Memories and Thoughts and the Power you Give Them

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There are millions of hurt people in this world who unfortunately hurt other people. Many people live their lives based on what others have said or done to them. They find it difficult to move forward because they are pulled backwards by their minds; which by the way have imprisoned them. No one can save you, no one can fix you, and no one can change you. The only one who can do it is you! You may have people around to influence, motivate, encourage, or inspire you to want to change, but if the willingness to change doesn’t come from you, the change will only be temporary. People who change to please others will always revert back to who they really are.

There are many people who feel they must be validated by others and because of it they are at the mercy of others. They allow other people to dictate how they feel about self. Those you give your power to know they have it and they will abuse it. People prey on who they think are weak, because the prowler him or herself are weak! They see and feel it in their prey!

Most people are accustomed to how they’ve been all their lives. It feels familiar and comfortable. Instead of trying to change they continue to live how they’ve always lived. No matter how miserable and hurt they feel they continue living their lives the same way. Many people blame others for who they are. I admit other people contribute to our lives in many ways both positive and negative. However, when you point at someone to blame them, you have three fingers pointing back at self. I think it’s a way for us to take ownership of who or what we’ve become.

Despite what a person goes through, despite how traumatic; who a person becomes as adults falls on the individual. People can choose to remain the same or they can choose better than what they came from. When people choose to remain the same they’ve seem to opt out of changing. Sometimes the people who have wronged them are dead and gone; yet people are still holding on to their experiences with the person/people through their memories. Memories are real, how strong they reign inside of a person is up to the individual.

Believe it or not none of our pasts exist today. None of them! We are all living in the present. If people do not deal with the issues of their pasts they are affected for a life time. It affects every facet of a person’s life. Not once have I said the past didn’t exist, of course it existed, but it’s not what we live in today. It is behind us and only the memories of it remains. Unfortunately for many people those memories are very real and strong. People are trapped by their own minds, because they’ve given power to the memories of their pasts. They carry these residual affects throughout their lives. It shapes them into what they’ve become. It’s a cycle most past down through generations until someone breaks the chain.

Many people walk around smiling, yet they are broken and hurting inside. Pretending will never give a person the understanding or will to deal with what’s causing them pain and suffering. People must learn to face it in order to move on. Those who do can go on to lead productive lives. However, those who don’t will live their lives as a revolving door. They will go in and out the same type relationships with the same types of people and wonder why. They will make the same bad decisions and choices and wonder why. They will allow people to take advantage or misuse them and wonder why it’s happening. They will continue to be unhappy which oftentimes lead to other things such as depression and even worse things like suicidal or homicidal thoughts, etc. Not all people will go through those thoughts, feelings, or emotions, but some will, because they don’t understand most times our biggest enemy is self. The power of the mind is beyond belief, but our thoughts and memories are only as powerful as we make them.

Things will happen to us, but how we deal with those things depends on how we receive them, perceive them, and the power we give to those things. We are our own greatest enemy, because we give so much power to negative memories of our pasts which has led to negative ways of thinking, period! The past doesn’t cause people any further pain, people do it to themselves by not dealing with the issues of their pasts. Instead they focus on the memories as if they are present today. It’s like a wound, if you constantly dig in a wound it won’t heal properly and because of the constant manipulation of it, the person could cause other issues. This is how many live their lives. They keep going back to the memories of their pasts. They are trapped by their own minds.

Today is a brand new day given to each of us. We can choose to become better or we can choose to stay the same. None of us will forget what we’ve gone through, but none of us have to be prisoners to our own minds, causing the inability to move forward. We don’t have to give our power to anything or anyone!

Live your life for you first! If you’re not healthy and whole you’re really not any good for anyone else. Sadly many go through life with all of their issues while trying to love others when they first don’t love self. This is proven every single day by people who constantly are in and out of unhealthy relationships or people having children and messing them up from the gate. Those are only two examples out of many.

Learning to become better has to be something a person wants. It starts with the individual. You’re not what or who someone else says you are unless you believe it yourself. No one should ever accept negativity from anyone else. You have the power to be whatever you choose to be. Never settle and think you should be a certain way because of what someone else said or did. They don’t get to choose, you do!

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Facing Your Biggest Problem, You

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It’s not him or her, it’s you! Stop trying to hold on to people who have let you go. Stop trying to hold on to a person who doesn’t feel you’re worth fighting for. It means you’re not as important to him or her as they are to you. The person you’re with must think you’re just as important, if not they aren’t as into you as you are to them. Too many live their lives struggling to hold on to people who are NOT holding on to them. It causes unnecessary chaos and drama in the lives of many.

People give their significant others too much power over their lives. They can’t function when the one’s they love walk away or simply don’t really want them. If a person wants to walk let them. Stop taking up space in your mind over someone who don’t even think of you! Some people literally can’t function because someone walked away from the relationship. I’m sorry I think it’s nonsense! It’s only my opinion. I know we’re all different. It doesn’t make sense to me to lose your mind over someone who doesn’t care how you feel.

Many people go through hell and high water to be with individuals who don’t want to be with them. When a lot of people stay it’s not that they want you, they like what you do for them and it’s the only reason they stick around. They treat the individuals they are with like crap, because they are allowed to. You have to deal with the monsters you created. Why? It’s because we teach people how to treat us. Whatever you allow it will happen! When you nip things in the bud people know where you stand!! When you allow things to continue to go on; you let people know where you stand!! The control is always yours, unless you give it away.

There are a lot of people who want to give up because the one’s they love don’t love them back. Seriously? If a person doesn’t want to be with you let them go. Trying to keep them where they don’t want to be will only prove to be a dead end and unhealthy situation. If a person is trying to hold on to someone when the person doesn’t want to be there, you must look at self and figure out what’s going on with you, NOT the other person. They’ve shown you who they are and what they want, now it’s up to you to deal with your feelings and emotions and stop allowing them to lead you in the wrong direction.

None of us can change another person, we can only change ourselves. We have to look at self and determine what we have to fix about self. Stop blaming the other person, because the other person is doing what they want to do. Life will go on even if you choose to remain stuck in place. No one is worth it. No one is worth the heartache or headache. If they want to walk, open the door for them! Same door they walked out of someone else will walk in. The difference should be you’re stronger and have more wisdom, knowledge, and understanding so not to make the same bad decisions again.

Most people look at relationships they’re in one way; and that’s according to how they feel about the other person. Hold up! Remember, you’re never the only person in a relationship, it always takes two! People get caught up in how they feel and fail to fully understand how the other person feels. A person shows you the truth no matter how subtle. People fail to see it, because they are blind by their thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the person they think they love or want to be with.

Stop doing things you feel uncomfortable with, stop trying to be someone you’re not, stop accepting any ole thing, stop allowing yourself to be mistreated, stop blaming the other person and take responsibility and ownership for you and your life, stop worrying about what the other person is doing and take care of you, and please stop giving your power to someone else.

I promise you, if you love yourself it will be enough!
You may feel lonely sometimes, but it’s better than being with someone and still lonely. Being alone is better than being with someone and in love by yourself. Being alone is better than being with someone yet separate, because they are doing their own thing. Being alone is better than being with someone who is only with you because of what you provide. Being alone can be a greater teacher if allowed. Learn to love you and you will see that no one will love you like you and if you love you, you know everything will be alright!

Individuals must learn how to see past their feelings, if they don’t they will continue to get into the wrong types of relationships, with the wrong people, for all of the wrong reasons. Happiness doesn’t start or end with anyone, but yourself; others may be a part of your happiness, but you definitely shouldn’t depend on anyone to bring happiness in your life. You first have to find it within yourself!

Thin but Distinctive Line Between Evil and Mental

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Listen people please trust and believe, if you’re fixated on particular thoughts and they are constantly in your head YOU HAVE GIVEN POWER TO THEM! No matter what they are, if they are constantly swirling around in your head it means you’re pondering over them. All thoughts aren’t bad, this post is about the bad/negative thoughts.

If it’s wrong YOU KNOW IT’S WRONG! Please, please, please check yourself! Please re-evaluate your ways of thinking. If you are fixated on the thoughts and they dictate your actions then you are possessed by this negativity. It will consume you and cause you to commit and submit to doing something you know is wrong.

There is so much going on in this world. People are doing foolish things every second of the day. Some days it seems as if people in the world have gone completely mad. God reminds me there is a difference between a person being mental and a person being possessed by evil! The world don’t want to deal with evil, because people are afraid to admit it exists. People are accepting when it comes to movies, but they don’t REALLY believe it’s real!

People who can’t get over bad thoughts are possessed by something not of God. God is love and He doesn’t dwell in darkness at all. He is the light in the darkness if people believe! If not they are consumed by their darkness! If something causes a person do anything wrong they are inhabited by something evil. It has consumed their thoughts, because the person has opened the door for it to come into their life in some form or another. A person’s thoughts fuels their feelings and behaviors.

Think about this:

Guns have handles, but no hands, and bullets have no eyes. The gun will lie wherever you laid it down until you pick it up. People must think about what they’re doing and STOP just doing! If there’s a thought in your head telling you to harm someone it is a BAD thought! If it’s something you’ve been thinking about go get HELP! Talk to someone about what’s bothering you! If you can’t let it go evil has entered your body through freewill and it is controlling you. Please seek help before you do something you can’t undo! This is the same for ANY weapon!

Alcohol and drugs can’t miraculously pour into a person’s body. People pick it up and induce it in some form or another. It’s done by free will. If it controls you it possesses you! It has consumed you. It is evil which has taken over your body of free will. In some way you have subjected yourself to it and it has caused you to submit to it! It is your god!

Lusts of the flesh comes in all forms. Most people think it means only sex, no this is incorrect. Sex is one form of lusts of the flesh. However, it also involves a plethora of other things; which by the way are ALL a form of evil. People don’t want to accept it, but it’s true. People entertain demons everyday without a second thought. They don’t realize the magnitude of what they are doing or the implications of their behaviors.

In case you don’t understand lusts of the flesh. It includes ALL sexual indulgences (sexual immorality of many forms such as fornication, adultery, bestiality, pedophilia, sodomy, homosexuality, etc), food addiction, alcohol & drug addictions, idolatry (people, objects, other things), greed (money, material things), I hope you get the understanding I’m trying to relay in this message!

Absolutely ANYTHING which has control over you is a form of possession. If you let the devil in he will come in and take over! People are walking around possessed and they are succumbing left and right without a fight. The devil is rejoicing over all of his angels building up his army.

It’s real! This is why people are committing such hideous acts! It’s pure evil controlling the minds and hearts of people in this world. This is why the world has so many people filled with hate. It’s darkness from evil!

People are suicidal and homicidal day in and day out! Their minds and hearts are controlled by evil. I know people will be upset over me adding suicide in it. You think you’re the only one been hurt by suicide? I have too! Again, anything that controls your thoughts consumes and control you. Would you categorize it as something good? No it’s negative! It’s a form of evil possession which has taken control. The devil wants to kill your body, mind, and soul. He wants to steal your lives, because he knows he HAS to go back to hell, therefore he wants to take as many with him as he can. He wants to destroy the hearts and minds of as many people as he can.

Suicidal and homicidal people aren’t born like that! They develop the tendencies and behaviors either through traumatic events they experienced or things they’ve seen others do. They develop certain mindsets through things they have been a part of whether willfully or forced upon them. It forms into something dark! It consumes and takes over the minds of many.

What baffles me is this; Society is quick to say someone is mentally instable. Ask yourself an honest question. Have you EVER seen a mentally unstable person? If you have you can CLEARLY tell they are incapable of the mental capacity to devise elaborate plans to harm people. Their minds don’t even work that way! Those who do are inflicted by evil, period! There is a thin but DESTINTIVE line between mental and evil.

Evil inhabits people through many different ways. It enters by the freewill of people. People welcome it in somehow by the lives they lead (thoughts-beliefs, feelings, behaviors (sex, drugs, alcohol, anger, fear, anxiety). When people are dealing with issues of their pasts and they can’t seem to move on, they are inhabited by this darkness which can lead people down dark paths into the unimaginable and unthinkable.

I’ve deal with many who have committed suicide and or homicide. I’ve dealt with many who can’t move on from issues of their pasts. You name it, I’ve probably dealt with it. This is why I know what I’m writing about. It happens to different people, but all of the hosts deals with the same types of things.

It can happen to anyone, even you and I if we don’t keep our minds and hearts on Jesus. The devil is on a mission.

Author of Destruction

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I wanted to write about what is going on in the minds of people. Many people in this world are under the influence of the devil and they don’t know it. Too much evil is going on and societies are chalking it up as mental illness when it’s not. I heard on the news yesterday a woman stabbed her four children and their father to death. Tell me that’s not pure evil????????????

The devil is busy killing, stealing, and destroying. Those who haven’t uncovered the truth of what is going on with self will continue lives of dysfunction. They will continue on paths of destruction until they discover who they can be and stop embracing what they are. They then can recover and live the lives God intended.

People succumb too easily to the trick of the devil because they don’t really understand they are under his influence. When you’re not connected to Jesus you are capable of doing anything. People who aren’t in tune with self certainly aren’t in tune with God the Father and Jesus the Son.

The reason the devil is getting into the minds of people is because they are living by the flesh alone. They are in the world doing all the worldly things. They have focus on all of the wrong things. They are self absorbed and selfish; making things all about self.

Those who aren’t in tune with self are led by their negative ways of thinking. They get something into their heads/minds and although technically they know what they’re thinking isn’t right, they will continuously ponder over it until they develop feelings behind the thoughts; leading to negative actions behind the feelings. This is how people end up making bad choices and decisions; they are led by their negative and distorted ways of thinking. When you ponder long enough over negative thoughts you will more than likely act on those thoughts. People are giving power to the negativity until it takes over. This is a form of possession.

It’s nothing but the devil. He already know the minds of many people are weak. These people already have many unresolved issues they haven’t let go; which has already caused them to lead chaotic lives. It’s all destruction and the devil is the father of destruction. When you let him drive he takes over and control. This is what’s happening in the world many are under the influence of the devil and moving at his command without any resistant. This leads people to making some of the worst decisions and choices of their lives.

The powers of good and evil are in full effect. What we choose is what we choose. The devil don’t tight anyone up to serve him, he enters in through all of the avenues people make available. The devil doesn’t fight against those who are on his side; he simply leads them into further destruction and ultimately death. People must wake up!

You’ve Made Your Past Your Present

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No one can move on if they haven’t let go of the past. The past is still the present for many people, because they refuse to let go of what they’ve gone through and have dealt with. This isn’t healthy for anyone. These types of people become content and trapped in their old ways of thinking, feeling, and acting. They wear it like a badge of honor.

A person can’t grow if they are stuck. Too many people give power to their pasts. They won’t let the memories go, therefore they are constantly bombarded with thoughts and feelings of what has happened. People get older, but they don’t grow and develop mentally, because they are caught up in their past and it corrupts their present. They don’t make any efforts to change. Their lives are full of woe it’s me, complaints, pain, and sorrow. Every time you see these individuals it’s the same draining thing all over again.

Millions sabotage their lives on a daily basis. They refuse to let go of things that are done and over. Living this way completely destroys the lives of many people. It brings nothing other than chaos and havoc into their lives. They live dysfunctional lives, causing it to pool into all areas of their lives. What’s even sadder is many of these people bring children into the world wreaking havoc into the lives of their children.

When people can’t let go they grow older and into destructive adults who are unhappy with their lives. They do unthinkable things, they associate with the wrong people, they have distorted thoughts and views, they repeatedly make bad choices and decisions, they are angry, and a host of other things. They allow their pain to affect every aspect of their lives, (home, work, relationships, etc).

No one is exempt from the troubles of this world. The difference is resiliency. It’s all about how people perceive and deal with what they’ve gone through or what they are going through. Those who choose to get past things will and those who choose to waddle, embrace, and hold on to the negativity will do so despite the turmoil it causes. People who won’t let go are often walking time bombs and if they aren’t they are miserable with self and life. They are angry and bitter and it disrupts their lives in every way.

People are products of their environments, but I believe they choose to be victims of their pasts. We all have pasts. God knows if I had of succumbed to some of what I’ve experienced where I would be. I’m grateful for even as a young child I bounced back and I was able to deal with things positively. I clearly remember looking at other people and saying to myself I do NOT want to be like him or her. As a young child I saw destruction and chose early on I didn’t want to have any parts of a negative lifestyle. God had His hands on me early in life, but of course I didn’t have a clue. Now I see clearly!!

I realize we all perceive things differently and deal with things differently. However, we ALL have the power to choose positive over negative. We all have the power to choose to let go! Some people do not want to grasp hold of positive nor do they want to let go. A person behave according to what they believe. If a person think they deserve less, it is how they will more than likely act.

My heart goes out to people who think they don’t deserve better. It goes out to people who don’t want to change. No one has to live this way. Open your hearts and minds to change. Know that if you can’t let go, it’s because you’re comfortable and familiar with old bad habits and negative ways of thinking. If you carry around negative thoughts it breeds the negative feelings and actions behind them. Today is a new day and a chance to choose change!!!

Evil People all Over the World

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HURTING OR KILLING IN THE NAME OF god

If people don’t see the ways of the world are getting worse and darker, they need a reality check. Every time you look around people are killing in the name of God. This is ludicrous! When has Jesus or God ever needed someone to fight their battles or kill in their name? The god these people are referencing are the many other gods they serve, but has nothing to do with God Almighty or His Son Jesus.

People have lost their minds. They are crazy, but they aren’t mentally ill. Society wants to label them as such, because they fear what they don’t understand. These people aren’t mentally ill. They are pure evil. Societies as a whole don’t want to deal with the existence of evil and the workings of the supernatural, but it does exist. People are worshipping all types of gods and some are VERY evil!

Many people are influenced, coerced, and recruited into the madness and darkness. These types of people are lacking self confidence and esteem due to something else they’ve experienced. They are followers and they allow others to dictate what they will and won’t do. They are connected to the wrong people. They are influenced by evil people who put evil thoughts into their heads. Individuals who ponders over negative thoughts, if they don’t change their course they are bound to act out on those negative thoughts. Negative thoughts leads to negative feelings, and then negative actions/behaviors. Most of these types of individuals don’t have good support systems, therefore they seek others who gives them a sense of belonging.

If a person gets involved with anyone or anything that puts evil thoughts in their heads, they’re definitely dealing with the wrong thing or wrong people, period! Individuals have to have sense enough to say no to wrong doings. If a person kill someone out of anger, rage, or because they have been brainwashed to do so they are going to hell. God has nothing to do with that type of violence.

Many people have such a sense of wanting to belong and be loved. They fall into any trap to fulfill their longings. They completely and foolishly overlook the fact that what they are being brainwashed to do is wrong. It’s wrong to kill someone in the name of anything or anyone. People who willfully choose to hurt or kill others have completely given up their power to think on their own. They are completely brainwashed and controlled by negative people and their own negative ways of thinking. Many eventually do the unthinkable while the people who coerced them are behind the scenes hidden. It doesn’t make sense. It’s sad to know so much brokenness leads to such travesties.

Some people are influenced through television, videos, etc. No matter how it happens many are coming forth to commit heinous acts. It’s very sad how people allow themselves to believe this senselessness is okay. It is not! It’s sad people are losing their lives everyday to the hands of such evil people.

If a person has no support or don’t feel loved by others, they must understand their life belongs to no one but him or her. Therefore they should make all efforts to love his or herself. Loving yourself is knowing how to love others else well. These types of people must learn to think for self. Stop continuing to be victims and stop victimizing others. Make a better life for themselves then what they had. Instead of embracing their lives, people allow what they lacked to ruin their lives forever. It doesn’t have to be this way. They are their own prisoners.

SUPERNATURAL INFLUENCES

Some people are influenced by supernatural forces at work. If you’re not aware of it then most likely a person won’t know what’s happening to them. They fall under the influence and act out what they have been thinking. I know many people don’t want to believe it is real, but it is. People get into dark things like Ouija boards, reading books that conjure up demons, they do spells and rituals not really knowing those things aren’t things they should fool around with. They open doors to things they aren’t able to control, then they all under the control of something stronger then they are. I know it sounds like a fairytale to many, but it’s real. The Bible says I Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places. It includes both the natural and the supernatural. We are constantly fighting between good and evil.

HURTING OR KILLING IN THE NAME OF LOVE

This it another type of foolishness. This has everything to do with personal struggles, issues, and insecurities of individuals and NOTHING to do with love. When these kind of people can no longer control who they are with then they want to harm or kill them. These types of people get into relationships and because of their own inner issues they try to control and possess who they are with. They try to break their significant others down to make them afraid. They think by isolating them from others and making them totally depend on them is a way of controlling them. They control who they are with verbally, physically, emotionally, and mentally. They scare who they are with into submission.

Both men and women can avoid these types of people by NEVER getting involved with them from the start. Learn to walk away from individuals with the tendencies of being dangerous and unhealthy people. Walk away from those who try to control you by telling you what to do, when to speak, how to dress, or who to be around. It’s not cute or healthy to be called out of your name or disrespected. During the courting phase, the first time any ill treatment happens walk away without looking back. Things more than likely will get worse. Problem is and has been; instead people stay, they get abused in every sense of the word, then they find themselves too afraid to leave. They find themselves right where their abusers want them (helpless and hopeless). Many people have lost their lives to the hands of those who supposedly loved and cared for them.

These types of individual’s don’t have a clue what love is and it’s why they do everything that love isn’t. They obsess, possess, abuse, dominate, and control the men and women they are with. No one and I mean no one should ever allow themselves to end up in relationships such as this. People must stop allowing how they feel about these individuals get them into dangerously unhealthy relationships.

THE TRUTH

Millions in this world are broken. They are toxic and tainted, because they’ve failed to get past their pasts. This has caused them to seek all they’ve lacked in the wrong people and in the wrong ways. Many lead lives held captive by their own wrong/negative ways of thinking. It has led many to do terrible things. Rather than deal with their issues (regardless of what they are), many choose to continue with their chaotic and out of control lives. They continue their negative ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving.

You haven’t seen anything yet! It will continue to get worse and worse. There is little love in this world today. Families aren’t the same, marriages aren’t sacred anymore, and people are doing anything and everything. Morals and values for many are obsolete. Like I always write “everything right is now considered wrong and everything wrong is now considered as right. Anything goes. Sad, sad, sad!

 

 

If you Accept it you Chose it

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The post is written about people who are in relationships and accepting whatever in the name of what they think is love. Many people are in relationships never meant for them to be in. I’m currently working on a book about this. I know many before me have written on the topic and many will write about it when I’m long gone. I feel it’s time I put my opinion about it in writing. I pray someone somewhere will learn something.

It’s terrible to see people in bad relationships. Unfortunately and sadly it is a personal choice of freewill. Many people choose bad relationships due to their own insecurities derived from a host of unresolved issues. If an issue isn’t resolved it leads to other problems.

In my opinion and without a doubt people get into relationships and miss all of the important signs telling them to proceed with cautious or RUN! They think they have the power to change the other person when they can’t even change self. Does it make any sense???? First of all, if you feel it’s necessary to change someone else, then you’re at least somewhat aware there is potential for a problem to occur. Why move forward???? This is a sign straight from the start. Sadly many continue in their relationships knowing full well something isn’t right.

Sometimes I look at people and literally want to shake them to wake them up. They are caught up in their feelings about the other person and it has them totally blind. Many are disrespected, neglected, rejected, disconnected, and subjected to all kinds of things. They take and accept things from the ones they love that they themselves would never do to them.

Some people feel the person they’re with deserves the best from them, therefore they do any and everything to please the individual. However, in the midst of it they receive the worst from the individual. It makes no sense at all. Never choose to be mistreated. If you accept it, you chose it! There are no and’s, if’s, or but’s about it!

The best recommendation I can give in this situation is to STOP it before it STARTS! Too many find themselves in loveless, unhappy, and unhealthy relationships because they failed to adhere to the many signs in the beginning. Instead of treading the water they jumped right into the deep end without a clue how to swim. Later feeling pulled under and drowning due to their bad choices and decisions.

When you meet someone you’re interested in, before losing your mind, use your brain! How you start any relationship is indicative to how it will end. If you get with a person who is abusive they will certainly eventually beat you whether mentally, emotionally, or physically. If you get with a person who is already in a relationship with someone else he or she is a cheater and eventually they will cheat on you. If you get with a person who has no ambition or goals don’t expect for him or her to change, so don’t make it a problem later. If you get with a person who is into immoral things, when it becomes a problem later, remember you chose it. If you get with someone who’s beliefs are different from yours, it’s what you chose. You can’t save no one, but yourself. You can’t change no one but yourself. I can go on for days with examples.

Bottom line and the moral to it all is you can’t change ANYONE else. You may inspire someone to want to change, but the individual is the one who makes the change happen, NOT YOU! Many people have changed temporarily to get what they wanted and then reverted back to who they really are. Why? It’s because they aren’t ready for real change. It can’t be forced. If you’re struggling with trying to change someone else, the real struggle should be with changing yourself.

If you get into a relationship being led solely by what you’re thinking and feelings about the person and not looking at the big picture, I guarantee you that you will later regret it. Get out of your feelings and see the truth for what it is. Most times people are stuck on how they are feeling about the other person; dismissing what the other person’s actions are saying how they feel about them.