This is a somewhat personal post. My uncle died just this week due to the affects of alcoholism. He isn’t the first of my family members to die due to this. My uncle repeatedly said he didn’t want to give it up, he wasn’t giving it up, and if it kills him it kills him. Guess what? It did just that! I am sad he’s gone, but he made his choice. He clearly made it.
I’ve always said people make excuses when it comes to substance abuse. First they don’t want to admit they’re addicted and second they often choose the substance over their own lives. I DO NOT believe it’s a disease. It can cause disease and illnesses. I DO NOT believe it’s genetic at all. I believe it’s a choice that turns into habit and then into a lifestyle.
I was upset at my uncle because we had many conversations about giving it up, but he strongly refused to although he’d been drinking 50+ years. He said he liked it and he didn’t want to stop. He said to me many times “I know it’s a choice and it’s what I choose.”
It’s beyond sad to know people give all of their power to substances. This isn’t genetic. If it’s genetic so is over eating, smoking weed, shooting up drugs, popping pills, snorting drugs, etc. No it’s not genetic it is a choice turned into habit. There’s absolutely no good in it.
People may get upset at me, but it’s okay. The truth is still the truth! As I’ve said many times anything you don’t control controls you! That’s anything! If you give your power it will control your life. It’s a choice to do it or not to do it!
If alcoholism was genetic then surely I should be one. It’s nothing I ever chosen. I never done a recreational drug in any form. I’ve always been too fearful of things like that. I never entertained the thought. NO matter what I went through I never chose it.
I know we all go through things differently in life, but at the end of the day whether good or bad; everything is about choices. Many people make excuses but those excuses doesn’t negate the fact the decisions are choices people make. Excuses keep people stuck and as prisoners to their wrong ways of thinking.
No person alive has to die due to alcoholism or any other form of substance, but many will if they continue to partake in the substances. The liver can’t take all of the abuse and the substance will eventually start to affect other organs within a person’s body.
People don’t realize once they develop the habit it will remain until they choose otherwise. This habit forms into a lifestyle which then controls a person’s day to day functioning. If you don’t have control the substance will have control over you! Addicts seek self gratification and when people are in this frame of mindset they have tunnel vision. Their main concern is for self. They don’t care how much it hurts them or their family and friends many addicts will still chose the substance.
Once it takes control individuals then find it difficult to resist. They give into it over and over not realizing the more they do the more it controls and consume their lives. I will repeat; NO ONE has to live with this issue. People can choose to let it go. It make take some effort, but it’s doable if it’s what a person chooses. Substances can’t miraculously enter into a person’s body, a person has to willfully take it. They have to consciously pick it up and ingest it. No matter what method it’s consumed it will enter the body. This CANNOT happen unless a person is a willing participate. I’m talking solely about an addict.
Life can already sometimes be rough, but when people choose to allow substances to take over their lives they make things even harder. It doesn’t only wreak havoc in the life of the individual it wreaks havoc in the lives of their loved ones as well. Addicts only see what they want! Sadly it’s about satisfying self no matter the cost. It leads to all types of problems (physical, mental, spiritual, financial, relationships, work, etc).
Substances aren’t your friend. They don’t do anything other than wreak constant havoc in your life. The abuse will ultimately kill you if you do not choose to change. Substances have killed many and has ruined the lives of many, yet people still choose them. People give substances power to control their lives, it becomes their kryptonite. Substances are pathways for demons to enter the body and most people don’t understand this. It magnifies existing problems while causing new ones. The biggest kicker of it all is substances can’t do anything without the help of a willing participate. Substance will lie wherever they are placed until picked up by the individual.
No one on earth can make me believe a person doesn’t have the ability to quit using a substance. If they want to they will, if they don’t they won’t. I don’t even care why a person started using; because ALL reasons are excuses. People want to blame their reasoning’s on everything other than the truth (it was their personal choice). I don’t care what was done to you, who done, or anything else; the choice to start using substances was/is a personal choice. We’ve all gone through tragedies and we all have stories we can tell but we all DID NOT choose to turn to substances. Some of us dealt with those tragedies and kept on moving through life. It’s all about choice, period!
If you can’t stop on your own then at least have the sense to seek help, because if you don’t it can possibly put you in your grave. My uncle knew it was killing him, yet he chose the alcohol. He had many chances to choose otherwise, but he did not. He chose the alcohol and ultimately it took him from this world. Please, please don’t let this happen to you. You have the ability to take back your power, you must believe it, and you must want it! You only have one life to live; allowing substances or people to control your life isn’t living. Only you, the individual can change this before it’s too late!