone. For instance when we see people commit terrible acts. They’ve thought on it for a while until they’ve given power to those thoughts. Then the feelings are developed, afterwards the act is committed. They allowed themselves to be controlled to the point of consumption by their thoughts due to the power they gave them. Everything starts with a thought, feelings, then actions. The difference is when people are in tune with self and love self, they are not allowing themselves to be consumed by any negativity. They will dismiss it no matter what or who.

People who allow themselves to be controlled are people who have unresolved issues. The many unresolved issues causes much chaos in their lives. I know some people are thinking “everyone has issues.” Listen, I agreed. However, the difference is are you controlling those things or are they controlling you? That is the big difference! Yes, we all deal with this or that, but how we allow it to affect our lives makes the difference.

You may disagree, but I know it’s fact. Individuals who are allowing those issues to control their lives are people who haven’t healed. They are carrying around their baggage day in and day out. It’s affecting their relationships, decisions, choices, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It leads them to making bad relationship choices (getting with people for the wrong reasons (sex, looks, what they have, who they are, the position they hold, titles, trying to save/fix other broken people when you are also broken, etc). It leads them to getting with the wrong people (already in a relationship, married, underage, abusive, slothful no ambition, etc, etc). It keeps them in abusive relationships, controlling, obsessive, possessive, etc). It keeps people chasing after the flesh (in all kinds of ways = sex, money, fame, becoming addicts (sex, money, drugs, alcohol, fetishes, etc). It leads people into doing unthinkable things such as commit murder or suicide, road rage, etc; because they are emotional, angry, bitter, confused, hurt, etc. etc). They haven’t dealt with their issues and they don’t love self. What many people fail to understand the more they add to their already problematic lives the worst things become. It’s hard to deal with new issues you’ve adopted when you haven’t yet dealt with the old ones.

People must heal and learn to love self. If people don’t get past their pains they can never move forward to become healthy minded and properly functioning individuals. Their lives will continue to be on auto repeat. They will keep making the same mistakes with similar but different people. They will continue to look for things in others they don’t even possess within self. Their relationships won’t work. Their relationships may continue, but they aren’t healthy. People are in loveless relationships and are lonely as can be. People are staying with people who don’t love them and people they don’t love, because their seeking something in others.

I can go on and on about it. The reason individuals are controlled by other people and/or things is because #1 they haven’t healed from their pasts and #2 they do not love self. You can’t have one without the other! It leaves people lacking esteem, confidence, having trust issues, not knowing how to show affection, not knowing how to communicate effectively, depending on others, seeking security, seeking love, etc.

People are very quick to blame things such as alcohol, drugs, etc for their problems. No, no, no! Those things may amplify, magnify, or intensify problems, but something happened to cause a person to begin those things in the first place. Whatever it was/is; it is where the problem truly lies. Truth is people hurt themselves by becoming addicted to those and other things. Alcohol and drugs affects the mind, body, and soul of individuals who are controlled by it. Some people think because they are functioning addicts they aren’t addicts. Wrong! Anything you can’t do without has power and control over you! People can’t gain control until they heal self and love self. A person can pretend all day and they can put on a smile, but it doesn’t fix their issues. Pretending keeps people right where they are!

People who are harboring their own issues haven’t learned how to love self. They will take whatever to be with someone. They are influenced, manipulated, coerced, and persuaded to do things they don’t want to do. They go along to get along. They get involved with things to have a sense of belonging. They put up with ridiculousness and they take disrespect and mistreatment on all levels. It’s because they haven’t healed and they don’t love self. A person who loves his or herself cares about their own well being. They are careful as to what they get involved with, who they are involved with, and how they allow anyone to treat them.

Monsters in Societies Around the World

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I know many of you will think I’m off base. I don’t think so! Many in this world are living lies. They know they are doing the unthinkable to children while trying to hide it! They are tainted broken individuals. There’s no other way to put it. I’ve never sugarcoated anything and I won’t start today. In my opinion the reason the sexual perversions are going on in world is the toxicity continues to spread, because people continue to abuse the children who turn into adults who abuse children. No one is healing from their bad experiences. These people are continuing the cycles of abuse.

Sadly, many are in positons of power. Although many are in jobs which allows them authority and power; the power I’m speaking of is from the top. There are a lot of filthy nasty so-called secret societies/clubs were adult people do terrible things to children. If you don’t know then I’m trying to educate you. Unfortunately the foundation of many nations were built by some sexual perverted individuals. Notice I said some! They were/are in every areas of society. I believe this is why so much sexual perversion goes on. There are demands for sex trafficking, child porn, and sexual abuse all over the world. It trickles down to other broken people in lower positions of power. They’ve done things a certain way for so long then the next people in line has kept the cycles of abuse going. I don’t care who it is, the maladaptive behavior comes from the hearts of broken people.

If you research you will find many people were/are into sexual perversion to gain fame and fortune. It goes all the way back to Aleister Crowley and I’m sure even before him. He has taught people how to do the unthinkable to gain fame and fortune. He clearly was a broken man and he influenced other broken people to go along with his ways of thinking; despite how horribly wrong it was.

People from all walks of life are filled with evil and darkness. They appear as good people and portray themselves as good people knowing the whole time they have demons inside, many of which they don’t try to fight. They’ve learnt their ways of thinking, feeling, and acting unfortunately giving power to it. Instead of choosing to be better people they’ve kept the cycles of abuse going. I’ve known or have heard of many people professional and non-professional who have been caught doing unacceptable things to children. They include Generals and all ranks of the military, doctors, lawyers, policeman, teachers, priest, parents, relatives, friends of family, politicians, celebrities, etc, etc. The list goes on. All of it comes from unresolved brokenness! It seems our society is filled with an over abundance of these types of people who continues the cycles of sexual abuse.

It’s a shame and NO matter the reasons why, it’s all excuses. It’s dumb to think to abuse a child gains you fame and fortune. That’s an excuse! These types of people are into Satanic rituals. The bottom line is abusing children is wrong in every single way possible. To look at anyone from infant to any underage child and feel anything sexual means you have a major issue inside of yourself. You need help, because your ways of thinking are VERY distorted. If they are distorted it means they are wrong!

Some parents and other family members sexually abuse their own children/relative. Some do it for money (some will do anything to get money or to gain something else) or they do it simply because it was once done to them. As far as I am concerned, it’s all excuses! As an adult you know it’s wrong, that’s why you try to hide it. To sexually abuse a child or to allow it in any way; something is clearly wrong with the adult. People do it because they haven’t dealt with the demons inside of them. Children abuse children because they are adopting the same thought processes, feelings, and actions they’ve been taught. It’s still wrong! Children have to be taught it’s wrong and helped in order to deal with their issues and break the cycle!

Anyone adult who abuses a child of any age does it because they are broken. They are led by their wrong ways of thinking, which fuels their feelings and actions. Many will abuse until they are caught. Then they tell their sob story of being abused. I don’t take anything from anyone who were once a victim, but I will say; to use it as a crutch or excuse to abuse is an excuse! There is no reason at all to touch a child in a sexual manner. If someone has any type of thought to do so they need to deal with the demons they carry inside. To keep hiding fixes nothing at all. In fact it only keeps people repeating the cycles of abuse.

When will these types of people take responsibility for the monsters they’ve willfully become? Yep, I’m calling them monsters, because that’s what they’ve become! Stop the blame and take responsibility for what you do! You have perverted minds, because it’s what you’ve become accustomed to through years of hiding, lying, and pretending you are one way when you know you are something else. You’ve given strength to your demons to continue hurting others and yourself. It’s awful! People must face their inner selves and deal with those hidden things that have them trapped in their wrong ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. It is the ONLY way a person will change.

People who do these things don’t love self nor do they have the understanding of what love is. They are lost in their wrong ways of thinking. They’ve become so familiar and comfortable with who they’ve become. To them it seems right even though they KNOW it’s wrong. Change will not occur on it’s own, people must acknowledge the fact they need to change. Non one can change until they deal with their demons! The more people hide and pretend the more power they give to their demons to keep the cycles of abuse going. Think to yourselves the REAL reason why you do what you do and there you will find the truth. The one person you can’t lie to is yourself! Despite it all and no matter what; you are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, and your actions!

Is Your Mind Your Friend or Foe

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It is up to us what we choose. Millions of people are trapped in places they choose, but don’t necessarily want to be. When a person has a wrong way of thinking, then comes the wrongs ways of feeling and acting. People are stuck in pasts that no longer exist. Yes, the memories will be with us forever, but those memories do not have to dictate the rest of our lives. Those memories are residual effects of our pasts. We don’t have to be controlled by them. It’s how people allow the memories to affect them that’s causing the issues in their lives. It does nothing but keep people angry, bitter, hateful, jealous, envious, full of malice and strife, unhappy, depressed, etc, etc. No one can be happy with all of this junk in them. A person can dwell on the past all they want, but the truth is all anyone of has is the present. We can live it in or be lost trying to hold on to the past.

Nothing is really what it seems, because most people distort the truth according to how they perceive things. Normally our perceptions aren’t true reality, because it’s tainted by the way we think. If a person is thinking negatively they are thinking the wrong way, which affects everything in the person’s life.

Take a moment to think about your life. Think about where you are at this point. Whether good or bad, think about what has helped shaped you to become who or what you are. Why do you think you’re the way you are? It all goes back to how you think about things. Negative thinking can’t produce positive things. People can pretend all day, the truth always wins. It always appears. Do you know why? It’s because what you give the most power to will prevail no matter how you try to hide it. It shows up in the things you do whether you think they are done in secret or if done outwardly.

Many people are stuck due to their mental states without realizing their biggest problem is self. They are sabotaging their own lives due to how they think. If you’re always focusing on negative thoughts they will take over, then the feelings and actions will soon to follow. This way of thinking blocks many people from becoming the best individuals they can possibly be. This way of thinking keeps people held in captivity, bound, and stuck. This is why people are repeating things from generations to generations. This is why people are doing the same things year end and year out. They do not change their ways of thinking. As I’ve said many times if you don’t change your ways of thinking the only option left is to remain the same! Again I ask, is your mind your friend or foe? You may fool me or someone else, but you will NEVER fool yourself! We are about to enter into another year, the year 2019! Will you choose to change or remain the same?